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Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Hi, my two sister-in-laws (SIL) and Mother in law (MIL) have always disliked me from the beginning.There'd be family events which my Husband and I go to where the SIL's would both completely ignore me/us, and not even say hello. My MIL would condone their behaviour. There'd be times I'd go to my MIL's church and sit alone, she would sit 4/5 seats away from me as if she was embarrassed by me. My husband's family refused to come to our wedding abroad in India citing work as an excuse and poking fun at the Asian culture, but a year later, they all went to an extended family member's wedding a...

Over the last eight years of my twenty five year marriage has reached the point we only make love around six times a year. No other intimacy such as kissing or cuddling. We hold hands and give each other a peck on the lips. I have tried to talk to her but I get the feeling she is not listening or is not interested. I adore her but I am worried she is having an affair though I have nothing to suggest it. When we go to bed she will roll over and go on her phone. She says you can cuddle me. If I try anything she says it late or kissing leads to other things though she will be on her...

Hello dear people, i was here some years ago regarding my relationship and was helped tremendously (mostly by soulmate, thank you so much for that). now i returned because i am seeking some help with my living situation. 2,5 years ago my mother sadly died from cancer. She was living with my younger brother who was then 17 years old (turned 18 later that year). i am 7 years older, just so you know. I then chose to move in with him into their 42m² flat for a lot of reasons. i am going to tell you a little bit about that. first of all i moved in because he needed someone to be the...

Hello guys, this is quite long so that’s the warning lol. A couple years back when I was 15 I was in a relationship with a guy, lets call him Max. We were young and stupid but he was incredibly emotionally abusive to me during the whole course of the relationship. I was having suicidal thoughts daily, I was incredibly depressed and had 0 self esteem. Despite all this being blatantly obvious, he still never cared for him. One night during a heated argument about me smiling at some guy or something I said something that to this day haunts me. Craving the slightest bit of attention and c...

My boyfriend has a history of sometimes telling me white lies or just outright lies about his finances. The reason why the truth is so relevant is because he wants to live in my home and pay me rent. I know he lives paycheck to paycheck with little left over but here's what he told me yesterday: I specifically asked him how much money he has left in his account each month after paying bills and he said about $1,000 but last month he had only a few hundred (which he later said was closer to $150; in reality I know its $130). I asked him to repeat the answer which he did. For example, I know ...

I'm unhappy in my relationship sometimes. It's very complicated though as one minute I can feel loved up with him and like I'm happy and then my mood can change and a few hours later I've got this voice in my head which says I'm unhappy and I don't truly love him which yes I don't think I do. Bottom line is I don't really know what love is and I know you shouldn't compare relationships but I don't always get everything so intense with him or butterflies in the same way I did with my ex. I'm young too just to clarify I'm 20, so I'm not going to know an awful lot. I know it's unhealthy to drag t...

I was married for 30 years and now single for 12 years. I am dating someone for the past 7 years, but it is up down up down all the way. He is a difficult person to the extend that whatever I do, I am called stupid etc. We got engaged a couple of months back, then I discovered he is seeing others behind my back. He claimed it is work related, but the smse shows a different story. My problem is, I find it hard to leave him. Even now I told him I am done. I need to know how to go about it as I always take him back....

Hi, this isn’t a big deal. Just something that has been bugging me. I went out with some friends the other night and met this girl. Now I don’t want to sound like a wet lettuce, I meet girls all the time, but for no reason I can place this one seemed special. Like massive attraction or something. We had a great night and exchanged numbers. I texted her the next day and it went back and forth until she went to bed. The next day I was feeling impulsive and asked her if she wanted to see a film with me. I couple hours later she replied saying sorry but she has to say no. She’s moving to ...

I very recently found out that my husband is bisexual after 20 years of marriage and 3 beautiful children together. Needless to say we are both devastated but at this point determined to work out a stronger relationship as a result. He has confessed to exploring these feelings in the last couple of years with minor encounters with men which while they provided instant gratification, have left him feeling guilty and isolated. Our own sex life has been difficult for a while and now we are able to discuss why.... He has never spoken of this with anyone else and we are currently trying to rec...

I was dating a guy for six months. We had strong feelings for each other and such a good time together - i felt like I connected with him in a way I hadn’t done before. The affection he showed towards me at time was what I’d always hoped for. The relationship came to an end when he couldn’t fully commit to me due to ‘not being where he wanted to be in his life’ including his job and home life. It also came to an abrupt end as I discovered him still to be using dating apps even though we had agreed we were progressing towards a relationship. We spent 4 months not talking. I remove...

Hello Everyone. First things first. Id like to give you a summary of myself to give some context to the rest of the post. I'm a bachelor, 26 years of age. Stable job at a Liquor store (we are open 364 days a year), bought up to 20% shares in the business this year. At this time I can support myself easily, save and have some fun. I have a place to live and a car that is bought and payed for. Got a few friends. We do sports, go out for a drink or smoke a Joint and have a chill session in our free time. As I see it there is no point in this post if I'm not brutally honest. So here I go. ...

A year ago after graduating from college I moved into a house share after getting a job. I counted myself lucky as my female housemate was very friendly and welcoming. She took me under her wing knowing I didn't have any family or friends near by. She introduced me to her friends, and invited me on nights out. I showed her I was thankful for her support by keeping the house tidy, dealing with our pain in the ass landlord, cooked meals and I did lots of favours for her. We were close for about 9 months. Around May this year, I noticed she had subtly started to make comments about ...

Recently I had an argument with my partner because I was not in the mood for sex. This is a rare occasion and we had had a lovely close day together. However all day long he was trying to jump me and for personal reasons I didn’t want sex. We then sat down later in the day and he started going on about it and kept questioning why I don’t want it, until I started to become wound up. He then proceeded to accuse me of getting wound up and that he is simply asking me in a loving manner what the problem is (it was not loving it was just getting draining cos he wouldn’t let up). This often...

Sometimes it feels so good to be with my boyfriend who I know loves me and other times I feel like I want to run away. I felt this way for a very long time and believe it’s because he makes me very uneasy from a money standpoint but it in particular because he tends to spend more than he should and has an attitude of entitlement. I have even left him a few times briefly for him to try to get his act together telling him we can’t live together until and unless he becomes financially responsible. He brags that he’s really responsible now and in a very in a very good place financially. ...

I am in my mid 40s and my wife is about five years younger. We have 2 kids who are both in their teens. My wife's brother (who is about 15 years younger than me) and his wife (about the same age) have recently started their family. They have one child who is 6, another who is 3 and another on the way. They have got into the habit of holding 'family' birthday parties to which they invite us (including our kids), my wife's parents and also my wife's brother's wife's parents. I dread these occasions, as I feel no connection with my wife's nieces/ nephews, I have little in common with my wife'...

Hi I will try to keep this as brief as possible but there are a few things I really feel I need to get out there. I'm a 31 year old F who has never had a long term relationship. I've had a few short ones and a few 'almost' relationships. HOWever, looking back and analysing these in hindsight -I've come to the conclusion that I've only ever been the 'stopgap' girl. Only one person has ever declared that they love me and that was false as it turned out a couple of weeks later that I was a rebound and he went back to his ex. I took a break from dating for a couple of years to focus on myself...

Background: I am in a long term relationship for 7 years (met young), not married, not living together but planning on it within the next few years. Recent Developments: I met a few (5) new "friends" through a work situation where we became really close but we all quickly went in separate directions. I like them all and we decided to keep up with each other. Out of the 5; two I chat with very briefly and short conversations, two I chat with in length but less frequently than the last who I talk to every day in detail. Problem: The last person has now become a constant in my daily rout...

We have been married 25 years. Over past few years as our children have got more independent we spent very little time doing anything together. He likes sitting reading paper & watching tv, I am more social & like being active. He is retired & I still work. On my days off I suggest a walk or go something together, which is always refused. We both have elderly parents who would like to see more of their grandchildren but he refuses to visit them, maybe a few times a year and it’s done under duress. His inactivity I can cope with but not doing things together means I miss that sense of ...

I have been with my boyfriend a year tomorrow. I am not sure if I am expecting too much from him or if I am well within my rights to think he is not putting in enough effort? Positives: he makes me laugh a lot, he tells me he loves me and texts me every morning when he gets up. We chat on the phone too. I am relaxed around him and feel very comfortable to talk openly with him. Negatives: He doesn’t have transport so I find myself always driving to his house and when he does get transport (borrows a van from work) he won’t always come over or he will make excuse after excuse because h...

I ran into a coworker while walking near work on my lunch break. I was texting with someone and smiling while looking at my phone. When I looked up I saw him looking at me and smiling and seemingly happy to see me, but as soon as I looked up he looked away and completely avoided me and avoided eye contact. He could not have tried harder to not look at me at that point. This is someone I have a very casual working relationship with and he always says hi at work, sometimes going out of his way to do so but he's very unpredictable and hard to read. Any input or opinions would be much app...

My ex and I were together for 18 months and we were good. Had some down moments but we worked through this. I have recently moved iced she started masturabting alot next to me when she thought I was sleeping worst of it she was on Facebook looking at ex's guys photos ect, I felt like utter crap and worthless but i didnt feel like she has cheated but it ruined my self esteem. So I gave myself some time to think on how I would approach this. When I finally confronted her few weeks after it, she didn't give me any anwsers to my questions and said that the spark is gone and wanted to call time. ...

Hi I’m new to this so bear with me. A just over a week ago I rang up to cancel my income support claim as I’m starting self employment. Today I received a letter from DWP saying I’ve to attend a interview under caution relations to fraud. I’m scared stiff!!!! Anyone know why this has happened????...

Hi, I'm Joe, for those of you who are curious about the title. I've posted here a couple of times a few years ago and it always ended up as a sort of diary, one that I used to get order in my train of thought. It helped me out quite a bit, especially when the diary started to become a conversation consisting of long thought out monologues as a response to one of you guys (the advantage of a forum, you can take as long as you like to write a thought out response without being interrupted by anything else). Just as last time I'm honestly going to let my subconscious write this out for the mos...

I am in need of someone to talk to about everything. I've been diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and Bipolar Disorder. I am 31 years old and 8 months pregnant as well as trying to remodify a custody agreement in order to get my 8 year old daughter home. I also help take care of both my parents who have heart failure and other diseases. I am currently unemployed and living at home with my mother. She needs the additional help as she is disabled with limited mobility. However, my mother despises the father of my unborn child. His name is literally unspoken here. Which causes me to lie t...

My mom's friend created a chaos and absolute turmoil into our family. When we moved to NJ awhile back she hit on my dad and introduced him to a woman who became my dad's mistress for a few years (My dad was happily married to my mom for 32 years). In addition, she humiliated my mom in so many ways yet my mom never cut ties with her (since she believes in being amicable with literally everyone). As if what she did to my dad and my mom weren't enough, she even gave me problems too. She gave me a bad reputation and made me suffer in many ways. I don't understand why my parents didn't (and still w...

My boyfriend wants to move in. We’ve been together for many years and love each other. But I’m very settled financially have a good retirement and ear a good living. I told him he can’t live with me until I see he can support himself so when he moves in he can pay something towards the household expenses. He has improved somewhat but breaks even with almost nothing left in his checking account at months end after he pays his bills. He brings in over $4000 a month from working and social security and I know he doesn’t gamble or anything and his rent is $1400/month so I’m confused...

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 years. A couple years ago he cheated on me with a mutual friend, we’ll call her Emily. While sleeping with my boyfriend, Emily continued to pretend to be my friend. We moved passed it because he was young and it was a mistake. Emily was out of the picture for a couple years. He still has some friends from the friend group but recently Emily has been trying to come back in the picture. We have been fighting recently about it because it makes me uncomfortable and it’s really hurtful to me. Im fine with him hanging out with the old friend ...

My husband went to our local store to put the lottery on. He said the sales assistant woman said to him he can share it with her, I assume if he won. He said he answered back, if you want to share £10 then you can. He said she was in her 30s, he is 54. was it banter or was she flirting or was he flirting. I don't know why he told me what happened and now I'm wondering if he wants to go back the store to see her. There is a smaller one he can go to but he said he does not want to. he said because our last landlord lives near the smaller shop and she never done any work on the house we rented f...

Hi! I live in a Utah, me and my wife been together for almost 3 years. Currently i'm going through very emotionally exhausting divorce. We don't have that much money, maybe you could reccomend any places where i can find free legal help, or give an advice on what steps should be taken while going through a divorce process. I'll really appreciate if you share your experience of going through divorce, it's a very hard time for me....

My husband gets five weeks off every year. We stay away a few times a month on the weekends at a travelodge which is the cheapest place to stay most of the time. We had a couple of days away in April this year in a nice hotel not a travelodge then in June we had a week abroad but I ruined it because of my insecurity. I got jealous he was looking at other women in front of me. Now everyone is going away and going for ten days to two weeks and I'm really feeling it. I feel jealous and we would of had longer away but we moved house a couple of months back and could not afford any longer then a we...

Today I broke up with my partner of 14 years and the father of my child. He is a good man and a good father and I love him but I'm not in love with him nor have been for about a year. Over the past few months relationship doubts have plagued me and today I finally told him the truth about my feelings. We agreed I would spend the night away to give us space but I have been crying uncontrollably for the past 6 hours and feel part of me has died. Looking advice on what to do? Thanks...

I am male, married since 2007, one son and upto this point have always been absolutely 100% secure in the relationship with my wife. We work at the same company but different locations on the site. She works in a 2 person team her and her male boss who is single and they travel about 4 times per year usually with others from the office, groups of 4/5. I've always encouraged this and think it's great for her to travel. However, after a recent night out she didnt get home until 3am. Which is quite late for her. She told me that her, her boss and a couple of her other work friends stayed u til...

I am a widow who fell for a man whom i thought was like my wonderful late husband. We went to a restaurant,while in the cue,this so called lover learn onto my shoulder from behind and said,"woof" then tapped my shoulder and said,," no i didnt meen it your lovely really" I am 46 he is 80 but he reminded me of my husband.I was so upset i told him off and cried.Should i apologise to him as i did tell him firmly not to insult me....

Long story, short. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years told me last night that he loves me but is not inlove with me. When i asked what he means by that he couldnt give me any more information on it, maybe he felt uncomfortable because he saw i got upset? The rest of the evening he continued to act as if he never said it and as if things were normal? Please help, has anyone ever experienced this before? is the relationship basically over? ...

Hi all. I've never spoke about my issues to any one before, years of seeing councilors, I've physiqually can't get the words out .. however I have now discovered I am able to put my problems into writting. I'm just turned 32, I have my own property, good job, savings, and a newly loving partner.. say that to anyone and they will tell you that your on top of the world in a great position... little do they know the torment inside of me! So i was brought up by loving parents moreso a loving mother, my dad did love us but don't think he knew how to express it.. I am one of three children,...

Well, it's been suggested to me in other threads on this forum that my ex girlfriend may have had narcissistic personality disorder. I finally realised it for myself now xD. All along I knew she had an inflated and fragile ego. But I initially didn't recognise there being a 'love bombing' phase, as it was only just beginning to fade out when things went wrong for us anyway. I also completely forgot as things progressed with us that in the very beginning of the relationship I had a subtle feeling of unease. She just seemed slightly less than genuine. Which is something I'm usual...

I have a sister-in-law whom I first met in many years ago and my brother dated her for 6 years before he married her. However, on the day of her bridal shower, I realized that my brother shouldn't marry her. She was only nice to me and my family just to have my brother who was a catch. She was kind of ugly, chubby, and not that bright. She even told us that no Korean guys liked her (her dinner date made her pay for her dinner) and actually my brother didn't really like her either. Yet, my brother kind of gives in if women are forward to him. My brother was good-looking, making good money and v...

Hallo I don't know where to start. I feel so stuck in my situation and just not able to make a decision and feel like I am going crazy. I moved from my country to UK 3 years ago because of my English boyfriend. The beginning of our relationship was so nice I was very much in love I know is a part of a honeymoon period in relationship and doesn't last forever. In this 3 years there was a many time when he let me down I kind a lost trust in him. Iam not talking about cheating I trust him with that but he likes to spend a money and that's the point which is very important for me. I need somebody ...

My boyfriend went to prison for over 2 years... amazingly, I broke the stigma and remained loyal the whole time. I was working 60-70 Hrs a week and shaved my head, which, in the small town we were in at the time, constitutes you as a lesbian. So, it wasn't really hard at all. Well, now he's been home for a year, and suddenly he thinks I was cheating on him while he was in there... digging through my phone, old conversations... even requested Google to send him archive files of browser history from the past 4 years!!! I thought I had nothing to hide, until he just woke me up saying he found the...

I really need some help and perspective with a situation with my boyfriend. We have been together for almost 2 years, I thought things were great. But then this year around May or so I was contacted by a female friend of his who tries to make me believe that she was with him for 3 years and they are living together among other things. Basically saying I'm the side chick. He explained that they were involved in the past not while we were together and showed me evidence that she was lying about it and she always wanted them to be together. I believed him and said we would move on. However, s...

My older online friend and i met through a game.After i broke up with my ex (long story but it had to with my friendship with this person) 1 day or 2 later he confessed to me and insisted trying giving him a chance, even though i rejected him and explained the reason to him. So he kept telling me cheesy things(which i hate) and how special i am to him and he somehow wanted me to tell him the same thing. When i was having fun with other people he pointed the fact that lately i enjoy my time with others which made me snap. He complained when i didnt tell him to come online and play, which...

Hello, I a 30yo woman that's been through hell the past year. Well, a year ago, I started a relationship with a 40yo man. He promised me all I ever wanted : kids/family ( first red sign). În a couple of months, he started to backdown. He spent Christmas with me but around New Year's Eve he just vanished (found out later he was with his ex). In the same time, I found out I was pregnant. He came back...nlbut unfortunately I had a misscariage at 12 weeks. I had to go to the hospital by myself, bleeding and in excruciating pain. He went to work, and did not visit me in the hospital. Needless...

I have been married since 1995. I don't have very many friends, as the only one I had since we were 21 was the so-called 'best mate' who waited until 2004 to bed my wife claiming his own marriage was in trouble. The four of us had been friends for years until 2005 when the thing broke.However, the coward went back to his own wife (money reasons). I stuck by my wife and we had a daughter in 2007, but she never apologised and said it was my fault she had the affair. Things have never been perfect since and my wife has developed severe OCD issues which she knows aggravate me. I met my "wife at...

I have decided to come on this forum many months ago but I gave up quickly because I was too busy with my highschool life and I came back now due to my serious feelings if depression and anxiety. It’s going to be a long ride. If you feel bored please turn back. I don’t want to waste anybody’s time with my insecurities unless they identify themselves in my stiuation or want to put a good word for me. I am a 16 and a half years old gay boy and I live in a modest middle class family. Ever since I was born things have been complicated for me. I was born with some weird digestive pr...

I was with my ex gf over a year we really didn't have arguments,but when she needed me most I let her down so badly she had a breakdown,which im totally disgusted with myself ive tried to apologise numerous times but deep down I know she hasn't forgiven me,we were texting but every time we texted I told her I love her and miss her deeply pushing her further away,she started to use the taxi company I worked for knowing it would be me picking her up and on the both times she got taxi we would hold hands and I begged and pleaded with her she kept saying no chance,i have said to her that she is hu...

This is going to be a heavy read, and should probably have some warnings posted. Not sure how to do that, so just giving fair warning that this will cover several triggering topics. So to anyone that decides to wade in anyway, thank you. We were notified last week that our friend and coworker, Daniel Salcido, had been involved in a murder-suicide, and their 2yo son was missing. They have since found Aiden. He was deceased. We're waiting for autopsy results. It's every kind of messed up, but we're clinging to the slim chance that Aiden's death was accidental, and that prompted the mu...

I’m really after some advice. This all relates to two relationships so I’ll give you a bit of background on them. Me and my ex split up 5 years ago. We were together for 3 years however I thought of him as my great love. He was the first person I really wanted to be with. We had so much in common. Eventually we moved in together, but it just didn’t work. He always seemed reluctant to settle down. I wanted kids etc, he wasn’t sure. So he ended it. We continued to sleep together ( silly I know) for a year, until we both ended up in new relationships. I couldn’t get over him, let it rui...

I apologise in advance for this long post! So me and my partner have been together 7 months now. It did start long before then, the chemistry was so intense, but he actually worked for me, so we had to make some changes before we could be together properly. When we were just in the friends/employer capacity, he disclosed a lot of his personal issues/relationship problems to me. Including he finds it difficult to trust after many hurtful situations etc. And I told him that I’m a little paranoid after my past too... We decided that the bond was undeniable and we would work together to ove...

Me and my Girlfriend have been dating up to a year now, The relationship was so good and communication was fine... one day she told me she needed her space..I was so impatient I always wanna talk to her despite she told me she needed her space. It got to a point she was so mad at me and tell me and she brake up..she blocked me in all social media including WhatsApp. But because she love me So well and I love her so much she gave me a last chance and make me a deal that if I ever make her feel so bad and exhausted mentally she will be cut me off and brake up with me.. I promised her I will be v...

One of my husband's coworkers, a very attractive single female recently moved to the same street as us. She keeps asking my husband for lifts to their workplace which is 1 hours drive away, due to her car being out of action which my husband agreed to for a week. She keeps texting my husband over the weekend to ask for more lifts and ending her texts with a kiss x. I would never text my work colleagues and end with a X. Is this something I should worry about? ...

My fiancé thinks that he's a Slytherin when he clearly isn't. All his friends and family have told him, but he just won't listen! At first, it wasn't too bad, but now he's started acting cruel and malicious in order to seem more Slytherin! It's tearing his family apart, putting a barrier in his friendship circle, and wrecking our relationship. He's not the man I met. He's becoming obsessed. How do I persuade him he isn't a Slytherin? Thanks!...

I took my son to taekwondo and had to send a meesage on the taekwondo group the coach instead of answering on group answered direct on what's app. Then a few weeks after that he asked me who my friend was because I mentioned her on my status. So he had been checking my status. I was married and going through a divorce so for three months I didn't talk with him he said he didn't want to come inside my marriage. But he was always watching my status. When the divorce was finalised. He sent me a message in what's app saying hi I have had this message from a girl in UK do you think it's real or she...

Hi My girlfriend walks her dog everyday, one night they were being chased by one of her neighborhood’s dog. That dog bit someone couple days ago. She’s said she would talk to the owner. I am really worried about her now and offering to walk with her every night for about 2 weeks to make sure, then decide upon the situation. She thinks we have schedule conflicts and didn’t want my offer at the beginning. As her boyfriend, I will do whatever it take or however long to protect her. Even after the 2 weeks period and everything seems fine, I was still planning to walk with her maybe...

At the age of 16, I had my first kiss with a guy I liked. But we were both young, and he didn’t want to be in a relationship. He encouraged me to date someone else, and I did. We remained friends whilst I was in a relationship with someone else. A year later, I met him outside and we started going out, texting, to a point I had to hide it from the guy I was dating. We got together and lasted up until 2 months ago. So we were together for two years. On New Years, we spent our day together and promises of love were given. Two weeks after that, he started getting distant. He wouldn’t answer m...

Im stuck in a very bad situation due to my bad life decisions. Im in a relationship with a girl I really care for, we've been together for a year now. She's the most loyal person ever and would do anything for me. However she has many different idea of what she wants in the future that don't quite match what I want. She wants kids soon, and doesn't want to enjoy being independent. She is also not sexually active and wants to wait for marriage before starting it with me. I on the other hand don't really want that, for I am more materialistic and want to live my life without restrict...

Hi everyone, I’m a 47 year old male married for 15 years and I’m so frustrated about my marriage. I love my wife even though she puts me through hell daily. I’ll get straight to the problem. She tells me she hates me but then does nice stuff for me. She has asked me to leave that she no longer wants me around and I refuse to leave due to my kids. But then she gets upset if I go fishing with my buddies. She calls me an a__hole constantly but then sends me funny texts at times. She hasn’t slept in our bed for about 4-6 weeks now but then asks me to go for a walk with her. The weirdest...

I have been in a relationship with my Fiancée for 4 years now, we were/are due to get married next year on our 5th anniversary of being a couple. I am living abroad, in her country. She demands I earn a certain amount of money each month, otherwise she gets extremely mad and leads to huge arguments, I also have to put the majority into her bank for savings. She is very aggressive and when she drinks, in which recently she has been a lot - not coming home until 4am even 8am sometimes. She wakes me up, shouts at me and is very violent with me. I have tried leaving her in the past, but...

Been together with fiance for 4 years, we've been living together and engaged for 3 years, I'm a 42yr old male and shes a 40yr old female. I just caught her lying for a second time. This time she said she was at her parents but she was actually was helping her ex-boy friends mother find a new home. A year ago I caught her talking to him several times for 20 min, she says they didn't talk in a while and wanted to see how things were, apologized and said it wouldn't happen again. Too me this seems like low level bs, but I don't need to accept or tolerate it, and really have no proof she isn't...

Probably not in the right place but I'm stuck and need advice so here goes. My boyfriend has a foot fetish. I've known about it the 2 years we've been together and I entertain it regularly and play to it. But I recently found out hes been buying foot pics, and this has made me feel uncomfortable and insecure, and wonder if I've been enough for him. Hes also used them when we've been intimate too. I've tried talking to him about it but he didnt try to understand, and it ended in a massive argument. I just don't know what to do, or if I'm even being reasonable. Any advice would be appreciated ...

I would like some advice. I am 36 years old, married (4 years) been with my husband 12 years in December this year. I live in the UK My issue isn't related to the relationship with my husband, it is my mother. I feel like my relationship with her has totally broken down and I don't know what to. I don't want to fall out with her completely but I feel like I may have no option due to the effect she is having on my mental health. I had a big argument with her on Wednesday this week. The argument stems from the fact I have asked her to take me to hospital in a weeks time because I am due t...

My partner has an issue with fat people and thinks they are disgusting.I was 19 and under 10 stone when I met him. Over the years I gained weight and lost it.I had two daughters by c section and gained 3 stone with each pregnancy. I always lost the weight quickly and went back to my pre pregnancy weight or below it. However, maintaining my weight was tough. After my youngest daughter was born(11 years ago) I started to gain weight slowly over the years. I am now 3 and a bit stone over what I was when he met me. When my partner is angry with me he calls me a fat bitch, lard arse etc He constan...

I'm 38 years old. I was married for near 11 years. I found myself divorced in a college town in Feb. of 2017. I struggled with alcohol addiction as a result and spent the next year trying to get back into an unfamiliar dating world filled with younger women due to the college town I was living in. In Feb. of 2018, I met an amazing woman who was 24. (I'll call her Helena). Our foundation was built upon a physical foundation and we quickly became best friends. She is a fire fighter/EMT and thrives on serving others. She was an easy 10 and by far the most beautiful woman I'd ever has the ple...

I'm 25 years old few months to my 26th birthday. I had my bachelor's degree 2016. My family help me a lot during my studies out of my home country. After graduation I decided to go back home so I can help my elder brother who is a business man and he needed help because it was a new business at that time and to hire an employee will be costly for a beginner. We came to the understanding that I'm going work for him for sometime then he will help me further my education (masters studies) abroad. That's he was going to pay for my visa fee and and school fee for the first year then I will take ...

I'm 27 yrs old.. I went into depression 8 years ago.. but still taking medications for it to not to return back..my parents have been searching for a groom for a long period of time..but whomever we approach they slide away after knowing about the medications.. I'm totally worrying a lot.. I feel helpless.. sometimes I get a feel as if I can be a spinster throughout my life.. but now fortunately I have a good career.. I'm a teacher n I'm loving it..I thank God for it.. but still being single and not getting a good partner keeps me worried.. I also have tried proposing to guys whom I like.. but...

Hi guys i came here because i really miss my two siblings. 😭😭😭😭😭 they are in province and i really want to meet them to be in them. I miss my family so much. My two siblings are only 5-6 years old. I miss them so bad we are broken family. I cant help it 3 years are passed but im still shock regarding of my family being broken 😭😭😭 i have no enough money to go there, to go in province. I really miss my siblings so much 😭😭😭😭 After my family broke i got pregnant and till now i cant help with my siblings. Even i have a baby i really miss them 😭😭😭 i ...

I do a lot for my friends. I made hand made gifts for one of my friend's birthday. I made a really beautiful chart for another. Not only this, I am always ready to help them in any matter whatsoever. Now my birthday is approaching. Its this weekend and i know i should not be but i am being very anxious about the fact that have they planned something for my birthday? Because if they didn't i will be really heartbroken. Is it natural to expect some efforts from them to make me happy on my special day or is it too much? ...

My wife is a pretty busty lady but that has become a problem to me. It now appears every male in the neighborhood want to have it with her. They can't stop making a pass at her even when she's with me. How do I deal with this problem? I am not being jealous but I am feeling threatened....

I’ll be as brief as possible. And thank you in advice for your time and thoughts. My wife and I were invited to her brother’s dinner party for his birthday. The problem is, one of her brother’s friends will be attending who when he was 21 made out with and fondled with my willing wife to be. The problem is, she was much younger - 14 at the time. They were making out on a bed during one of her brother’s parties and luckily her brother come in and broke it up and kick ed him out. That was 15 years ago. They have since reconciled obviously. But I know this and i’m supposed to have di...

I feel down at the moment because I feel such a failure in life. I left school with no qualifications and done cleaning jobs and looked after other peoples kids and that's about it. Im middle age and look back and see where I didn't put in the time or energy to better myself and now im paying the price. my 3 children have all been to university so have done well going there and I really want them to have a better life then me which they have so far because when I was there age I was having them and settled down at 22, far far to young. my son as got a girlfriend and her parents are well off, h...

Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for almost a year now. We are both 18. Soon i will be joining the air force and she starts college in august. Half of the time we spent together was long distance but since then she has moved back to my state and things have been going great. Except one thing. Her parents do not like me whatsoever. My girlfriend deals with a lot of stuff. Depression and anxiety being the main thing. And she is very strong willed. However her parents think that somehow i am feeding into her depression and digging her into a deeper hole. This, as my girlfriend can...

I'm in that stage we're I'm not sure if I should leave my boyfriend or wait to see if things change. The issue is, I feel like it's always me that reaches out to him and makes the plans, he never seems excited or particularly happy to see me, where's I've been counting the days. He doesn't show much affection towards me, and it makes me feel unloved and miserable. I feel like I'm constantly trying to make him happy because am scared of losing him. He tells me that he thinks I'm too good for him and that il leave him or cheat on him like all his previous relationships. I'm sick of being compare...

I have been in a relationship with my partner for 13 years this year, we have 2 kids. At the start of our relationship it was great, after we had kid no1 it started to change, we spent less time together, I felt I was the only one trying in our relationship. When kid no2 came along it got worse, we have spoken and nothing has changed, I'm the one to makes time for us, I'm the person who makes any effort in the bedroom and when that does happen I don't know if I am making her feel good. That being the case I sadly have started to look for what's missing elsewhere. For the last two years I ...

I want to know if my guy loves me back or not? We met when we were in the same class .. Unfortunately one have to come to another city .. We learnt about each other perfectly when we are apart . I expressed to him that I love him but he is not moved on from his past relationship.. I know him past from almost two years If I describe my (now) relation with him ...it's on a smooth way (We talk to each other whenever we are free(almost daily),he gives me special treatment ,we go to meet each other often ,love each other's company......like a relationship having love bonds ) But h...

I am 39 years old and my girlfriend is just 18. We have been together for about six months and things couldn't be better. We enjoy many of the same activities and genuinely enjoy spending time together. Our families, while initially disapproving about our age difference, have come to realize that we love each other very much and now get along quite well. Our sex life is full, vibrant and satisfying to us both. Now that she's recently graduated from high school, I intend to ask her to marry me within the next few months, and I expect that her answer will be yes. My problem is the way we're p...

I don’t know how to address the issue I have. Let’s start with some background about me and my situation; my wife and I have been together for 22yrs, married 19yrs. For the most part things have been good, we have a lot in common and make each other laugh, and have a son together. The problem is that I suffer badly with depression and low self esteem, which I can never seem to be able to discuss with her. She doesn’t seem to handle those kind of things very well. I’ve had episodes of low mood before but it never seemed to be a problem until 5 years ago. As 2014 started I had a parti...

I have recently got into an age difference relationship. He's 26 years older than me. My only worry is how do I tell my mum, family and friends. Any suggestions? Please don't judge, useful advice accepted....

I just turned 30 this year and for the past 5 years have been in a relationship with a 32 year old man I met at a college graduation party. When we first met he was really unhappy in his job and wanted more for himself. After a couple of years of dating we start talking about the next steps to our relationship and he tells me that he wants to marry me and have a family with me but again, he’s not happy with his job and feels like he should be more of a provider before we start that part of our life together. About 3 years into dating he decides that he wants to go into wind energy. Basica...

Hey, there is a guy in my class who claims that he's an introvert (and I guess, shy too) and a month or two ago we began texting each other. We both are 17. I had shared a secret with him after which he shared about a girl he liked. We got a little closer but I was irritated and stopped talking to him much. However, our convos were on. Some time later I regained interest in him. He initiates convos but doesn't talk much except for "sup" and all. He's flirted once or twice. He doesn't talk to me in person, i.e. in class. We meet almost daily in class but he doesn't approach me. He says h...

I’ve been living with my partner now for a year He’s moved here from Manchester sold his house and has bought our current home I’ve been renting mine out he won’t take any rent from me to help towards the bills I’m fully aware that this his his home which is fine The problem is - he wants me to sell my home and pay 20% off his mortgage with the equity then put me on the deeds to cover myself he’s agreed to do this through a solicitor The problem is he won’t look at my point of view which is for me to keep my home rented out for another year j This is because I’ve had a...

Hi, I'm writing this as I recently got in touch with an ex of many years,to whom I hadn't been speaking for five years. I was scrolling through old pictures on Facebook a few months ago when I noticed an old picture of us and felt a pang of nostalgia. We were 16 on the year we were together, and due to us being immature and stupid kids at the time, we broke up after a few months of relationship, over the fact that we sometimes argued and lacked the maturity to stop being childish over stupid stuff and communicate with each other. After that, I cut contact short with him and never seeked to ...

I have been married for 24 years since the age of 19. I have 3 children. One is early 20's and the other two are late teens. I have always thought that my husband was emotionally devoid and not very good with finances. I always made excuses for him in my mind but that was pretty much the extent of it. I never really dwelled too much on his lack of emotion etc. About 7 years ago I was diagnosed with breast cancer after being the primary caregiver for my mom who also had breast cancer and died of it ultimately. I was diagnosed less than two years after she passed. My first major hurt with...

my husband and I have been married for two years. During this time we have faced many obstacles. We actually got married in my fathers icu room because he was dying of lung cancer. My husband also had been diagnosed with cancer but not as serious and he is now cancer free. One month after our marriage my father passed away and our lives changed greatly. We now also had to take care of my mother who has dementia and Parkinson’s disease. My husband stayed with her during the day while I worked. About two months after my father passed away my husband became very distant, spending most of his ti...

My 2 biggest goals in life are completely opposite of each other and cannot exist at the same time. I have just realized this, and it makes sense now why I have been stuck and unhappy. Whenever I have one, I am unhappy because I don't have the other! But they are both equally important to me, so I don't know how to choose! I have been trying to find a way to have both of them but I haven't been able to figure it out yet. Maybe someone can offer some suggestions I haven't thought of. So my goals are to have independence and freedom. Here is specifically what I mean by each of those; -Inde...

Have you ever had a problem that you are afraid to tell your parents because you don't want to make them feel sad? I'm 16 and when you'll see me in personal, maybe you will mistook me for someone in her 20s or 30s. My problem is I look old for my age, as people say. You may be thinking "Nah she's overreacting" but even me, I am also confused why I am hurt when my classmates and best friends call me granny, when people say I am the mom of my three year old sister and people who are older than me call me 'maam' or 'madam'. I don't understand why when I look in the mirror, I see myself as a perso...

To understand the problem it is required to know what kind of person I am. I am somewhat that kind of person who believes in humanity over caste religion and social standard rules. I was in relation with a guy almost around 8 years. My family and his family knew it from years back. I am very emotional and loyal lover who is very serious and insecure about my relationship. My guy is very different from me.He is very much workaholic and less talkative stubborn and somehow we used to get less time to share our personal space. It was difficult but somehow i was trying to accept his nature. Im ad...

Been married about 5 years and we went as a couple to marriage counseling before we were married. She has controlling parents and especially a narcissist father. The counselor suggested we move away, at least a days driving distance. She recently retired and no we're only living an hour and half from her parents. Her father constantly calls her trying to get her to come over to their house. Her parents are in their 70's and she is in her late 50's. One day when we had just returned from vacation in North Georgia in the mountains I was showing pics I took and mentioned that is where we wa...

Ive been with my husband 27 years and we have sex about 3 times a week. I give a lot of affection to him in and out of bed, more then he does with me. we hadn't had sex for a week because of my period and I said to him, all good things are worth waiting for. he turned around and said, let him know when its worth waiting for. I felt hurt by this comment and he said he did not mean it at me he meant it at himself because he had his prostrate removed and he is not the same anymore and how do I get any pleasure out of it now. he then started going on about it but I think it was to feel sorry for h...

Can abusive incidents happens from gaslighting? Can gaslighting affect the person's personality? I want to know all these because my husband behaving wrong and negative with me, nowdays. He lie without a reason, sometimes I feel someone is controlling him. Does someone has control over his mind? I don't know, what's going on? Kindly, help me! ...

What should you do if you find someone's hidden a camera in the bathroom and probably has been doing it for about a week or so (on purpose ) ...

I will try and keep this succinct, but it is an ongoing problem and may take some explaining. Sorry in advance... I am 21 years old and live with my parents. I went to uni in September 2019 but had dropped our by November due to severe mental/physical health issues. My physical health is more or less okay now but my mental health problems have persisted & are considerably worse. To give a little context, my parents have both taken antidepressants as long as I am able to remember & I have now been taking them & seeking other treatment (e.g. counselling, CBT, psychotherapy) since I was around...

We've known each other for lil over 3 years and I've only became her best friend for the past 7 months, I've always liked her. She had feelings for me just a little while ago as well. During this 3 years she dated a not so close friend of mine(2years) and then one of my best friend(6months) then there's me(2days). She broke up with me because she wanted to be left alone and not ready for a relationship right now. She has anxiety and depression so left alone isn't really the best case for her.. I still want her back, I don't know what to do....

I am from Pakistan and from a village. My family moved with me from city to city for my education. When I was 15, I started talking to a boy on facebook. We exchanged numbers and I started calling him. But we were just friends at that time. When I turned 17, he asked me if i loved him. And I did. When I was 18, I met a person in college, he was very different than me. But he was very serious about me. So I broke up with the person whom I met on facebook (Lets call hum john). And I said yes to the person who was in college with me (Lets call him bob). We have been in a relationship since then. ...

So here's a little background info. I'm a guy and my best friend is a guy who lives in another state. We've known each other for several years via PlayStation and just recently over the past few months, have had the opportunity to finally meet in person. (10 years in the making and he's visited here 3 times and I've been there once). It's only after our long awaited first meeting that we made the "official" jump from friends to best friends. We just have a really good connection with each other, despite the fact that I'm a gay male and he is a straight male. It's the weirdest thing now th...

I moved to Canada when I was 12 from the middle east. When I started school in Canada I had no friends, I was shy and scared of my new surrounding. 3 years go by and I still didn't make any friends. People thought of me as a shy girl who was lonely and probably had some ties with a terrorist organization, so they stayed away. Eventually, I started high school and made some Hispanic friends. I thought things were going to be fine until they started making fun of my culture and called all of my people terrorists. So after that incident i decided i wanted to switch schools and i did. I made one f...

Hey! I'm here for some help... I've been wanting to learn Japanese for years. I even started studying the basics on my own but could only go so far and then my motivation started to drop which made be realise that my next step should be a classroom environment course. Online courses just won't push me. So I have been looking online trying to find some classes but it's all gobbledy-gook to me. I need help in finding a course with decent reviews and one that can work around my schedule. Travel is ok most of the places I've looked seem to be in London. Pretty please someone help me....

alright, i have 3 friends. every time i hang out with them, it’s really fun, even if it’s only with 1 or 2 of the friends. however, i really dislike thinking about spending time with them. it’s like taking a shower. i hate the thought of going out with them, but then i feel just fine once i'm there. i’ve always been a fourth wheel though. we’d always make jokes about me and my personality, but lately i’ve been thinking that maybe they’re not joking. recently, i’ve learned that they've been hanging out a lot without even asking if i wanted to come. i wouldn’t care if it was...

Suffice it to say that I've been through thick and thin with my boyfriend's financial woes for YEARS. While he seems to have improved somewhat thanks to my help and breaking up with him briefly b/c I was so frustrated and freaked out by his irresponsibility, he is "responsible" now. But he just can't seem to always budget himself and barely gets by paying his bills even though he works and get social security so I've not allowed him to move in. ​ What about retirement? He claims he has his act so together that I don't need to be concerned, but don't I? How can he retire any time without wo...

My and my partner have intercourse about 1 or 2 times a week but days aparts. This week we had sex on Monday and it went great. Last night he mentioned how aroused he was and we planned our intercourse today after work. After him giving me oral sex i proceed to give him some as well. I knew i was doing an excellent job but he kept getting hard then back on soft. I have no idea , i have a feeling he is not sexually attracted to me anymore. any advice as to why this may have happened or what can i do to fix it. ...

i was a bit of a controlling dick to my ex, we did no contact for a bit but then had a good conversation yesterday. i told her i herd her favorite song on the radio and how it made me laugh. then today she text me asking why when ever she (my ex) used to play it or sing it i got mad. (its a long story why i did ) but why would she be suddenly looking for answers ???...

been with my bf for several years and we are generally compatible except when it comes to $. He has only a small amount of assets, I don't. He only earns a modest salary, I don't. I am an avid saver, he isn't. but...we are compatible in many ways like interests family personality sex I can't help myself, when I see him going off track financially and any financial obligations, I speak up and try to do so nicely but firmly. I feel like his mother and only say something when it really bothers me. He knows I know his bank account information thinking that would make me feel bet...

My ex and I broke up around 5 years ago, we stayed in touch after and she kept being close to me but then a year after the break up I seen her with someone else and confronted her at which point she said she moved on, this broke my heart so I stopped speaking to her although I didn’t delete her off my social media. Another year after that we slowly started to speak again, then I worked out that the other guy cheated on her, we stayed in touch and she started to get close to me again and even apologised for the way she left, I asked her if there’s any hope for us but she said no, I was real...

Ok, I'm new here so I will try to keep this short and to the point. A few months ago an old friend from 20 years ago had contacted me on FB and we started talking. And out of the blue he told me that he was Bisexual and I don't know why he told me that just randomly since we hadn't talked in over 20 years. He told me that he just likes his close friends to know so there is no secrets. Well, I had a small crush on this guy back when we worked together back then. So, anyway We started to talk a lot and would hang out. But, then He had moved away to live with his son that he had just found about ...

People keep asking me if I'm gay or straight but I never had a crush on anyone. I never dated any one. I never even kissed any one. I simply have no interest in any thing involving a romantic or sexual relationship. Is it weird..Is it normal? Should I experiment even though it makes me feel really uncomfortable? I'm only 17 and I'm not sure if this is something other people feel?...