Hi I was on only two dates with this guy who I really thought seemed nice until the second date. We were kissing and then he went to finger me and it happened quite quick! It was quite painful I told him to stop as he was hurting me and he did then stop. I remember feeling really shocked because I didn't think he was going to do that and it happened quite fast. He exposed himself started feeling himself in front of me and started calling me useless because he wanted sex and I told him no. I had already told him I'm still a virgin he kept pressuring me to have sex saying I'm just afraid ...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

ok, I have a bit of a doozy of a conundrum. So lets break it down. 1. I am a polyamorous woman in a relation with a poly man we both love each other incredibly and he is my life partner. I cant see life with out him, and the poly has only made our relationship stronger. I was in fact late to the party with this, he had been poly for years and i made him monogamous for the first years of our lives together, but after teary nights where i thought i was going mad, i finally confessed all the feeling i had been having about another man, and not in a i want to leave you way more a i love you bu...

I dont want to leave him He instigates fights frequently I have no desire to leave i want things to get better. We have a 4 month old and ive developed a relationship with his daughters from his ex. I love him I want a happy future with him I dont contribute cuz im not working currently. But i will as soon as i find a solid babysitter and am ready to be away from baby. He uses it as an excuse to put me down and gets a power trip. Hes stressed. I do help when i can. He says im lazy even tho im taking care of baby all hrs of the day. He accuses me of being a wh*** ...

This is not a *please give me advice* post. This more to the tune of *please read this and not let it ever happen to you*!!!!! My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. Have a son together who is 1.5 yes old. And my daughter from a previous relationship is 6. My relationship is a doozy. Not as much of a drama as many others I’m sure. Yet whopper all on its own. He is a narcissist and I am a pushover who has lost any form of indépendance. I feel like phones and social media can be poison. My boyfriend is on his phone about as much as he can be. Some evening he and I do...

Hi. So here's the thing. I am suffering from depression since 4 years. But what I don't understand is that sometimes I feel so happy and motivated. I feel like I wanna do something with my life. And then sometimes I feel the exact opposite. Like I want to just give up and I feel like my life has been ruined and scarred. Like I am worthless and I shouldn't waste my time here. I don't know how to get out of it. I try to live my life the best I can. I try to make a lot of friends, do things I love and have fun. But it just keeps coming back, harder each time. It feels like it's laughing at me for...

I'm a 31 years old woman. never married, I'm a legal advisor and a super skilled professional with master degree in Law, I came from a middle up level family,always wellfaired, my father is a great supportive, everybody says that I;m beautiful (well to be honest think so too). I have experienced a lots of unsuccessful datingas and relationship whiich moslty they left me. I know that I was partially responsible for some of them, but I'm seriously frustrated that no matter how hard i tried, it never worked out. I'm sad these days, most of my friend are haviiing children but I'm still single ...

On New year's Eve 2017 my wife received a message from a male work colleague. It was a short gif showing a mans hand smacking a sand covered femaless bum.The sand dispersed to reveal the message 'Happy New Year'. We were in the company of her sister and husband at the time and she just happened to be reading some other messages when it came through. I could tell by her sisters reaction that she felt it was odd or inappropriate but I shrugged it off and continued with the night out. And forgot about it for a few months. One evening as my wife was out walking I spotted her phone on the kitche...

Hello well i have a problem i was dating my gf for one year and half we were together since april 2017 well last month we had a fight and we broke up and my bestfriend at that time started to hang out more with her then ussual so i asked my friends about and i find out that they are dating like since we broke up..but later when i became suicidal she said she will come back she said that she wants us to be back together..and last week she said she will came to me for couple days but she went with him again..i heard that he is using her to get drugs and money..so i don...

I've known this boy for a year last month and as soon as we met we just clicked. He became my best friend we spoke day and night and whenever I felt bad he was there. I had a few relationships through the year but I knew deep down that I always had feelings for him. we both finally admitted it and on march 7th we eventually got together.Three motnhs later we broke up amd it complelty ruined me. I have tried moving on but I just can't forget about him. My past two relathionships have ended because I went back to him and made the mistake of cheating. it never ends well being with him but I just ...

Hi everyone, I am one of the leaders of a club at my high school and had been encountering multiple issues with it. The club members, for one, are mostly disruptive and hard to control - bringing in kids that walk by from other clubs to talk with them during club session, arguing with other club leaders over the information we present, and messing around with other club members. I know this sounds like a typical teacher nightmare - losing control over their students, but the greater issue I see here is the fact that these people have no obligation to stay in the club and can walk out anytim...

Greetings... Im in a long distance relationship right now for a month. Im a filipina, he is german. We are both on our early 50's. This guy is very kind. Very calm, patient, honest, starightforward, responsible. I can say 70% of what im looking for a guy is with him. I know he is serious about marriage and i know he loves me. The problem is with me. As the days goes by i already find it boring while im talking to him. Im no longer excited for his calls and messages. Maybe because his topic does not interesting to me like politics, climate change, history, world war 2, etc... I tried diverti...

I have been married to the same guy for 20 years, we had kids after 8 years of the married life. Things started getting stressful and I made the decision to be a SAHM after my second child was born. Things were still going ok unitl last year when my husband started spending less and less time with me and the kids. But overall I always trusted him and thought of him as a good husband and father. My kids started acting up and I was stressed with my daily life which I had conveyed to my husband but he was just too busy at work or so I thought. He would always tell me he was in a meeting and will ...

I know this guy for 4 year over the year we hooked up spent the night with each etc.. then in August 2017 we started talking a got together..I spent 2 to 3 nights going to his and at weekends I've with parent and him his ..he's always respected me looked after me a would worry about me then in May I got a new job and I want to make it work as had a few problems with pervious job .. i always looked after him financial until he found a job he has bad confidence issues etc ... so I was meant to go to his 10 days ago to see him has it had been a week or to since I seen him .. i have let him dow...

Hello, This week my mother is traveling down to visit me and my baby. We have had an estranged relationship since my wedding, where she tried to control every aspect of it and was exstreamly horrible throughout. Not just me, my husband and other family members too. My husband and I stopped contact after my wedding for well over a year. Then I fell pregnant, I felt the decent thing to do was to tell her face to face, so I did, and from then on our relationship now is very much based around my baby. I have been civil with my mother the whole time, the only thing I'm guilty of is not being ho...

A bit of background: My husband and I have been together for over 20 years. We have two school-age children. We get on well, but there is no passion in our relationship (but that is not a great issue for me at the moment). We are comfortable discussing anything, except our own relationship! This is my problem: Over the past year or so, my husband has developed a slight speech impediment that didn't used to be there. He kind of whistles or makes a 'sh' sound when pronouncing words with a 'ss' sound in them. I am not sure of the cause of this, but I'm sure he could fix it as he never used to ...

I have been married to my true love for 20 years and together 30. I love this man with all my heart and I don't want to loose him. After being married for a few years we got into the swinger's lifestyle. It took me a bit to be OK with it because I didn't understand why my husband said he wanted to watch me with other men. We have been swinger's for about 10 years or so now and I want to stop and just be with my husband and only him with me, but he doesn't feel the same. In so many ways he is hurting me on a day to day base. He is always on Facebook in naughty groups and sexting them. Saving...

My boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 3 years, and living together 2 years, up until a few months ago. We have so much in common and have great chemistry, great sex, so many great times, but We had an argument that lead to a conversation about him having doubts. As you can imagine, it hit me very hard. He explained that sometimes he has thoughts about what his life would be like with someone else. But that the thoughts pass, and he still loves me and wants to be with me. His thoughts had become progressively worse for a few months and he doesn't know why he's having them. Currentl...

My brother is six years older than me and he acts like I don’t exist, I’m now 37 and can’t understand why he acts this way. He is now successfully influencing my parents and family so that everybody is mean to me. He thinks it’s the only way I’m going to ‘learn’ how hard life is. I think he holds some resentment regarding me and the way my parents treat me. He thinks my parents have babied me too much throughout my life and that they should be tough on me, not helping me in anything. He always says people shouldn’t help me and they shouldn’t trust me because I’m a blab...

We are best friends, and have known each other online for over two years. We have quite a large age gap, but it hasn't been a problem as I haven't had much life experience compared to my peers and he is wise for his age, so it feels like we are much closer in age than we are. We are very close, and we text everyday for anywhere from two to five hours altogether. It has always been like this. We both have severe forms of social anxiety, and met on a forum for that. We decided a while ago that we wanted to be in a relationship with each other one day, which I have been very much looking forward ...

I am new here and hope I can find help. I have been married for over 30 yrs. our love life over the past almost 18 yrs has been rather poor. I now understand this is because my husband has chossen porn over me and our life together. I am not over weight and I work out, people have told me I am very pretty or beautiful, I feel ugly and fat as my husband no longer has sex with me. We have talked about this many times over the years, things would get better for awhile. Now that we are alone and on our own again I thought we could start living our life together free wheeling and fun ag...

How does one get over feeling so lonely?? It's so embarrassing to me to say but I have no school friends, no childhood friends. Nothing like that. I can't even say I have a best friend. I had 2 besties in high school but we got into a fight and the one ended our friendship which then made the other one end it as well. And during college I had friends but never stayed in contact. I always make friends but then once they leave or I leave, its over. And for 4 years, I was away a lot as I worked for a cruise line. Again I made some friends there and some I thought we would be besties fore...

My bf is hard to talk to we been together for a yr ive never met his family just his aunt but he says that just him. We also dont go anywhere together we have never been on a date. But he is a homebody he like being in the house. But he said i act like we are married but cant tell me hoe. well how am i suppised to act?? I want to be with him forever! Idk he also isnt affectionate he only does it bc he knows i like it so when he holds me and kisses me i feel like hes only doing it bc i like it not bc he wants to. And he never really tells me im pretty idk maybe im being petty but i dont feel li...

My husband and I have been married for 16 years and have 4 wonderful children.We have had our ups and downs but in general have had a really good relationship. A little more than a month ago, I had a stillborn at 6 months pregnant. It was an incredibly trying time for both of us. I know I wouldn’t have made it through without the support of my husband. He’s been amazing. I’ve always been really independent and it was difficult for me to rely on him so much. It seems that something changed in our relationship during this time. He is completely uninterested in the sexual aspect of our re...

Hello everyone, Greetings. I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for more than 3 years. We are happy till now. I already know that she suffers from OCD. Recently she confessed that she shared her bed with more or less 5-6 guys including my friends in the last 2 years. She is also in a serious relationship with one guy. But she is in dilemma whom to choose. I understand that she is suffering from sexual OCD in which people get sexual attraction to friends, less known people etc. Now, she wants to continue my relationship after realizing her mistakes. She says that she wi...

My husband and I have been together 5 years and married for one. He has very recently been diagnosed with depression. Earlier this week he left me a letter telling me that when we first started dating (before we married) he cheated on me twice (kissing random girls- the first was a very drunken mistake the second was trying to impress his boss at a work party) I obviously was devastated, felt betrayed and angry that he couldn't even tell me this to my face and that he kept it from me for so long. He told me in the letter that the reason he was telling me as that he had hit an 'all ti...

Embarrassing question but need advice. I am 26 years old and still single. My friends are getting married or having babies and I can't even get a date. I have always been insecure about my Looks, body as I am quite overweight and have big teeth almost horse like. I overcompensate by pretending to be super confident but I have very low self esteem. I am scared nobody will ever want to date me long term as they can see through my insecurities and I get gratification from my youtube subscribers to make me feel good about myself. But then I remember that it's not me they like its the image I p...

Hey everyone. I'm her cause I just feel stuck at this point . Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years now, we haven't always communicated correctly or been the best to each other, but we have been slowly getting through it together. Lately I've been feeling like my boyfriend is very insensitive to my feeling. He does certain things like snapping his teeth, sighing in exhaustion, and being super frustrated and snappy when I'm upset about something and start crying . The arguments always end in my boyfriend believing that he either needs to be right or I need to be right . He either...

My brother in law is crazy and I need your kind advice on how to deal with him. Both my husband and his parents are in complete denial though, which means I am in a position where I need to see him every so often and socialize with him. The first night I met him, he punched my husband, who can't harm a fly, and his girlfriend tried to hit me when I tried to intervene. This was my first impression of this fool. Just so you have a small glimpse of what he's like, he made his parents move house for him, he got involved with a girl who had a dangerous family, so the whole family had to move...

I've only had one relationship that was very important to me. She broke up with me over a year ago and I am still heavily affected by it. My counselor says it could be a problem for another year or two. I was in love. At the end of college, I started dating a girl who I knew for two years. I really like her. We have long conversations and physical intimacy. However, I started my professional career and she moved to another state to finish college. I spent the last month taking ballroom dancing lessons to prepare for a very special weekend. She knew all about it. But she canceled last minut...

Hi I am a 22 year old female from Australia. I am suffering from seriously severe anxiety over something. My good uni friend asked me out on a date earlier this year (June). I was hesitant because I was unsure we would be compatible and unsure about dating someone in the cohort (we are only 120 people, we see each other all the time), but eventually agreed because I did like him. We went on three dates before I had a trip overseas, the first of which had a little bit of hugging involved and he kissed me at the end of it. However, the second and third were suddenly cold physically (I did no...

I need advice. I was talking to a guy. We both stares liking each other. He said he wanted to take our friendship forward but I said I wanted to take things slow. He gave his number. Now he has blocked me on ig. He thinks that I don't trust him. Should I call him? ...

I lost my husband 7 years ago and needless to say, it was and continues to be traumatic. He was my best friend, spouse and all of the rest. We built a beautiful life over almost 30 years with 2 beautiful children. I dated many people after the first year or so, but somehow it never feels right all of the time. By this I mean that I could enjoy myself for dinner and even a short trip with my partner but afterwards I'll always feel empty and anxious about moving forward in the future (long term, like rest of my life) despite how I cared for the person. One in particular has been someone I've...

hello. I would just like to talk with someone...

Hello, here is a bit of background. I am 43 years old and have 3 wonderful children, married and divorced twice. 2 years ago I reconnected with an old love 7 years younger. My intuition told me, it would not work because I had no interest in having more children and he may decide one day he does. I went against my better judgment, and believed him when he told me he would only ever want me and as long as we were together any need to be a father would be secondary to us being together. Fast forward 2 years, and lo and behold he has decided he cannot ignore this need any longer and althou...

My boyfriend (whom I met on a dating website) is a 56 year old and i am in my forties. We are getting on fine but recently I had access to his gmail and I had a quick scan over his emails ( I know I should't have). However I found various emails to 20 something year old girls and one in particular from Russia that he had built up a relationship with and was planning on meeting with her etc. These emails were all before he and I met so I am not planning on saying anything about them. I also know I shouldn't have read them however I am wondering should I be worried that he was contacting these m...

A few weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me saying that she gradually lost feelings and wants to have a chill relationship rather than a committed one. I didnt take it well in the first few days, I cried multiple days and contacted her multiple times to try to grasp the situation. It was hard to understand and to accept it because we went through two years together. We had many up and downs together and I genuinely thought we had a future together because she thought so too. I catch myself reading our old texts, letters that she wrote me and pictures of us together. It breaks my heart and I...

Hey I’m new here and I feel my relationship is over. On reflection I guess I took a chance on someone who I thought had been unlucky in relationships but after some years together, I see differently. Everything was amazing and we were spending lots of fun times together, but earlier this year he said he needed a little space to be around friends etc. I didn’t mind this and so over this year, we’ve both spent more time doing other things. His job also takes up a lot of time but he’d also told me this would tail off come winter. Now he’s saying we’ve drifted apart and have not...

Me and my husband have been together 5 years but married for 2 years. He is military and I’m a stay at home mom to our 1 year old son. He was deployed and I went home for 5 months. We were in a really bad place and he was treating me badly and I think I felt trapped so I cheated and he found out. I know it’s no excuse but I did what I did and now we’re in real trouble. The guy used to be his friend for a period of time. I’m trying to hardest to try and move past it but he goes back and forth and barely talks to me or acknowledges me half the time unless it’s to ask me to clean or abo...

As a discreet gay guy at work (I am not discreet outside of work) I recently chatted briefly on Grindr with a guy at my workplace. Now, it was just chat, not "chatting up" or anything, but seeing as I don't usually speak to him anyway (it's a large workplace) it could be seen as a bit weird I guess. Anyway, the chat was pretty cordial, and he was surprised that I was gay. He even said things like "youre attractive" etc., although I don't think in a flirty way. However, literally the next day at work, everybody now seems to think I am a gay guy in the closet. All of his closest friends lo...

Me & this girl have been talking for a month. She’s 25 and I’m 27. We’ve had a lot of fun so far & have been pretty intimate but were still in the talking phase. But in the last 2 days we’ve had these little disputes. We had one on friday, made up early saturday then she got upset about something later on in the same day & said she needed space around 6:30pm. I sent her 2 texts shortly after that saying I understood that she needed space & to text me when she’s ready but to be honest I’m really stressing out cause any other time she’s needed space it’s only been a few hours but...

I recently met this Iraqi guy on tinder (he said he got divorced about 1.5 years back and I've never been married). Our second date was great but I saw he didn't have my number saved and he says my name was tough for him to spell. He asked me when he could see me again and said we would meet "tomorrow". 3 days gone no signs of any texts/calls so I sent him a casual "thanks for the coffee" text to which he said "No problem my queen, how's your day blah blah, what are you doing tonight ". When I said I didn't have anything plannes yet and asked what he was doing he went on radio silence ...

I am in high school and I just started dating this guy about a week ago. I thought I liked him, so I said yes when he asked me out. He is really sweet and always texts me the nicest things but I realized that I don't like him as a boyfriend. I just want to focus on school and my future right now. I don't want to date him anymore, but he always talks about how he's so lucky to have me and how happy he is now. I am afraid that I could really hurt his feelings if we break up, but I don't want this relationship to be anything more than just friends. I can't stay with him but I need a nice way to e...

Me and my partner have been together for years. we don't have children together . but I have children from a previous realationship. He is wealthy and comes from a good family. I'm not wealthy but have enough to live. we have separate bank accounts and no plan to change it. he covers rent . and rego. I pay for food and gas and all the kids needs. my dad has become ill and recently separated . he has a child who is 11 in his care. my dad needs to go to hospital where he will stay for 4 weeks . he needs someone to look after the child while he is there. my partner told me he rather the kid went...

Hi, I have been having issues with my bfs family and he has been super stressed out by them and his work. We are both still living with our parents as my bfs job doesnt pay enough and I'm still in college. My bf hasn't had the best life. His biological father walked out as soon as he found out his mom was pregnant, then his mother married his current dad who was formally addicted to drugs and alcohol. His dad had 2 children from a previous marriage and 2 after marrying my bfs mom. He completely disreguards the 2 from his other marriage. His dad is very egotistical and needs to have control of ...

My wife and I have a son that is involved in a problematic marriage. Every few months for the past several years (he's been married about 10 years) his wife decides to kick him out. He comes and lives with us a few weeks or months and then she asks him to come back. At times on our exhortation he will go to counseling a few sessions and then quits. Both have been in counseling together but only short-term. My wife and I are in our mid-60s. She thinks we should continue allowing this but I feel that this cannot continue. Can you help?...