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S-e-x advice forum category advice forum categorySex life (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 30 2019 at 06:37 by Happy couple RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 5 2019 at 14:24

Hi We are a couple and i have a fantasy about my girlfriend being with another man she once talk to about while having sex and now i can't stop thinking about why am i so turned on about this fantasy ...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryBF betrayed me with his ex steps on how to move forward (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Dec 3 2019 at 13:34 by Skinnygirl2 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / carbootie LAST POST: Dec 5 2019 at 13:10

HI, My BF of 3 years, today confessed he's been seeing his EX behind my back I'm, I had sensed something was wrong; he would never admit anything was going on. Today I ended the relationship. I need advice on how to move on and deal with the "uncoupling" and all the emotions that go along with that. I'm hurt, sad, feeling of despair....

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryCoworker question (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Nov 29 2019 at 04:48 by Hoops55 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 4 2019 at 13:04

my co worker and I spent the summer getting pretty close. Some of our coworkers think we’re dating, all of them think we like each other a lot - when he’s in the office he’s constantly at my desk, he even joined my sand volleyball team this summer. He’s always finding reasons to be at my desk or in the same places I am. Unfortunately, he put in his two weeks and is leaving our company. I don’t have the guts to ask him out (and that won’t change), but I have told him I don’t want him time leave, he’s also told me he doesn’t want to leave bc he likes working here. I’ve al...

Education advice forum category advice forum categoryI want to change college course and move away (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Dec 2 2019 at 19:40 by potatogirl RESPONDENTS: lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 4 2019 at 12:54

Hi, I'm a 19 yr old girl from Ireland. I'm halfway through my second year of college and I'm really unhappy with where I am. I don't like my course, I don't have many friends even though I live in the city where I grew up and I'm unhappy with living at home (my house is 20 mins away from the college). I really want to change course completely and maybe even move country, like to the UK, Canada or the US. I really just feel trapped where I am. I have a history of depression and an eating disorder and lately I've been really struggling with a relapse because I'm so unhappy. I feel so lonely ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFalling for the right man at the wrong time! (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Nov 30 2019 at 00:12 by KiwiSweetsi90 RESPONDENTS: Skinnygirl2 / Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 3 2019 at 18:19

I’ve been with my partner for nearly 9 years. He is great in so many ways but has some traits I just can’t seem to understand. He works incredibly hard and can really make me laugh. Although is super unsociable and lacks any romance! I’m so romantic and love affection, he likes it in the bedroom only. No complaints, gestures or anything like that unless it leads to sex. Without meaning to I’ve met another guy. Yet it’s even more complicated. He is married with two children but unhappy at home too. He is the complete opposite to my partner. He calls me beautiful, gorgeous, he has ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryRed flags or just paranoid about my new boyfriend? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Dec 2 2019 at 15:43 by melvin123 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 3 2019 at 13:55

Been seeing someone for a few months and our relationship has progressed quickly. I’ve been a widow for 8 years and this is my 3rd relationship in that time period. My adult daughter who lives far away met my new boyfriend for the first time on thanksgiving. My son has met him several times and at first he was unsure about him but says he likes him more now. I told my bf that my daughter can be critical but she’s generally fair minded and protective of me. My bf can be somewhat bossy and he is generally very kind but does have an edge on occasion and some would say a bit of arroganc...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp, my dad treats me like a prisoner (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 23 2019 at 01:44 by sammyboi2000 RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / Checkmate15282 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 2 2019 at 13:37

Hi, my name is Sam, I am 13 years old and my parents filed a divorce about a year ago, I have to spend weekends, tuesdays, holidays, and school breaks with my dad. When the going back and fourth beetween my mom and dads house began, my dad was so mean. an example of this is that my mom had stayed at dads house because the wifi was down at her house, and she needed to use wifi overnight for her job, and in the morning my dad was very mad because there were a bunch of unwashed dishes on the counter that HE put there the other day. He blamed it on me and my brother and said that it was perfectly ...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryParents split up (Posts: 676)
CREATED: Oct 13 2016 at 15:33 by lily31 RESPONDENTS: Scopes / susiedqq / Soulmate / Fugnuk / seriouslyme / Steven Bradford / Altreal / Richard B / Hooo! / Tiredoflife LAST POST: Dec 1 2019 at 18:06

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryUnhealthy relationship with my mother (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 25 2019 at 00:29 by summerlove RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Black LAST POST: Dec 1 2019 at 10:48

I am in my late 20's and have always struggled to have a close connecting relationships its my mother. I am the oldest child and our family has been through a lot like many others. I admit I am very stubborn and connect better with my father since she share the same qualities. However, my entire life I have never been able to tell my mother about personal (relationships, sexual life, serious emotions I have had) like other girls my age have. She is not open and is very judgmental. I think it partially is because of how her parents raised her, very conservative and her parents passed when she w...

Missing People advice forum category advice forum categoryMissing ex-best friends (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 24 2019 at 13:57 by Jmf246 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 25 2019 at 23:31

This is incredibly long, I apologize in advance. I have been struggling with this for years now and I feel completely lost on what to do. My two best friends and I had been close for 10 years. They were my family and helped me through every hard time in my life, and celebrated the good times with me. However, I was constantly their punching bag, the brunt of their jokes, and constantly received their criticism (not in a healthy, constructive way). I was going through a hard time in my life and instead of supporting me, I felt they ridiculed me. Both friends and I “broke up” at the same ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryNo respect (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 8 2019 at 10:48 by Ismma RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / nini / summerlove LAST POST: Nov 25 2019 at 01:32

My marriage as been a toxic one. I regret the day I met and married him. Was looking through husbands history on his phone came across a site that sells perfume. It also showed a site for the news and another site which I can't remember what it was for. He told me he had not been on the perfume site and he as not bought perfume for another woman. Said someone is out to get him. He as said this in the past when I found dating websites in the history too. He is getting a new works phone and said he was looking up a new phone case on his works phone and in the history it shows other sites that he...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this a red flag with new boyfriend not being understanding? (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Nov 21 2019 at 17:33 by Sorrtyforthat RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Silvarion / manalone / summerlove LAST POST: Nov 25 2019 at 01:29

My daughter has not yet met my new boyfriend and I've been seeing him for 2 months. Long story short, he wants his daughter and her family to be with me and my family over Thanksgiving. When I mentioned his family joining us to my daughter several weeks ago, she was dealing with a recent illness and said she is fine with having just him but wasn't up to meeting his daughter, her husband and 2 little kids. My bf didn't mention it again until we were out with his daughter and her family a few weeks ago - he said to them, you are welcome to come to my girlfriend's house since it's much closer ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat's the right thing to do when dealing with an ex? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 15 2019 at 19:50 by confused78957 RESPONDENTS: manalone / summerlove LAST POST: Nov 25 2019 at 01:22

here it goes....broke up with a long term relationship partner only 8 weeks ago. We had an intense relationship. I left him a few times over the years but always came back after a short time period based on his promise to "change" (i.e., not misleading me) and while that worked for a while, eventually he went back to his old ways. Despite this, I never wanted to give up b/c I loved him (don't believe I do anymore though). He has attempted to reach me via text, etc. (no calls thankfully) and I didn't reply until the other day - told him I'm out of town but would get in touch. Well that a wee...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryFighting with a friend - am I wrong? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 23 2019 at 14:32 by Joe0062 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Nov 24 2019 at 10:53

I'm writing now feeling mixed emotions after a fight with a friend a few weeks ago. This friend is difficult to say the least. Very emotional, sometimes aggressive verbally and sometimes talks with an air of what I feel is entitlement and likes to shout their opinion. We've had several fights in the past which have led to weeks of radio silence only to give it up. It feels like a cycle. This friend has been having a lot of therapy and suffers from borderline personality disorder. I also have had mental health problems and have recently felt strong enough to cut down my medication. The probl...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryBest friend’s crush? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Nov 16 2019 at 15:56 by nini RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 21 2019 at 01:25

Me and my best friend both had a crush on these two high school seniors last year and we never really did anything, since they were just crushes of course. But she did talk to her crush a couple of times and they both kind of knew each other. After they left i completely forgot about my crush and it wasn’t until a few weeks ago i encountered him at a party and we talked a little but nothing big. She told me a few months ago she was completely over her crush so yesterday night when I was at a friends house and he arrived I didn’t really say anything or think of him as my best friends (not t...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryNo birthday present from my close friend? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 14 2019 at 17:27 by smolbean RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Nov 20 2019 at 00:10

Hi everyone :) This is my first post and it's about a problem with my friend that's got me a little upset. We've known each other for a few years but have only become really close within the last couple of years. We talk a lot everyday despite not living in the same city and I would definitely say we're close friends and could consider her a best friend. I know she also has another close friend who lives in a different country and at first I would get insecure and jealous thinking my friend would leave me/replace me with this other friend (has happened before) but I got over it. A coup...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryI think I want to pursue my ex, but don't know how to go about it? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Nov 15 2019 at 01:55 by buddy1995 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 15 2019 at 13:53

This will be a bit of a read! My ex (T) and I were friends for around 5 years before we ended up dating. We are both 23 years old. At 18 we had hooked up drunkenly, and I do know he's always sort of held a torch for me. I never considered him anything until much later. We basically got together after a series of drunken hookups, and realising we saw each other more than friends. He probably pushed the relationship more as I was terrified of losing the friendship. We talked almost everyday and share many mutual friends. One of our extremely close mutual friends never liked the relationsh...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I just ignore any texts from my ex? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Nov 11 2019 at 19:35 by feelingweird RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Nov 11 2019 at 23:04

I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and as it goes with some breakups, it was pretty bad. We had broken up and reconciled many times over several years and it was clear to me that I couldn't move forward with him b/c primarily of his lies. I wished him the best and really do care about him/miss him, but don't love him anymore. It started about a week ago with texts of him telling me he was not communicating to reconcile, but only b/c he wanted to tell me some things happening with his family and thought I'd be interested being his partner of almost 7 years. He also told me he met ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it something wrong with me? Advice from men would be helpful (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 9 2019 at 22:25 by Emms RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Checkmate15282 / manalone LAST POST: Nov 11 2019 at 01:05

I'm new to this but I really need a little help. Me and my boyfriend have been together over 2 years now and sex has always been really good with us. There has always been a few times where we havent had sex as much cause of just being tired or he says hes just having a 'dry spell'. I'm always understanding about it too but it's happening again and it really getting to me. Ive just had his baby who is 6 months old now and he was like this when I got further on in the pregnancy and I understood it and didnt think too much into it even though it bothered me slightly. Hes now started being ...

Housing advice forum category advice forum categoryLeft my abusive boyfriend. Homeless. What now? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 5 2019 at 20:33 by Whatdoidonow3467 RESPONDENTS: Checkmate15282 / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 9 2019 at 14:08

I posted on here a while back asking for advice on my boyfriend and I took you guys' words into consideration. I deserve alot better than that. Now that I have left, I'm not sure what to do. Because of the relationships I have burned all bridges with anyone that would help and I have no family. (I came from a small family, single child. Parents are deceased.) I have reached out to the small Pantry's here and even housing, but they were honest with me and said it would be about a year until a home opened. I don't have a car anymore because I had sold it when I was with my boufriend. Now tha...

S-e-x advice forum category advice forum categoryIntamacy. Affection. Sex. What do I do? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 7 2019 at 17:03 by TJX0514 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 9 2019 at 13:57

My partner and I have been together for 5 years now. From the beginning I really thought sex and affection was what held a relationship together. Well at least for me that's what keeps me close to my partners. He may be different and I respect that but as the years went I've learned many things to focus on all together instead of just sex and affection but he's changed so much too. Sex and affection used to be a multiple time weekly thing. He's not someone who is big on affectionate and I've expressed my feelings to him about it and yes he's tried to be more affectionate randomly out of the bl...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryPerfect relationship apart from lack of sex (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 7 2019 at 15:01 by Limoneandtea RESPONDENTS: manalone / Balance / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 9 2019 at 13:38

Hey. New to all of this, but I'm just looking for some advice. Me and my partner have been together now for one year, and I absolutely adore her, she adores me, we are best friends, and lovers all in one. I've never met someone who I can be so myself around, we understand eachother on a level that I wasn't sure existed until I met her. The only thing is, we do not have sex. It is once ever few months. And this is beginning to affect me. I'd say our relationship is literally perfect in every other way, it's just the lack of sex that bothers me. I actually proposed to her last month, and she sai...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling unable to move out and live my life (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Nov 8 2019 at 02:08 by LollyPoppyStar RESPONDENTS: Balance / manalone / Checkmate15282 / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 9 2019 at 13:27

Hi guys, Not sure where to post this but I need to get this off my chest. I have had the worst year of my life and unfortunately my mother has just passed away from a long battle with cancer. Although we knew it was going to happen nothing will ever prepare you for when it happens. I am understandably grieving but I feel so angry. I still live at home ( I’m 26) Let me explain why. My mum has relied on me financially for years as she had quite a lot of debt and was only just adding to her debt and not paying anything off really except min payments. I suggested to my mum about moving out...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryI need perspective and advice on what happened this weekend (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 5 2019 at 00:46 by 94duvillet RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Balance LAST POST: Nov 8 2019 at 04:13

Hi guys, this is a long read, but I need to know if I was in the wrong. If I behaved badly. If I messed up. This weekend was my boyfriend's best friends' wedding. My boyfriend was the best man. I was so excited for this wedding. His friends have welcomed me into their lives so lovingly. I appreciate what they have done for me and my boyfriend tremendously. I got my hair & makeup done for this wedding. I had the cutest outfit. I was so ready to celebrate the day with everyone. And the day started out so well. The ceremony at the church was so beautiful. It was such a moving ceremony, there...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryEnd the marriage (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 6 2019 at 21:04 by polla RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Nov 7 2019 at 01:17

Been having problems with my husband over finding hook ups sites on his phone. they were in the history section and he denies he was on them, said that they are pop ups from other sites and when you go on them they don't lead to a page so its all crap. I did go on one and it did lead to a hook up site. he as looked at porn in the past so I think the pop ups could be because of that. he said he as not looked at it for 2 years but I know he is lying because he once said he had stopped but I found it again on his laptop. we recently stayed away and I have been saying he as another woman. I had ha...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I confront him? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Nov 5 2019 at 05:31 by cin RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Nov 6 2019 at 22:50

I've known this friend of mine for about 2-3 years now, and we've become close, as of late. Over the past few months, we have both engaged in private facetimes, as well as group facetimes with our friend group. We were always somewhat close, but then a couple of months ago, one of our mutual friends began to tease the idea of my friend having a secret only he knew. After the teasing began, my friend began to act more and more as if he was interested in me. He wanted to facetime me privately more often, he talked to me in person a lot more (often going out of his to do so), he bought me sma...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFriendship problems? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 30 2019 at 17:59 by cheekaun587 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 6 2019 at 21:31

I'm 13, almost 14, had a friend? for a few months, we both have autism, sometimes we're friends, besties, and sometimes we're neither, We've fought numerous times recently, she keeps calling me stupid. Her mum has to keep coming back to me and tells me she doesn't mean it and that it's 'just the way she speaks to her friends'. She even called me a bitch for telling her to fuck off when she called me stupid. And what's worse my mother takes her side every time just cos she's older!! Our parents keep arranging meetups against my will so we can hang out. One day my friend was all trying to h...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHurt by her Hawaii trip plans with her girlfriend (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 30 2019 at 12:41 by Francesco RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Nov 5 2019 at 23:02

I can't help but to be hurt after my girlfriend told me she was going to plan a trip to Hawaii with her girlfriend along with other trips (Australia, New Zealand). This is after I had suggested that there were some cheap flights to Hawaii some months back and maybe that was a trip we could consider. She said that she wasn't interested in Hawaii. When I brought that up a few days ago when she told me about about her trip plan to Hawaii with her friend, she said "well, I guess I am". Meaning, I guess I am interested in a Hawaii trip. But she still insists that Hawaii is really not something she ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryRecent breakup (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Nov 3 2019 at 22:49 by ValkyrieHela96 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Nov 5 2019 at 00:18

My boyfriend of nearly 2 years informed me the other day that he wanted us to break up because he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. This came as a shock to me as well as his family and our friends as it was completely out of the blue. There was no warning signs or anything. Now, here's where the issue lies. I have no family and nowhere to go until I can find a new place of my own. The now 'ex' has said I can stay with him as long as I need to. I laid it all out to him. I pulled him up on his commitment issues and that instead of running from them, he should start facing them. Thi...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryNot being invited to wedding for my nephew (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Sep 29 2019 at 23:53 by SunshineandRoses RESPONDENTS: Rosie893 / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 31 2019 at 13:51

I was the only family member that was not invited to my nephew's wedding. Other relatives were invited. I am upset and feel left out, as if the family is ousting me. ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't know if this is abusive or not? (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Oct 26 2019 at 20:16 by Whatdoidonow3467 RESPONDENTS: manalone / AlexKutler / susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 31 2019 at 13:43

My boyfriend and I have been together seven months now. Sometimes we have really good days but on the bad days it gets kinda bad. Here lately whenever I tell him I'm not in the mood for sex or anything sexual, he gets really angry with me. At first it's because I thought maybe I wasn't doing it enough but we started doing it up to three times a day and he still gets upset if I want to say no or take a day for a break. He tells me it's because it's one of the only things I do to make him happy so 'who am I to take that from him'. Here lately he's also been getting really angry when I tell h...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I being too paranoid? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 28 2019 at 19:00 by Anxietysometimes RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 31 2019 at 13:39

I broke up with a long term boyfriend a few months ago primarily b/c he was verbally abusive and controlling. Met a new man who is really loving and attentive and we have many things in common. But he tends to behave sometimes in a manner that sort of makes me anxious- that is what I perceive as controlling. Here are some examples: He will tell me which parking spot to park in and if I'm following the car in front of me too close when I'm driving. He suggests (doesn't ask) what we should do for dinner. He suggests certain things around my kitchen (to be fair, he is much neater than me...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp!?!? Help me decide (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Oct 21 2019 at 15:26 by Ashleytrii RESPONDENTS: flipp / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 31 2019 at 12:00

Hi guys, This is not a relationship or dating question I’m kindly ask you for advice because it’s been 6 months deciding which path should I take and as of today I’m still undecided. Giving me your advice would be a big help. So I just recently became an Accountant last May and I’m now working at a job which I don’t really like. The benefit really doesn’t outweigh the cost and I’m not having a work life balance because we are leaving the office at 12am and have to get back by 7am. What is worse is we are not being paid well. So I’m definitely leaving my job this month...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryWhen and how do I ask my boyfriend about finances? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 21 2019 at 15:41 by abitshy RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 28 2019 at 13:30

I've been really burnt before and totally misled when I was with a prior boyfriend - in particular, he wanted to build a future with me and because we are older, I told him I needed to know he can stand on his own 2 feet financially, like me. I am not interested in supporting someone through their retirement nor do I have sufficient funds to pay for 2 people. He lied to me throughout the relationship about his money issues to mislead me into believing he was in good shape. I ended the relationship and now have started a new one. This person is a professional like me, and has his own home. B...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryAnxiety, relationships and crushes (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Sep 22 2019 at 21:45 by messup RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 28 2019 at 13:22

like alot of people i have really bad anxiety and im also one of those people who hide it from others. i dont do well in relationships and tend to get kinda freaked out when ppl want to be with me if i dont like like them. i cant say no and thats kinda what happended with my current boyfriend, it started as just try it you dont have to do anything. its been a couple months now and he keeps saying i love you which makes me really uncomfortable. i cant break up with him as then part of my friendship group would fall apart. i dont feel it tho i feel numb lately and i can kinda tell my mental heal...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categorySeparate beds (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Oct 25 2019 at 00:50 by flipp RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 28 2019 at 12:23

Hello everyone. I thought asking for other people’s experiences. Are you and your partner sleeping in separate beds? If yes, I would love to hear from you and your thoughts. My partner insisted that we sleep separately. My partner’s sleep is irregular and bad, and that is accordingly, the main reason to want it. I suspect There is more to it e.g.my partner’s parents slept in separate beds. I wonder what that meant to my partner!?. I don’t know why things went that way between us. I remember that I protested, was sad, angry for a long time. But now I just accepted it. In the last month,...

Bereavement advice forum category advice forum categoryNew man withdrawn after parental death (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 25 2019 at 20:11 by Rosie893 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 26 2019 at 15:00

I’ve been seeing a man for two months, we are both in our thirties. A few weeks ago he lost his mother and he seemed fine in the time straight after this. Then around a week ago he went cold on me, i thought we were supposed to meet up at the weekend but he said he’d been in bed all day feeling awful and he needed time to think, rest and sleep. I replied and said I was there if he needed me and have given him this space and haven’t contacted him for about six days. I still haven’t heard from him, what would you do under the circumstances? It’s been over a week since I’ve actually s...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryLeaving a sick friend stranded? (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Oct 22 2019 at 23:08 by Tuesday RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 26 2019 at 00:14

Am I wrong? Am I selfish? I don't know how to make this right... I don't think it will be right. Last year my friend was dx with stage 3 cancer. The odds are stacked against her. She lives a thousand miles away and her dream was to come visit me. Now we have only been in touch via text past few years with my family life being unstable and her cancer dx. But I want to see her and I told her she could come. A few months ago she said she's done with chemo and driving here. Here's where everything does a nosedive.... She initially didn't tell me she's bringing a 50lb dog. ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp with guilt (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 23 2019 at 13:08 by Tommy RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 25 2019 at 13:58

I was in a relationship over 10 years ago. I was 21 at the time and we had been together for over two years. We were good but I felt the relationship going a bit stale. I had just lost my job I loved to redundancy and I was starting a new job out of my comfort zone. I started the training for the new job with a small group of people. It was there I met another girl. I knew immediately there was something there between us and the more I got to know her the more I really wanted to know more. My relationship at that time was getting worse. I don’t know if it was because I becoming more d...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryTotally confused (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 23 2019 at 23:54 by TashiaS RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 25 2019 at 13:47

I had an affair with a guy at work. He's married I am single. When he left that evening I didnt hear anything from him or the next day. I messaged him when I got off work. Nothing waited and hour msg him to ask if he was upset with me. His reply I can't talk. Two days later I see him at work I asked how it was going and he said "not good". I said I'm sorry and I walked away. A few days later I seen him and asked are you no longer talking to me. He looked me in the eyes and looked away. I said was me, was it because you shut your cell phone off. He looked at me again in the eyes and calml...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryNot sure if my boss kissed me on purpose (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 20 2019 at 09:01 by Didhekissme RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 23 2019 at 12:56

Hey Guys, I (27) need your opinion.. So there is my Boss who is 20 years older than me. We’ve worked together for a couple of years now. He is very supportive, we have a great relationship and we are a good team. Fact is that, since about 3 years, as soon as we had some alcohol (for example at a team event, client event etc), our conversations turn into flirts (of course only when we are alone and not in front of colleagues). We both know that we like each other, also in a sexual way, but that there can never be more than flirts as he is married. I was always totally fine with that and I...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFreaking out so bad and utterly terrified (Posts: 5)
CREATED: Oct 18 2019 at 12:55 by HannaM RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 21 2019 at 23:54

Ok, so my husband told me 2 weeks ago that he is going to a conference in Amsterdam next month. He knows how i feel about that place. He assured me that the conference center is outside of Amsterdam and right by the airport (this is in fact true) and that it would only be for one night. He also promised he would not venture into the city center. I made my peace with this and supported him. Last night he told me he had more information and that he is in fact going for 3 nights and not 1. Leaving very early morning on a Sunday morning (not sure why they are going so early) 2 days conference and ...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I deal with the guilt of leaving parents when moving to other country ? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Sep 29 2019 at 11:52 by Reverse _Flash RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2019 at 13:12

I am from Bangladesh. My father was 60 and my mother 38 when I was born. I have 2 elder sisters. My father is a very hard worker and still works at the age of 80 to keep the family going. My mother is a housewife. I am about to complete my undergraduate degree next year. I now have the opportunity to move to another country for my studies and eventually settle down. I have always hated living in Bangladesh and it has always been my aim to move out. My thoughts, beliefs are too different from the norm. The government is corrupt and everything is a mess. My parents know how strongly I wa...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryConflicted, mental health relationship help (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 18 2019 at 05:28 by Jenna5989 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2019 at 12:58

My boyfriend told me he cheated on me at the start of our relationship with an old friend at the time. I believed him but did wonder if it was true. He then told me a lot of other things that happened that he remembers but some of the things he says is not true. He told me me, him, and 2 friends had a convo about me cheating and there were tears and all but this is 1000% not true. Some things he genuinely remembers and can describe in detail is not true. Me and a friend think there is more to it and has something to do with his mental health as he is positive he remembers all these thin...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFinding females who are interested in me? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 18 2019 at 09:53 by Balance RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2019 at 12:51

I haven't dated many women in my life, technically I've only had one live-in girlfriend and that lasted for over 5 years. I've gone on a few dates but usually these ended in women ghosting me or just deciding they weren't interested and going their separate ways. I'm in my early 30's and am extremely bothered by this. I often find myself wondering if something is wrong with me that makes women disinterested. I see a lot of women being selfish these days and getting applauded for it, playing the field and stringing along guys who put in effort for them while chasing after someone else w...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused about EVERYTHING (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 16 2019 at 19:33 by Coourtzzz RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 17 2019 at 07:49

So, I was with someone from the age of 17 to a month before turning 23 (last year). I ended things with my ex because.. well, I can barely even remember why. I felt that we never saw each other, he went on his phone A LOT, and he sort of stopped engaging in deep conversations with me, I would try to get something out of him and he quite often gave me one word answers and I became really fed up. His dad was very much the Same, and I began scared that he would end up like his dad, who was very very quiet. We stopped having fun, really. But really, I think I changed too, I wanted to go out al...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryInsecure (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Sep 29 2019 at 14:35 by joanne5057 (alias modified to protect identity) RESPONDENTS: joanne5057@ / manalone / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 15 2019 at 13:58

I had a friends with benefit (M) relationship for 3 years.I ended it in February, went online and met A. At first he was really intense,wanted to see me, be his girlfriend, said he was falling for me and then he'd go cold, i was confused. In the meantime M contacted me, he missed me etc, i slept with him, split up with A after a huge argument, i said some nasty things to him.Anyway i ended things with M, then started speaking to A again, he was really nice to me. We've met a couple of times, but i don't know where i stand with him now, he says he misses me, but he takes ages to reply to my tex...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryCrazy about my best friend (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 4 2019 at 23:14 by colly 123 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 15 2019 at 11:19

I have known my friend for 4 years, and the moment i met her i was instantly smitten. Over the years we have always been there for each other. A couple of weeks ago she invited me to her house for dinner, which never transpired, so i immediately asked her to the theatre. She came to my house and we wnt to see Mam Mia. Both loved it, and she said i am on leave soon and i am going to invite you to my house. She said it was the best night of her life. She is divorced with a child and works long hours. On the evening we went out she mentioned she joined a dating agency, this was like a dagger to...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed some good advice (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 8 2019 at 20:11 by Beardedguy90 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 15 2019 at 11:11

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now and apart of me wants to be single and see other men. The relationship has become pretty stale from my point of view and I don't think he thinks the same and I'm always making an excuse for when it's time to get intimate. He's never been violent or anything towards me and I've never been violent to him but I'm finding myself going to bed early before him just to be myself... I don't think I find my partner physically attractive anymore but he's such a sweet guy and everyone loves him including my friends and family which makes it even m...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFeel like a third wheel with my sister and her husband (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 10 2019 at 20:01 by shae.w.26 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 15 2019 at 11:00

Okay, so disclaimer, this doubles as a venting post as well as eliciting advice from others who may have had experience with the same situation. I am very close with my older (5 yr age gap) sister. She has even allowed me to live with her (I pay rent 🙂 not a total moocher) She recently got married, and I’ve known the man for almost just as long as she has. She introduced us within a couple months of them meeting and getting together. I say that to preface that my issue is not a fleeting phase, unfortunately. For the past 3 or 4 years I’ve just been so annoyed because I feel like w...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryResponsibility or happiness? Jane or Kathy? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Aug 22 2019 at 16:26 by Trytobegood RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 13 2019 at 01:26

Life Context I am in my early 30s, male, only child. My parents are very hardworking overachievers who made huge strides for our family, going from penniless rural China to a comfortable middle-class life in the UK. Perhaps because of this, I have always been ambitious and driven to succeed, to make the most of the much easier start in life that I got thanks to my parents (compared to them). Before the age of 21, I was very much a successful high achiever myself. Top grades at school, got into an elite university, you get the idea. However for reasons too complicated to get into here, I...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes it ever make sense to reconcile with ex? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Sep 23 2019 at 17:04 by sodepressednow RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 13 2019 at 00:39

My ex and I just broke up recently - I broke it off with him. He replied quickly and said he was sorry and understood but really was sad we weren't going to be together since I've been with him for many years. Then about 10 days later, he reached out to me to try to tell me we belong together and we can work through the issues; said he was sorry for his bad behavior and also pointed out I was wrong too (which I've acknowledged before). He said he has worked out his lack of honesty about his $ issue (which is why I broke it off and did so a few times over the years). He also promised to be...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat's going on??? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Aug 17 2019 at 21:19 by Tallbean RESPONDENTS: AAAAHHHHHH / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 12 2019 at 00:29

Hey y'all so here's my problem, a while ago I met a girl through her lovely twin sister who hoped we would become friends as well. At first we were cool and all, noticed she was slightly perverted, like to talk to me and post pictures revealing some of her chest and just fetishised men dressing as women a lot. Yet it was nothing related to me so I let my opinions settle in my gut. A little more into the developing friendship I learn that she's has 6 past relationships and that she cut out a lot of friendships to keep me closer and wanted me to do the same. Didn't like hearing me say th...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryBasically I’m a fucking idiot (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Oct 10 2019 at 21:12 by AAAAHHHHHH RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 11 2019 at 21:55

So of course with me being a teen girl it’s (dramatic pause....) romance!! I go to a rowing club (lame I know but im very passionate about it) and well, everyone who goes there ,apart from your truly, is very hot, to say the least. I am having girl (and guy) problems for instance, there this one girl and she’s kind and smart and beautiful but idk if she’s into girls like that and , also I had to share a mat with this REALLY HOT guy and it could barely fit me and we had to do a stretch where ,basically it was like we where spooning and my poor catholic schoolgirl heart couldn’t take it...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I be more compassionate or empathetic to my boyfriend's ex? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 4 2019 at 06:51 by Becky Su RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 11:30

I'd really like to have some impartial advice on this situation with my boyfriend. Earlier on in the year I've had an encounter with his ex. In this encounter she called me claiming with him for the past 3 years, even living with him and other things. Basically to make me think I was the side chick. My boyfriend proved to me that she was lying and we moved on from it. Over the next few months the relationship really became rocky as my trust for him after her claims was really being challenged. The reason for that was because after she initially called me I saved her contact to my phone so...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryI feel trapped in my relationship and I’m find it very difficult to leave (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 5 2019 at 15:32 by Edge77 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 11:19

Right I have been with my partner for over 20 years. We were married. Divorced 8 years ago. After sometime apart we ended up back together. I left again and then ended up back together again...I know I know sounds silly. It’s like he has this hold over me. I try and leave and he manipulates me into going back. I don’t love him anymore. Just a friend to me. We divorced due to the way he was back then. Alcohol addiction etc, I won’t go into all the details as I will be here all day. But I have bad memories of it all. Anyway I forgave him. He turned his life around and I am proud of him for...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryWaiting for him (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Oct 6 2019 at 17:49 by ha92 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Soccer121 / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 11:08

I had a crush on my brother's friend some 10 years ago.. I proposed him.. he is very close to my brother.. as I proposed him.. he told me that it will become a problem.. between me,him, and my brother..later we had no contact.. but my brother and his friends lied to me that he got married.. and showed me a pic.. it seems to me that it's jus a build up.. so I didn't disturb him at all.. I was busy with education. But now my family is searching me a groom.. I searched for this guy in Google.. he has accounts but has never posted his wife's pic not even his child's pic.. I asked my bro abt it.. h...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFormer student / lecturer “relationship” issue (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 7 2019 at 23:19 by Goldfishy88 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 11:02

So I’m looking for some impartial advice about a sticky situation I find myself in. I will keep it as short as I possibly can...! 3 years ago while I was at University I became involved with one of my lecturers. I liked him, he liked me, we were in our 30s/40s so nothing creepy. We met up a few times and had to keep it under cover but I did actually enjoy his company and the few times we met up we did sleep together. After a month or so he ended things because rumours started to circulate about him seeing students and he said he had to stop seeing me. I was gutted to be honest but co...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryParental torment (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 7 2019 at 22:07 by Mazzer68 RESPONDENTS: HopelessOptimist / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 10:03

I had a one night stand with someone 25 years younger than me.Im 57,later found out the girl was pregnant.She admitted at the time I could be the father as well as her partner.Basically she had the child and I think shes mine,she says now it's her partners.Im convinced the child is mine and I'm tormented by this thought Do I have any choice but to accept this woman's insistence I'm not the father and move on?...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryMoved across the country for addict fiancé (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Sep 20 2019 at 17:44 by Lunarandlost RESPONDENTS: HopelessOptimist / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 09:59

Okay so we met online 15 years ago as kids. Didn’t meet in person until 3 years ago (which we consider our anniversary) the connection was so strong and still is. I’ve always been a cautious person but I found myself agreeing to move here after a few weeks. 2 months later I had said my goodbyes to my family and friends and was driving here. Fast forward to now and we’re a mess. I knew he was an ex drug addict but thought he was fully recovered. I battled that myself as a teenager/thought I could help him/it was my karma to etc. he relapsed more times than I can count during our relati...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Oct 5 2019 at 06:50 by Jupjup RESPONDENTS: HopelessOptimist / HannaM LAST POST: Oct 9 2019 at 09:32

I've fallen in love with a married man. We haven't done anything other than hug and I don't condone cheating at all, neither does he. I know he's not just gonna up and leave his wife as he takes his commitments seriously. But I feel so guilty every time I wish their marriage would fail. How do I stop myself from wanting someone that is unavailable? ...