Feeling bottom of the barrel

My husband doesn't want me anymore.. It started out lil by lil less intimacy, then less and less then he started putting me down now and then. It's now an everyday thing. Between time he from time to time shows me affection but that's where it stops. I've tried being more living, more aggressive more open minded and adventurous but at the end of it all I end up left out.. He would rather masturbate then have sex with me..I even tried to bring another r women in the bedroom with us he loved it but he loved her and I was left to the side. I've asked him whate problem is and he said he doesn't know I do everything that he expects from me, I look the same I'm actually thinner, my skills are the same probably better cause I try harder... It's really got me feeling in attractive, in wanted and unloved... What can I do to fix this or do I just take it at face value and give up?

How long has he been treating u like this??..sit down with him talk and see if he will treat u better..if not ..walk ..u better off with no one than with someone who treat u like shit..imo..good luck take care

It's been a lil over a month and I try but he gets very defensive... I'm no beauty Queen but what makes it even worse is the women that he lusts over are like ugly rotten toothed trailer trash... At least go for better

Your marriage has become one sided if you're the one putting everything into it and trying to keep it 'alive'. Your husband does know what the issue is but it's up to him to communicate with you and tell you. It's all very well to go to the extreme of letting another woman into your marriage to attempt to keep your husband, but it's the very reason why your marriage has gone to this stage of extremity that you need to look at. It's really no good sacrificing yourself only to be kicked down again and again and it's no small wonder that you feel unloved and unwanted because you have basically been used after becoming an enabler. If your husband has given up on your marriage together, then you need to realize this and walk away to find that someone who will love and respect you as you deserve. You're wasting your time and losing your self respect by going down to your husband's level.