I am emotionally drained. I put others before myself and its getting me no where. Im tired of being nice and sacrificing for everyone, but when it comes to me there is no sacrifice. I want to change so bad but find it very hard to do. Any suggestions?? you can ask me questions if you need to.
Do you think you could be more specific? What age are you and what situation are you living in? When do you feel you have to sacrifice?
Yeah I knew I was going to be asked to be more specific. My age range is 35-40. Here is one of many examples. I have a best friend for over 25 years and I am there for her when she needs me. I rarely say no if she needs something and always able and willing to help out even if its a sacrifice for me I make it happen. Recently I had surgery and I was out of work for 6 weeks and she didn't come see me like she said she would. It was excuse after excuse of why she couldn't make it. I've done a lot for her I've been there emotionally and financially. At this point it seems one sided and I don't know how to deal with that. We have been friends to long to let this come between us..
I know how you feel--I've been there time and time again with friends and others as well.
I can feel your pain; you two have been friends for what might feel like an eternity, and I can relate with how it hurt when she didn't stand with you.
I understand that this may not be the one and only thing that may be weighing down on your heart--but I would like to offer my two cents. This may sound incredibly cliche/predictable, but I feel that communicating your feelings in this problem with your friend could better connect you and her in the light of the issue. You may express to her that you felt as though she became distant in a time that you needed her; perhaps she doesn't know that she is being one-sided, and it could very well be that she refrained from visiting so that you can heal and have time to yourself after your surgery (but then again, making and denying plans that you two accepted/discussed is quite strange).
Perhaps let her know that you care about her, and that you love her as a dear friend--express that she's important to you--but also let her know that you need her support, too. Perhaps remind her that you're feeling down, and you need someone there for you--like her.