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Would you like spending time with a/your boyfriend or girlfriend at their place every day within the exception of working, almost 24/7 with no let-up? Is that healthy? I ask because there's this couple who isn't married(not that it matters) that spend all day every day together. They only spend time together at his place. she goes to work most mornings and it's right back over his place. if he leaves for work, she has a key and will wait for him at his place to come back home. They aren't living together. Just together most of the time. even run errands together. Is that healthy, or not? Is...

I’ve been seeing the same man for nine months and things are progressing rather seriously. However we live two hours apart so we only see each other weekends and for the most part he drives to me. He needs out patient surgery and I offered to assist him with the first several days many months ago before Coronavirus came about. Now he is pursuing surgery but I am reluctant to assist him at this time especially because my daughter is currently visiting me from out of state and she is so concerned about either one of us seeing people which is not critical. For example she’s not even going to ...

I think my mum might be abusive but its really difficult to accept this. I've been talking to someone online and I have told him the kind of things my mum says and does including calling me worthless among other horrible names and pinning me down to hit me and throwing chairs at me. My mum isn't the only one to do these things to me, my dad has slapped me across the face a few times and comments on my weight a lot and uses horrible names too but not to the same extent my mum does. These things happened maybe 2 or 3 years ago but they still affect me. I have panic attacks and have invasive ...

My wife of has recently left me after a two year on and off again affair with a woman. I have always known she is bisexual, and in 30 years it has never been a problem and she has never cheated until now. When she left, when she got to the woman's house, she rang me in tears, saying she thought she had done the wrong thing, still loved me. She did the same for the next two days, then today nothing, no call. I'm trying to not call her, don't want to come across as needy or desperate, I have told her I love her, and the door is open. Our relationship has always been very good, to the extent ...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

So, recently my ldr boyfriend has started talking to a girl again who he used to talk to but it’s making me really jealous and feel like I’m being replaced. They’ve talked about hanging out and stuff they’re going to do together once quarantine has ended but some things to me seem more like flirting than just being friends but he doesn’t agree. Some things for example are her asking him for advice and help with things, opening up with personal things, cancelling plans with me to call with her for hours (7 hours the other night!!!) It’s causing a lot of arguments due to us ...

Iv been with by boyfriend for 10 years now and we are still great, we are each others best friends and as corny as it sounds we really are. We used to have a great sex life and he used to be trying every second for something but lately.. Past couple of months he hasnt been trying. I'm not used to initiating sex as I usually don't need to and I enjoy knowing he wants me but I got fed up with him not so I decided to start which he seemed just OK about. I ended up telling him how I feel and he assured me he is totally still I to me and things went back to sort of normal. Then the past week he's g...

Since we had kid my wife has been always angry. I am not a perfect person, but i believe i amdoing a job good overall. I work hard, i have a high salary,but still time to care of my son,wash dishes and many homechores and trying to be as loving as possible. I knowmy wife likes to use me as a punching bag,so being angry at me she feels better with herself. I dont feel is fair,because i dont pass on her my work frustrations. Everyday hearing nagging, put me down and affects me emotionally. I feel like being poisoned. I do yoga,meditate and live really healthy. Usually i am happier alone...

After 3.5 years of my relationship with my BF (now ex) he exploded in anger yesterday afternoon and told me I wasn't a quality person and I wasn't good enough for him. It all started Friday when we had plans for him to come over and he cancelled saying he wasn't feeling well, but if he felt better, would I leave my back door unlocked so he could access the house (I live alone), and it was ok if I said no (this is all by text btw). I said no, bc I didn't want to leave my house vulnerable and since I live alone I wouldn't be able to sleep knowing it was unsecured. If I had a definite answer th...

Ok, so I won't make this too long. I meet this wonderful guy and we're doing great. I meet his sister and she was nice to me at first, I thought we clicked and she approved of me. I followed her on instagram and I was a little unsettled to find pics of my guy's ex on her page still (it had been 2 years since they had broken up when we started dating) I ask my boyfriend if he could ask her to take those down. The ex and her are still friends and comment on each other's pictures. He said she's kind of bipolar, but if you want to me I will. So he asks her and then she blocks me. I was so shocked ...

my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 months, we're 15. we've never argued much and have a healthy relationship, my mum is really posh & hasn't been open to convos about sex & stuff, she always turns her nose up about it, my whole family do. my boyfriends family are very different and his parents are a lot younger and so it's easier for him and they're more lenient. within the first month of us dating he came round for dinner, all was well and good & my mum liked him. this is my first proper boyfriend that she has met. he came round a few times after that and obviously being youn...

Hi there, New to this forum, but I'll jump right into it. My soon to be sister-in-law and I do not have the best relationship to say the least, that is I'm mostly invisible to her and she'd never divulge what I know. My fiancé wants to keep me in the loop and is forthcoming of her family's affairs and I was told earlier last week of something troubling. She (my soon to be SIL) had been dating this guy for a number of years and thought they were each others "one", but he ended up being very bull-headed and his behavior was coming into question near the end of their relationship. Yes, on Val...

My bf needs out patient ortho surgery and will be taking the COVID test beforehand. I will not be in the facility but will need to take care of him for a few days. I promised I'd help but that was before the COVID issue. My adult daughter and her SO will be visiting during this time and don't want me to go with my bf b/c I could be exposing myself and/or them. She said she won't visit me now if I decide to go with him at this time. Also, they question if my bf should "expect" me to do this and why his grown daughter isn't doing so instead (she lives further than me and has 2 small kids and ...

I'm torn between seeing my family and hurting my wife. This is my 2nd marriage and we blended a family of 6. 5 girls and a boy. It was difficult from the beginning. We have been married for 8 yrs. A few.years back we split up for a while, the stress of losing our jobs and living w her mom and the stress of the kids. We got back together and that's when my family my wife and myself started having serious problems. Now I want to reconnect with my family and everybody involved had some blame in the game. However I feel that if I do, I cant bring my wife with me, and she wouldn't wa...

I have to end a very toxic relationship with my soulmate and I just cant do it and stick to it, or get him to understand exactly why this is all happening. I don't want our life to be without each other forever just until he can see what is happening and why things have to stop and change. I made him move out last feb. He went thousands of miles away from me which maked no difference. We started having problems and he just kept drinking more and more instead of handling things he would just stay drunk. Than he got mean, very mean to me. He didn't have a harsh word to say to me until ...

I love my child and overall we have a good and close relationship but she can be overly controlling on my life. It’s as if I need her permission to make my own decisions. In this health environment things have only gotten worse. She doesn’t want me to see anyone or go anywhere. I’m very cautious on my own. I told her I decided to have my cleaning person return with the understanding that this person wear mask and gloves and I will be out of the house in my office for the few hours that she will be here. I also had to have a refrigerator replaced so there were some repairman here it was ...

So, been together year or so... few things cropping up that have my back up or am I being over sensitive? She’s been messaging a guy she dated short term saying she was keen on him but didn’t work out etc Single guy in Her work asked her to go to his for drinks post lock down, she’s agreed but said nothing for me to worry about as they’re just mates. And she’s never off her bloody phone!! Can’t make mind up being played, over sensitive or she’s trying to get a reaction.... thoughts please....

She was ditched by him like an old towel with no explanation whatsoever, and he’s waltzed back into her life saying sorry and telling her he still loves her. She’s accepted his friend request. Part of me thinks that she may have unresolved feelings for him and I’m trying my best not to think of that. Maybe it’s just a friend request... I don’t know What do you think is going on? I really don’t want her to be hurt like last time....

This is my first time on this site since I'm kind of in a situation where I may need guidance. Also, I apologize for the bad grammar or spelling, I have no excuse I just type too fast heheh. So I have an older brother, 4 years apart from me, and I'm the younger sister. We still live together along with parents and we grew a great life with each other and very minimal complications. I'm blessed and grateful My brother enjoys video games, chatting with friends, and so forth but lately it has been becoming excessive. His temper has been growing, he's getting bags under his eyes, if we regar...

My husband is watching a lot of porn on his phone. Hs a secure browser app now. But i answered his phone last week and sw he had been watching gay/transgender/transvestite porn. We haven't been intimate since the birth of our 2nd child. I don't care if he is but i don't want to spend the rest of my life in celibacy because he wont come out. ...

I cant believe I'm actually here writing this. Ok so a bit of back ground me and my partner have been together for 18months and I know what your thinking it's a long time to be harbouring these feelings. But I havent only the past 9 months when my partner called me by her ex name did I start to think she still had feelings for him. I wish I didnt. My girlfriend tells me all the time that she loves me and wants only me etc etc but I just find it so hard to believe it. I've been in 3 serious relationships since the age of 17. 1st one I got married at 18 years old stupid but was my 1st lov...

Last year I went to a school reunion and met up with 4 girls I hadn't seen since leaving. We had a good time and kept in touch, agreeing to meet up again at some point. Another girl has now joined the group. She and I were very close from the age of 7 (besties!!) then around the age of 13 she dumped me in a particularly cruel way. She joined up with another girl in our class and started doing things with her that we would normally have done. One day they went swimming and she rang my home. My mom told me who was on the phone but when I spoke it was this other girl. I said hi to her bu...

My son is getting married later this year. I get on well with his fiancee. However I feel excluded from things to do with the wedding. There was a big weekend when she went dress shopping with her friends and then again to make the final choice. She then took her mother along to see the dress and again for the second fitting. There were pictures on FB of them celebrating with fizz and generally being happy. I asked her what the dress was like and if I could see it but she said no. She wants me to see it on the day. To a level I understand this but it makes me feel I'm being treated l...

Hi! This has been eating away at me for a day or so. I guess this is more of a way for me to vent than anything. But responses are appreciated anyway. I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years now, but my boyfriend has been my best friend for almost 9 years. Our bond is really strong both as friends and partners, and it's something I'm really proud of. The other day I was streaming an online game for my boyfriend. It's a game that I also play with some old friends, and it has a chat feature. One of my friends likes to call me by pet names (babe, sweetie, etc.) but it...

I live with my fiancé of almost 5 years, and we have a child together. We’ve never been the best at communicating with each other especially when there’s any type of conflict. Lately, I’ve been feeling a lot of resentment toward him because there are times I feel like a single parent and most days he doesn’t help a lot with chores and such. I’ve tried being understanding because he works nights, so naturally he gets home and needs to sleep during the day. That’s not his fault. But even then, there were a lot of days he’d get up and go straight to playing video games and neglect ...

I've been divorced for about 5 years. Met a woman and we've been dating for a little over a year. We are in love and talking about marriage. But...I was made aware of something that has bothered me and I am conflicted as to how I should handle this. A week ago I was updating her phone and there was a text thread between her and another guy that took place at about 2 in the morning. We do not live together (she has young kids) and I was at my home. She called me a jerk to him. There were no pictures exchanged but it was a long back and forth about sexual acts with each other - very descriptive ...

Ive (20M) known this girl (19F) for a few years now but i had never really gotten the opportunity to get to know her better. Well that all changed about 10 weeks ago and my life has been flipped upside down. We get on so well together, i have such a connection to her its unreal. She is unbelievably beautiful and down to earth. She has absolutely blown me away. ive been visualizing us being together every single day, i cant stop thinking about her. Obviously there is a massive obstacle in the way, the fact that she has a boyfriend. The reason im not running away from this situation is becaus...

I am doing well with my outpatient drug treatment. The mother of my children first said that our ultimate goal is to reunite our family if I succeed with my treatment. I have been spending lots of quality time with our kids and her. I am very motivated to stay sober and do everything right. I love her and the kids so much. Sobriety has enabled me to be the father that my kids deserve. The other day she told me out of nowhere that she doesn’t want me calling her babe or honey anymore, doesn’t want me to touch her or even give her a hug or kiss goodnight. She said she doesn’t want the k...

Hi. My friend (F35) has been in an on again/off again relationship with her boyfriend (M34) for the past 5 years now. The first two years they were doing ok and were living together in a small town (he moved in with her pretty quickly) but after a while they started to fight a lot. They also couldn't decide on their future, kids, etc. She wanted to move to a bigger city, he wanted to move to his small village where all his relatives live. And other things weren't going great either so she decided to break up and move to the big city (5 hours away) alone. She finds a place for herself and a ...

Hi all. So I had a few suspicions of my best friends boyfriend who is also a good friend of mine, I took it upon myself to join a few sex apps and I found my best friends boyfriend, no picture but having seen these apps in the past knowing they belong to him, I knew it was him. As I’m seeing someone. I didn’t talk to anyone on these apps and soon deleted after. Do you think I should tell my best friend or leave it be? I’m in two minds. I feel guilty for not telling him, as he’s my best friend and his partner is also a good friend of mine I feel maybe I should say something, but ...

Hi all. So I’m in a bit of a confused state of mind currently. So this is how it goes.. I met a guy in October and we met a few times since then and January. Then in January, I’d say that’s when we properly started seeing each other. Well today is 18/5/20. The last time we met is the 1/3/20, so almost three months ago. In that time, he had a car accident, Things have been really busy for him at work due to him being self employed, and not knowing what the day is going to be like etc, and now there’s a lockdown. He’s doing ice cream delivery, he’s also told me in this time that he h...

My father is cheating on my mother. The night I accidentally discovered this through his texts, I had the worst panic attack of my life. I thought I was going to die. And it's only gotten worse. Whenever I'm around him, I never fail to feel sick to my stomach and irritable as all hell. Whenever he begins to yell or scream at me over little things or belittles me, not only am I filled with rage but with the overwhelming desire to expose him, there on the spot. My panic attacks have also become more frequent. My mental health is suffering if that wasn't already obvious, and I don't know what to ...

I am in my mid teens and very, very anxious. I have severe clinical depression and worry constantly about my future. I can't help it. My friends are all growing up around me, unhindered by a constant barrage of self-destructing thoughts. I still hang out with them in school (when schools were open) but I never go to any of their houses anymore because of my social anxiety, and so I can't pick up the courage to invite anyone over anymore (not that I could right now). I have lost nearly all my communication skills and am reduced to a quiet, mumbling person, who's every other sentence is wron...

Hi, I am a 70 year old white man, recently lost my wife of 45 years. My son has been diagnosed infertile. They have tried doner IVF but were unsuccessful twice. They always wanted children. My son suggested I make love to his wife to get her pregnant. I was shocked but also flattered to be asked. She is only 22, Iranian origin and very beautiful. Not been with a woman since my wife passed, I let my desires get the better and selfishly agreed. Any child conceived will be legally my son and his wife. I have brought my tempory partner some sexy lingerie for the date. However, with only d...

Need some help really. I am married with children, but am not happy. I met someone online last year and forged a relationship. She offered to leave her husband for me, but I said no as I didn’t want to destroy my family. However, we still talked to each other every day. I became a real source of help for her through her depression and in her life. At first we talked still very romantically, we had already said I love you and had sexual online encounters, though we have only met twice and have not slept with each other, but that’s more because she lives so far away. However I could see that...

We've been together over 3 years. Moved in after 1yr. Everything was great and end of April 2 yrs ago he cheated with a co worker of ours. We worked it out and again last april happened again with another co worker. Again we worked it out. We no longer work together. Again everything is great. I've been noticing things about him. I found hairs in his car. Then last 2 Thursdays he came home late both times arriving at 130am. Had excuses both times. He left for work and I was picking up his dirty clothes and noticed stains in his underwear. Again we get along great. Everytime I caught him before...

My friendship of 20 years has always been toxic. We essentially grew up together, and therefore, know each other very well, like sisters. However, as I've gotten older, I've tried to break off this toxic relationship and I believe so has she. Though I dont care to get into why its toxic, I will say I find it difficult in times like these as she has just texted telling me her mother is in ICU. Do I respond? Do I, once again, reconnect with her? I feel like this is a bad marriage that wont end. If I sound insensitive, trust me I'm not. I just cant seem to find the right answer about this friends...

I've been an elementary school teacher for 18 years. A few months ago, a young lady who I'd had as a student for several years early in my career moved back to our town. She looked me up and asked if I wanted to go for coffee and catch up a little, and I agreed. We met, and what was supposed to be just a short meetup for coffee turned into three hours during which we made an unexpected connection. We ended up going back to my place where, as you may have guessed, we had sex. During the last few months, we've been out a few more times together and we've ended the evening with sex each time. We...

So basically a year ago I found out my husband of 20 years went to a strip club with office friends & had a lap dance paid for by one friend all the blokes together at same time It happened 6 years ago. I didn't want to discuss it with him & ignored him for weeks I didn't know what to think. Anyway when he asked if we could talk about it he said to me "What do you think happened" Naturally I just explained what I thought he had done. He then told me his version of events ( I have questioned him few times & story never changes) I just wonder if he asked me first what I thought happene...

Hello! As the title said, I want to get over someone, he is my ex boyfriend. We dated for 2 months, and he broke up with me without any explanation. After the break up, I still see him in High school and misses him for 3 years. Now I graduated, and I’m currently in a happy relationship with someone else. But sometimes, I would still think about him, checks his social media, wanting to text him, wants to show him I’m a different person now. I hate feeling like this, I want to be loyal to my boyfriend. What should I do? ...

My friend (who lives abroad, this makes it a bit harder to judge, hence my question here) has been with a guy for 5 years now. The first two years they seemed ok, but since then she broke up with him (and got back together again) many times. According to her because “he just won’t let her go”. She would say repeatedly say that “for her it’s over, no matter how hard he tries”. That she calls him her ex, but he keeps calling her his girlfriend. Eventually they always slide back into the relationship, until the next ‘cycle’ or ‘episode’. She once even broke up and moved to a ...

Am I being irrational? I have a twin sister. We are best friends however she never really supports me when I am going through things. It's like, if I'm going right, she chooses to go left every time. Am I being unreasonable and just putting my frustration on her because I am in denial? Years ago, I was going through some issues with my then boyfriend. I'd go to her to rant because she is my sister and best friend. However, the conversation always ends up with us arguing. Not because I said something wrong, but because she has a desire of being right and making me feel like I am wrong. T...

Hi, I am 50yrs old and due to past problems with my wife, my feelings for her have numbed. For about 2 years now, I have been pretty obsessed with a young staff of mine. She is the most wonderful, sweet girl you can imagine and I love everything about her. From her actions, her laughter, her silliness and even her little snaggletooth. To make matters worse, she's a key staff and she's only 23yrs old. I have seen her blossom from a teanager to a young woman and that's how I got to notice her. She's much like my wife, even having birthdays just 2 days apart. And they're very cl...

My partner and I have always struggled with intimacy, being intimate in ways other than sex and sexually. I am much younger than my partner and that is usually what he attributes this problem to. That is if he actually acknowledges that it is a problem. In the eyes of my husband intimacy is to be spontaneous, he is to take me when he feels the need to. Regardless of what I’m wearing or where we are it happens. Do to this ideology we may not have sex or be intimate in that way for 2 weeks to a month and at the most 2 months. I don’t choose when I have sex because I want to be with him alway...

I would really appreciate some advice please ! Been with my husband for 19years love adored him never been unfaithful married for 7 years 2 children a dog mortgage etc. We always spoke about affairs & how bad we thought it was & that both of us could not forgive the other if happened even down to speaking having a friendship without either of us knowing is a no go so I always believed we had the same morals. 3 years ago i found a women’s number on my husbands phone saying Thankyou very much with a smiley face with love heart eyes. I was so sad by this But his excuse was it was ab...

I've been seeing a man for 18 months now. He insists that we are "friends" and hasn't introduced me to his friends or family, which is ok with me as I have no interest in meeting them (or him meeting mine). Neither of us are dating or sleeping with anyone else (yes, we've had that conversation), so it feels like a relationship. When we started seeing each other 18 months ago, he had a falling out with his 23 year old son. I have always hoped and encouraged that they would make up someday, and about a month ago they finally did. He's been seeing his son often, and spending way more time wi...

Honestly, I don’t even know where to start. My partner (34, living in the US) and I (27, living in Ireland) got to know each other via a dating app in November last year and he invited me over after just a few weeks texting. In January, I visited him and we became a couple, so it’s a relatively new relationship. I think the biggest issue is his ex-girlfriend (they are broken up since over a year now). She has a mental disorder and from what he told me, he still feels like he let her down during their relationship by not being there for her. They are texting on a frequent basis, and they ...