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6 years ago my husband started work at a company as a sales rep. there is a office woman who works there and it was xmas time and my husband wanted to know when he was getting paid over the holidays. i was in the car with him when he rang the office and I am convinced I heard her say, don't forget to get me a present. he said she did not say this and said, don't forget to get your wife a present. I asked him why she would she that when of course he would get me something but I think he was lying to get out of what I heard. then he got the xmas gifts for our kids and some for me and he kepted t...

I have 3 children aged over 2O, two boys and a girl. our son who is the middle one never contacts me at all. even on my birthday he never sent a text message to wish me all the best. he sent me a card but it would of been nice to of received a text message too. i sent a text message to him saying thankyou for the card and for putting money towards a present the 3 of them had chipped in to get me. he stays in touch with my husband and will contact him a lot but never me. it hurts because I bought them all up the same and I know he as heard me and my husband arguing over the years and I think he...

My boyfriend and I have only been together for a few weeks but he has not texted me in 5 days. We just went out on Valentine's Day and then he said he loved me. We have known each other for a while before we started going out. We texted for a few days after Valentine's day but it felt like I was dragging him along in the conversation and it also felt dry and like he did not really want to talk to me. I started the last conversation and now it has been 5 days, what should I do? ...

Long story short, I moved to a new small town and met a guy, both of us a bit damaged from previous relationships, and not exactly looking to get into anything. Somehow things ended up on the more serious side of things and we were seeing eachother for about 4 months and I believed him when he would tell me he didn't want to lose me, he could see a future with me, he wouldn't hurt me, let him get to know the real me. Then suddenly he decided I was getting to serious and ended things with me, and now I'm thinking maybe I imagined everything Annyway I recently found out he's already messagin...

Hi Iam new to this forum but just looking for a little advice. I have been in a long term relationship for 10 years and married for 2. we have two kids. My husband can be difficult at times. He can be controlling however I have always stood up to him on that point and still go out with friends and family ect despite him possibly being in a huff or upset about it. He can also be loving but can change quickly. My main issue at the moment is when I am asleep I have been awoken by him having sex with me or him doing foreplay on me.When I wake he is already doing it so I feel confused am ...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Hi, I've been married for 10 years. Lately my husband doesn't give me any attention. We will have a conversation but that's it. He doesn't kiss me, hold my hand, cuddle me and we dont have sex. We are both 40. I'm convinced he's having an affair and have confronted him but he has denied it. He has made me feel ugly and made me feel that I have done something wrong. I then get confused when I'm approached by other men asking for my number or to take me out. I'm so upset because we only get one life and I want to be happy. I dont want to feel unloved. Any advice? Thanks in advance....

I recently started a new job and was so happy, as I was at my former workplace for a long time and it was a rather toxic environment. My new job is a small team, of which I am a part of. There is a colleague, whom at first seemed welcoming. She was a bit of a loud character, but I took this as workplace banter and wasn't offended. Then there was a switch in her behaviour - suddenly she started to avoid eye contact. Was abrupt and short. She is not like this with anyone else - so I discounted there may be a personal reason. I know I didn't do anything offensive. It is not in my nature,...

Hello, I came to this forum in May '19. My relationship with my mother had broken down for a second time in Oct '18 and I was 6 months into going No Contact. I was expecting to feel better, to feel relief that I no longer had to see her every 6 weeks but I wasn't. I was in despair, more anxious than ever and the guilt pulled at my heart strings everyday that she was going to miss out on my baby growing up. I got some brilliant advice on here, however in the end I needed to go back to counselling for my sanity. The counselling was good for me and I stayed as long as I could afford to. Now ...

Hi all Recently single, at 35, and feel like my prospect at having a family is running out very quickly. I’m also pretty traumatised from a VERY difficult five years or so which has featured betrayal, death of my favourite person and also a transition to freelancing for three years which I now realise is not helping as I spend so much time at my kitchen table (I’m now going inhouse part-time, which should hopefully help). I do think I’m a pretty sociable person naturally but the last few years have isolated me and given me no time or energy to pursue new friendships. And weirdly...

My husband is one of those manipulators, who suppose that they are always right and nobody else can argue with him or his point of view. We have been married for about 6 months only, started dating about 2 yrs ago, when I was 25 and he was 22 (I know that he is much younger, but who cares, right?) So he convinced me that I shouldn't refuse his proposal, it was really romantic in our happy place, but during these months he has changed, I wouldn't say it's a gaslighting, cuz I am not a therapist, but I am almost sure it purely is. He keeps emphasizing that its always my fault that he keeps texti...

Due to financial strain, my boyfriend and I signed a lease together a few months ago. Pretty quickly, things went downhill. While he has never been physically violent, he is mentally ill and refusing to take responsibility for it. He keeps guns around the house, not secured safely, which I am not okay with. He is patronizing and tends to ignore me or roll his eyes at me whenever I do or say anything he doesn’t like. I have suggested couples counseling, but he refuses, and every attempt at conversation is shut down. By far, the biggest issue though, is that I have just realized that t...

I was playing Minecraft and just having a good time with my friends, and one of their brothers my friends were from 22-26 and the guys brother is 17 then this person joined, don't know how, but they said they were 13 and they all just bullied her and it was really messed up it was 5 of them doing it so i felt kinda nervous about speaking up, mostly because i didn't know/barely knew a few of them when she went i left too and sent her a message just to see if she was ok but an hour or 2 later my friend sent screenshots into the psn group chat because she came back and they did the same t...

I just graduated from high school and I still want to maintain my friendship with my school friends. I have been catching up with them but they don't invite me to their parties. They take drugs at their parties and they know I don't do drugs. I'm actually fine with others taking drugs because I don't have to take them myself. I texted them asking why they don't invite me to their parties. They never told me the full reason but they mentioned that they think I would be uncomfortable with them taking drugs at parties. They thought I would bring up this topic again and I said I wouldn't. T...

My sister-in-law is gay and lives in a country where it is legal but still not socially acceptable. She is miserable and I feel for her. She has had nervous breakdowns in the past and has gone for therapies, but it was of no help. The whole family is trying to support her in any way possible but it has come to a point where she has started blaming others for her situation and resent everyone whose life is “normal” (most of the times it’s me). Now, as much as I feel for her, I get really uncomfortable when she bad-mouths me in front of my husband. My husband tries to calm her by talkin...

I had a girlfriend last year, who I had been in a relationship for a year. We broke up last summer and I have moved on and got a new girlfriend. But I can't stop looking back over me and my exes old messages, am I not truly over my ex or is this normal?...

I was in an abusive and controlling relationship for 6 years and finally made the break 7 months ago. We had a mutual friend who has been supporting my ex who had problems with alcohol and drugs and he has been a good friend to him and to me. Me and this friend recently went out as friends to a gig , and we had a few too many and one thing let to another. Since then we have been seeing each other and the chemistry is amazing and we have just clicked ! He has admitted he has always had feelings for me and he treats me with such respect and gentleness and makes me feel like I am th...

there's this chick--(lets call her Jayla) unstable as hell, does crap like talk shit on her ex-friends, snoop in people's beeswax, tries to turn friends against each other, manipulates people into staying friends with her, gets mad at people and fabricate dramas for no reason, and doesn't respect boundaries... idk what the fuck to do. shes practically infiltrated my friend group so now to avoid her i practically have to avoid my friends if you want more details: i met Jayla middle of 2019-- the beginning of the school year, pretty much. Right away we had a really strong bond because 1. ...

I have a 5 yr relationship with my bf who is my best fried and loves me madly but from last 3 years I am deeply attracted physically to a guy who is our mutual friend. This second guy went abroad for a year and during this time I tried to forget him and somewhat I did but still I was in contact with him through text. We are Muslims so I don't have done sex with anyone till now but my boyfriend did kiss n all that romance with me. From the first day of our relationship he wanted me to marry but because of my lack of focus and emotional infedilty I couldn't take a decision to marriage. My bf ...

My boyfriend watches porn quite often and to be honest, i do to. I choose to watch it when he is away, he chooses to watch it even though im in the other room.. it bothers me and i dont know how to cope with it. Does anyone have advice? ...

Hi everyone, It is difficult for me to write this because i always try to put up a facade that nothing is wrong with me. But right now i just can't handle it anymore and i have to let it out. In September of last year i decided to start a new study since i wanted to get away from my dead end job. I went in with full confidence that i was going to make my first year and i wanted to give it my all. But as the time went on i just started to feel more and more down and depressed because i just can't see the purpose for me in life anymore. I would start to procrastinate and i have yet to get a ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. I am extremely happy with him and can see myself building a life with him. We have always been very open and honest with each other. From the beginning I expressed my views on having relations with people outside of our relationship. I feel that if we are honest and communicate our feelings with each other, we should be able to interact with others (sexually and/or romantically) if we so desire. We had several discussions about it and he was always in agreement with me. He even stated that should I go away to college, he wouldn't want me...

I don't like funerals, the whole thing makes me uncomfortable. So when my uncle passed away I just didn't go. The following day my sister texted me asking why I wasn't there. Knowing she wouldn't be sympathetic I just told her I was working (I did later in the day) She replied that she took an hour off work and I should have done the same. She also said some of our cousins asked about me but she didn't say which ones. I made no more replies, didn't want to argue but these comments from her made me feel bad when I already felt bad for not attending. I have missed many funerals and this is...

2016 Discovered dirty messages from her 40 year old cousin etc her replies we can't be together will break up the family. I spoke to her mum about it she said I got nothing to worry about she just needs more commitment. So I moved in and gave up my life to start a new. I got swept up in being a stay at home dad whilst working from home. Took on her step son who I've always seen as my own. I do all the household chores, cooking seeing to the kids. She just sits on her phone. And once in a blue moon she'll do something and has to let everyone know about it. She's definitely a narcissis...

so about 9 months ago my best friend was telling me about some people she went on a camp with. I thought one of the guys was pretty cute so I added his Snapchat. My best friend sees this boy as a brother figure (even though they aren’t blood related). I ended up talking with this boy a lot, which my best friend was aware of. However me and the boy decided to meet up behind my best friends back, and we ended up sleeping together. We still talk a lot, and now, 6 months later, my best friend said she wants to take me with her to camp this year to meet the boy. I want to tell her we’ve already...

I had never had a relationship or fell in love until my first year in college. I met a guy and we fell in love. I’m head over heals in love with him, I want to be with him for the rest of my life. Except that I’ve only ever dated and slept with one person, him. Part of me wants to leave and date around and see what else is out there, but if I do that I’ll lose him for good. He isn’t at all interested in an open relationship, we’ve talked a lot about it. I just wish that I could go and date around for a while and still be able to come back to him, but I can’t ask him to wait for me,...

I broke up with my ex almost 6 months ago but we were together for a lot of years. At first, I didn't dream about him (but I admit to thinking of him almost each day) but over the last few weeks it seems like I dream about him most nights and in more and more detail. The theme is we are getting back together but the people around us don't know that yet and I have to hide it. I wish I could stop this dreaming since I wake up feeling down. I am involved with someone new that I really like and he gives me happiness so I don't think it's loneliness. My ex did text me last month and a few ...

I've been dating someone for almost 6 months. After the first or second month, he started saying he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and marry. FYI, we are both in our 60's but he is close to 70 and I am not. He has been divorced twice and the been alone for almost 12 years since the last divorce. He is a great guy and has many qualities I've been looking for including being similar to me in terms of finances, religion, interests, values and the like. It's taken a long time to find him since I was widowed over 8 years ago. He said he wants to be with me (marriage) because ...

I (37) met a guy (40)from my school days last June, and we were in a relationship from then until November. He had a problem from day one that I have male friends one of whom is married and one an ex guy from 9 years ago – my ex’s new girlfriend and I are actually more friends than me and him. I asked all my friends to respect my decision and stand aside. Unfortunately, one evening my married friend contacted me, as usual, I am still being criticised for this. After we broke up he came back and we basically saw each other for the last 2 months. Of course, I started to reconnect w...