On the verge of giving it all up
ROSE1129 - Apr 19 2017 at 14:02
So I am 28 year old married working woman. Until now I thought I had a perfect life but when you dig deep you see the issues. Here's what all has happened in past one year of my life and I have hit rock bottom because of all this. I had a successful job and being in that position i helped my best friend and referred her. She came to my company and started working with me. Then the good old story of the frog that i have heard since my childhood happened with me. She tricked my manager, took away my work everything went down the drain from there. She made me appear like a villain in my organisation. All said and done after 3-4 months i tried sorting out things and then everything went to normal. We all started hanging out together she, her boyfriend, my husband and couple of other friends. It was all going good but then she started facing many issues at work so like a good friend i helped her again and gave her the information about all the job openings in other places. She got selected i was glad. I was glad for two reasons honestly- firstly she was rescued because she was having a hard time and other was that may be the distance we have help forget me all the bitter feelings I had for her somewhere in the bottom of my heart. She joined there everything was fine. My darling dayawan husband then comes in the picture and starts getting closer to this girl as a "friend" of course (that's what they call it now a days). So it all gets too much and i tell him i am not liking this.. So lets not talk to her.. Because like an idiot i always avoid things he doesn't like and expected the same from him. But he ignored all my feelings, anger, issues and kept talking to her. He went on a trip and he bought lot of stuff for lot of people including her. He just hid all the stuff he bought for her and when i found out it was again a big issue, fights and all of that.. He kept talking to her. He kept hiding all this. Also when i involved her boyfriend into all this saying please explain her that i am not liking this she got furious that why did i involve him. She wouldn't listen to me so i had to involve someone sensible. After all this i haven't abused her or used any foul language but she has messaged me the worst things ever. She has abused me, used profane language, called me a jealous bitch and all of that. I cant get over all of this. Its too much and this has all build up since a long time. No one gets me. I am on the verge of giving it all up. Please help me in the best possible way.
Sounds like a tough position your in. Firstly by helping your friend who seemed to be more focused on taking what you had. Do you think she may just be a little jealous of what you had or possibly that she idmired all the hard work you put into getting the job you wanted?
Have you managed to chat to your friend regarding how you feel?
As for you husband have you thought about a break away with him? Sometimes taking time out just for you helps the communication flow better and the conversation be at ease in a comfortable place.
Hope you keep your head held high!
How did she trick your manager to make you loose your job? That right there is grounds to end your friendship. She is messing with your livelihood at that point. I would distance myself from her because it seems like she is just bringing a bunch of drama to your life. Take a break from her and focus on you and your husband..
If you were uncomfortable with the level of "friendship" intimacy your hubby had extended & you discussed it civilly with him he should have respected your feelings placing you & the health of your marriage 1st over an outsiders