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Been married 24 years together 28. Husband had prostrate taken out 4 years ago so as to use a pump. We recently had sex without the pump and I gave him oral, I sat on him and he came and thanked me for it. I felt so hurt and angry. I said it made me feel like a prostitute or one night stand and he said what's wrong with thanking me for sex because he enjoyed it. I have cheated on my husband quite a few times and some of the men have thanked me after sex and with my husband saying it it made me feel like he was just like them. Like I was a one night stand or prostitute. He as never thanked me f...

I was on a night out with a few of my friends. After a few drinks, me and a close guy friend started having a heartfelt conversation. In the middle the conversation, he leant in and kissed me. I was taken aback and confused. But I briefly kissed back. The kiss was for no more than a few seconds as, once I comprehended what was happening, I immediately pulled away. It did not mean anything and I feel awful. No one saw it happen and my friend told me that he’ll leave whether or not we tell anyone up to me. I fully trust that he will keep it to himself and that it did not mean anything on his s...

I am stuck out in the country because I had to move here for a job to survive and got laid off. I don't know anyone here and there are no groups or clubs. I spend every day blindly googling for help such as outreach services. I just want to move away and start over but can't find work. I don't even know what kind of work. I feel beyond able to help myself and do not know what to do. If anybody has any ideas how to get help or what to do please share. Sorry if this sounds negative I am just very lost and feel worthless and need to find a way to take responsibility for all of this. T ...

I'm here again to look for forums where I can share my insides. I feel really bad about starting last month. I've done bad deeds like flirting even having a guy for a reason that my partner is busy and entertaining other stuff. He wanted me to tell him what's wrong and if I do he will say that all I do is make him mad. We're both are LDR meaning if I'm in Asia he's on the US. So my problem is this, I told him the beginning of the story of what happened and haven't told him the full details yet. Before that he dump me twice before meaning he took the initiative to break up with me and when ...

I have upset a close female friend (not a girlfriend) with some hurtful comments made in a text to her mum which her mum showed to her daughter. I am now mortified and distraught as this was out of character and sent in the heat of the moment and when I was in a bad place recently. I am going to send some flowers to her but should I just leave it at that and let time heal. Who should make the first move in a few weeks for reconciliation?...

Hello. To sum up - I'm a 31 years old woman. I stepped up 2 years ago and started to transform my body as I was heavily overweight. I lost almost 40kg,eat clean now and exercise 4x/week. I've never had confidence before, fat and ugly and probably that's why I have never been in a relationship. I was sure that when I'll look better, everything will be nice and shiny, men will be attracted to me and I will be happy. It just never happened. I look quite ok-ish now, can wear a lot of clothes which I couldn't before as normal sizes didn't fit me. I have a job I love and i meet a lot of people...

Hi I am a middle aged widow with two grown children. 2 years ago I began a relationship with a lovely man who was coming off a fairly recent separation. His former partner was emotionally and financially abusive to him during the course of their marriage and he has endured a long and expensive fight to have regular access to his children and settle their property. Through it all I have witnessed horrendous behaviour from his ex and can understand why he has developed the desire to avoid confrontation. The problem is that he views any awkward conversation as confrontation and will be brutal...

The One Thing I Have Been Trying To Understand All My Life Is My Mother Has Ruined Everything In Entire Life Example My Marriage My Birthdays My Prom Etc... And The Only Thing I Can Come Up With Is That She Takes The Meaning Of Being A Narcisist To A Whole Different Level Believe Me. She Goes Out Of Her Way To Make Me Look Bad In Front Of People To Put Me Down Every Chance She Gets To Blame Me For Everything. And One Day She Was Looking For Her Ring And She Was So Damn Sure That I Took It Supposedly That When She Found It Her Ego Got Offended Because She Looked Stupid And Somebody Had To Liter...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Actually, I think she has had a crush for longer than she admits. My wife and I have been married 4.5 years now and she recently told me that she thinks about this guy sometimes when we have sex or she plays with a toy. My wife is a few years younger than I am. We have a active and I think good sex life aside from the recent admission that she thinks of this guy. I'm sorry if this is rambling and long but to fully understand there is a good deal of information. When My wife was 14, she started baby sitting for a friend of her mom's who had 5 year old son. My wife is still a good friends with t...

am new to all this and I am not sure if I am posting in the right place. Just want some advice and what people’s thoughts are. I hope I can make sense here goes: I have been separated from my Husband for well over 2 years. We have got on well for the sake of our children, there is no way we would or will get back together. He has started to date again and I have been looking at online dating agencies. I don’t think it is going to work for me, as I have a few illnesses and no spring chicken or size 8 anymore. The thing is I have found myself starting to have feelings for my GP. I am...

The man i have been dating off and on for 11 yars in a toxic relationship is doing something im finding disturbing. I want to know if in anyones oponion is this abuse. I own my own home and car work a full time job.Lately, he has been jokingly referring to himself as the taliban man.He says hes joking but its affecting me as a woman.He now comes to my house calls my dog a taliban dog and says keep her in line when im not here. What is anyones oponion....

So long story short my boyfriend of 7 years and I broke up back in December and just reconnected again finally in June. It was devastating to say the least for me without going into super personal details ill just say its always been a lot of nonsense and games hes not been the greatest guy he's cheated numerous times done horrible things behind my back kept plenty of secrets and he's been abusive in every possible way I'd say he's a bully for sure. I've always been so in love and attached to him and gone through hell with his narcissistic silent treatments and all so when he left me for all ...

I'm a 35 year old man who's mature with a good job, etc. And I've been in a relationship with a 31 year old girl/woman for four years and we've just got a mortgage on a house (to avoid having to pay rent when moving in together). The problem we have is that in the last four years, we have always used condoms when having sex, and they are a massive turn off for me and stop me from being able to ejaculate. I can probably count on one hand the number of times I have been able to finish in our entire relationship - they completely desensitize me. But she's still terrified of having sex with me ...

My high school sweetheart and I have been on and off for 10 years. Our relationship was super unhealthy, both insecure teenagers with broken homes that craved just the slightest bit of acceptance. We just needed somewhere to escape to, somehow the problems we made were better than the ones at home. Although we had problems we managed to get better we fix things by the time we left highschool. At our sixth year was when I did I became super uncomfortable and finally confident enough to speak up and say that I was going to step out of the relationship. Before we separated we were living with ea...

So I’ve been dating this girl for a month and a half. First date, we had sex in her car on the side of the road at 4 am. As the days go by we spend time with each other talking about our lives and experiences. She revealed that she once went to a strip club with her friends and got drunk, got on the pole, and stripped for tips. As the weeks move along she tells me she loves me and that she’s madly in love with me. She also revealed that she has intentions of meet ups with her ex husband as friends and remains friends with another ex boyfriend who she intends to spend quality time with....

Hello everyone So I am currently in a long distance relationship with the most amazing woman but I am in dilemma. I used to masterbate to porn a lot but she has expressed her dislike towards me doing it by stating once “that it feels like cheating”. Ever since then I have stopped watching porn because it made me feel guilty. However I have found myself recently looking for some sort of visual stimuli just to get myself going such as videos online outside of porn. Even though it’s not porn I still find myself feeling the same feeling of guilt for pleasuring myself this way. It’s ...

Desperate in need of advice, I recently have been dating a girl who’s been pursuing me for almost a year. Very nice girl, a family girl, and very old school, loves to cook and take care of home, she also has a 3 year old son who’s dad is not in the picture, but she is young, she is a very mature 20 year old and she also lives in TJ. Mexico. While I’m a 35 year old. The age difference scares me and I worry about what others would say about us. I also have 2 guy best friends who are dating 2 girl best friends, they recently wanted me to meet the 3rd girl best friend and we all went to ...

Hi there Have been looking for a place to chat to people as I’m stuck in such a horrid complicated place atm. I’ve been with my OH for 20 years this month and married for 7. He got into cocaine just after we got married. He started his own business.... Over the last 7 years I’ve seen such a change in him. I have tried all I can to get him to stop but always an excuse. It’s stressed related, it’s his job, it’s us, its who who works with, it’s the industry he works in (building trade). He used to be so different which I have pointed out but he can’t see it. Our marriage ...

My boyfriend was dating a girl for 4 years before he met me. When they broke up, they didn't part amicably. They both beared a lot of resentment towards each other. Now in the 2 years that we have been together he's tried to help her on multiple occasions just as a friend. But every time he's tried to reach out to her she's just blocked him. 1) He tried to let go of all the resentment and just move on in life. So he apologised to her over messages just to ensure there is no toxicity or burnt bridges. 2) We found out something about her fiance, which we thought she should be aware of before ...

My husband works as a sales rep. I have always supported him and been there for him when he as talked about his work or going after new jobs. I've felt I have never had any support from him at all in anything I do. Recently he went out at 730am and got home 7pm at night. I knew he had to go and fix a water pump and he said the night before he would be home early in the day he was fixing it. I was assuming he would be home around 4 or 5 and we would go out for a walk. He had been texting me earlier in the day but did not mention he would have to go and fix another water pump and might be home l...

I have been with my partner for Six years, we have been engaged for 3 years and living together for two. We are both divorcees and both have two kids. Mine are now both adults and my partners boys are 18 and 15 I have had a great relationship with both her children and she has with mine. When we moved in together we had to rent as we couldn’t get a mortgage together as she is stuck on her old mortgage with her ex husband. He has his own business and left their marriage( he had his 3 rd affair) he pulled the plug financially with my partner leAving her with a £20 k debt. She was a student ...

Hi all. Maybe someone can offer some help or advice - any input is much appreciated. TO MAKE IT CLEAR... I WANT TO BE OVER HER... I HAVE A FEELING THAT SHE'S STILL CONSIDERING US TO BE A POSSIBILITY BUT... I JUST CAN'T HANDLE THE CONSTANT EMOTIONAL GAME OF CAT & MOUSE... YES, IT WILL SOUND LIKE I'M STILL HEAD OVER HEELS FOR HER... AND I MIGHT BE... BUT I'D RATHER NOT BE... Essentially, I was with my ex for around 1 year 5 months (give or take a week) and despite us being over around 6 months ago now, I still have intense feelings for her that no matter the amount of effort I try to get r...

so I met this guy online approx. 2008, he was really into me and very keen, but we live about 100 miles apart and I got nervous and put things on hold. we have always remained friends and I've spoke to him about problems in relationships that I've had and he has also confided in me. I was on holiday with my children in 2014 and actually bumped into him and his children we all spent time together (nothing happened as I was in a relationship) and I realised what a mistake I hade made all those years ago and how much I actually did like him, and I told him this once I got home. I was ...

I’ve just turned 33 and I haven’t brought anyone home to meet my parents or family ever. I date pretty consistently. Things last about 3-6 months typically and then when things are about to get more serious I bolt....every time. I am seeing someone currently and am trying to give it some more time (try a little harder to make it work) but it just doesn’t feel right. Thoughts? I’m clearly a commitment phobe but I really really don’t want to be like this forever! ...

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. We have loved together for a little over a year. I would say for probably the last 8 months I have been constantly preoccupied with the idea of breaking up with her. I constantly think about the freedom to be alone in the house, do things my way, have great sex that I really enjoy with a variety of people. It has gotten to the point that I am physically and mentally exhausted from thinking about it. The main reasons I can articulate for wanting to break up are: 1. She wants to move to another city in the next year or two. Up unti...

Hello there, I've been with my partner for about 8 months now but things have been so complicated. Me and my ex only ended 2 months prior. My ex was my first proper relationship, I was deeply in love with them. Things had been up and down, we ended but they continued to message me and play with my emotions when trying to move on and wouldn't agree to being friends and wanted a one night stand. After being with my partner, I now know what it is like to be in a loving relationship and for someone else to give, rather than it just being you. My partner ticks all my boxes, has put up with me b...

It started with her growling "men" whenever a man would ever so slightly inconvenience her, then it would move on to her making generalizing comments. One night, her friends decided to make anti-men comments and she encouraged them. This incident was the camel that broke the straw's back. When I confronted her about her behavior, she said "oh", and then proceeded to ignore the fact that I was upset for the rest of the night. The next day, she acknowledged that I was still upset, but I told her that I did not want to talk about it, as I prefer to wait till I'm less angry before I have a co...

My boyfriend is worried that i could be unfaithful to him in the future since i had cheated in a past relationship. I told him i realized i made a terrible mistake in the past and that I have no intention of cheating ever again. I never cheated on him. He asked me whether i would be willing to make a solemn oath of fidelity before God. In the oath, i would say that if i ever cheated on him, i accept that a spell of back luck and tragedies would follow me for the rest of my life and beyond. He is willing to take the same oath himself. He says i have nothing to lose if i do not intend to ch...

I recently began a relationship with a man who is 11 years older than me. I'm in my early twenties and still live at home while attending graduate school. Over the past few months, I have developed what I feel is a serious, committed relationship with this man. My parents like this man as a person, but feel that the 11 year age difference is creepy, and don't think our values line up well enough (Religion differences, etc.). Because of this, my mom prevents me from seeing him alone, or going to his house. We've had a lot of conflict over my relationshp. My mom and I are very close, and thi...

I am a 31 year old female and was in an 8 year relationship, on and off from 22-30 with a male 29 year old male. We begin as friends with benefits and both dated others during our “off” times but always came back to eachother and our comfort zone. Neither of us can really say when it got serious so there was an issue with his commitment in during the times where I thought we had progressed past the phase of talking or seeing other people. We were seen in public places together but never once posted a picture together and have eachother blocked on social media for most of our relationship. ...

My bf and I have a great relationship and we've been together for a year. We live 2 hours apart and both still work (but retirement is only a few years away). The issue we have is as follows: He wants to marry me now (or soon) and not live together first (which involves him moving and selling his house). I want (and need) to live with him first; even for 6 months and then I can move forward. While I understand he doesn't want to "take a risk" of selling and moving to me without a legal commitment, I'm not comfortable with his idea. Don't most people live together first and then move...

Hi everyone! I need some perspective as I think the hell of a workplace I've been in for the last year warped my perception of normality. I will put everything here as objectively as possible. Last year in September I (26F) started my current job. The very first day, my colleague (48F) who I shared an office with gossipped about absolutely everyone, going as far as calling people's kids ugly. She said that she didn't like women. She then started being hot and cold with me. I shrugged off her mood swings. She wouldn't put phones coming for me through if she didn't like it but I never made...

I m a 27 yr old Muslim girl. i have a 6 year old relationship with my bf . we didn't have sex ever. first time in my life i felt sexual attraction towards a guy whom i met 6 years ago but till then i had made commitment to my bf so i could not pursue that guy. But from last 4 years i am in contact with that guy and fancy him all the time . We do not have any kind of relation but i fancy him all the time. I am deeply sexually attracted towards him. When my relation with bf started i had attraction towards him (but not sexual). NEVER in life i felt to have sex with any guy even when my bf touche...

I know this question may sound silly. Trust me, I am a working professional and not a high school girl. Just that I have these crazy endless thoughts. If a guy likes a girl, would he ever not initiate a conversation with her? The thing is we don't have any mutual friends. And we have never spoken to each other. If he was into me, he would definitely try to inbox me in social media or something, right, if not face-to-face? Like I was the one who kind of initiated. I added him and later, inboxed him in a professional network but it was really formal. And his response looked like he didn't ...

Basically what the title says. My boyfriend finds it weird and concerning that several of my friends and I share our locations with each other. He made me remove one of my male friends but I refused to remove my female friends as well as family members. Am I off base in thinking he has no reason to request getting rid of my friends and I’s shared locations? Why does it matter to him beyond sheer jealousy perhaps? How do I handle this? ...

This is very very hard for me to do. I am going to try my best to explain what I need help with and hopefully I won’t be judged for it. My husband and I have a very open relationship and I mean that in all aspects of the word. But twice now I have caught my husband with pictures of other women on his phone. We spoke about it and I guess it was sort of swept under the rug so to speak. I get it. I am not the only woman in the world and I get it that my husband is human and can be attracted to other people without acting on it. Here is the problem...last night I found out that not only ...

I am 50 my partner is 58 we don"t live together but have been in a relationship for 14 years even though it has been platonic for years before we met he had both hips replaced so I have been his part time carer even though I was diagnosed 10 years ago with arthritis in my hands,hips and spine,during lockdown we have isolated apart in our own homes,I have really enjoyed the relaxation and being alone,but he has started calling in to see me on a Sunday for lunch so I feel very used and taken for granted,he has also managed his own care needs apart from his toe nails which I still do even though...