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I’m either delusional or I think... he likes me. He’s an amazing guy... nice, smart, cute. Amazing personality. Funny. Easy to be around. I could see us be together. His friend always flirts with me when he’s around and laughs. Is it his way of teasing him? I find him always staring at me. Especially when other guys are around me. And it’s the same when girls are near him. I get angry. My heart beats crazy around him. I’ve sacrificed so much just to WORK with him. He’s too nice to girls which gives me mixed emotions. But he’s still wearing the thing I gave him when we first met...

I have a 5 yr relationship with my bf who is my best fried and loves me madly but from last 3 years I am deeply attracted physically to a guy who is our mutual friend. This second guy went abroad for a year and during this time I tried to forget him and somewhat I did but still I was in contact with him through text. We are Muslims so I don't have done sex with anyone till now but my boyfriend did kiss n all that romance with me. From the first day of our relationship he wanted me to marry but because of my lack of focus and emotional infedilty I couldn't take a decision to marriage. My bf ...

I have no idea what’s wrong with me. I have completely destroyed my relationship. I can’t seem to accept it’s over. It was me that ended it but now living with sheer regret. I’ll give every little detail I possibly can. It’s long though I met my boyfriend October 2018 on a FB group. It was constant all day, sometimes we stayed up until 4am either messaging or on call. After 6 weeks, he asked to come visit me. We live 400 miles apart. He came to me in December 2018 for 3 days. We stayed at an air bnb. It was amazing. We both had the best time. At Christmas “18” he told me he ha...

I have been married to my husband for just over three years. Within a month of being married, my mother moved in with us. We soon found out she had early onset Alzheimer’s. It has been a very long road the last three years with having her with us. We have always had issues with my husband being a flirt and going too far. It’s been a constant battle of me not being able to trust him, because he will stop for a bit then start again. I don’t know how to even begin trusting him again. I also don’t know if he can ever stop. He swears up and down that he loves me and wants only me. His me...

My husband and I just got married in early November 2019. We bought a house in April of 2019 and were fixing it up every day until recently when we finally completed all the larger projects. At the end of October 2019, about a week or two before our wedding, my now husband's best man, who he has been good friends with since they were 5 years old, calls him to meet up because he has some important news to share. They meet up for dinner one night and his friend tells him that his wife asked for a divorce. They had only been married for 3 years but their marriage had always been rocky from th...

My bf and I have been together about 5 months and during that time, he has told me he has a gun collection and in the past has done some shooting (for sport of course). Recently, he asked how I felt about is he brought one of his guns to my home when he stays here for protection (I do live in a rural area and there is little if any security). Before I could give an answer he looked up to see if he gun carrying license was legit in my state and it was not he said. So I really never said yes or no. Truthfully, if he tells me the truth and leaves it really secure I don't mind it since I have no ...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Hi everyone, This is my first post on here, but I really could do with some unbiased advice. This afternoon I had a fairly big row with my mum, it’s not the first time we have argued about this particular topic and I’m really not sure how to handle this as she is telling me I am being unreasonable. This afternoon I was walking my dog, she is a rescue and I have been working for almost a year on her recall, today I thought she was ready so I let her off of her lead at the park, initially she was amazing and then she just bolted and completely disappeared. My dog is so important to b...

I have been with my partner for about 8 months. If I'm being honest it really is not the best relationship. Quite frankly, its awful but that isn't the issue today.. I didn't find out he was actually having a baby with his ex girlfriend until 2 months in. By this time I was actually living with him (very soon I know, but the circumstances were all a bit bizarre and I didn't have anywhere else to stay whilst waiting for my new house to be ready.) The fact he was having a bay wasn't really the biggest deal to me, he told me they weren't together long and they got caught, it happens.. A...

At first, I didn't hear from him; but about a month later, I did and really didn't reply other than say "I'm rebuilding my life and wish you the best". Then he reached out to me a few other times, the last one being the day before NYE to say it would be the last time I'd hear from him "for the foreseeable future" since he was in a "committed relationship and very happy with someone I know" and "I know you are with someone too since it fell in my lap through Facebook". I didn't reply. His last communication simply said he thought my new profile pic on Facebook was "beautiful" and "take care ...

I’m in my mid 30s and until last year I was extremely close with my parents. I found out that my mom was hiding several crucial things from my brother and I for years which led me to lose my trust with her. I have since backed off completely and only communicate or see them a few times a month. Both my parents try to guilt into feeling bad and that I should just get over it. It makes me not what to talk to them at all but I feel torn. Any advice as to how to gain that respect of boundaries and minimize them making those type of comments? ...

Met someone online and we have been seeing each other for 4 months. He claims to be totally in love with me and wants to make our relationship "permanent". He is almost 70 yrs old and I'm 61 yrs old. However, there's something I feel like it's weird, which concerns his behavior about money. Call me crazy but... He seems to rely on me to buy things and either says he'll share the cost or doesn't offer at all. First, let me say that when he visits on most weekends, he brings wines for us to dine with and almost always pays for our meals out. He also gave my kids 2 modest holiday gifts ...

I will try to be brief. I am 46, my gf is a 37 single mom (2 kids)…few months ago she went to a club with some girls, i found out that she ended up flirting and dancing with some young guy of 21. Before i find out she told me that some guy came to her, talked to her while she was dancing, but she refused him and sent him away. I found out that she danced with him, i confronted her with this, and said “yeah, i forgot, we danced a little bit, few seconds, but that’s it”, and she swore that it was it. After a while i saw some videos made at that club, and i saw that she danced in an inti...

So its a long story but bear with me. About a month ago I woke up to sudden immediate health issues and been rushed around to several specialist and hospitals. And during that time I kept missing work and shortly I was fired because I was told if I acted fast they may be able to salvage it. And at the time my partner said that it was fine and to take off as much as I needed to and he didn't have an issue. Fast forward 2 months and we were drinking and we got into an argument about him not communicating and he got mad and said that I was angry because all the overtime he was working. Which ...

I’ve been with my wife for over 20 years. We’ve had our ups and downs but the last three years have been terrible. Our kids are now nearly grown up and doing exams now ahead of going off to university and without the shared goal of bringing them up we have drifted apart massively. We argue a lot and I tend to retreat into myself and just avoid spending time with her. We still have fun together though and we also still have a sex life although I think we have quite different sexual tastes - luckily there is enough overlap to ensure we both enjoy it normally. My problem is that wh...

How far would a person go to keep there partner from knowing about their child? Is there a such thing as a fake dna test? If you go to a third party location that takes cash can’t you pay the person to alter the results? No lab blood work or doctor was there so who would really know if you wasn’t truthful? ...

Im thinking of divorcing my husband of 23 years. He as been on dating sites in the past, had a text message from a woman saying she was back from holiday, he as been on porn sites for years and years even when I told him to stop because of what it is was doing to me but he carried on doing it. he as been on 1o hook up sites in July this year which I found from the history on his phone and I also found glitter on the front passenger seat of his car which I assume he as bought a gift or card for another woman. he as never respected me and as even stared at women right in front of me on holiday. ...

I have this coworker. I think we both like each other, no one has asked anyone out but we’ve seen each other outside work a couple times and I’d said as far as coworkers go, we’re close. A couple months ago he got a store gift card for his birthday from our company. He told me he didn’t go there and he’d never use it. I told him you can buy anything at that store and I’m there all the time. We never talked about it after that. Two weeks ago he came in work and asked me if I wanted the gift card because he wasn’t going to use it. So I took it and a couple days later I went to ...

Hey all. My husband of 3 months, ( known him for 5 years). said something to me this morning after I said no to the breakfast he offered me. He said he was going to "slap me onto the floor." When I asked what he said, he replied "nothing" three times. Then he admitted yes that is what he said. I have a feeling it was an accident what he said, but it made me very uncomfortable at the same time. What should i do? He has NEVER physically abused me. But I have been phys. abused by two other men in my life. So this appears to be a red flag for me. How do I know if I am safe? How can w...

I started dating a man who is 71 yrs old and I am 55 yrs old about 2 1/2 months ago. I was crazy about him. I noticed he was very sensitive about his age. But when I looked at him I didn't see age. We slept together about 4 weeks after we started dating. After our first time together he made a comment about how I probably was going to move on because we already had sex. Ughh. Then he started making more hurtful remarks. Just out of no where. He belittled my feelings for him actually the whole time we have been together. Broke up with me 3 times as well. Each time something happened my feeli...

Hi, i am in my mid 30s with 2 kids. I went from a 13 year relationship where I was lied to pretty much every day. My ex had a major gambling addiction. There was no trust in the relationship atall. I knew everytime I was lied to, and I tolerated it. I went from being very trusting and open and carefree to suspicious everyday and my expectations dropped massively for that person. I always expected the worse and 9 times out of 10 that's what I got. I excepted and put up with being lied to. It come to be the norm. When the relationship eventually ended it was because I couldn't deal with the lies...

I broke up with my ex about 4 months ago after a very long term relationship. He became very controlling and verbally abusive towards me during the last 6 months. Overall, I'd rate the relationship a good one but we definitely had our ups and downs. We never lived together but he really was pushing for that during the last year together. Since our breakup he has tried to reach me by text under the guise of "caring for my well being" and wanting to share what's been going on with him since "we were partners for almost 7 years". I have not replied except for one time and just told him I'm...

I'm not sure there's any properly coherent way that I'll be able to explain this, so I'll just do so in bullet points: -I fell head over heels in love with this guy (I'll call him C) who my friends and I are almost certain felt the same. (~Early 2019) -I thought everything was going extremely well between us, even though I had to go away for 6 weeks or so (Jul 2019) - when I came back everything was still really good, and I was about to take the first proper steps with us. (Sep 2019) -I then find out literally the day before I was going to tell C how I felt, that another girl (who he ...

My boyfriend n i have been together for 2 yrs but have known each other for close to 20. He has GAS n lately he's been flying into full blown rates. I try to reason with him but it angers him more. Things are getting broken n the apt gets trashed. Hi behaviours n fits are starting to scare me. I've been in several emotionally, mentally n physically abused, one of my abusers was friends with him. I left a narcissist before we got together. His behaviour is triggering past memories and situations n is really starting to scare me. I also had 3 grand mal seizures not long ago. I know he would neve...

Hi, it’s a touchy subject but basically me and my dad have never really had a close relationship. I am now mid 20’s and have tried to arrange to see him at Christmas but it seems as though he found multiple excuses as to why he doesn’t have time and made me feel like a bit of a burden or inconvenience. He never messaged me to ask if I’m okay and we see each other about once a year probably and if so I’ve had to arrange it. He has another family married and children and (mostly) his wife will message me or my fiancé to say they want to see our puppies but never say they want to see m...

I've been seeing someone for a few months and it's been somewhat intense (at least for me). He's talked about living with me and while I know folks in their older age don't want to fuss around much if they are looking for a serious relationship and also while I'm looking for the same thing it seems that once I'm involved, I become sort of numb to the whole thing. While I care about the other person and want to spend time with them, I get really anxious and nervous about making a commitment. I admit to taking a peak at the dating websites but not reaching out to anyone else. I've thought in ...

My ex boyfriend had an affair but never ask me to leave the relationship I left so a month later he wants to apologize and admitted it was a mistake how should I handle this ...

Hello all, thanks for listening, I'll try to be brief. I am in a desperate situation with my family. Basically, my older sister moved back home with my dad 2 years ago, because drinking took away her ability to be successfully self-employed and thus pay rent. My dad got sick of bailing her out but didn't want to see her stuck so she moved back home. The drinking continued, in the evening only, she complained non stop about how awful it was living at home, a very negative way of looking at life, all fuelled by drink. She is a horrible person when she is drunk, and then during the day she is com...

My boyfriend n I live in a rooming house filled with addicts n mentally ill ppl. He freaked out at me for me not wanting him to give our wifi password out, if we did, everyone would have it. I feel like a bit of a bitch but I pay everything from rent to groceries to bills. He pays for nothing. Was this the right thing to do or am I really being a bitch??...

Hi there, I have an older sister, who is in her early 40’s. We get on, Although she rarely texts me, and hardly ever calls. I make sure I text/call her regularly. Growing up, we never talked relationships, crushes etc, and to this day, it’s not something that we discuss. She has had one boyfriend, which lasted a year, and not had ANY type of relationship since, that was over 20 years ago. For the last 15 years, she’s lived with my parents, even holidaying with them (sharing a room too!) My worry is that she’s wasting her life, and will end up very lonely. My parents are thankfully ...

I have been with my husband for 14 years. Married for 3. We have two children 5,6. We have drifted apart. We don’t communicate. No affection or love or support from him. He doesn’t seem to think of me, like if I’ve had an interview he won’t ask how it’s gone...because he just doesn’t remember. When my Nan has been rushed to hospital, he doesn’t ask how she is. The only contact we have is sex probably every month or two. Which is awkward because we just don’t touch each other any other time. Sometimes we don’t even kids during sex. Hes recently given up smoking marijuana an...

Hi! I'm new to this forum. I just have some doubts and i need exterior opinions. I've been with the same person for the last 21 years, 12 living together. We have a 10 year old son. He was my 4th boyfriend but the only person i've ever had sex with. From the start we had issues. But things just got worst over the years. During this time he has yelled at me, threatened to beat me with words and by punching the wall next to my face, although he never actually touched me. He also blames me for is anger issues, says i'm a lousy lay, a lousy mother and a lousy housewife. Yes, i just work a par...

My husband and I are driving to another state to spend Christmas with kids/grandkids. We are struggling financially to the point that our son is paying for our gas for the trip down. I just can't get past the awful feeling that we can't afford presents for everyone. The kids say "Don't worry about it" but I feel like a terrible grandma. How can I get over this feeling and enjoy the holiday?...

Is he expecting me to be someone different? He says I don’t validate his feelings. We live together and in our mid 30’s. Some examples include: Me not apologizing for taking up both parking spots and him having to wait a few minutes for me to move. I didn’t know he was coming home. He says I never listen. When he has 3 days off of work, I made plans for a few hours with a friend and planned on spending rest of time with him he says it’s not enough and I should have asked what we were doing first cause he’s rarely off. I even had surprised him with tickets to a game the next da...

Hi, I'm a 19 yr old girl from Ireland. I'm halfway through my second year of college and I'm really unhappy with where I am. I don't like my course, I don't have many friends even though I live in the city where I grew up and I'm unhappy with living at home (my house is 20 mins away from the college). I really want to change course completely and maybe even move country, like to the UK, Canada or the US. I really just feel trapped where I am. I have a history of depression and an eating disorder and lately I've been really struggling with a relapse because I'm so unhappy. I feel so lonely ...

I fought to be with my partner for so long last year, then we just separated because he didn't know what he wanted. I came back into his life and he gave me a whole "I let you go and knew youd come back" bullshit. He always has to be right about everything. Sometimes I'd lie to see if he would go along with something I'm saying and he would.... He's so childish. He has absolutely no care for other peoples feelings and I get that it isn't on purpose but I feel like I'm in a relationship with a robot sometimes He makes me happy but recently... I just don't know......

I've recently moved in with my partner into our own little place and since then we just argue. We lived at his dad's place before for a while and things were always going really well but for almost a week now all we do is fight. I feel like it has become such a sex based relationship recently and it makes me feel shitty. I'd throw mood swings but his response is the typical man reaction of not doing or saying anything about it. He just acts like I'm not there and plays fifa until crazy hours of the morning. It's come to the stage where if we aremt having sex it's argument after argument. I ...

Hi We are a couple and i have a fantasy about my girlfriend being with another man she once talk to about while having sex and now i can't stop thinking about why am i so turned on about this fantasy ...

HI, My BF of 3 years, today confessed he's been seeing his EX behind my back I'm, I had sensed something was wrong; he would never admit anything was going on. Today I ended the relationship. I need advice on how to move on and deal with the "uncoupling" and all the emotions that go along with that. I'm hurt, sad, feeling of despair....

my co worker and I spent the summer getting pretty close. Some of our coworkers think we’re dating, all of them think we like each other a lot - when he’s in the office he’s constantly at my desk, he even joined my sand volleyball team this summer. He’s always finding reasons to be at my desk or in the same places I am. Unfortunately, he put in his two weeks and is leaving our company. I don’t have the guts to ask him out (and that won’t change), but I have told him I don’t want him time leave, he’s also told me he doesn’t want to leave bc he likes working here. I’ve al...

I’ve been with my partner for nearly 9 years. He is great in so many ways but has some traits I just can’t seem to understand. He works incredibly hard and can really make me laugh. Although is super unsociable and lacks any romance! I’m so romantic and love affection, he likes it in the bedroom only. No complaints, gestures or anything like that unless it leads to sex. Without meaning to I’ve met another guy. Yet it’s even more complicated. He is married with two children but unhappy at home too. He is the complete opposite to my partner. He calls me beautiful, gorgeous, he has ...

Been seeing someone for a few months and our relationship has progressed quickly. I’ve been a widow for 8 years and this is my 3rd relationship in that time period. My adult daughter who lives far away met my new boyfriend for the first time on thanksgiving. My son has met him several times and at first he was unsure about him but says he likes him more now. I told my bf that my daughter can be critical but she’s generally fair minded and protective of me. My bf can be somewhat bossy and he is generally very kind but does have an edge on occasion and some would say a bit of arroganc...

Hi, my name is Sam, I am 13 years old and my parents filed a divorce about a year ago, I have to spend weekends, tuesdays, holidays, and school breaks with my dad. When the going back and fourth beetween my mom and dads house began, my dad was so mean. an example of this is that my mom had stayed at dads house because the wifi was down at her house, and she needed to use wifi overnight for her job, and in the morning my dad was very mad because there were a bunch of unwashed dishes on the counter that HE put there the other day. He blamed it on me and my brother and said that it was perfectly ...

I am in my late 20's and have always struggled to have a close connecting relationships its my mother. I am the oldest child and our family has been through a lot like many others. I admit I am very stubborn and connect better with my father since she share the same qualities. However, my entire life I have never been able to tell my mother about personal (relationships, sexual life, serious emotions I have had) like other girls my age have. She is not open and is very judgmental. I think it partially is because of how her parents raised her, very conservative and her parents passed when she w...

This is incredibly long, I apologize in advance. I have been struggling with this for years now and I feel completely lost on what to do. My two best friends and I had been close for 10 years. They were my family and helped me through every hard time in my life, and celebrated the good times with me. However, I was constantly their punching bag, the brunt of their jokes, and constantly received their criticism (not in a healthy, constructive way). I was going through a hard time in my life and instead of supporting me, I felt they ridiculed me. Both friends and I “broke up” at the same ...

My marriage as been a toxic one. I regret the day I met and married him. Was looking through husbands history on his phone came across a site that sells perfume. It also showed a site for the news and another site which I can't remember what it was for. He told me he had not been on the perfume site and he as not bought perfume for another woman. Said someone is out to get him. He as said this in the past when I found dating websites in the history too. He is getting a new works phone and said he was looking up a new phone case on his works phone and in the history it shows other sites that he...

My daughter has not yet met my new boyfriend and I've been seeing him for 2 months. Long story short, he wants his daughter and her family to be with me and my family over Thanksgiving. When I mentioned his family joining us to my daughter several weeks ago, she was dealing with a recent illness and said she is fine with having just him but wasn't up to meeting his daughter, her husband and 2 little kids. My bf didn't mention it again until we were out with his daughter and her family a few weeks ago - he said to them, you are welcome to come to my girlfriend's house since it's much closer ...

here it goes....broke up with a long term relationship partner only 8 weeks ago. We had an intense relationship. I left him a few times over the years but always came back after a short time period based on his promise to "change" (i.e., not misleading me) and while that worked for a while, eventually he went back to his old ways. Despite this, I never wanted to give up b/c I loved him (don't believe I do anymore though). He has attempted to reach me via text, etc. (no calls thankfully) and I didn't reply until the other day - told him I'm out of town but would get in touch. Well that a wee...

I'm writing now feeling mixed emotions after a fight with a friend a few weeks ago. This friend is difficult to say the least. Very emotional, sometimes aggressive verbally and sometimes talks with an air of what I feel is entitlement and likes to shout their opinion. We've had several fights in the past which have led to weeks of radio silence only to give it up. It feels like a cycle. This friend has been having a lot of therapy and suffers from borderline personality disorder. I also have had mental health problems and have recently felt strong enough to cut down my medication. The probl...