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So my husband cheated on me, with someone we work with. I know I should leave, but I hate the thought of my marriage failing after I was against the whole idea of marriage for so long to begin with. So I'm staying and trying to make it work and we're going to counseling. He said it was just a fling, and theres been no communication for 2 weeks with her. I want him gl officially end it, for 2 reasons. I want her to know its over and I want her to know that I know. He has agreed to this. I dont know what to have him say to her, in front of me, that won't just sound like he's only saying ...

My friend is supporting a friend who is suicidal. In the past when my friend was suicidal,I was there for them. I would go over,listen to their problems on the phone and reassure them. Yet when i was grieving the loss of my cat and another friend was sick,and now a relatives toe is trying to be saved due to health problems,and my problem with food was depressing me and my anxiety was high again,(i have reccurent relapses with anxiety over food),they told me to snap out of it as far as it goes with the cat and food problem and changed the subject to them and their suicidal friend when i mention...

First things first, long distance relationships SUCK. I’ve been together with my gf for a year before she moved away to another country forever. Apparently, she believes that she has a better future there than here. The thing is, our relationship hit rock bottom after she flew away. I’ve tried everything from facetiming her everyday, booking tickets and visiting her, and even sending her gifts for the past two years but we always end up fighting for a small reason. I’ve even asked for advice from my friends who are also in an LDR and even my brother who met his gf through an internat...

I lost my husband 6 years ago with whom I had 2 children. My daughter was 19 at the time and she was always driven to goals. After his death, she seemed to stay on target with regard to her goal, to be a lawyer like me. She eventually graduated college (early) and moved and went to law school and graduated last year. However, a few years ago, she suffered a head injury and some doctors thought concussion. She struggled through law school and even took the bar but failed by 2 points! She is still recovering and suffers some dizziness issues. We filed suit against the restaurant where the in...

Need some relationship advice. I have been with my man for almost a year. And I love him to death but there are a few things I don't feel right about. Before we got together I slept with someone else. He knows about it and he uses it against me everytime we fight. But since we have been together he has tried getting back with his exam wife. I found out on thanksgiving day. Then in January he found out about what I had done. And he used that to talk to other girls. We finally got passed that. Then I caught him on several dating websites and he claims "he was looking for me". Which I real...

I have this friend who at one point I would have called my best friend. Now? I don't even think of her as a friend, to be honest. We used to be super supportive of each other and would trust each other with everything. She was the first person I would turn to with my problems. Over the past year or so, though, there has been a shift in our relationship. Anytime I say I want to try something to be a better me (such as working out more or going on a diet) she gives me some negative response like "Oh you're too lazy for that." or "You won't survive any sort of diet." She critics me aggressively...

So I've been married for 12 years, and can't say it's been bliss. We've had our ups and downs, but for the past two years it's been a downhill spiral. Because we recently moved to the US, only I was working and she was taking care of our daughter (she works full time now). Between her meeting new friends, and me not really attending to her needs/being affectionate (honestly, between having a new job, new country, new everything, was very overwhelmed with a lot of things), she ended cheating on me (this was 3 years ago). Leaving the marriage wasn't an option financially and emotional (havin...

Good afternoon everyone! I am looking for some advice, so all thoughts welcome! I am in my mid-40s and met a lady of a similar age online 3 weeks ago, and we started talking on the phone almost immediately - we got on pretty well, had a good chat. I left it a couple of days before calling again - she didn't answer the call, but I got a text saying she wasn't up for playing games, that she has two kids, works full time, doesn't have a lot of time or money and as long as I understood that we could keep talking. I replied that I liked her and wanted to see where things go, so we carried on ...

Hey so I have an issue and would like some advice . my friend and her boyfriend are all close , they are moving out of the home we share and switching to a different crew so we will have opposite days off. They basically bailed on the lease we had and with miscommunication we got in a very ugly fight. Her boyfriend .Is always very calm aand rational so took over because my friend becomes very self centered and childish and unreasonable really. On our way home he asked if I'd like to have some beers and chat about everything, I agreed and we drank and he vented about his relationship after we t...

My gf is seriously bugging me with her online shopping expenses. Ever since she’s gotten a debit card from her new job, she’s been spending non stop on useless clothes. One example is her buying a winter jacket when she lives in the Philippines which is a TROPICAL country. She also makes up her own reasons on why she buys them in the first place. Her reason for the jacket was so she could wear it when she comes to “visit me and it might be winter.” Seriously guys… I don’t know what to do about this. The first time we met during an Asian dating tour, she didn't strike me as some...

I’m fresh off the boat in this whole “staying friends with ex” thing and I’m still kind of confused on the specifics. Is it a good idea to still share a Netflix account with my ex-girlfriend? We started sharing an account not so long after we got together. I remember us watching her favorite tv series and Disney classics during weekends. One time we watched this movie about some matchmaking tours or something and made quite a laugh about it. After our mutual break up, we agreed that it was very practical for us to share one account with two screens and split the bill equally. She se...

I really wanna surprise my girlfriend. I met her from an asian date tour last year and we have been going steady ever since. It’s a long distance relationship and I’m visiting her this summer since her birthday is coming up. I’m not really the type to surprise anyone. I’ve never really surprised my previous romantic partners but this time, I really want to show my girlfriend how much I love her. I really want things to work out. This is why I would love to set up a surprise for her but sadly, I have no idea how to go about it. I really need suggestions for this. Preferably suggestio...

I’ve been working as a destination wedding photographer for 4 years now and I’ve been around the country for weddings throughout the years. The only complaint I have for this job is the fact that the salary I earn is really small compared to other photography groups. I get paid per wedding so that means that when I travel out of town for about 2-3 days, I only get paid for one day. I don't have to spend for anything though since the client is responsible for the accommodations and everything but the fact is that working for about 12-14 hours per wedding and getting a relatively small amoun...

My brother is abroad for an international dating social event thing and he’s planning on bringing me home a console or gadget of my choosing as a gift since the technology there is cheaper than here. I have about a week and a half to decide on what to get and I’m too excited and thrilled to choose one. He told me I could get anything I want but I’d have to buy my own set of games but who cares! What console should I choose? I was thinking of PS4 but are there are choices that are better?...

I would just really like to understand what is going through my ex’s mind at the moment. We’ve broken up and made up several times before. The last time we broke up was our third break up (5 months ago) He is always the one to break up with me, and always the one to come running back. I usually make it very easy for him to come back into my life, but this time I’m playing very “ungettable”. As soon as we broke up, I unfollowed him on Instagram, but he did not unfollow me and he has watched every single one of my Instagram stories for 5 months. There has been no contact for th...

Hi everybody, I have a story when I had a profesional short-course in summer. During the short course, we have several lecturers and they gave us lecture according to their profession. All of them are amazing and mostly sits in high and strategic position. I am very serious in this course because I am looking a way to build my career so I don't expect anything other than learning. However, one day, I got a lecture with a " special" teacher. Do you know why it's special? Because he gives me a special feeling. So, it goes the same as usual, the lecture explains and we listen. Between the tim...

My wife and I have been together saying and marriage for almost nine years. Over that time I haven't been the best husband or father too our children. I've been good and meet with my wife because of stress about money and other things. After the both of our second child I basically stopped showing her any romantic attention at all accept for when she was ovulating. She told me multiple times to change my ways or she was going to leave but she always backed off and I never did. Until about a month ago. One night I was told to sleep on the couch and haven't been back in bed since. About two week...

Hi I’m new and have been searching for somewhere to get advice I don’t have anyone I can talk to about this. I’ve been married for 8 years we are a blended family and have 3 children together. For the first 6 years my husband was doing meth in secret I never new I had no idea so I was shattered when the truth came out there was all sorts of lieing and craziness going on and I still feel like I don’t have much trust even tho it has been 2 years clean I’m always on guard and suspicious. While he ended up going to jail I got me and the kids social houseing and make my own income to ...

I’ve heard stories about how people found their “soulmate” while on some adventure of a lifetime. It makes me wonder if the general thought of dating while on a vacation is actually a good idea. If I’m being honest, I’m actually considering doing that. I could download Tinder or any other dating app and just find someone I can match with wherever I’m visiting. In retrospect, it’s no different from those expensive dating holiday tours. What about you guys? What’s your opinion on this matter? Should I or should I not date someone while on a vacation? Would you? ...

I’m planning to surprise my girlfriend abroad with some home cooked meals when I visit her, and I just don’t know how to use one of those electric stoves. When she first invited me to her home after the Asian dating social we attended, I noticed that she uses an electric stove rather than the usual one that uses gas. I was planning on surprising her by cooking her breakfast in the morning but I’m kind of skeptical with my cooking abilities when using an electric one. Need some help!...

So me and this girl have been talking to some time now, we obviously like each other but whenever I ask her to hangout she comes up with some excuse. Recently I asked her again if she wanted to hangout but she said that her sister hates her for even talking to me so she wouldn’t be able to hangout. I know that her sister used to like me and I kinda avoided her without being a complete dick. Whenever her sister is around she kinda acts a little cold to me, but when we’re alone it’s like she’s obsessed with me. Another thing is that she’s going to another school in two months, ...

Hello, I don't know what to do as I have a friend who is planning on getting back with one of her exes who was abusive to her during and after their relationship. He would manipulate her and make her cut ties with anyone he didn't like or felt threatened by and they would argue the broke up just over a year ago but they would get back in touch here and there. After they split up he hacked her social media accounts and begin to post private images of her online and just hack her accounts in general. This happened a year ago sorry for not being specifiying then she got back in touch with m...

My girlfriend is from Costa Rica and as expected, she’s fucking amazing in dancing. The first time we got to dance during a Latin singles tour, I kept stepping on her feet. LOL. I honestly don't know how I got her. Guess that was a cute factor or something? Anyway, our first anniversary is coming up and I really want to impress her with some moves. I tried learning through youtube, asking friends, and reading online but I still mess up. This is my last resort before I hire a tutor of my own. So, is there anyone out there who can help and teach me how to dance properly? I prefer salsa, slow d...

I am a male, 38 years of age and will turn 39 in May 2018 (next month). I am married and don’t have any kids. I haven’t bought my first home yet. However I am planning to buy a home now and I will be able to buy it probably around end of this year. Then I am planning to have my first child. Am I already too late in life? I feel worried and a bit depressed. I feel I should have done this at least 5-6 years ago. Any advice will help. Thank you....

I recently found out that my husband has been texting a female friend daily and I'm very uncomfortable with it. I tried to talk to him about it but he actually got mad at me for snooping and said I couldn't be trusted. He said talking to her is like talking to any guy friend and if they wanted to date they could have a long time ago. They've been friends since childhood but only really good friends recently. I tried to put it all past me but I am having a really hard time with it. Tonight he was texting her all night long while we were out with friends and she was with her friends. And he se...

I've been with my partner for longer than 3 years now. I've always been the most communicative one. Recently, my partner has been telling more white lies. They are harmless, but a lie is a lie, right ? Also, when I try to understand something about him, he would tell me "you don't need to understand", which I find... insulting ? Abnormal in a relationship ? What do you think ?...

So i typed this huge wall of text, over 2000 words and it looks like i made a mistake when posting and lost it all. So i'm just gonna type my key point and add context in the comments as needed. I've had a friend who on multiple levels i just dont moral agree with, and want to know is she mentally ill, or just a genuinely toxic person. We've been friends over 12+, we share everything, and spent every waking hour together in one form or another, if not in person then literally on the phone all day. There is nothing about her that i don't know and vise versa. Now lemme explain where the is...

I would go and ask a professional about this but I simply don't have the funds for that kind of thing. I don't know what's up with me in all honesty. I can go into complete fits of absolute misery and self hatred and then come back feeling fine within a few hours. Sometimes I don't experience this at all. I'll have times where I'll go a whole day feeling normal or a whole day feel badly without any sudden changes so that's why I don't believe I am bipolar I feel there's something else wrong. Sometimes I feel very much worthless and ugly and other times I feel sexy and beautiful and happy. Ever...

What do I make of this? There is this man in my gym who secretly looks at me daily while working out; he also tries to use a machine near me. Although he knows quite a few people but he doesn’t speak to anyone or even look at anyone. I spoke to him about his workout about 3 days ago he was very sweet and interested. Post that we have merely greeted each other but not exchanged another word.he continues to slyly look in my direction! What do I make of this behaviour? Does he like me?...

I was checking my husbands emails, and came across one that had parts missing. I went to the trash file, senses on high alert, and found the missing emails. I am devastated. Lost. Confused. What does this seem like? Have I got it wrong? Transcript: 18th March Sunday her – Alone? him – yep her – aaww oh to be there lol him – wish you were! her – and why's that him – lots of things. Lol her – will get some money together and come for a couple of nights (Work stuff) her – cool. Are family likely to be away for may half term? him – not sure maybe going up to #sis...

I have been in a mentally abusive marraige for 2 yrs. I came from a home where this was the way things are. Husband gets what he wants in spite what or who it hurt or cost only to leave with everything and family on street when nothing more can be given to him. Its hard for me to break that mind set after growing up in it no matter how hard i try or know and tell myself its wrong. I thought it was just a simple issue but its growing worse continuously just like what i watched growing up. The lies go deeper, reasons and escuses grow thinner. I found out he was having online affairs only m...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Ok so like yesterday I was suppose to meet this guy (whom I have never met before) my dad lent this guy some tools and wanted him to return them to me because he out of town house hunting. He lent the guy these tools before he left for the winter. Anyhow the guy was suppose to drop them off at my place at 9. by 945 he hadn't shown up and I had an appt out of town so I had to leave. I tried calling while driving no answer. I sent a text and got a reply not long after. Anyhow s/o was working not far from home so I text the guy the address to drop them off there. Few hours later I get back from ...

Hello, I am 24 years and I’m in this dilemma. To cut a long story short, I was in a relationship with this girl who is about 8 months older than me. We went out for two years and then she started cheating on me. She cheated on me with three other guys,one who was my friend. I always forgave her and took her back after her cats because according to her she cheated because I got violent with her. Truth is that I only was violent when she attacked me first but yes I regret being violent so I always took her back. She later broke up with me and then begged me to be friends which I agreed to do...

Recently I broke up with my boyfriend due to lack of kindness and friendliness and ive seen him around and I've grown to realise he's not coming back. Its hard to say but I miss him. I still love him. How can I get over him?...

Let me first say that we have had a similar problem in the past with the same situation, words no actions. He sent inappropriate messages to a girl that we are mutually friends with. According to what I have seen and what they both say, nothing physical happened and she did not reciprocate his advances. I'm at a point where I don't know if I should stay in this marriage or not. We are christians and he said last night that he didn't know if he believed anymore. He has answered every question I have asked him and not defensively. He says that he loves me and doesn't want me to leave and t...

Let’s start off with me telling y’all how we met. I’m 21 and he’s 18 and we met on a app over winter break. We live in two different states he lives on the East and I live in the Midwest. I never did a long distance relationship before so this was all new to me. We talked everyday for the first couple months then it slowly became less and less to where we would go 4 days without talking. We were talking about me going to go visit him for spring break in the beginning like I had it all planned out. He even asked me to go to prom with him the month after. I said o...

Here is the situation that I am in: At the end of last semester I met a guy playing basketball with friends. I didn't really talk to him as we are both pretty quiet people and didn't have a lot of opportunity for interaction, so I wouldn't even consider us friends at this point. I went home for winter break and never gave him a second though. After returning to school, I continued to play basketball with the same group of people and he was usually there. He got closer with some of my friends and began to integrate into our friend group. One night, when at a friend's dorm, we hung out most of t...

I’m really hurting right now because my girlfriend still keeps me and our relationship as a secret to her friends. We agreed before to keep our relationship in the down low until we’ve gotten to know each other better. We know people are really quick to judge once they know that you guys met in some dating tours or the likes. Somehow, this agreement turned into keeping us a secret. People are asking her about us and she continues to deny that we’re together. Is she ashamed of me? Of us? Is she cheating? I honestly feel like a dirty secret and it really sucks....

I asked my wife to please not spend our anniversary with someone else during our trial separation. We have been separated a month and have made plans for couples therapy. Our 14th anniversary is in two weeks and she wants to spend it in Vegas with someone else. I asked her would she please not go on that day and she became very angry and said no. Was I wrong to ask that of her since we are separated?...

I am on benefits as I have many disabilities that prevent me working,last October my boyfriend of 10 years offered money to pay for my car repairs I told him I would not be able to repay but he insisted I take it,a few months later there was another repair needed and he said it looked like he would never get back the money he had paid out on it,that is when I realised he thought of it as a loan,I got a high interest loan in February this year and paid him half the money back,he said I should sell the car and get back the rest of the money he had paid into it so I did this,then the day after h...

Hi all, thank you for taking the trouble to read through, I promise to be concise and so will break it up into three parts, the history, relationship and problem. The reason I am here seeking help is because I am a shy person, living in a homophobic environment (southern India) mostly work part time and without any close friends. I met my lesbian partner through online dating website and so we don't move in the same circles or share any common friends. This relationship has entered its 12th year and we have grown apart so much we have no common ground. We lead seperate lives, we even watch se...

Hello and thanks for taking the time. First, a little background information. My husband (J) and I have been married 8 months, and dated for three years before we got married. I have always known his family didn't like me. I will admit that I was disappointed when I figured this out because I come from a small family, and his is large and so I was looking forward to being part of that. Our wedding was beautiful, but also a disaster. We had respectfully informed J's parents that we wanted an alcohol free wedding. I have many family members in recovery, and J and I aren't big drinkers. One o...

I'm 25 and have a huge crush on this girl who is 29. We were working in the same office and were casual friends. I guess she also likes me as I noticed her staring me several times. Also, she was the first to initiate the conversation most of the times when we met in the office (I am a bit of shy & introvert type). Also, when once we were passing by each other through the office corridor, I just walked straight without making an eye contact with her because of my nervousness, she followed me couple of steps and asked me why just I passed by without greeting or saying anything. So, because o...

So it started with college.. Everything was new and you dont know people around you.. time passed and there was this one person that i spent most of the time with.. Time passed and we both became best friends.. I used to tell him everything about my life and things were going fine just when i started having feelings for him. I fugured out he was straight and it was not gonna work so i kept my feelings to myself. There were certain moments which led me to believe that he was also into me. We both would watch movies togethet and in the middle I would rest my head on his shoulder and he also did...

Hey! Thanks for clicking on this and hopefully taking the time to read this and replying with advice! I need major help with this problem.. Okay, so I was talking to this boy (C) and we liked each other for a very long time and things got pretty serious but we never actually dated. My friend (S) knew about C and I. C and I eventually lost contact and basically stopped talking which really broke my heart. Meanwhile, S started liking this guy (B) who was C's best friend. Long story short B and S didn't work out and C and S got pretty close.. He later told her he liked her! She likes him too and ...

He want to kept me as a secret bcs I'm not that good enough to be compared with his friend's expectations abt his wife-to-be. Well, he's a perfect guy on everyone's eyes. ...

Hi everyone I need non judgemental advice from someone who is not emotionally involved. I have not seen my partner for 4 weeks, his choice, he says he loves me but as I wouldn’t move in with him he sees our relationship on hold, I have two children, living at home , in there 20s who are both at university so am financially responsible. I spend 2-3 nights at home the rest at his but it’s not enough. We have had a tough 2 years with a legal matter concerning his business so it’s been no fun. Also he would not get rid of an ex who regularly claimed undying love, she said he made her belie...

Both myself and my partner are fairly uninhibited when it comes to sharing space such as the bathroom, but I wonder if I could ask some advice please from a women’s perspective. A few years ago while my then girlfriend gatecrashed me using the toilet and seemed rather shocked to see me finishing peeing and shaking my penis with the foreskin pulled back. I generally pull it back to pee. It’s left my a bit shy of my partner seeing this even though I know I probably shouldn’t worry. Are most women aware of it being perfectly normal and would the sight of a weeing willy with a pulled back fo...

I was a little different from my childhood, I wanted to be an army officer, but unfortunately I couldn't . Since childhood days there were many boys in my friends, so I have never felt a different attraction towards boys. I started going to school and went to the college and then the university, I did not change my mind. All of my family's loved ones have had love marriage and they are very happy. When I first said them that I did not want to get married they did laugh at me, thinking that I was kidding but after some years they realized that I was serious about this. Now when I talk to the...