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Ok, so my husband told me 2 weeks ago that he is going to a conference in Amsterdam next month. He knows how i feel about that place. He assured me that the conference center is outside of Amsterdam and right by the airport (this is in fact true) and that it would only be for one night. He also promised he would not venture into the city center. I made my peace with this and supported him. Last night he told me he had more information and that he is in fact going for 3 nights and not 1. Leaving very early morning on a Sunday morning (not sure why they are going so early) 2 days conference and ...

Hey Guys, I (27) need your opinion.. So there is my Boss who is 20 years older than me. We’ve worked together for a couple of years now. He is very supportive, we have a great relationship and we are a good team. Fact is that, since about 3 years, as soon as we had some alcohol (for example at a team event, client event etc), our conversations turn into flirts (of course only when we are alone and not in front of colleagues). We both know that we like each other, also in a sexual way, but that there can never be more than flirts as he is married. I was always totally fine with that and I...

I am from Bangladesh. My father was 60 and my mother 38 when I was born. I have 2 elder sisters. My father is a very hard worker and still works at the age of 80 to keep the family going. My mother is a housewife. I am about to complete my undergraduate degree next year. I now have the opportunity to move to another country for my studies and eventually settle down. I have always hated living in Bangladesh and it has always been my aim to move out. My thoughts, beliefs are too different from the norm. The government is corrupt and everything is a mess. My parents know how strongly I wa...

My boyfriend told me he cheated on me at the start of our relationship with an old friend at the time. I believed him but did wonder if it was true. He then told me a lot of other things that happened that he remembers but some of the things he says is not true. He told me me, him, and 2 friends had a convo about me cheating and there were tears and all but this is 1000% not true. Some things he genuinely remembers and can describe in detail is not true. Me and a friend think there is more to it and has something to do with his mental health as he is positive he remembers all these thin...

I haven't dated many women in my life, technically I've only had one live-in girlfriend and that lasted for over 5 years. I've gone on a few dates but usually these ended in women ghosting me or just deciding they weren't interested and going their separate ways. I'm in my early 30's and am extremely bothered by this. I often find myself wondering if something is wrong with me that makes women disinterested. I see a lot of women being selfish these days and getting applauded for it, playing the field and stringing along guys who put in effort for them while chasing after someone else w...

So, I was with someone from the age of 17 to a month before turning 23 (last year). I ended things with my ex because.. well, I can barely even remember why. I felt that we never saw each other, he went on his phone A LOT, and he sort of stopped engaging in deep conversations with me, I would try to get something out of him and he quite often gave me one word answers and I became really fed up. His dad was very much the Same, and I began scared that he would end up like his dad, who was very very quiet. We stopped having fun, really. But really, I think I changed too, I wanted to go out al...

I had a friends with benefit (M) relationship for 3 years.I ended it in February, went online and met A. At first he was really intense,wanted to see me, be his girlfriend, said he was falling for me and then he'd go cold, i was confused. In the meantime M contacted me, he missed me etc, i slept with him, split up with A after a huge argument, i said some nasty things to him.Anyway i ended things with M, then started speaking to A again, he was really nice to me. We've met a couple of times, but i don't know where i stand with him now, he says he misses me, but he takes ages to reply to my tex...

I have known my friend for 4 years, and the moment i met her i was instantly smitten. Over the years we have always been there for each other. A couple of weeks ago she invited me to her house for dinner, which never transpired, so i immediately asked her to the theatre. She came to my house and we wnt to see Mam Mia. Both loved it, and she said i am on leave soon and i am going to invite you to my house. She said it was the best night of her life. She is divorced with a child and works long hours. On the evening we went out she mentioned she joined a dating agency, this was like a dagger to...

I've been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years now and apart of me wants to be single and see other men. The relationship has become pretty stale from my point of view and I don't think he thinks the same and I'm always making an excuse for when it's time to get intimate. He's never been violent or anything towards me and I've never been violent to him but I'm finding myself going to bed early before him just to be myself... I don't think I find my partner physically attractive anymore but he's such a sweet guy and everyone loves him including my friends and family which makes it even m...

Okay, so disclaimer, this doubles as a venting post as well as eliciting advice from others who may have had experience with the same situation. I am very close with my older (5 yr age gap) sister. She has even allowed me to live with her (I pay rent 🙂 not a total moocher) She recently got married, and I’ve known the man for almost just as long as she has. She introduced us within a couple months of them meeting and getting together. I say that to preface that my issue is not a fleeting phase, unfortunately. For the past 3 or 4 years I’ve just been so annoyed because I feel like w...

Life Context I am in my early 30s, male, only child. My parents are very hardworking overachievers who made huge strides for our family, going from penniless rural China to a comfortable middle-class life in the UK. Perhaps because of this, I have always been ambitious and driven to succeed, to make the most of the much easier start in life that I got thanks to my parents (compared to them). Before the age of 21, I was very much a successful high achiever myself. Top grades at school, got into an elite university, you get the idea. However for reasons too complicated to get into here, I...

My ex and I just broke up recently - I broke it off with him. He replied quickly and said he was sorry and understood but really was sad we weren't going to be together since I've been with him for many years. Then about 10 days later, he reached out to me to try to tell me we belong together and we can work through the issues; said he was sorry for his bad behavior and also pointed out I was wrong too (which I've acknowledged before). He said he has worked out his lack of honesty about his $ issue (which is why I broke it off and did so a few times over the years). He also promised to be...

Hey y'all so here's my problem, a while ago I met a girl through her lovely twin sister who hoped we would become friends as well. At first we were cool and all, noticed she was slightly perverted, like to talk to me and post pictures revealing some of her chest and just fetishised men dressing as women a lot. Yet it was nothing related to me so I let my opinions settle in my gut. A little more into the developing friendship I learn that she's has 6 past relationships and that she cut out a lot of friendships to keep me closer and wanted me to do the same. Didn't like hearing me say th...

So of course with me being a teen girl it’s (dramatic pause....) romance!! I go to a rowing club (lame I know but im very passionate about it) and well, everyone who goes there ,apart from your truly, is very hot, to say the least. I am having girl (and guy) problems for instance, there this one girl and she’s kind and smart and beautiful but idk if she’s into girls like that and , also I had to share a mat with this REALLY HOT guy and it could barely fit me and we had to do a stretch where ,basically it was like we where spooning and my poor catholic schoolgirl heart couldn’t take it...

I'd really like to have some impartial advice on this situation with my boyfriend. Earlier on in the year I've had an encounter with his ex. In this encounter she called me claiming with him for the past 3 years, even living with him and other things. Basically to make me think I was the side chick. My boyfriend proved to me that she was lying and we moved on from it. Over the next few months the relationship really became rocky as my trust for him after her claims was really being challenged. The reason for that was because after she initially called me I saved her contact to my phone so...

Right I have been with my partner for over 20 years. We were married. Divorced 8 years ago. After sometime apart we ended up back together. I left again and then ended up back together again...I know I know sounds silly. It’s like he has this hold over me. I try and leave and he manipulates me into going back. I don’t love him anymore. Just a friend to me. We divorced due to the way he was back then. Alcohol addiction etc, I won’t go into all the details as I will be here all day. But I have bad memories of it all. Anyway I forgave him. He turned his life around and I am proud of him for...

I had a crush on my brother's friend some 10 years ago.. I proposed him.. he is very close to my brother.. as I proposed him.. he told me that it will become a problem.. between me,him, and my brother..later we had no contact.. but my brother and his friends lied to me that he got married.. and showed me a pic.. it seems to me that it's jus a build up.. so I didn't disturb him at all.. I was busy with education. But now my family is searching me a groom.. I searched for this guy in Google.. he has accounts but has never posted his wife's pic not even his child's pic.. I asked my bro abt it.. h...

So I’m looking for some impartial advice about a sticky situation I find myself in. I will keep it as short as I possibly can...! 3 years ago while I was at University I became involved with one of my lecturers. I liked him, he liked me, we were in our 30s/40s so nothing creepy. We met up a few times and had to keep it under cover but I did actually enjoy his company and the few times we met up we did sleep together. After a month or so he ended things because rumours started to circulate about him seeing students and he said he had to stop seeing me. I was gutted to be honest but co...

I had a one night stand with someone 25 years younger than me.Im 57,later found out the girl was pregnant.She admitted at the time I could be the father as well as her partner.Basically she had the child and I think shes mine,she says now it's her partners.Im convinced the child is mine and I'm tormented by this thought Do I have any choice but to accept this woman's insistence I'm not the father and move on?...

Okay so we met online 15 years ago as kids. Didn’t meet in person until 3 years ago (which we consider our anniversary) the connection was so strong and still is. I’ve always been a cautious person but I found myself agreeing to move here after a few weeks. 2 months later I had said my goodbyes to my family and friends and was driving here. Fast forward to now and we’re a mess. I knew he was an ex drug addict but thought he was fully recovered. I battled that myself as a teenager/thought I could help him/it was my karma to etc. he relapsed more times than I can count during our relati...

I've fallen in love with a married man. We haven't done anything other than hug and I don't condone cheating at all, neither does he. I know he's not just gonna up and leave his wife as he takes his commitments seriously. But I feel so guilty every time I wish their marriage would fail. How do I stop myself from wanting someone that is unavailable? ...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Will try to keep this as short as possible to save time. I'm almost 40 years old, the girl I love is in her 30's. I fell in love with a girl who lives in a poor country. We started off as friends, and as I'm a bit of a loser I never expected more. After knowing this girl a few years and experiencing a certain life event I decided to tell her how I felt about her. It turned out she felt the same. I've always been employed in low paying unskilled jobs as I don't even drive. I do have a side hustle that gives a little extra income but it's sporadic and unreliable. The money I earn from my...

I live in a small town with my husband near the rest of my extended family. My brother lives 300 miles away. My brother has had a lot of problems with romantic relationships, he's been married several times and nothing works for him. The rest of my siblings are married or STB married. 1 1/2 years ago my brother met "Beth" supposedly on a dating site. Beth lives in our small town. My brother introduced Beth to us as his girlfriend. However, the only time he ever sees Beth is when he comes to our town for a visit and picks Beth up to come to one of our family's events, like holidays and weddings...

Ok so this problem is about my girlfriend who I have been dating for five years, and I want to make it clear that I love her very much. The problem is that I feel I'm starting to lose my attraction to her. I don't think I'm a shallow person, and I'm not the most in shape guy myself, but I'll try to explain what I mean. My girlfriend is around 5ft 2, and when we first started dating was around 140lbs. Since then she's gained almost 30lbs, and it's not so much her weight but I feel I'm starting to become unattracted to her. She eats a lot, and very unhealthy food. She's always had a ...

Something you should know about me before i tell you my problem is that I'm a 21 years old girl, very shy and reserved (believe me not by choice), I've never had a boyfriend, or anyone that likes me for a romantic relationship, therefore, friendships are very very important for me, and maybe because i give so much importance to friendships, any kind of slight change in how a friend treats me makes me feel AWFUL. I'm also an immigrant, I live in mexico now, i moved here almost 2 years ago. In my home country, from kindergarten to senior year i attended the same school,therefore the friendsh...

Okay guys so 2.30 on my night shift and other half is online on whatsapp, said hes not. I message him on Facebook then WhatsApp, no reply and he goes offline. Whats going on, even if WhatsApp was running in the background hes have to be up to turn it off for him to go offline, could my message on Facebook or WhatsApp somehow cause this to go offline, add to the fact hes now turned his timestamp off so i crnt see when he was last active... Am i being naive we have 3 kids but i crnt feel like this anymore and again xx...

Hi. I have been single 4 years. I have worked on my personal growth and now want to move on and date but I don't seem to have much time or energy. Apart from that I have had some bad experiences in relationships including abuse and so I am wary and have trust issues. But I don't want to live out the rest of my life alone. I feel I have given myself enough time. Also I like someone a lot but its a difficult situation as he just broke up with someone else. My friend says to let him come to me if he wants to. But he doesn't know how I feel about him at all although I guess there is an attraction ...

For awhile now, I’ve been showing numerous signs of depression and anxiety. I’ve stopped seeing the point in life, I don’t find joy in activities I used to love, I often think of suicide, etc. During this time, I’ve lost much self respect. I will do whatever it takes to make people around me happy even if it hurts me. I’ve started to do this daily. Doing such causes me a lot of pain and I want to seek help but I don’t know how. I have pretty bad trust issues. I don’t have anyone in my life who I’d consider talking to. I am not in a situation where I have the resources to se...

Hi I'm really confused about my feelings towards my friend and need an outside opinion. I can't tell if I actually like her or just wish she liked me. I mainly get confused about it when I'm drunk so i assumed it was a drunk and lonely thing, but now im feeling it when sober too. i dont know if its just because shes one of my few gay friends, but its starting to become a problem. she definitely doesnt like me like that, but she makes it hard sometimes because she'll joke around and flirt, and hold my hand when shes drunk and were walking home. i dont know what to do shes not my type, but we...

I posted one time on here like last year I think. I don’t want to talk to close friends or anything about this because it’s like embarrassing I guess. A few times I’ve overheard things or suspected my dad of cheating on my mom. This time I saw text messages because (I admit) I was snooping on purpose on my dad’s phone. I took screen shots with my phone and sent them to my sister. We’re both in our early 20s. Haven’t showed my mom or said anything to anyone. I don’t know if I should confront my dad, tell my mom or just keep quiet because “its none of my business” even thou...

Broke up with boyfriend of 7 years. I stayed calm and just told him I couldn’t see a future because he won’t change and I can’t expect him to. He has some challenges being straightforward about certain things. I wished him the best. He asked if I met someone and I said no which is true. He then started saying he will meet someone else and that person will be inclusive as opposed to me which is the opposite. I have no friends according to him but he has a lot of really long time friends however he grew up in this area and I did it. And the fact is I do have a few friends but not many ...

Mooved on to another state, my husband decided to start the divorce process on his own. I don't know if he completed all the forms correctly, but I'm sure that it's necesserary to break up and our marriage is done by that point. My question is - how to complete the divorce process if we're living in different cities? What steps should we take in order to complete the divorce? And how long does divorce takes? I couldn't find any information on official court website https://www.courts.wa.gov but there isn't any information out there. heeelp...

Good day. My 30 year old girlfriend is 1and a half months pregnant with our child. She already has 2 other childern aged 10 and 6 years. She was engaged to the father of the 6 year-old when we met. She staus with her parents but has a full-time job. I am a married man. My wife does not know about any of this. My girlfriend is thinking of an abortion. She believes her father will be disappointed and will disown her I don't agree but I'm not pushing. I love her very much. Please advise....

Hi, my biological father was never in my life growing up and seemed to have no desire to be. Last summer he contacted me asking to meet up I agreed and everything went well and he hasn’t contacted me since. I however have always wanted to meet his family but he was very hesitant about it when I brought it up in conversation when we met up which I understand it was the first we had seen each other since I was 7 (over a decade ago). I initially thought we would slowly work up to meeting his family but due to him not contacting me again it became hopeless. That was the background now this...

I don’t know if my family loves me, because everyone lashes out at each other so frequently. I’m also not sure if relationships can be any better than that either. I basically want some sort of testimony that love is real. Tell me when you knew you were loved or in love. Tell me what it feels like, and if it’s all it’s cracked up to be....

I proposed a guy.. he liked me too... He was totally interested.. now after telling that I had depression n am taking medication.. he started ignoring me.. but I keep sending messages.. he doesn't seem to block me.. now what do I do? Wait or move on? He liked me..I understand him well n waiting for his reply.....

I am a college student and theres a guy that i really like ...and yeah we're maybe friends or no i am not very sure of that but just that i really wanna know if hes really interested or no...and my mind is going crazy for this and i really need help in this cause hes in my mind everytime...

First time I’ve posted anything like this. My partner and I have been together approx 2 and a half years. I’m a step mum to his children. Our relationship, when solid, is incredible and the best thing I’ve ever experienced. I moved away from my friends and job to support him but also to enable us to have more time together. We are from different ends of the country. I currently still commute to my job - approx 3 hours a day, 4 times a week but I’m looking to change this. He commutes too but will stay at his old family home with the kids once a week. He runs the business so it’s a...

My stepson’s (28) wedding is this weekend. My husband has been unbearable with insulting words, rages, and distancing of my son. My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He and his ex wife don’t talk. But during their children events always put on the happy family face. My stepsons big day is almost here. The closer we get the more distance my husband becomes from me. He uses my son (20), his stepson’s, phychotic break he had over the summer as to the reason he doesn’t want him staying at the house this weekend. The wedding is near our house yet my son and I are staying...

For a longtime I have had feelings for a man at work, he is such a nice guy he is really polite and funny, he really makes me laugh and over the months I have developed strong feelings for him, eventually I plucked up the courage to tell him how much I liked him, trouble is I'm Married, I can't lie and say to whoever is reading this that my marriage is unhappy or boring because it isn't so why I have fallen for this man I don't know, anyway when I told him I liked him he did seemed a bit shocked he said he was flattered but he wouldn't get involved with me due to me being married ( he is singl...

I really need advice. I’m not attractive, not pretty. I’m kind of nice, but that’s it. I’m not saying this in an I-want-confirmation-that-I-am-pretty kind of way. I am actually truly not pretty. And I have zero self confidence. I grew up with tons of male friends but since starting university, I have not gotten close to any males and can’t even TRY to interact with them. I’m that girl that’s just not dateable and guys pretty much just don’t approach me for anything. But I want to date. I want to try the whole relationship thing at least once. I really don’t even know where ...

I broke up with my boyfriend of several years just the other day and until the end he was blaming my adult child because my child doesn’t like him and he said she has been the cause of the downfall of our relationship. I pointed out to him that that that is not necessarily true because it’s really his constant lying that has been the downfall of our relationship even though the fact that she doesn’t like him doesn’t help. If I really believed that my kid would a accept him and I would be satisfied with the relationship that may be possible. He just doesn’t get that I can’t tol...

I'm sick of myself. Each day I wake up and hate how I look but here's the thing, people call me pretty. Down to strangers,my mom, sister and just about everyone and I don't see it! It's not some light insecurity, I promise, it makes me want to kill myself. Down to a bad angle or anything. It's on and off whether I think I'm pretty.One moment I feel like a goddess and the next I don't. I just wanna feel okay again and no I can't go to therapy. Please just tell me how to be okay. I have things I like and talent's but nothing can keep my mind off it! What should I do?...

Firstly, I would like to say I know this whole situation makes me a shady B****. I would appreciate advice that I could use to make the best of the situation and life choices I've created for myself not judgments and criticisms for what I should or shouldn't be doing. Ok so background: I'm 29 and have a young daughter to think of and for the first time in four years I took advantage of the first opportunity I could to move out from my child's father place. He was a rebound from my divorce (was with ex husband from 18-25 I only dated one guy before) and had an unplanned pregnancy with rebou...

I've never cheated on my husband. He claims I am "disloyal" and I might as well have cheated on him because when he had a mental breakdown and we had to move back to my mom's house I was too friendly with people he didn't like or trust. The people he is talking about are my best childhood friend, her husband and mother. He didn't want me to bring our kids to their house and we argued over it one night and during the argument I said "I hate you!" and "You're lucky I'm still here with you." I also brought them to the house anyway, and because I was so exhausted and sad about the argument, I told...

Me and my wife are both 33 and have been married a little over 2 years, we’re engaged for 3 years before that and together 3 years before that. We were also friends from the age of 17 having met working part time. I’ve had a tough few years work wise. I’m a teacher and suffered with anxiety and ended up working as a supply teacher instead but the stress, worry and anxiety at work became so bad about a year ago I pretty much gave up and got counselling and support to find a new job. I also suffer from severe ocd and find so many things that I need to constantly check or sort that norm...

In short. Very good friend about to move quite far away. I'm very in love with him, without him knowing anything - as far as I can tell. Actually, I have no idea if he has any idea, which is probably for the best, I must admit. I've no wish for him not to move away. It's potentially life-changing for him. I'm genuinely happy for and proud of him. I'm in a relationship with someone. I've no wish to end or change what I have. I've no wish to cause any sadness or hurt to the person who's leaving or my partner. That seems to mean I have to endure a lot of internal sadness and hurt. Saying anyth...

Hello, so I need opinions on a situation. What would you do Personally? So my husband wanted his brother to spend the night, at the time we had new baby and I was healing from a c-section I told him no. My husband insisted on him him staying the night. Since my husband was allowing him to spend the night I told him his brother needed to be left before my husband went to work. My husband agreed and said he would let him know before he came. My husbands sister said that this brother had raped her but I didn’t feel like I could tell him because no matter what I say about his family he will not ...

So we have been together for a while. The past few months we haven't had sex. He's saying its stress and what not but he used to say this before and it never affected him. He says he can't even get it up but i think he is lying to me. I few weeks ago he got hard and lied about it saying it was a morning wood or whatever. I found clothing this white stuff on it and he swore he didn't know what that was from. Well he still hasn't touched me. Then today i just found more clothing with small patches of white spots in an area like if he was hard and then put it away later and left more lower....

I recently discovered my husband of one month cheated with a an online prostitute in 2017 and went to a massage parlor for a hand job in 2017 as well. Both months were a big milestone for us. The first we said the L word and the second time, we had just moved in together. He had 38 “encounters” since 2011. He was engaged during the previous years to someone else. He swears that November 2017 was the last time and he has a much stronger love for me and cried which I have never seen him do. I’m so lost and don’t know if I believe him. I’m not sure if I get a divorce or trust him. ...

Hi there, I have been with my bf for almost 4 years this October. He plays games a lot and i have found out previously he has been talking to this girl. I've confronted him about it and he's told me that she's like a friend in a different county who he met online from gaming 10 years ago. At first, I didn't really think anything of it. I did let him know it made me feel a very uncomfortable and that i would prefer that he moved on from old girls he use to flirt with before our relationship however, he assured me that its just a friend. That was a few months ago and then yesterday...

Despite being with my bf for many years I've noticed a clear pattern to his behavior - in terms of being self centered. If something is in it for him, he goes for it and vice versa. He pouts if he doesn't get his way often as well and doesn't seem to have any empathy in certain situations particularly if he's not included. Example: I had planned a vacation for about several days with my kids and sister and her husband - it's an annual thing we do each year mostly. While i invited my bf we had a disagreement about 2 weeks before and then a close family member died - I was wiped out so I told...

I’m so in need of advice and opinions on my situation. I’m going to try and keep it short there is so much to explain. I first met my ex on a dating site, in his profile he explained he wanted kids as he didn’t have any only a step daughter from previous relationship. ( who is now 20 has never worked and in my eyes only uses him for money). I think looking bk we were lonely hence why we were both looking for love on a dating site, he had just came out of a 10 year relationship with a bipolar partner. And me a 3 year relationship with also a ex partner with bipolar. We were both needy. I ...

Okay so this is the situation. I fucked a escort (which was ugly as fuck but still went with it) with a condom about two months ago... and now I saw and recognized her while I was working (fast food restaurant)I'm not sure if she recognized me but i think she might of because I'm kind of good looking (not to brag) and well i'm kind of paranoid now so this is what I think. 1. She tracked my phone number (that's hoe I contacted her) and found out where I worked... I honestly don't think this could be because she doesn't look the type to think that way. 2. She came to tell me that she gave me a...

Let me start by saying that I hate myself for feeling this way, or even needing to ask about this... I've never been in this situation before. I've been very happily married for two years, together for seven years. My husband is a wonderful man, not without his faults, but has made my life brilliant with his love, support and kindness. He's given me so much, and made my life better, but can be very difficult at times. I've had a tough past, and he really has helped me move on from what happened. I've recently dramatically changed careers, and needed to do some intensive training as part ...

I’ve become very close to someone, but as best friends. We chat all the time. Every day. Constantly. We hang out at least 3 times a week, but have to listen as she chats about people she is attracted to. Knowing fine well, that I’m not in that category. We would be perfect together, but I know it is down to my looks. Please help me deal with this. ...

It's hard to know where to start. I am 29 years old. It looks like I have a lot of my life together, but I am just hanging on by a thread. I am someone who has always been alone. I have friends and family, but never any type of romantic relationship. I have always wanted one, but don't feel deserving - not for any particular reason, but just by virtue of being me. I don't know why I'm making myself fail. How pathetic is it that I'm still a virgin? It feels really sad. I honestly feel like a leper on society. 'You're a virgin, what the fuck is wrong with you?'. Nights and w...

My aunt has lived with my grandma for decades, but the last 16 years or so has become a complete shut-in (we suspect agoraphobia, but it's undiagnosed). Grandma provided for her even though she admitted she almost never came out of her room when Grandma was home. Grandma wouldn't admit there was a problem for a long time. My father (grandma's son, aunt's brother) was starting to get involved, but then he got very sick and passed away in 2013 and it's been status-quo ever since. Well, 2 weeks ago Grandma passed away outside her house. When police tried to talk to my aunt, she ran and hid ...

I've been with my boyfriend for over two years, I do love him. And could see a future with him. We've been together since we were 17, now we're 19 and 20. I get we're young, but I only do serious relationships. I think about the future and can see him in it, even if it's just as friends. Like with my exes I don't care about them, but I know if me and (gonna call him C) broke up we'd still be great friends. He is my best friend hands down. I could never loose that, but whenever I bring up ANYTHING in the future he brushes it off and changes the subject. I wouldn't go as far as saying I WANT to ...

Iv been with my BF for 10 years. We have 4 children together. We have always got on so well, barely argue and have had a good sex life. However since having twins 4 months ago and also through most of my pregnancy we have not had sex at all. I am exhausted, I’m exclusively breastfeeding the twins and running around after our other two kids all day. I have also been diagnosed with BV after having the twins but I can’t take any meds for it until I stop feeding so down there isn’t a place i want people going near. I also just don’t feel confident in my body after the twins. I put ...

So anyway i'll keep it as brief as possible. 20+ years ago when i was 17 i met a guy and fell head over heels in love. We had an on off relationship for about 5 years. I would have walked on hot coals for him and that feeling has never changed. I live in Ireland and after about 5 years he decided to move to England for work. We kept contact for maybe 2 years with an odd phone call but that ended eventually when wwe both met other people and moved on. A couple of years later i bumped into him and his new girlfriend when they were back in Ireland for a weeks holidays. We all went for dinner and ...

Here goes, my husband of 20 yrs has been diagnosed with clinical depression and has tried to commit suacide several times. He has always had ups and downs but after the death of his mother 4years ago he has been a different person. I have sought him professional help which only made things worse. I am so fed up of this whole situation i am concidering leaving him but i cant bring myself to it. I would be letting him down and my children. I have tried everything i can to get him on the path to recovery but its like he dosnt want to get better. What do i do? Do i stay with him in a miserabl...

my husband and I have been married for two years. During this time we have faced many obstacles. We actually got married in my fathers icu room because he was dying of lung cancer. My husband also had been diagnosed with cancer but not as serious and he is now cancer free. One month after our marriage my father passed away and our lives changed greatly. We now also had to take care of my mother who has dementia and Parkinson’s disease. My husband stayed with her during the day while I worked. About two months after my father passed away my husband became very distant, spending most of his ti...

I only have one friend, I know that’s spreading it thin and that’s on me but i struggle with people. She is in a relationship and her partner is supremely jealous. I can only speak to her if he is not around, we are unable to hang out unless he is doing something for himself. He’s a controlling and mentally abusive partner but she is stuck. I am always available for the down times(there are many) as a listening ear but i’m feeling utterly run down(Her relationship has gone on 6 years). The only things we tend to speak about is how horrible he is and that can go on for hours after ...

Where to start! I’ve been with my partner now for around 14months. We originally met end of June last year, and he told me he was divorced for 4 years. At the time We met, I replied to this and made it very clear I would not consider dating anyone who was not divorced because of unfinished business issues... We had a great courting period, and I began to develop feelings I’ve never had for anyone before. Although, I began to pick up in my gut something wasn’t right around October time, but couldn’t put my finger on it, just knew it was something to do with his ex as she would const...

My wife of 26 years has become friendly with a male work colleague. A bit of back ground first, she gets on better with male friends than female friends. I can sometimes get a little jelious, but generally I am OK with her male friends. To me this time it's different. They went out on a works evening about 5 weeks ago, since then they have been out for drinks 6 times. She is always texting him. We have spoken about it, and she assures me there is nothing going on, and I beleile her 99%, but there is this little 1% He has made it clear to her he fancies her. She had told him on more than one o...

Hello everyone, So I have been married for a little bit over a year now, and I am expecting. I never really had a good relationship with my in laws. They think my husband is an angle/god and even his cousins agree that they treat and talk about him like he is a god. So obviously ever since I came into his life I was never good enough for him. They always talked about me and my parents; in fact, there was an instance were his mom called said my parents were bad because I was out until 1 in the morning when I was 20 years old. Anyways, they have said and done a lot of hurtful things, we even ha...

I was with my ex for over 14 years in that time we had 3 children the oldest is 13 the youngest 8. My relationship with my ex was abusive he had many affairs but I stupidly always took him back. His last affair though broke our relationship when she got sick of being the other women and got herself pregnant. He could no longer hide his affair with a baby on the way so I ended our relationship as soon as I found out about it all. This was last year. His "gf" isn't happy with destroying my relationship or family it seems she is hell bent on hurting me as much as possible. Earlier this year s...

Hello, I’ve been with my partner for more than 2 years now. O’ve Moved outside London to be near and bought a house. I was living with for while whilst the house got ready and we both moved in together. I’ve noticed that he was receiving telephone calls from a woman and the way he spoke to her got my attention. They havave never met. He claims she is his niece from Nigeria , she is living over there and he is her. It was ok. Then he was receiving video calls from her every night 11.00, 12 and so on. I thought that is not right. I found out that she didn’t know anything about me, until ...

First and foremost, I'm sorry if this comes across like an annoying first world problem, and if I seem at all ungrateful in regards to the opportunity that I have been presented with. I'd also like to preface this post by saying that I absolutely did not expect to go abroad and naively think that every waking moment would be fantastic. Earlier this year, I decided to apply to my university's study abroad program. My intention in doing this was to take classes that-whilst relevant to my degree- I am not able to partake in back home, thus giving me a greater understanding of my prospective pr...

First let me start wit this preemptive caveat; I am/do not actively track friend/lover emails. I have a biz account I do track reads and link clicks for promotions I send off. I met this woman a couple years back via a business acquaintance so we started our initial discussions on the biz email. Soon we started spending every day together and speaking in person or communicating via phone/text. So the tracked emails referenced in this thread are from later on when I returned to emailing her a few times post break up from the only email I had. That said. We had a horrible break-up during w...

I am a single mom, I have one son. My boyfriend and I share an apartment. We share one car together. He keeps taking our money and spending it all in one sitting at the casino. I feel like he has no care for our son even though he is an amazing dad, who is hands on. He leaves us broke every single month with his gambling problem. We don’t have help from any of our parents and we watch our son without help. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t think I can keep living like this. And communication doesn’t really do anything, as I’ve tried to talk to him about our financ...

I was invited to my boyfriend's friend's fiance's bridal shower. Just me. Not him. I suffer from social anxiety (am trying my best to get treated) and very much do not want to go to this bridal shower ESPECIALLY because it was only me who was invited (which is expected - bridal showers are usually just women). When I first got the invite I had a pretty bad panic attack over being invited. I have no idea how to decline this invite. I kept trying to think and make up random excuses not to go but I have nothing. I literally have no excuse not to go. I just am very nervous & anxious about the who...

I have been with my partner for just over 1 year and we have 2 puppies together. When I first met him, it was through mutual friends. I had not long come out of a very bad relationship and was feeling pretty down about myself and he made me feel special again. A year down the line we have been having usual problems but recently the arguements we have been having have been petty and last for hours. We always seem to make up but in my mind I am still feeling down from the arguement. I believe it comes from my previous relationship where it was easier to admit you were wrong (even if you we...

While my boyfriend and I love each other and have been together for many years, there have been brief periods I've left him. I also know that neither of us are perfect. It's like a repetition of sorts every year or so - I get really fed up with him lying about certain things (of importance, like money but it doesn't matter does it?) and then I leave him but then after I short time we really miss each other and reconcile. This has happened several times over several years. I know he can be narcissist sometimes but other times he is so good to me and my family. The last time is recent a...

Hi, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since two years. It is mostly a long distance thing. Previously, like every relationship it used to be very romantic, but now it seems the spark is gone. He is no longer romantic, he no longer sings to me like he used to previously (as music is one of his hobbies) , he does not take interest in my likings or those things which make me happy, he has changed. When I talked about this to him, he said every relationship has this problem and we need to mature after sometime. But I still want to keep our relationship alive and cheerful. I n...

Me and my boyfriend got together 4 days ago. We decided to hide our relationship at school since the popular girls are going to bully me if they find out because my boyfriend is one of the popularest guys at school. Yesterday a guy in my class had to sit by me because of an assignment the teacher told us to do. Another guy that sat behind me started shipping us. Of course, he didnt know about my relationship with the popularest guy at school. I had to read what i wrote for the assignment but i didnt want to since it was reffering to something. So the guy I had to work with, took my pc and star...

I've been with my partner officially for around 5 months, our relationship began through us both cheating on our partners who we both left to be with each other. We have had a lot of serious arguments and have been on/off again constantly. We have a difference of opinion on a lot of main issues such as drugs etc. We keep trying to make things work cause we love each other but last night an argument got out of control to the point where he attacked me and I had to call the police. We haven't spoken since and we've blocked eachother on everything. I'm still in shock but still finding it hard to ...

So me and my gf are really good together and have always been but she works at a bar and gets hit on a lot, I don’t get jealous I ask her about the situation and we laugh it off, but there’s this one guy that she gets on with well and thinks is a good guy and I thought so at first, so he hit on her the first night they met and I heard about it and wasn’t bothered, then the next time we all met at her work place and he was teaching us both how to use poi’s(they’re like balls on string like a circus act). I knew that he still liked her but thought that yeah it’s obvious we’re a cou...

I have a neighbor that is a woman who i would say since i have met she has been nice etc she sometimes comes over to mine to chat to my boyfriend i don't mind at all and i just stay in the room, while they're having conversations who is close to my boyfriend not close as in close close but she does come over here sometimes to give him food etc have convo , and talk if they see each other in the neighbourhood. Now let's get to tonight somethings unexpected happened , she was over and my bf was cooking dinner i was in the room just watching tv and chilling and on my phone while she was chatting ...