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-When I was 14 in 2008, bet my buddy that I could masturbate in class with nobody noticing, we thought it was hilarious (obviously extremely stupid looking back, never did anything like that before or after), I tried and couldn't really do it then stopped. -We didn't think it was a big deal, we were joking about it a year later, and an upperclassman overheard us. -He started spreading it, yelling it to me in the halls, making fun of me, I went along with it because I still thought it was funny for some reason, I think he spread it was because the teacher was attractive, finally I told ...

We are an older couple, both widowed, living together. I planned a very nice VDay meal, hoping to really focus on each other and help each other feel special and loved. His clueless but sweet Best Friend showed up, wanting to share his findings for a problem we have with our rental. Ok, that's nice. But. It's Valentine's Day. After a while, I asked him if he wanted to join us for dinner, for me that's what you do when someone shows up at mealtime, but I was inwardly hoping he'd eaten early like always and/or realize he could be imposing and leave. No such luck, but we had a nice meal.He left...

Hi I have been dating this woman for 4 months now. Background...When I met her she told me she has never been emotionally attached to any man and it will be sex only. She started opening up to me after a month of sleeping together and told me she got pregnant at 14 and had to fend for herself, alcoholic mother who is no longer alive. She told me at the start she has never had feelings for any man. I said jokingly, you haven't met the right one. Sex is amazing, the best we both have had. We both have strong feelings now. But she allows her ex to dictate, if he thinks she is dating he g...

So the background of this story is that basically, me and my partner found a video on the internet of her making out with someone without her knowledge from before our relationship. The video goes for about half a minute and they didn't notice anyone filming because they were extremely drunk at the time. She remembered that on the same night, they had sex in the same place of filming. She is now extremely anxious about if there was more footage from the same night that could come back to bite her in the future but we don't have anything to prove or disprove this. I've tried contacting the pos...

Okay so I started to write this post and once I hit 1000 characters realized that probably nobody wants to hear all that. So here’s the short version. After 3 long term (7+ years) relationships that ended in my partner being unfaithful to me I realized that I am just a completely lost person. I am the type of guy that puts everything on hold for his woman and now that I have been cheated on again I realized that in the course of the past 8 years all I have done day in and day out is try to make her happy, work, and raise kids. I have ZERO hobbies or interests, I have no friends male or fe...

So ive had an interesting relationship with this girl over the 5 years or so and mind you her and i were our firsts for each other we had a very intimate relationship for about 6-7 months but before that we were great friends for a year and have been still be day. This was during high school and after that amazing 6 months she left and went off to college we probably saw each other 2 maybe 3 times wthin the first 2 years. After that havent since and over the years ive gottin random texts from her saying i was the best guy she was every with this was usually every time a guy would hurt her. I...

So the background of this story is that basically, me and my partner found a video on the internet of her making out with someone without her knowledge from before our relationship. The video goes for about half a minute and they didn't notice anyone filming because they were extremely drunk at the time. She remembered that on the same night, they had sex in the same place of filming. She is now extremely anxious about if there was more footage from the same night that could come back to bite her in the future but we don't have anything to prove or disprove this. I've tried contacting the ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for around five years, while we only started dating for three. He's nearing his thirty fourth birthday this year and I'll be twenty two this summer, he has two kids from two separate ex wives and his son lives with us. He says he wants more kids but he refuses to have any right now. I know its early for me but I've dreampt of being a mom for years, I have Rh Negative blood which makes it very difficult for me to conceive and carry past the first trimester without blood transfusions and strict health routines. I love this man with everything I have and ...

High so a rough over guide/brief history of me, I’m ex-forces so when it comes to seeking a job I’m not very desirable because of my previous military history and now still recovering 4 years later mental health situation, however I struggle financially to stand independent on my own two feet. (Living with parent still at 24) however I’ve been trying to start my own part time business as a photographer, however it’s been mostly low level stuff like cancer charities, dog shows and a few weddings however trying to work out how to push myself and create a recognisable symbol and the parti...

I used to serve in the military went on operations in a combat zone, as a result suffered PTSD, severe depression, Anxiety OCD and a few other mental health problems as a result, attempted suicide when I first developed them problems, lost my job in the military because of it, got help now 4 years later I’m slipping back into serious problems with PTSD ...

How does one get over feeling so lonely?? It's so embarrassing to me to say but I have no school friends, no childhood friends. Nothing like that. I can't even say I have a best friend. I had 2 besties in high school but we got into a fight and the one ended our friendship which then made the other one end it as well. And during college I had friends but never stayed in contact. I always make friends but then once they leave or I leave, its over. And for 4 years, I was away a lot as I worked for a cruise line. Again I made some friends there and some I thought we would be besties fore...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

I am approaching retirement and have $1.5 million in various 401k/retirement accounts. I also have a non-curable medical condition. The money is invested with my long term financial advisers. I am married & have 4 kids. One of my sons just graduated college and became a financial adviser himself less than 1 year ago. Of course he wants me to become his client and transfer all my money to his accounts. My wife agrees with him because she says we need to help/support him. I am a private person about financial matters and don't want my child to know all about every dollar I've ever made. My curre...

So I was with my ex for 2 and a half years and it was an amazing relationship, I was ready to settle down with him and one day completely to my surprise he finished things with me because he wanted to focus on his career and put all of his energy into that. He broke my heart and I was devastated but I had to be understanding because he was getting busy at work and I didn’t want to hold him back in any way, I just wanted him to be happy. I found out a week later he was meeting a girl that wanted to get to know him when we were together and she wanted to get with him but he said he didn’t...

I will try to be as descriptive as possible for this. I am a single 17-year-old girl. I was saving my virginity for someone I loved and that loved me. In December I hung out at the mall with my guy friend and my best girlfriend, let's call her Katie. we met his two friends at the mall. my friend is now dating one of them, let's call him Jack. i noticed the other one looking at me, his name will be Tim. we all hung out in Jack's car. Tim flirted a little with me that night, took my phone and looked through the pics, not giving it back until I was in his lap. later that night he took my gold cha...

My best friend's husband was friends with my husband. They met through me. They currently just had a falling out. Her husband and my husband would go on man trips. During one of these man trips he cheated. My husband was the only one to know. My best friend found out through phone records about the night of cheating. My husband and me are the only ones that know about it. My problem is my husband told me that he is still cheating on her and that is part of the reasons he doesn't want to be friends with him anymore. I don't know how to tell her without throwing my husband under the bus....

I am a 21 year old guy. I have never dated a girl and I think I'm really desperate right now. I have spent the last 5 years of my life chasing 3 girls ( one after the other ). I spoiled my chances with all of these girls by revealing my feelings in an early stage and then acting like a creep. I think I liked all these girls just for the looks. Currently I like another girl since the last 5 months. I haven't revealed my feelings yet. I became friends with her when we were assigned as a team for a college project. I got to know her well. Found many similarities with her and we would enjoy time t...

So me and my husband for a about four years have been discussing swinging. Him more so than me. He wants to have threesomes with another male involved of for me to be with another female. I was against it for so long as it felt like if I did it I was cheating on him. Anyway eventually he persuaded me to try it once. So we did and it wasn't so bad. He kept telling me to message men and if I wanted to I could meet them alone. I did not take him up on the offer but thought about it. Anyway a few months later he kept mentioning that my female friend fancied me And it was obvious. I couldn't see ...

Hello I've posted once or twice on here before about my relationship with my mother. 3 months ago I cut all contact with her, after our last meeting didn't go well. I couldn't face seeing her every 6-8 weeks. It was for one day only, but it left me in termoil for days after, whilst she went home happy, thinking everything was ok. I have found it exstreamly infuriating that she can not acknowledge how she behaved at my wedding and the hell she put my husband and I through during the year of planning it, with her demands and sometimes childish tantrums. In our last meeting I confron...

After my break up with my boyfriend, at the start I was upset about it and depressed and he showed now sign of care. As time goes on I move on and heal and after a few weeks he starts to show he cares and misses me. Why does he want me back after a few weeks and not straight away....

Hi all I’ll try and give as much info hear without making it too long So basically I met a girl just over 2 years ago we went on a date but then decided to just be friends which was my choice after being told by a mutual friend of her ex partner she had betrayed him ,we continued the friendship and got on well she confessed she had feelings for me but as much as I fealt the same I brushed it off as I wanted to see if she was trustworthy,after around a year it became too much to deny and I opened up to her I’d fell in love with her We got together but she was very cold and unintere...

My dad will not accept my mixed race boyfriend purely based on race. He says he will be "civil but don't have to accept him" and i don't think thats good enough. We've recently had a baby and he wants to meet her. I feel by not accepting my bf he doesn't accept half of my baby. I've made it clear that unless he accepts my bf he won't be seeing her. I wouldn't be setting a very good example to our daughter if i allowed them to have a relationship? He has several step grandchildren through his new wife and they all call him granddad. It hurts to see photos of him posing with new babies ...

Married 20 years. My husband has cheated before and we separated for a few months in the first years of our marriage. We worked it out. A few months ago my husband met a woman, a few years younger than me, who is blind and in poor health. They started talking on the phone behind my back. I found out by accident. Within 2 weeks of finding out he asked to separate and is sleeping in the office. Talking to this girl for 16-18 hours a day. He says they are only friends. Says he’s never slept with her. He spends the night at her house once a week. He’ll leave at 7pm and come home at 5:30am bef...

(TL:DR version at the bottom) I’m going to sound like an awful person I know, but I just don’t know what to do at this point. My mother has never been great with her money; growing up, she was always struggling with high-interest loans and borrowing money from her parents as well as being gifted money from them when things got too much. At one point, she was considering declaring bankruptcy but didn’t (I can’t remember the exact details, I was still pretty young). Being a single parent on an ok-ish paying job must have been so tough. Throughout Uni and my early 20s, my Mum suppor...

I have 3 problems hope you can help. the first one is that I asked my husband if a ex got intouch would he tell me he said he did not know and that he might not because he would want nothing to do with her. but we have been together 26 years so should he not tell me . is he after having a affair or getting to know her again if he did not tell me about her getting intouch. he also said if he had to much to drink he would be anybodies. so is he saying he would sleep with any woman who came along, he denies he means this and said because he does not drink it would go straight to his head and tha...

Hi every one I have a crush on a girl at college taht is older than me about a year or 2 .I want to tell her but i fear she regect me .I study mechanic Engeering but she study civil .If any body can help me plz tell me what to do .Tnx...

Relationship advice. Looking for a man's point of view. I am in a relationship with a married man. we both know it is wrong. We work together. We talk everyday outside of work. We have been in this relationship for 4 years. i never call him. He always calls me. He ended it once before after 2 years. We still talked everyday outside of work. Sometimes for hours. After 4months he started the relationship again. I have fallen in love with him. would he continue this relationship for 4 years if i didn't mean anything to him? Is it possible this is just about the sex?...

So the past few weeks my friends have been avoiding me for no reason. My best friends keeps hanging out with another girl and so does me other best friend. My friends have their own best friends and hang out mostly with them than me which i find pretty normal but i just feel like everyone has someone and i have no one. I’m mostly concerned though about the fact that my best friend goes out with this other girl every weekend and she never makes plans with me as we used to. I have talked to her about this and she tells me that she also has other friends and wants to hang out with them. I d...

I'm almost 25 years old and having just started my career in South Africa (hometown). I've spent a year travelling abroad and then came home to settle and begin my career. I've already hit the ceiling in my career and despise every day. I studied chemical engineering at university but now my day-to-day job is filling out excel sheets with minimal pay. I would say I depressed. I've recently been granted a visa to work in Australia and saved up enough money to relocate there. I've had a few interviews online with some companies but I'm struggling to gain some traction. My work visa ends in Ju...

Background stuff: we've only been together 9 months, we've both gone through some rough stuff throughout--from family deaths and a psych hospitalization to having to move in together very soon in our relationship or face homelessness on either of our ends. She's also in the middle of a slightly messy divorce with an abusive ex-husband. Presently: she just got laid off from her job, and can no longer afford to live here (finding a job is rough out here and you gotta pay rent somehow). Her cousin in another state offers to take her in and only charge a fraction of the rent. She lives in this ...

I have a long and drawn out story with a back-and-forth ex of mine that has made me feel all kinds of ways; totally confused, disgusted, bitter and a kind of lingering anger I have never felt before. The feelings I’ve had towards him and how our relationships played out have just been eating at me for years. We met about five years ago and developed an on-and-off relationship that lasted a couple of years, even though our official period as a “couple” was only about 3 months. It may sound weird, but this is also why I’m so unsure of what to do with my emotions. The whole rollercoas...

I think i have a crush on my 19 years old younger brother. I am 24. I work as a waitress in a cafeteria. Almost three weeks ago i invited my brother, my boyfriend, my best friend (female) and a couple (friends) to the cafeteria i was working. A group of guys started catcalling me. My boyfriend and my friends didn’t do anything. But my brother intervened and began to threaten him. “I am gonna beat you up if you don’t shut your mouth and apologize to her etc.” After several minutes of “boyish” trash talk between them, the guys finally apologized to me. I was like (oh, that's what ...

I'm married to my husband for five years. We had a really great start and were very much in love. My daughter has some issues with Bipolar and had a child within the five years of our marriage and ultimately some of the responsibility of raising my grandson fell upon me. My daughter and grandson moved in with us for a short period of time until she got too disrespectful and I had to ask her to leave. This devastated me but it wasn't fair to my marriage and she was being way out of hand. THIS is NOT the problem...now comes my real issue...about 2 years ago I developed a horrible cough..I w...

It's taken a lot to get me to this point, but here i am. So I've been friends with Mrs.S for about 2 years now and we have grown quite close as friends to the point where we see each other up to 4/5 times a week but the only problem is that getting to know her meant realizing that she's the closest thing to a soul mate i have ever come across. We're also in that gray area where we talk about most things but don't really talk about possible future relationships or try to set each other up with people and stuff. That might sound like your average teenage worry but there have recently been the...

First of all hi! I’ve come to this forum after thinking a lot about this problem. This started off as a crush when I was a kid maybe 13 or 14 I can say that was the first time i saw someone and was completely in love but as a kid I didn’t know that much so I shrugged it off then he used to come to our house and I would take a peek to look at him 2 yrs went by and I lived in the fantasy of getting married to him one day but now(20) and( he should be around 42 I guess) I realize how stupid I was to think that something like this is possible but somehow I still can’t stop thinking about...

My(25F) dad (60M) has never been the typical father/man. My problem is that I cannot determine if he is just different, or if his behavior and actions are inappropriate, dangerous, or inexcusable. I don’t know if I should approach him about this. So many things have happened in my life that make me believe he could be mentally unstable, or possibly a pedophile. I really don’t know and am unsure about approaching him about this. This will be a rather long post so I apologize ahead of time. I have held it in for so long and if I am going to post about it here… I want to explain it fully to...

Every time I look at him, he cracks a joke or smiles at me. He smiles at EVERYTHING I say. He draws on my assignments(drew me something and said “it’s special for you, and it’s from the bottom of my heart”), teases me, and I guess touches me ( like high fives and poking me with his pencil). He always finds something to talk about in class with me, it’s random. He always asks me how my day has been, and if anything good has happened(and if nothing good has happened, he says “ something special might happen soon then you never know”). Everyone I tell says it’s obvious he’s fli...

A little back story: I went through a tough time right before meeting my boyfriend that really changed who I was as a person for a little while. A week before I met my boyfriend I had a one night stand with a guy I had met once. As somebody who's only ever kissed 8 people and had sex with one person prior to that (a long term boyfriend) it was very out of character and something I regretted immediately. It was what made me want to go back to who I was before. When I met my boyfriend, it made me feel like I could be. I felt myself around him and he put me at ease. I knew I loved him from th...

In 1998 I purchased my mothers house because I was living with her at the time, I've paid the insurance and taxes all these years. Over the years my brother came and went he would always come and stay at Mom's when he got evicted or got out of jail, he never paid for a thing and borrowed money which was never paid back. In 2015 Mom went into a nursing home and passed a year later. My brother was living elsewhere but moved back into the house right after she went into the hospital. My step father was living there too but he passed away a few months later. I wanted to sell the house and my ...