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So a little back round about my relationship with my ex girlfriend. we were together for just over two years. we started to hit trouble around 4 months before we broke up. She started to become distant and not very attracted to me. I became needy and desperate so the nasty sickle started. She eventually decided to break up with me. i didnt handle this very well and did the typical begging and pleading.About a month has passed since we broke up and have had a proper conversation. she text me two days ago out of the blue to how i was and we had a short conversation before i ended it. today i dec...

alright, i have 3 friends. every time i hang out with them, it’s really fun, even if it’s only with 1 or 2 of the friends. however, i really dislike thinking about spending time with them. it’s like taking a shower. i hate the thought of going out with them, but then i feel just fine once i'm there. i’ve always been a fourth wheel though. we’d always make jokes about me and my personality, but lately i’ve been thinking that maybe they’re not joking. recently, i’ve learned that they've been hanging out a lot without even asking if i wanted to come. i wouldn’t care if it was...

People keep asking me if I'm gay or straight but I never had a crush on anyone. I never dated any one. I never even kissed any one. I simply have no interest in any thing involving a romantic or sexual relationship. Is it weird..Is it normal? Should I experiment even though it makes me feel really uncomfortable? I'm only 17 and I'm not sure if this is something other people feel?...

Ok, I'm new here so I will try to keep this short and to the point. A few months ago an old friend from 20 years ago had contacted me on FB and we started talking. And out of the blue he told me that he was Bisexual and I don't know why he told me that just randomly since we hadn't talked in over 20 years. He told me that he just likes his close friends to know so there is no secrets. Well, I had a small crush on this guy back when we worked together back then. So, anyway We started to talk a lot and would hang out. But, then He had moved away to live with his son that he had just found about ...

My ex and I broke up around 5 years ago, we stayed in touch after and she kept being close to me but then a year after the break up I seen her with someone else and confronted her at which point she said she moved on, this broke my heart so I stopped speaking to her although I didn’t delete her off my social media. Another year after that we slowly started to speak again, then I worked out that the other guy cheated on her, we stayed in touch and she started to get close to me again and even apologised for the way she left, I asked her if there’s any hope for us but she said no, I was real...

been with my bf for several years and we are generally compatible except when it comes to $. He has only a small amount of assets, I don't. He only earns a modest salary, I don't. I am an avid saver, he isn't. but...we are compatible in many ways like interests family personality sex I can't help myself, when I see him going off track financially and any financial obligations, I speak up and try to do so nicely but firmly. I feel like his mother and only say something when it really bothers me. He knows I know his bank account information thinking that would make me feel bet...

A few weeks ago my girlfriend split up with me, saying that I hadn't been making her feel like I still loved her like I did, (fully understood as I have had my own problems and on reflection stopped doing the little things she loved). She has quickly gotten into a new relationship with an older guy that she works with, we are due to go on holiday together still with a few of her family, we still get on well but I want to try and get her back. I was planning to propose whilst on holiday, shed hinted at it a few times in recent weeks and I was going to do it but wanted to do it as a surprise, ma...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Hello everybody, I am a 23 year old guy who's never been in a relationship before. The first one and the only one I've gotten was quite recently actually, and it lasted for about 4 months before 1 week ago. I met this girl at work, and we clicked instantly. It didn't take us long to start a romantic relationship, and a month or so after we've met she came to my place because of a bet I've lost and the rest was history. Problem is, we broke up recently because she felt like that there were issues that we couldn't work around in the future, main one me being jealous, and she is going th...

im the other girl he doesnt want to leave his gf because itll hurt her, but he missed me so much that he came back he hung up our call to talk to her so she doesn't get suspicious and it hurt like fuck how do i tell him to break up with her and persue another actual relationship with me...

Hello, I had a confrontation today with a fellow worker who is also my supervisor and who has been bullying me for many years. Today she was very aggressive, yelling at me and she was so close to me as she yelled that I thought she was going to hit me. I kept my calm and helped her with what she needed with a calm voice. Her boss who is also my boss just looks the other way and says that I am being too sensitive. He always says she’s right. What Can I do? I recorded her without her knowing just to keep evidence....

After several years of working abroad, I decided it was time to quit. My employer offered me terrible conditions and there is supposedly almost zero unemployment in my country (3.something %); why not go back and look for work at home? Everyone who meets me, will tell me how brilliant I am. I worked successfully five years in Shanghai as a project manager, I am fluent in three languages (yeah, one of them Chinese), intelligent, analytical, quick in mind, willing to take on responsibility, great communication skills, eloquent, fast learner, good with people from all over the world, funny (if...

I'll try and keep this as concise as possible. About 9 months ago I met a woman called Victoria. We met on a dating app as people do these days and although I really wasn't looking for anything serious and just saw our date as a bit of fun, we really hit it off. I had never met anyone so open and honest and brave, we talked about deeply personal things but we also just had a lot of fun. There was a tonne of chemistry. We went on a few more dates until Victoria went through some considerable hurt, the intimacy between us gradually dropped off and she told me she wasn't ready for anything seriou...

I have two best friends, let's call them Jared and Katie. When I first became friends with these two people, they were in a relationship. It lasted a long time, but fell through when they went to college. I stayed friends with them both, and they are beginning to become friends with one another again. Katie is not over the breakup yet, even though it's been about 5 months. She buried her feelings and is just now starting to dig them out again. Jared and I have grown very close recently. About a month ago, Katie told Jared that she thought he and I were going to get together, and she was up...

I have been into this guy for around 5 years. We went to high school together but went to different colleges. I go to one 2 hours away, but he goes to the one in the town that I live in outside of college. He’s going for architecture and I’m going for art and design. We were super close in high school and would joke constantly about being the mom and dad of our friend group and how we should date, but I don’t think he was ever really interested in anything other than a close friendship. We sill talk occasionally and are still good friends, but we don’t see each other as often a...

Hello guys, I live a happy life and I am a very optimistic person, but every time this happens I get depressed. When I see or meet a girl and I like her then my life gets a mess. Then I just get tired, depressed and obsessed with this girl so easily. I can’t stop thinking about her and I am a big overthinker so I get really tired about myself. When I forget this girl after a few weeks or months then my life is good again. But I have got this problem like 4-5 times and when I see a new girl I like it just Happens again. Just two times I actually asked that girl out but got rej...

Okay so. I did something bad. I violated my boyfriend's trust and looked at his phone. Long story.. Been together 6 months and met online. He went on holiday and came back a different person and I just knew something was up. I've only ever had the urge to check someone's phone once before and lo and behold he was cheating on me. So I had this urge again, a sixth sense, an intuition. And there it was... A message to his ex (he was engaged to her, together 5 years but he had a year long affair so they split up) it was the longest, most romantically beautifully written message I've ever read....

I Recently came back from holiday with my husband and I did not have a good time because I was not happy with my body compared to all the women's on the beach. They all mostly had nice bodies and were slim and were pretty wheres I am abit over weight and need toning up and have thread veins on my legs. I knew my husband would be looking at them even thou he is over weight and grey but he does nothing to improve himself and I have to except him like that but I am always saying I need to get things done to myself to improve my image. he never tells me I need anything doing but I know my bad poin...

I started dating this girl about 6 months ago but have been friends for awhile. She is by far the best woman I have been in a relationship with and we connect on so many levels. The only problem is she recently enlisted in the military and after finishing graduate school she will be stationed overseas. She will finish school in 2 years so the countdown has begun. I am very career focused and very family oriented. My dream is the classic wife and kids. I want to start a family and I am afraid that this woman doesn’t align with my future family goals. Although I truly enjoy my time wi...

I have been married for 20 years and have 3 teens. Whatever I do its never good for my husband.....i work 5 days a week and do all household chores....He has not had a job in 16 years and he is 52......I pay all the bills and he paid the house cash......i used to give him 1000$ a month plus pay everything else but stopped paying hum that bcs food budget exploded....now he wants me to give him my tax refund.....bcs I stopped paying him 12000$ a year....he doesnt give me access to a car.....cant afford one with 35000$ salary........

This may seem like some sort of cliche story, but im truly lost. I met the love of my life while i was in grade 9, she was grade 11. we met at our high school soccer try outs and i had no intention of anything. we clicked instantly as if we have known each other for many many years and she was one of my dearest friends throughout high school. I was currently talking to a boy who i was on the verge of dating but my older sister advised me not to date during my first year of high school because it will save me from drama, one thing lead to another and the girl who was my bff started subtly flirt...

I'm mid 30s hes mid 40s. We started out as an affair. For reasons that I'm not going to go into. Now we are official and happy. Except... he rarely wants to have sex anymore. We o ly do it when he wants to. I try so hard constantly coming onto him in hope that maybe this time I will get him in the mood. We live with out parents so dont get much alone time together for now. So when we do I'm very keen. We are in love so it's not a question about that. But is it me? Am I doing something wrong? Or am I being too sensitive. I just feel like my self esteem is at zero right now. I've spoken to hi...

Hello, I had a confrontation today with a fellow worker who has been bullying me for many years. Today she was very aggressive, yelling at me and she was so close to me as she yelled that I thought she was going to hit me. I kept my calm and helped her with what she needed with a calm voice. This was the first time I was able to record her because her boss doesn’t believe me and neither does my husband. When I showed the recording to my husband, all he could say was “no comment”. He later said I should learn the power of forgiveness... all I can think is why would I want to be married ...

Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for a few months. Hes mid 40s I'm mid 30s. We dont live together yet and dont get time to ourselves. I'm constantly being pied. My self esteem is taking a battering. Help!...

Hi, So I have this situation where I took a course in makeup artistry (it was one week long, but that doesn't really matter I don't think) many years ago and I completed it and got certified (I have the portfolio and certificate of proof) but on the website of the makeup artistry school they posted the group graduation picture without me (although I know that I was there for the group photo...at least one of them-think there were only two taken). And I don't know what to think or do because I want to take the course again to get re-certified and I really liked the style of teaching and that i...

Hi, just looking for some advice. Met a guy 18 months ago, started seeing him weekly as he worked in the City I work in but stayed far away so used to stay a few nights a week in a hotel. After about 6 months I was smitten and so was he - he said he loved me first. Then the bombshell, he was in a relationship and had a child. I called it off, we never saw each other but stupidly he convinced me that I made him happier and all the usual. Few months ago he told me he was depressed and had suicidal thoughts. I helped him as much as someone who isn’t really with someone can. I said would...

My best friend booked and paid for flights overseas for a week in Sep for me and two friends. My sister on the other hand wants to celebrate her 10year anniversary and renew her vows the same day I leave. Her actual anniversary is 3 days before hand. No time, date, invite or place has been set, only a brief conversation 2 months ago where she was said she was thinking of renewing her vows. Yesterday she asked me if I was available on her anniversary date, which I said I was. She then realised her anniversary didn’t fall on a weekend and told me she wants to have it the day I leave. ...

I'm in love with my bf and vice versa for several years. He wants to live with me now. He's had financial issues in the past but seems to have recovered - or so he says. But we got into a big argument the other night - I thought he had used to pay some bills his tax refund (which by the way is erroneous and is much much more than it should be, so his CPA told him to put the $ into savings in case the IRS asks for it back); I'm still not sure if it was the tax refund he used but he exploded and said I wrongly accused him and it actually was $ from a security deposit belonging to his mother when...

If you’re in a situation where you’re in a very loving relationship but want to move forward by living together what would you do if your significant other had a history of somewhat mismanaging their money. They generally pay their bills on time but they seem to barely break even at the end of the month and sometimes or a bit in the hole. On paper they shouldn’t be struggling like this but they don’t gamble or spend money on luxury items. They just seem to be a bit behind no matter what they earn. But this person uses the elderly mom's money to pay some of his bills - not clear if the...

My bf of 5 years ( also my best friend ) who loved me madly hit me very badly during our last fight because I refused to be romantic with him in car. Previously he had trust issues with me as I used to have a crush on a guy but never had been physically involved with him (one sided crush). After our last fight in which he hit me so hard that my body had marks of it,my heart just broke of from him.I admit that before that day one or two times I had slapped him during fight but it never had any mark on his body.But during this fight he hit me so hard that I fell on glass window of car then w...

Hi guys! I’ll start directly. I haven’t had sex with my boyfriend in a month. I’ve already tried initiating intimacy while we were at his place but he told me that he was too tired, stressed at work and didn’t want to have sex. After a couple of days I talked to him about the issue calmly. He told me that there is actually another reason for the lack of sex which he doesn’t want to tell me about. The only thing he let me know was that the issue is psychological and that it is something unrelated to me (it was something personal). He also said that he wants to fight with the issue ...

Hi guys, Sorry for this long post but I am really confused. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. In the last couple of months I don‘t see any initiative from his side to do something with me more than watching movies at his place and having a walk around the neighbourhood and the city (except for my birthday when we went on a holiday). He has a really deep connection with his mother and almost every single day he does something with her (he lives with her and is raised mostly by her - she is a divorced single mother and he is her only child). She often calls him when we ...

I am really desperate to get a girlfriend. I'm 21 years old and have never been on a date. Friends around me are all committed in a relationship and I feel lonely. I don't understand my loneliness. I have a great group of friends who are very close. I have never felt left out even when I am hanging around my couple friends. I have great relations with my family. I am doing good at studies and career wise. I don't know why I feel bad about myself not having a girlfriend. I do realize it is not the most important thing in life but life feels empty because of that. Currently I am very busy in my...

Hi guys, just need some advice on what to do about my boyfriends male co worker. My boyfriend has been working in a warehouse for a few years now, its a relatively small warehouse and he has about 5 co workers around him of which he tends to associate with on a day to day basis. A couple of years ago a new guy joined, he seemed just your average guy you know... friendly, little bit shy but still spoke with the group and got on with his work. It wasn't until about a year ago he started privately messaging my boyfriend on Facebook, at first it was just general chit chat about work and ventin...

Hi Guys, I am from a Muslim family from Pakistan. I am 25 years old. I have seen violence since I was 3. My father would start beating by mother for absolutely no reason. We have always lived in a joint family system. My grandmother hates my mother. I have 6 uncles. Who are greedy and are liars. My parents are first cousins. Since my childhood my father has cheated on my mother again and again. We had to move to another city for my education and my father had to stay back because of the job. He has had 3 affairs in these 3 years since we have moved. My mother has tolerated everything as "Divor...

I have unknowingly been acting cold and distant towards someone that means very much to me. He has been talking to me less because of this and I noticed. Instead of taking myself into account I got upset with him and completely blew up, saying that he didn't like me anymore and that I was going to leave. I instantly regretted it. He, justly so, is very upset with me. I accept that it is my fault and I should not have done it. He says he doesn't know where things will go from here. I am desperate to fix things. I don't know what I would do without him. He is my best friend. What can I do? Is th...

I have an event coming up at work next month and I am being asked/expected to stay overnight in a bunk barn with other colleagues the night before. The thought of this gives me terrible anxiety. I really struggle with sleeping in a room with other people (except for my husband). I feel really self conscious and end up with terrible insomnia and the next day more often than not I get a crippling migraine where I can’t see or move and end up vomiting for hours. It’s horrible and I can take medication for the migraines when I feel an attack coming on but the meds are strong and I know I m...

I feel like I’m at a breaking point with my boyfriend of 6 years. While I know we really love each other and he has some great qualities, he has a split personality. In particular, he can’t ever see anything wrong with himself and becomes very defensive and angry if anything is brought up. For example, he has almost no assets but is able to pay bills with working and social security but he is also almost retirement ago; yet, if I bring up that it makes me nervous how we would set up a household together if he runs short on money to help with the expenses, he totally disagrees and says he i...

I've been dating this guy for 3 months. Nothing too serious but we enjoy each other's company. Unfortunately his mother died 3 weeks ago and since then he hasn't been replying to my texts. I sent him a final text telling him I understood what he's going through but I felt sad and rejected and i want to offer him my support . He replied a day later saying hes sorry i feel that way but I should understand that he's going through a lot and has a lot to organize and he'll contact me when things have settled. I do understand this but where we used to text every day there is zero communication no...

I will try and keep it short/sweet and easy to read :) I met a guy 3 years ago... 1st year of knowing him - we went of a few dates, talked every day etc then stopped seeing each other (for no reason) but still spoke almost every day. 2nd year of knowing him - we were still talking frequently and happened to bump into each other randomly whilst we were doing our post-grad (we didn't know we both went to the same college/campus as there are hundreds around the UK). Throughout this whole time, I was still actively dating and ended up getting into a relationship with my now ex-boyfrien...

Hello Everyone. I will continue telling you about this "adventure of mine". I have taken your advice: I have been working more in myself rather than on the "dead" relationship with girl H. My relationship with her hasn't died yet. We still talk everyday. And sometimes, we can even have cute and funny moments. Sometimes, I have done little images for her with a cute message, which she has greatly appreciate it. I wish I could show them to you. I wish I could show them to you. They are pretty cute! This doesn't mean that we are back together. We just have superficial chats so far. The only deep ...

My husband gets really angry with me. I have a hard time communicating with him. He says I’m always interrupting him when we get into conversations especially when heated. I know maybe I do but I know it’s natural habit especially when arguing. He goes to extreme lengths to elaborate that I interrupted him. Sometimes I don’t even speak it’s just a eye roll or a head nod because I’m trying so hard not to speak because I disagree with what he’s saying. He’ll go on like “you don’t let me say what I want to say, you don’t let me answer your questions, you just ramble on. ...

I broke up with my ex nearly 2 months ago, we were still having to live together up until 3 weeks ago. A few days before I moved out we got drunk and had sex, we agreed it was just a goodbye. After I moved out, he was still talking to me, wanting to see me and discussing as to why we broke up. I say him a couple of weeks ago, we didn't have sex again, we just talked. But after this he is still talking to me about life. He then brought up about us just having some fun for now, because he doesn't know how we can fix the relationship when our families are so against us getting back together...

I need some advice from this community. This story can be very long, but in a nutshell I have a friend who historically I feel takes advantage of me. I have been friends with her for around 7 years and throughout that duration, I have found out stuff she has said about me behind my back, have witnessed firsthand nasty texts she has sent about me(she showed me by accidentally on her phone), and just overall have encountered small things that I didn't think about at the time but have seemed to always add up to larger fights. She got jealous when my boyfriend and I got a new dog. So much so th...

I was with my girlfriend for 8 months. I’ve never been with anyone like her, she’s humble, giving, thoughtful, supportive. There was just this vibe between us two. She was in an accident two months ago, was hospitalized for 1 1/2 months for a spinal injury. Just prior to the accident her and I got into an argument about me not calling to check in while I was away visiting my daughter, and during that time she gave me money as a gift for my birthday, to pay for a license exam for work, and she brought up that I was adamant about calling to follow up about the gift she gave more so than us j...

A few months ago my mom was diagnosed with cancer. Back then I told my friends about it and I told them I had a hard time dealing with it. They told me they would be there for me. To this day they have never asked about my mom. Not how she is doing, not how I’m doing. I can’t let go of it because they are my only close friends. I feel really sad about it and can’t deal with the fact that my best friends do not seem to care about this difficult situation. I know I can tell them this but that doesn’t change the fact that they were/are not here for me. Should I talk to them about i...

My sister in law's husband cheated on her when their daughter was about 2 year old. Her husband got back to her realizing his mistake and wanted to work things out, however she could not forgive him and wanted a divorce. Due to family pressure they were just living together showcasing as if they were trying to work things out but in reality they were not even talking to each other. The daughter is now 7 years old. My sister in law over the last few years found a partner, she divorced her husband without getting the family involved and even got married to her new partner. The issue over the chi...

In this instance, OPP stands for other people’s problems. My problem is this: I have a large vocabulary that tends to alienate. Women, primarily, seem to be offended when I express myself. It’s not anything sexual, as I am kind of asexual. I am often accused of talking down to them, but this is not true. I am sensitive to the fact that they may not be able to understand what I’m saying and it usually leads to frustration. Why is it that people are so offended by intelligence?...

At work I like to do things a certain way. I like things clean. I completely understand that other people are different. However I know that to a certain extent management want what I want. They want a clean work space. They want the washing kept up to date etc. At work I have always tried to keep things tidy and up to date. I have been working for a organisation for about 2 years now and to begin with I didn't mind keeping everything clean and tidy. I would prioritise it to a certain degree as I have a high work ethic. However it always seems to be the same people doing the same things eve...

This is my first post so bare with me. I’m a 22 year old male and in the past year have had two serious relationships end, both girls moved away (they had to for personal reasons) and in both cases, things turned sour in the end and we no longer speak. Both breakups have left me feeling extremely depressed and lonely. However I’m trying to do all I can to heal and feel better- I’m hanging out with friends, going outside and exercising and all in all just trying to have a good time. The one thing I can’t get over is this overwhelming feeling of loneliness and lack of physical inti...

I'm really worried about my dad and I don't know how to approach this. He's in his 80's and he's gotten obsessed with a woman in her 50's (younger than me) and she's taking him for thousands a month. He is also blowing off family events and celebrations to spend time with this woman - even missing a family funeral! Whenever anyone tries to talk to him about her, he gets furious, screaming and refusing to talk. She is taking him for huge amounts of money - hes' even given her a credit card that she uses with no restraint. Not only is he destroying his finances, but his destroying his relationsh...

My daughter doesn't like my boyfriend and he is aware of it. I tried getting them together last year and it ended badly. He is very nice guy but she doesn't trust him because she thinks he is out for my money - he doesn't have much (and I do have a very comfortable home and bank account, etc.) and he did get in serious financial trouble with his business many years ago. He does pay his bills but doesn't have much to save each month so he only has a modest nest egg (and most of that was a gift). For us to live together and tell my daughter to "stick it", I need to be really comfortable b/c I ...

I recently had a fight and am now more or less broken up from my long term,long distance girlfriend. Before this happened we had an overseas trip planned which we would spend together. I decided to still go. Had a great time, it really helped me to move on and let go of the relationship and had a lot of fun. I met many people during the trip but one girl in particular I started to have strong feelings for. I didn't bother to stay in touch because we live in different countries and the possibility of a relationship (I don't want another ldr) is slim. Now that I'm home, the come down from ...

You love your boyfriend and vice versa and you know he is very much in love with you (more than you could even expect) but you're always feeling very nervous about his money issue since you have a lot more than him (he earns just enough to pay his rent and other bills and has a small modest savings) and you've also been generous (while he has been generous overall, you help him out sometimes like pay for airfare with points or otherwise on trips he was supposed to be paying in full on his own b/c it is to visit family, etc. with you). He mentioned recently occasion he comes up short in terms...

So, I love someone deeply and he loves me deeply but he has some pretty deep trauma from being abused so much. I want to give him space to heal before we start dating. It is a bit exhausting for me but I am in it for the long haul. Any advice for the two of us? ...

I raised some kids investing great time with them but their mother was my maid in Mexico that I brought with me, and when she and the kids left was scared they would love me more than her. She made sure they did not respect me. I thought the kids would grow up and think for themselves but it did not happen and at this point I have my 3 kids and she has four of her own. They think I have done great wrong to their mother and it does not matter what I do they will decide what ever is uncomplimentary to me. It should not hurt but it still does though less as time goes on. But I did so many things ...

I have this boyfriend and we've been dating for a while, and I think that I love him. At least, that's what I say to him, but I'm starting to realize that I can't picture a future with him or even anything sexual with him. I don't even like kissing him, to be completely honest. This has been one of the best relationships that I've had in a while, and I don't want to just throw it away, however I can't tell if the love I do feel for him is platonic or romantic. I can't picture a future for myself with any male, not just him. And when I think about things with girls, it's a lot more appealing. I...

My boyfriend and I had plans for him to come over the day of my graduation and have lunch with my family and then stay the night. I invited his mother as well. For a couple weeks now, he’s been driving his mothers car since his truck has a nail in it’s tire. I’ve constantly reminded him to get it fixed but he hasn’t seemed to find the time. He then tells me that he has to leave early from lunch to pick his mother up and then leave my graduation right after to drop his mom off and he won’t be able to stay the night. I feel upset and disappointed because these were plans and I want to ...

Dear Forum: Before I present my question, a bit of background is necessary. A few months ago, my partner and I more or less split up. She told me to leave her house and find a place of my own. I am no young fellow, by the way. I am 55 and she is 55. I have had problems in my life with addictions, mostly alcohol, but lots of other substances have passed my way, too. I have now been in my own flat for three months. We still get along really well. We hug and kiss when we see each other, but the relationship is very much platonic. We talk every day and I see her a couple of times a week, at the...

It started when I met her friends. I live in a different town to my gf and most of her friends. When I told them where I lived, one of her friends, Eric, then turned to my gf and said ‘ooh you can kill two birds with one stone’ in a suggestive way. It turns out that a different guy friend, Simon, lives in the same town as me. I found this strange, as the tone of the remark from Eric seemed suggestive. Eric told another joke about my gf and Simon the next time we all met. We were all going out in my girlfriend’s town for her birthday, so Simon wouldn’t be able to stay out late after ...

I have been married since 1995. I don't have very many friends, as the only one I had since we were 21 was the so-called 'best mate' who waited until 2004 to bed my wife claiming his own marriage was in trouble. The four of us had been friends for years until 2005 when the thing broke.However, the coward went back to his own wife (money reasons). I stuck by my wife and we had a daughter in 2007, but she never apologised and said it was my fault she had the affair. Things have never been perfect since and my wife has developed severe OCD issues which she knows aggravate me. I met my "wife at...

I've been married for ten years. My husband is controlling and constantly accuses me of cheating. Every time we have a problem he threatens divorce. Nothing I do is ever good enough. We have four kids. I'm trying to decide if divorce is the best solution.I'm tired of being the only fighting for my marriage....

Hi there, I'm looking for some advice on my relationship.we are in a long distance one,he's America and I'm UK we are in the middle of applying for a visa so I can be with him. I am also 11 years older than him,this has never been an issue. until his last visit when I felt something was different. I stupidly went through his phone ...

We have been married for 6 years, after so many years of wondering why I’m a bad husband; I start thinking- my wife ask me what her favorite food was and this is when a light bulb went off, I didn’t know because every month or so, she changed, her food changes, different diet, different hair and skin products, want a new house, want a new car etc, any change she makes, goes away with the next change, I can’t keep up and look like a fool; please help!! What is this condition? She 14 years younger and says I’m stuff in traditional way of life...

Hey everyone, just looking for some advice so I've a boyfriend of a few years but he gave his car to his ex gf. He told me she was having car trouble but the thing is she already has a car. Her new partner has a car. Why does she need another one. My partners car needs fixed and is in a garage getting fixed now a few weeks and we are car sharing while she's sitting with 3 cars outside her home. I told my boyfriend I ain't happy with it and no one else would be. His response was ill buy you a car. I don't want a car! Anything he buys me he takes it off me when we fight. Am I over reacting or w...

So, I have known my friend for over 10 years and I have tried to unsuccessfully move onto more. We hang out pretty much every weekend and the other weekend, unprompted my anything I said she messaged.me ”Missing you already xxx” - the three xs are normal. All girls I have spoken too say this is over the friendship line. She is away this weekend and talking about taking me where she is one day because I would love it. She does unquestionably crave my company saying shed rather be with me and be on dates and she does seek my company despite the fact its caused friction with her parent...

So I’m 23 and have been with my current bf for almost 3 years. I love him so much without a doubt. The problem is that a few weeks ago, and for the first time in our relationship we broke up for 2 weeks. We still lived together during this time but started to become distant. In that time I reconnected with an old friend/more than friend. Now that we’re back together I can’t get my friend off my mind. I’ve tried everything. I’ve stopped talking to him, ignored his messages and focused on my relationship but I can’t stop thinking about him. I don’t feel like I’m out of love with ...

I have been with someone for two years but we have recently broken up. At the beginning it was typical relationship al happy, he promised things and did everything right. However as time has gone on everything he promised never went ahead.. e.g trips away was let down day before my birthday, date nights, etc..When I get into arguments about this his answer is go and get someone who will do these things for you then. He has strangled me a couple of times and grabbed me by the throat to the point where he has left marks on my neck and I have had to cover them up with make up. The last time he...

Hello. I am desperately seeking outsider opinions on our problem... My partner and I have been together for 17 years now and have two amazing teenagers together. We live a humble lifestyle given the economic situation and are just about getting by. We both work full time with respectable wages but still have found ourselves in debt which we are struggling to get out of. This is the biggest factor with regards to my mental state. My partner is the main wage earner but he has been desperately unhappy in his job due to management having unrealistic expectations on their staff and make...

I've been best friends for more than a decade with two people from school (let's call them Jane and Lara). We've been single since about 5 years (all three of us) and have always spoken about taking the future slow. About 6 months ago, I started talking to a guy and got into a long distance relationship. Things really clicked (and I mean Really) and we started discussing about settling down in about a year or so (I am 29 and he is 31). I am someone who is not very good at handling big news like this and struggled telling my friends. A week or so into this, I called my friend Jane and just ...

I have been married for 24 years since the age of 19. I have 3 children. One is early 20's and the other two are late teens. I have always thought that my husband was emotionally devoid and not very good with finances. I always made excuses for him in my mind but that was pretty much the extent of it. I never really dwelled too much on his lack of emotion etc. About 7 years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer after being the primary caregiver for my mom who also had breast cancer and died of it ultimately. I was diagnosed less than two years after she passed. My first major hurt with...

I have been with my husband for 30years. He is 72,and I am 49. Most of our marriage has been fine. But over the years there has been incidents that have made me think that things are not right. This has been photos of young women, taken without them knowing,cam corder fortage of young girls, especially close ups of their bottoms. When I found these and confronted him, he is upset, remorseful, doesn't know why he has done it, I forgave him. This happened years ago, but last month. I had my sister 52, neices 24 and 27 stay for a week. A few days later after they had returned home, I checked my h...

My parents are moving across the country to live closer to me and my partner and everything was going well. My mum was offered a job at the hospital here doing the same clerical job as she has been doing for 11 years now. She handed in her notice for her old job last week and had two months notice to work. However, I rang her today and she told me that she has been dismissed for misconduct (it was a data breach - she looked at something she shouldn’t have). She really regrets it and said she had a reasons. I’ve take the line that she made a mistake and that she needs to stop beating hersel...

So there's this guy and we've been talking for a month. He complimented me and told me that he fantasizes about me. What does it mean? I don't have any relationship experience that's why I want to know your opinion about it and maybe, give an advice on what to do. Thank you....

I got to know this girl almost a year ago because we had to work on the same project. Soon we got pretty close and used to share many details of our personal life. I really really enjoyed spending time with her. She was really fun and we had so much in common. Since we became good friends, she started telling me about problems in her life. I was always there to listen to her complain all day when none of her friends were there for her. I would write long messages to help her out and she appreciated a lot. A lot of her problems were those which I really related to because of my past so I wanted...

Please help. I have just discovered my 56 year old husband has been accessing porn for the past 5 years. I have always had my suspicions that he was hiding something from me. I often thought he was having an affair as he had not been interested in any intimacy with me for the past few years. We have both been married before and have been together 13 years. Two years ago I discovered messages he had sent his ex girlfriend. He told her I was boring and the only reason he married me because I had blackmailed him into it. This was a total lie and he was very apologetic when I confronted him. ...

Really long post I’m sorry, but I have no other unexhausted outlets So I’m on here looking for some advice about something that’s been going on for a couple of years now, and escalated to a point where I don’t know what to do. Also wondering if anyone else has been in this position also and how they might have dealt with it. So for starters it’s about my relationship with my parents. I was an only child until I was 9 living in quite a remote place and my mum was a stay at home Turkish mum. I only say her nationality because it becomes a bit more relevant to the issue later. We wer...

My mother passed away recently and left the entire estate, house, and everything to me. I am the sole heir. Here’s where things get interesting: I have a sister; my mother’s birth daughter. Unfortunately, our mother hasn’t trusted her own daughter since she got addicted to hard drugs, broke into our mom’s house to steal around $80,000 worth of jewelry and family heirlooms to sell for more drugs. My sister has been in prison off and on now for my entire adult life, and frankly I’m quite embarrassed by her. We effectively have no relationship since I don’t want to be a part ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for several years but we've know each other for decades including our families. We got together when we were single. I know he is generally a good man and very family oriented. He wants to live with me in my home and get out of his rental. One side of me would like that since I do desire the companionship and feel lonely in the house sometimes. It would also move our relationship forward. He has offered to pay me a certain amount (far less than 1/2 of the house expenses) and put a few hundred more in savings for "us" to use for vacations or house rep...

I will try to keep this as short as possible. But this a thing that has been going on for 10 years so a lot of back information. So I have known this man for 10 years. We go to conventions together (hobby related) I thought he was cute from the first time I saw him but he was married at the time and married men are off limits. At one point we lost contact for years and he emailed me all of a sudden and he was divorced and wanted to meet up for coffee. On a few occasions we have visited eachother at home for coffee or dinner. But this had been an on and off contact for years. A few ...

I am very confused about something that happened recently in my relationship. I would appreciate any advice that any of you can give me. Thanks. So, I have been in a relationship on and off with my boyfriend for 4 years. Recently we had an argument as there have been issues for a while as we don’t spend a lot of time together (he works nights and we don’t live together) which doesn’t help. The argument was pretty bad and out of nowhere he starts sobbing saying he’s sick of arguing and scared I’m going to leave him. I comfort him and told him I wouldn’t leave him ok and he said go...

Been married 23 years and had enough. Husband is a selfish man in my eyes and die not care about my feelings. Its always me who seems to be all over him in bed Where's he keeps a distance and does not really make me feel satisfied. Take tonight, I was all over him again and I did not get much back in return. Had to tell him like I always have were to touch or kiss me, I'm really fed up with it all. I said I'm obviously not a 20 year old anymore and I have wrinkles and middle aged spread. He's had prostrate cancer so as to use a pump which takes up to 10 minutes to get it ready. It is of puttin...

All I tend to do is help people, even when they dont want help. Because I care for them. But hes a grown man, hes going to have to figure it out on his own, right? Background: a guy I care about deeply is in trouble. And I always try to help him out. Ive given him money, helped his family out, I do everything for him. Well as much as I can. But he has to be the one to help himself. I basically just wish someone would tell ne that I just cant help everyone and sometimes I need to just let then figure it out. Any advice? Am I right?...

Am feeling really emotional lately and my ex back contacted me through Instagram (he actually came back twice but he also disappeared twice for long periods of time -the first time for 5 months and then 1.5 years) before New Years. Though I was needy from the get-go ( I didn't have any friends and no job so I can understand why someone would want to run). In any case, he moved back home to the US where he's originally from because he was studying for his PhD in Canada when we met (somehow he thought or expected that I knew he had relocated, which I don't understand cause he never vocalized th...

I have struggled with same sex attraction for my whole life but especially for the past few years now. I have recently for the first time in my life become a part of a friend group at my church who I feel very comfortable with and am able to share things with. Today I was making casual conversation with two other girls and One of them asked if I’m gay and I responded by, for the first time ever, saying that I’m bi but they can’t tell a soul.The only other time I’ve talked about this is crying apologetically to my mom while she reassured me that I’m just confused. It’s reall...

so i joined grindr kind of as a joke, cause im straight. but like now im kind of questioning. am i a fake gay if i found out through grindr? also like i dont really know how to flirt with men. any tips? also blowjob tips?...

I am an 18 yo M. My parents more or less forced me to drop out of high school (I homeschooled) at 14 after the 8th grade. I really liked school, and did very well ( I was that nerd on the math team and everything haha). I’ll be turning 19 in August, and I have the opportunity to return to high school and graduate this coming year if I do summer school and work hard. I am worried I’m too old to be in high school, though. I should have graduated this year. I don’t feel old, and I know I’m not, but when I say it out loud, 19 sounds awful old. I’ve read about others in similar situations...

Almost 10 months ago I got to know this girl and we came really really close as friends. We used to enjoy each other companies. Told each other almost every important things. I used to help her with her emotional problems. I used to write her long messages giving her advice and being there for her even when her friends weren't there. I started to have feelings for her and to this day I still have. But i decided not to show them .I decided not to express even a bit to her that I thought of her more than a good friend. Due to past, I was really skeptical of showing any hints. I had been hurt so ...

I have not been happy with my life or husband for some time. I am middle aged and been married 23 years. I raised our 3 children who are now all grown up, my husband as worked and always just gone out and looked after himself, his life as not changed but mine did. we got married and had the kids young and I regret the life ive lost. I can't believe my youth as gone and have not got anything to show for my life. I regret marrying my husband so much and wished I had never met him. he is a sales man and as stayed away over the years and going abroad with his job whilst my life as been boring rais...

Hi so I've been dating a guy for around 1.5 years at the beginning everything was just so nice and dreamy but since the last few months things have taken a different turn. We both live in different cities and it takes nearly 2 hours to travel to meet each other so we don't meet that often. But 1st we would talk everyday either through chat or call. But now my bf is too busy to talk to me. Also when I ask him to meet he'll give me some excuse about work. And it annoys me and breaks my heart but I never complain cause I don't want to be a nagging girlfriend. But I feel very lonely and ignored. S...

My bf and I have been dating years and he wants to move in. Being a conservative person when it comes to money and worked hard all my life and saved $ for retirement, etc., I am really troubled with his behavior. I live in a nice home as well. He earns enough to pay his regular bills but nothing extra. He did inherit some $ and used a lot of it to pay back bills so he has some left and owes no old debt (he still charges but typically pays that off monthly). He puts away $200/month but he can't manage anymore than that. I just feel like I can't trust him financially. I had to really spen...

Just had to clarify that in the title Warning: this is going to be long and maybe a little bit rambly. First to elaborate, here are the three important people in my story, fake names of course just in case Me: Kay, 21F Luke:22M-ex boyfriend/best thing that ever happened to me Jack:22M-childhood best friend to Luke, few year best friend to me Here’s where everything starts. Luke and Jack are both from the west coast. I am from the east. In late 2015, Jack moved to my area for some pre-college work. He had no family and hardly knew anyone. He went to church with an older lady that li...

I'm not the best at writing so please bear with me. I live at my mothers apartment and visit my dad's every other weekend. I would much rather live at my dad's but there's only two bedrooms and I don't feel comfortable with sharing a room with my brother. There's nothing wrong with my mom's apartment or her at all, it's just the city it's in. It's a small one, maybe 15k people or so. I've lived here my whole life and I used to have a lot of friends. There's only one mall here though so I see my former friends a lot which has made me scared to go outside. I haven't been to school in about 2 ...

Hello, I would like to ask about what an individual's legal rights are regarding a hypothetical situation such as this: someone is hospitalized involuntarily (mental health department) by a narcissistic parent (that may not be a legal issue but in any case) and emotionally harassed by nurses (who consequently apologize for their lack of professionalism toward the patient); the patient is given intraveneous treatment by more than 5 different nurses who are seemingly unable to complete the rather simple procedure; the OT belittles the client (same patient), tries to manipulate a negative reacti...

Female coworker (Ashley) invited me and a few other (female) coworkers to go downtown to a bar one night. A girls night out As my Fiancee (Tj) is the only one to watch our kids I asked if he'd be okay with it. Since I work till 5 and we would be going at 8 and staying till 11. Didn't want to overwhelm him. Day comes, Ashley's car is acting funny and wants me to follow her to pick up her kids in case something happens. And after that we'd go to her house and get all dolled up for the bar. Explained it to Tj who was confused as to why I'm going earlier. And then I left. So I let Ashley ...

I'm divorced and live in a large village, I work shifts so have a lot of free time and do a lot of jobs for old people for free one of the people has a single daughter 15 years younger than me who I also did jobs for. For ten years we got on very well together just has friends, about four years ago she got pregnant and the father disappeared I helped her though the pregnancy and have been there for her and the baby ever since. I have gone to hers maybe 6 days a week to help her and with the baby we talk on phone every night and send hundreds of text each month and go out everywhere together, I...

Hello everyone. This is my first post (and, if the dynamic of this site proves to be positive/supportive enough, it may not be my last) and as titled; my marriage is on very, very weak ground and the fault for it being that way is mine and mine alone. The lady I married is someone I've known for better than 30 years. We were close friends all throughout high school and long after. There was always this 'buzz' between us...a buzz that always seemed to hint at the idea/fact that there was far more brewing between us than those who knew us suspected, and a few DID suspect all the same. ...

Hey Peoplesproblems, it's that time again where I ask for more input. So throughout this year I've continued to try to meet women and go on dates, with still not a whole lot of luck. I've been mostly attempting this through online dating, even though I would much prefer to meet someone in person but can't figure out how to. Most recently I talked to a handful of women one right after the other, being fortunate enough to find new people to talk to each time shortly after the last one stopped talking to me. In the last month and a half or so alone, there were 3 new women I carried on conve...

My bf is deeply inlove with me he is over protective and he has hit me once so so badly. He does everything else perfectly but he says his seeking help and wants to change. Do i believe him? And the relationship has become so toxic its worrying me. Can we still save this relationship and how do i let go :(...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for several years and most of them have been good years. However I have taken short breaks from time to time because I became frustrated with him not for filling his promises to me in terms of getting his financial life in order so that we could move forward together. At this point he’s sort of pressuring me to move in since his lease expires in a few months or he would have to renew his lease. I’ve already made it crystal clear to him on several occasions that I could not unless he is fiscally responsible and transparent so that I knew he had something o...

Hi, I split up with a guy 4 years ago now. I found out he was sleeping with other women and men and was confused over his bisexuality. I decided to leave the relationship, which ended me up in years of therapy as I was so in love with him. He often brought up marriage as we had basically planned our whole future plans together and he begged me back non stop for 2 years straight saying I was the only one who knew the ‘whole/real’ him and what a mistake he’d made due to trying to ‘explore’ himself. The whole thing broke me. I suggested he take more time figuring out how he wanted to...

My problem where to begin I have alot of childhood trauma and I never got away from putting myself in a victim stance and so anything I did trying to stick up for myself just went haywire I would go way passed sticking up for myself I had to hurt the other person and I am old I have made everyone I know dislike something about me and I talk to much because its a nervous tick at this point I was told no one liked me everyone hates me because of the fact that I spoke too much I was 5 or younger it only made it way worse because then I thought well if I explain. Why I am saying this they wont hat...

Hello. I met thus fuy some few months ago and we became friends fast. We started talking and he seemed interested in me. So he asked me if i would get involved with him if i found out that he was with someone. Asked him what he meant and he said he is staying with a lady out of convinience. That she fot pregnant with another man and the man left and he decided to take up thw role of raising the child. Asked him if anything goes on between them and said no. Only to find out that he lied as that same woman gave birth to triplets this past week and the kids are his. Asked him why he lied he told...

My boyfriend frequently patronizes one gas station near my home. One clerk who always seems to be working when he stops, flirts, will even walk out to check out what he may be hauling in his truck, and seems to enjoy banter with him a bit too much. I trust him , but I feel she is too Friendly. What should I do or say if anything? Hateful hanna...

I met a girl about 2 months ago, actually it was on valentines day. This girl was an escort that i had a date with. Over the next few weeks i began seeing her almost every day. It was during that time where i fell hard in love with her. Knowing she was an escort who had a drug problem, i decided to tell her my feelings, and surprisingly she felt the same about me. So i lied to her and told her i was okay with what she did for money and continued to see her, we would go out occasionally but for the most part we would hang out in her motel room. Until one day she had been drinking and decided to...

so im in a relationship with a girl that im really into. weve been dating for six months or so. except last week she told me that she identifies as asexual. specifically, she is grossed out by the very idea of engaging in any kind of sexual activity. i thought we were just taking it really slow, but it seems like were never gonna reach the next step of our relationship. i asked her if i could sleep with people outside the relationship and she said no. would it be wrong to leave her over this? ...

I used to be a porn and masturbation addict. I am gay as well. I earlier had a streak of 16 days but then had a relapse. I am now on my longest streak of 25 days. I had a nightfall (or a wet dream) last night. I remember, I had the dream abt my friend and in the dream i was getting intimate with him. I am confused that does this count as a relapse? Do i need to reset my counter? ...

Hi, So I am under the care of a psych. who insists that I am underweight (even though I have already gained 10lbs after starting treatment) and at the opposite side, I have been diagnosed with PCOS and the specialist recommends me losing weight to rebalance my hormone levels...so I am torn. Feeling pressured and confused about what advice I should be listening to and acting on and although I don't want to triangulate the two doctors, I am not sure what to do. Honestly, I want to be a good patient and satisfy (and comply) to both individuals but I am torn. Would appreciate any professional or ...

Hi,. For about 15 years I had no friends. Not really by choice...just life I guess. Was feeling really lonely and for the last two years I have met new people and we are in touch quite often. During the 15 years, I also didn't celebrate my birthday...which is by principle fine with me because I am a Christian and don't really believe in celebrating birthdays (unless it's someone else's) but emotionally I honestly wanted to go out and do something (whatever...whether just a coffee or more...no gifts necessary). There are some issues with these friends I do feel. It's kind of overwhelming. W...

I need some advice..... This guy I have known for 30 years and been down for the whole time is gonna make me go off on everybody.... He knows I have him no matter what I mean I have never left him hanging or done him wrong.... I am the one who got him out of jail this time.... Well when I got him out of jail we were good.... I know he is not a one woman man or so I thought... anyway he met a girl called me on the phone and wanted me to met her so here I go.... ok I meet her and we both explained to her who I was I am his homegirl, his best friend, his ride or die, his girlfriend, his wife if h...

My boyfriend and I are coming from different countries but we both live in England. We have been together for a year and we are in our mid thirties. I’d like to settle down and have kids and he knew this from the beginning. A few months ago he found a great job in his home country and he decided to move after 10 years of living in England and he will be moving within a month. Initially I was not happy about it but I tried to understand and support him and I agreed to move to his country after 2 years as I can’t go with him now. He thinks we can make it work by being positive and vis...

i just watched the film about queen i thought it was very good, i was wondering who is more talanted, Freddie mercury or chris martin, Coldplay or which one would i do th most? ...

Been dating same man for several years and we love each other. We don't live together because of me - in particular, at first I wasn't ready to make that commitment emotionally (for the first 3 or 4 years) and the last year is because he was in a bad place (lost his job and only source of income). Since then, he's employed and seems to be back on his feet - BUT, he has only a very modest amount saved for when he (can) retire(s) and I am very comfortable financially and can retire in a few years. He is very good to me and my adult kids and is a very good "relationship" person, which is hard ...

I am currently married and have been for six months. I have been with my husband for almost 3 years and I found out 6 months into our relationship that he was living with his ex-girlfriend as he told me he was living by himself. On a weekly basis he fights with me and leaves the house for weeks at a time. This past may I have had back surgery and I cannot tell you how many times he moved out when I needed him this past Christmas that was in the hospital and he was nowhere to be found. 6 days into our marriage I was watching TV and I saw him run out the door with all his clothes cursing at me t...