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We were bestfriends for 5 years now. After being bestfriend for that long we decided to drink, only the two of us. we literally drank until were wasted. We are drinking at his yard and decides to come in for i am wasted and i can't even walk straight. We are very close that cuddling is just normal. So we cuddle and ended up having sex after 5 years. Now the problem is, no one wants to open it up. He don't want to talk about it base on his actions. I tried talking about it but he always have his reasons that he is going somewere and have a lot of things to do. So i just end up not talking about...

"I don't see why we can't just relax and continue No big deal" This is his answer, I'm confused, what does it mean?...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Ok, so I'm a single male bachelor, in my early-50's, good-looking, in good health, and quite wealthy. I want to find a young woman who would like to travel and see the world (probably most women would fit this description, no?) with me paying all the expenses (sounds great, right?). Will there be romance? Maybe, but only if we both want it. The problem is, I am only interested in women in their 20's and early 30's. And most (but not all) women of that age are looking for men about the same age (or maybe just a bit older). Still, it must be the case that young women exist who would jump a...

Hello folks, looking forward to getting some advice on my issue here. To make a long story as short as possible, I have fallen completely in love with a woman I work with. I was the first to reveal my feelings and though she didn't immediately reciprocate them, she has come around and we get along as well as two people can. Until now, I had never understood when people talk about how they just "know" when they have met the right person for them, but I do feel that with her. We not only work together, we talk on the phone throughout the night and we even hang out away from our job, going...

We got together in 1992 for 3 years but split up and he married and I was in a relationship with someone when those were done we got back together and he moved in after a year he cheated with someone younger so we split again and when that ended we got back together again but I couldn't forgive him so he finished it for good last year but we remained friends and got on well talking every day all day and ended up sleeping together..He lives at his mums for now as she has dementia 3 weeks ago we argued and he said I had no compassion and he ended it for good even as friends, now I can see he has...

I met my bf at work we got on well and spoke laughed there's 6 yrs difference im older everything was fine and I could see a future with him roll on 6 months later and we started dating...3 months later he moved in with me,we have lived together for 17 months. i just don't know if this is really worth it and have no one to talk too so opinions really would help Our first so called magical Xmas together he went to his family at 10.30am and returned home 10.30pm didnt see a problem but went on about how miserable he was until I saw the photos which suggested otherwise so no magical first Chr...

Okay so I'll try not to ramble but I've been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I think I love but I cant stand to be touched, kissed nor be around him. It sounds awful, but the thought of having sex with him makes me cringe also. Why do I feel this way? I feel like I love him but is it more the thought of losing him? I suppose when you've been with someone so long it's like losing a best friend. But the thought of ending it with him breaks my heart because I know he will just be devastated and I cant bare the guilt as he wont see it coming.. despite me refusing sex and beint kissed e...

So my ex and I broke up ages ago and I matched with his friend on tinder. Then I readied back on Snapchat and he never really spoke to me on it so I didn’t think much of it. But one night I was at a party and he was swiping up on my story and the next day I seen we had a conversation and I didn’t think anything of it lol. But then one night he text me asking did I want to go for a drive with him and I agreed and he collected me and we drove around a little bit and then we had sex. We didn’t text or talk after it but he would watch my story and like my Instagrams lol. So then he stopped l...

Hi my husband has been working away now for 6 years it was only suppose to be short term but 6 years has passed and he is still working away. We have two kids and I work a full time job. I have ask him a year ago to please try and get something closer to home as I am struggling to do it all. With the kids getting older and they are wanting to do a lot more activities I feel like I’m forever on the go and now my husband announces he’s going to work Saturdays as well 🙈 This is putting a lot of strain on our marriage and I’m now feeling he just wants to be the weekend dad and im really s...

Basically, there are two friends of mine a guy and a girl, who were* very close to each other than me last year. However, when we get back together after summer holiday for a few months, I notice that something has happened between them and they keep ignoring each other. I'm feeling really awkward whenever I meet a guy friend while I'm together with a girl friend. The situation is harder for me now since I become really close to both of them over summer through chat and calls. I'm feeling unable to ask what happened exactly as I will feel more more awkward if I know. Obviously, I don't want to...

There are two guys, one’s name is Emmanuel and one is Evan. I did a yolo on snapchat where I got a lot of messages and it turns out theres a lot of guys out there that like me, which is strange. I got out of my comfort zone and started opening up as a flirty person, that no one thought of me as before. Well, both Emmanuel and Evan hmu after wards. I knew Emmanuel for 2 years now, ever since we met a xc camp and he confessed hes liked me all this time, which is crazy since I also have had feeligns for him too. Only thing is that he went to another high school and he gradua...

First off, I'd like to give some context. I am 19 and about 6'1 while my girlfriend is 18 and 5'7. I'm not submissive, and I've had multiple girlfriends in the past meaning that I'm not desperate. However, recently I've begun dating this relatively quiet girl who was pretty hot. At first things started really slow but she soon started opening up to me and our relationship reached a personal level. Recently, whenever we are alone together she requests that I sit in front of her on the floor while she is on the couch. At first I would have none of it but she pleaded with me so I eventually ...

I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 12, it sounds stupid I know. Almost six years later we’re still together. Long story short, I have PTSD regarded an incident that happened four years ago with my mum’s ex-partner, an incident when he “sleptwalked” into my room, knelt down beside my bed and started to run his fingers up and down my leg and over my body when I was asleep. I believe that this incident is one of the reasons why I suffer from PTSD, it’s one of the reasons that I often tend to feel claustrophobic and numb. Anyways, there’s been a few incidents with my boyfriend...

So my issue is with my friend who i’ll call Carl for privacy purposes. But I’ve been friends with Carl for a while now and last year he had broken up with his girlfriend so we became close & started on the low seeing eachother. Well due to circumstances with petty ex friends he ended stuff with us but we still remained close friends/ friends with benefits. Carl got back with his girlfriend a while back and well this is gonna sound bad on my part but Carl & I have continued our sexual encounters. When they initially got back together is wasnt that often due to quarantine but now its bee...

Last night, I received a personal message on Instagram from a freelancer/model. In a tongue-in-cheek way, this person accused me of emailing her an application to participate in the television show "Naked Attraction" (basically a dating show). She also accused me of wanting to see her naked. I tried responding on Instagram but I didn't think my response reached her as she's already blocked me. I then tried emailing this person to clear myself and I was careful in how I formulated my message, with respectfulness in mind. I explained that I was not involved in the show in any way and ...

Recently my husband and I have been going through a rough patch. I earlier this summer found him messaging other women non-explicitly; saying things such as I could kiss you , or how he could ride his Harley over to see this other woman. Both of these messages were to two different women. I’ve confronted him and asked him how he’d feel if the roles were reversed. He was remorseful and begging me to not leave. So I stayed thinking it wasn’t going to happen again. My husband has always told me without trust there is no love , without honesty there is us. Recently we got into a big fight,...

Hello everyone. I'm in a situation where I don't know how to react. Only I met a guy who I fell in love with. Currently he doesn't want a relationship because of his past. So we're friends for now. That works out decently. I got to know his best friend who became my "best friend" too. I learned that she had feelings for him twice but it didn't go any further because of him not wanting a relationship at all. A few weeks ago after her (his best friend) boyfriend left her she talked to to man I fell for ( let's call him K.) about how she was in love with him twice. But she (let's call her P...

My husband keeps online cheating this has been going on for years on and off he keeps deleting the apps promising never again Last year I had enough i felt worthless so I did the wrong thing and wrongly had a affair we sorted it out promised never again we got passed it thought all was good But I found out again last week he is at it again 😥 his excuse he gets bored when I work ok I work daft hours as a community health care and he works and he is home alone 2 evenings a week and he says that why he started but I have to work I feel I should end my marriage as I cant take no more ...

My Fiancè and I have quarreled this many times. I do something for him like make his breakfast or lunch in the morning. Or dinner in the evening. Doing his laundry. And a lot of the times it's far from perfect. Most of the time I get a thank you. But occasionally I get a "thank you, but..." To which I've done something that needs improving. The kicker is while my Fiancè and I were dating he said thank you consistently and everything was an attitude of gratitude even if it came out ugly or imperfect. Since getting engaged and moving in and I had taken on a more domestic role in the ...

I've (23F) been with this guy (28) for about 1.5 months. There have been little things that he has been saying casually or in a joking manner which sort of worried me but I'm not sure if they are "red flags". 1) He asked about my income and savings a few of times and each time I refused to tell him the details because it's irrelevant to me. He also (in a joking manner) asked me to cover more than half of bills that we may have ie dates as I earn more than he does. He has never disclosed to me how much he makes. I don't really care either. 2) After I agreed to be in a committed relationsh...

My boyfriend doesn’t really want to have sex with me anymore. We are a BDSM couple as well, so spicing it up even more would mean killing each other in bed. I have sex with him whenever he wants. But when I ask him when IM horny he always makes up an excuse. What do I do?...

Please I need advice: I have been 6 years with X. The last 3 years we were long distance. X discarded me several times the last couple of years, then would come back, discard me again and the pattern would repeat. About 10 days ago X hoovered again and claimed to have realized that I am the one etc. So I agreed to renew our relationship . We currently live in different countries. On Friday we talked, X was talking about moving back in with me and we happily planned to do a video call for Saturday. Saturday came and I had a medical emergency to take care of (overnight my child and I became sic...

I've known for 18 months and I am finding it hard be his friend knowing this.hes separated two years and there are 3 kids. First isn't his and is now 14. He doesn't s on terrible terms with his ex as he found out she had a few affairs.to make it worse his cousin is the father of his oldest I know its none of my business but he's my best friend ...

I recognize that I live my life and don't live my life based on the happiness of my youngest son. I keep myself isolated because he struggles to find a girlfriend. He started living with me when he had seizures 3 years ago because the person he was living with was afraid to witness that type of thing again...So he has been living in my basement. He has mental health issues...He had open heart surgery when he was a baby..I know his "brain" was deprived of oxygen during this time because he was blue all the time which led me to have him checked out by a Dr...He is a very ANGRY person.... A...

So during lockdown my partner of 3 years ended our relationship. Whilst upsetting, I knew that this was the right decision as it was no longer healthy or salvageable. Prior to this we had been arguing for some time, as I felt that he had lost interest in me from as early as last November. We had been doing long distance for just over a year when he began to contact me less often, and seem much less engaged whenever he did. I found this extremely upsetting as nothing about me had changed however I knew he was changing and beginning to fall out of love with me. I voiced my concerns several ti...

Jane was physically and sexually abused by her mothers abusive partners as a child, at aged 12 the abuse stopped and Jane began spending more and more time at her friend‘s house. Over a couple of years she fell for her friend’s older brother; she pursued him, sneaking into his room when everybody else was asleep. They began a physical relationship when she was 13 and he was 18. No intercourse, Jane would go down on him and lay beside him stroking his skin when he fell asleep (she was sure she loved him and wanted him to feel her love) he wouldn’t touch or kiss Jane which left her fe...

So I met a wonderful man online, and I think it is someone who is a great match for me. We are both retired from successful careers. We have moved in together, and although he had been separated from his wife for over ten years, they had never finalized a divorce. He agreed to go forward and complete the divorce, and she had always told him, "No problem. Whenever you decide to complete the divorce, we will just go our separate ways, no fault, no fighting over money or anything." He was taken by surprise when she ran up high legal bills and fought over every penny she thought he had or...

I am currently dating a paranoid schizophrenic, it has I have to say been an arduous journey My problem is my horrendous jealousy I thought as I matured that I was managing my emotions quite well but recently my partner has started to look at other women when we are together He constantly and quite obviously checks them out He also frequently has and shares amongst his friends porn a graphic material I have made my feelings about this quite clear It drives me crazy and I feel I am getting more and more paranoid and my self esteem is rock bottom As far as I'm concerned I only have eyes ...

My boyfriend is 43- I am 28.. we have been dating for about 3years. Awhile ago now all of a sudden he lost all sexual attraction toward me.. Well what I feel has happened, even though he assumes me he has not. So we had a very active sex life to begin with.. Now it is a rare act.. when we do it is crapy morning sex and very vanilla.. nothing exciting. I have tried everything to figure out why and try to fix the problem with no luck.. I resorted to asking him what was going on.. he just defensively reply’s that he is lazy.. which is all well and good but I do everything for this gu...

I am 39 years old, single and live alone. A couple of months ago, new neighbors moved in on my street, a few houses down, and I became friendly with them. It's a couple around my age and their 14 year old daughter. For whatever reason, their daughter has taken quite the liking to me. It started with her being giggly and making eyes at me when we mt on the street or at the mailbox, for example. Typical teenage girl crush kind of things. Now, however, she's been turning it up a bit. it seems as though she can't talk to me without reaching out and touching my arm or my chest. The other day,...

I found out 18 months ago that my good friend is not father of his oldest child.hes separated His cousin is the father.finding it very hard being his friend knowing this ...

I have be single for about 1 year previous to that I was involved with a women for 4 yrs it was mutual breakup. I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. I joined match and have been seeing a wonderful women for 2 months. She is a single mom of 2 kids, she has been separated from her husband for a yr and half and working though a divorce he was very mentally abusive and controlling, she has a good job very smart and very beautiful in my eyes. We are both 40 i am good guy i would like to think college educated good job no kids never been married active. We hit it off from the start, we ha...

I shouldn't feel this way, and I don't understand it. I am only a teenager, but out of all of the trivial crushes I've had in the past, I have never felt like this. I think I fell in love with him. It's been over a year since I met him, but as soon as I got to know him I had the urge to get closer. To be honest, he isn't the handsomest, nor is he the tallest, but I don't care. He has a reputation around the school for being fun and rowdy. He has many friends and is very popular, but based on the way I see other students and teachers treat him, they see him as a dumb, puppy. Mindlessly sayin...

Last night I found lots of photos of a woman on holiday on my boyfriends phone. This woman is a customer of his and he had requested the photos. To top it all of he texted her back “you look very hot” I have an issue with this. It is obviously inappropriate as she is his customer. He however is saying that I’m completely over reacting as it was just a complement. Please could you give your take on this ...

Hey everyone, I'm having kind of a dilemma. I got engaged back in November and have been planning a wedding for this November. Yes even COVID wasn't going to stop us from getting married. It wasn't about the number of attendees anyways. However, within the past few weeks my mother-in-law to be has been diagnosed with lymphoma and will be starting an 18 week 6 cycle chemotherapy treatment. Which obviously puts her at getting treated right around the time of my honeymoon. I don't feel comfortable with her being by herself on a treatment week while her son and I are gone. However she ...

I finally managed to move out my parents house about a year ago I am gay I’m still in the closet I felt this would give me a chance to come out having my own space however my mum recently had mental health problems and my parents need to move in with me but I still haven’t came out and I need them to know that I do have life plans but should I tell them just now when mums struggling with her health ? ...

I have been with a guy for 3 years and wanted a baby and marriage. I was 39 when we met and it was probably my last chance. We really connect but he has made constant excuses about why we can't be together. The main one was that commitment freaked him out and he didn't understand why but he just needed to pull away from me from time to time. At the same time he talks constantly about us getting married, our future, how much he loves me and texts up to 5 hours a day. I wish I didn't keep going back to him but I can't help myself. He's muslim, 38 now, and told me we need to keep a low profile be...

My boyfriend and myself both have always had issues with weight. Him more than me, but we both lost a pretty big amount of weight not too long ago. At some point he started binge eating again though and that makes me and him both unhappy. To me his health is the number one priotity and it scares me to see him lose control when it comes to eating. He always askes me for help but at some point he needs to start taking control over his weight himself. Right now it feels like I care more about his weight than he does and I feel horrible for saying this, but I'm starting to lose hope in him ever be...

Hi I'm just looking for advice on this oneI have been friends with this guy for a few years and after a short time I fell in love with him but I think it's one sided .sometimes I think he wants to be really involved but is afraid to say it.... early on in the friendship he would peck me on the cheek when we were parting company I spent one overnight with him in a hotel I'm so confused the last time I seen him was a month ago as we parted that evening he kissed me full on the lips .. I'm so confused I'm not sure if this meant he wants to be more involved romantically or if it was a once off ....

Hey Everyone, I just need some Mother advice. It is eating at my head all day. I will just start from this year only or else if I do more, it'll be a novel. lol. So I live 4.5 hours from my mom and step dad. I moved to a city to have better career opportunities and just to start a new chapter in life. I had some issues with my new move and my dog. So in Jan, I took my dog to my parents house for the month. Then I went back to pick my dog and Mom and brought them back to my home. My mom helped me shift to a new place. She was suppose to just stay 2 or 3 weeks. But then she started s...

My mom has 2 brothers who I feel have been jealous of her ever since our family became more financially well-off. My mom is always thoughtful of them, always goes out of her way to buy them food, take their kids out to have fun, and every time we go on vacation she always gets them souvenirs-I know that my mom has good intentions, but all of this I think has only ever been seen by them as my mom trying to show off. All this time, I've never seen them do any nice gestures for my mom, which really is upsetting because my mom doesn't realize this but I've been seeing this all along. But because...

I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months, im 40 and he's 43. We've had a really tough time so far and I'm worried he's going to realise I'm not worth all the aggro. When we first got together I was a nightmare when I'd had a drink, I was diagnosed with anxiety and put on medication. We then realised I was bleeding during and after sex. After numerous trips to the doctors I was referred to the hospital. I had a loop procedure, biopsy and mri and in November last year was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I had 4 cycles of chemo, the last being at the start of lockdown. I had a full hysterectomy ...

i am 45, married and have 2 kids. i have fallen in love with a woman who is 33 and also has 2 kids. She prefers tall men of her age who have a deep voice. I am not any of these. There is a third person of her age who is tall and has a deep voice. He is also in love with her. He is also a guitarist and a good artist. She says she has a soft corner for him and really likes him. On the other hand, she says that she finds my age to be a hindrance for her to be free with me. She says she has lot of respect for me!! We meet like once in a fortnight and go for a drive, whereas she meets him ev...

r/AskReddit Wonderful-Tomato-1811h Been seen but not being seen I posted this in another forum also to get feedback. I don't know that it is harming my life but can sometimes can consume my mind but here goes. First off, I don't know what to call this. Maybe it has a name, I don't know, but it is sort of specific but hard to describe but I will try because it has sort of frustrated me for a while. The short version is I like the thought of been seen without actually seeing someone looking at me. Now to give examples The most common one is that I like to go shopping and take clothe...

was with my fiance for 8 months and all of a sudden he said he needed space ,he said I was to clingy and smothering him .I was in shock ,we had an amazing weekend together a few days before he dropped this bomb I have called him and texed him asking him why he is doing this to me ,we were supposed to be married in December, he is the one that set a date for us to be married. When I call or text him for answers, asking him why he is doing this, he has been saying some real cruel things to me.He said things like, are you going to sit around and blow up my phone all night you have absolutely els...

Hello to all of you! I have a question. I’ve been seeing a guy for about a year. We see each other about every other weekend. We both work and every other weekend just works for us. He and usually text a lot!!! Well lately (past two months)I have noticed he doesn’t always reply back to my messages right away. Sometimes I text on Saturday morning and he doesn’t reply until Monday. A couple times he did say he had a lot on his mind. I’m starting to wonder if he is cheating on me. Am I over thinking it all. ...

Hi there Have been looking for a place to chat to people as I’m stuck in such a horrid complicated place atm. I’ve been with my OH for 20 years this month and married for 7. He got into cocaine just after we got married. He started his own business.... Over the last 7 years I’ve seen such a change in him. I have tried all I can to get him to stop but always an excuse. It’s stressed related, it’s his job, it’s us, its who who works with, it’s the industry he works in (building trade). He used to be so different which I have pointed out but he can’t see it. Our marriage ...

There's 14 years between myself and my partner of 3 years we have a beautiful 2 year old boy together and don't get me wrong our sex life is passionate and amazing but he is very traditional make love. I have always been adventurous and up for anything new and exciting. I changed and calmed myself down for him but I'm starting to get frustrated as everytime I try to try somthing new he won't consider it. I'm reading sexual stories and articals for ideas but no luck I love him very much and I would never cheat or anything like that I just want more excitment I have a very dirty sexual mind what...

Corona virus really did ruin things for me and my boyfriend. We've been together 10 months now and its safe to say that we havent felt this way about anyone else. We love each other very dearly. Few months ago, around May, I heard word from a family friend that my boyfriends' best friend(who is also close to me because his family and mine know each other), was having feelings for me. I had to inform my boyfriend about this. He in turn stopped talking to him. I on the other hand, blocked for a while, but unblock him for 3 days recently and didnt tell my boyfriend about it. I even said a few wor...

Hello! Just a warning, ya'll-- this might be a long story but I promise I'll make it as short and sweet as I can so bare with me. Please and thank you! Okay so, for the past 2 years I've been living with my fiance and his mom, who is widowed. He also has an older brother and sister but they've been moved out since before I got here. The relationship between my fiance and I is pretty great and we've been together for a total of 6 years so far. We do not get in a scuffle often but when we do, it seems to always be about the same thing.. when my fiance feels like I don't stand up for him. ...

Lately I've been thinking a lot about past bad decisions I've made, and I don't know how to stop thinking about it or feeling guilty. For instance, I had this one friend, not close, but I knew him throughout high school. He didn't outright say it for a long time but I always knew he liked me. I was a very socially awkward person who wasn't good at talking about my feelings at this point.Instead of just being blunt and asking him how he felt, I just tried to make it obvious I wasn't interested without outright saying it because I wasn't sure how to bring it up without sounding mean. I enjoyed t...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. I have lived on my own since I was 18, I am 26 now. He still lives with his parents, he is 24. I understand with him being younger he might not “be there” but he is the main one that continues to say that he “can’t wait to have kids” “can’t wait to get married” “can’t wait to live together”. Now any time I bring up moving in, marriage or kids I’m either “nagging” or “rushing”... His parents and I get along great. But every time he tells them he’s ready to move out, they give him a hard time and mak...