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Hi all. My name is Rose. I have finally come to terms with the fact that my family of Origin is toxic. My dad is a supreme narcissist and prescription drug addict/abuser, my mother enables him and does deal with some depression, and my sister is just downright mean and vicious. I am the scapegoat. Father: always been abusive. made me into the person who took care of him rather than the other wa...

I just discovered my husband has an onlyfans account. Yesterday he showed me a collectible figure he liked, so I scrolled through his history this morning to find it for Father's Day. I never DREAMED this would happen to us. He doesn't seem the type at all, and I never felt I couldn't trust him. He's not only subscribed, he has paid upword of $120 (at least) to these girls for specific material, A...

I am a married woman married for 16 years and have a 15 year old son. I am madly in love with a guy who is 9 years younger than me. He is a divorcee. We happened to become friends and now madly in love with each other. We want to live together but cannot because I cannot leave my family either. Please advice. ...

My fiance relocated out of town for work, I will soon follow with moving truck. We get along great,everything in common. Something rare in past relationships. I calmly asked him if anything was going on between him and a co worker he texts/calls all the time for hours, even not at work, blowing me and others off while he's on the call, or puts me on hold. I'm not a jealous person in relationships...

So I thought I’d do some browsing and try and get other peoples opinions on this. My fiancee decided to buy flowers which were (red roses) from his kids. I want a fan at all and it actually pissed me off. There are deeper reason why it does as in the past she has caused such a headache for us including at my workplace. This individual in the past has gone to the point of stalking him and I.. say...

Hello.so I am 36, married with a baby. My family (parents and 4 siblings) are all very intertwined with each others lives and I believe this is because we have had somewhat of a chaotic past. My parents got involved in a very spiritual church when my twin and I were young. All lovely people but it was intense.my mum and dad's relationship was v toxic. Mum self harmed. Tried to leave a few times...

Hello everyone, I really felt the need to share this with a group of mature adults, any input is highly appreciated. I have met a person I felt is the love of my life a few years ago. He's everything I was hoping to find for myself, but after a couple of years together, some complex family relationships are starting to untangle, and it makes me feel not so enthusiastic about our future toget...

My husband is helpful, kind, and loving the majority of the time but sometimes he can react to things in a way that strikes me as cruel and I don't understand why or know what to do about it. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it or being oblivious in some way but I feel like his moods can change in a moment. I'd like to understand what's going on so I can modify my own behavior in some way that will help ...

I'll try to make this as short as possible. My husband has an anger issue and my daughter is scared of him so she has chosen not to come back to my house while he's living there. I don't know what to do. She's 13. I feel like I'm having to choose between my husband and my daughter. I need advice!!...

Hello Everyone, I'm looking for some advice with regards to my grandparents. Ten years ago I cut contact with my parents and never looked back. I moved away from my hometown to a new area and started from scratch. I got a new job, made new friends and got together with partner, who my parents had previously disappoved of for silly supertisious reasons. None of it was easy but I've alw...

Hi, I am in my 50s and am having a bad relationship with my parents, specifically my father. We have had huge explosive rows regularly since I was in my teens. In my teens and until I left home at the first opportunity, it was physical violence too. My father is not 100% monster however, he is basically a good person, but very weak. It has been like having a jealous older sibling who wi...

So, I posted on here a while ago that I’m closeted, and I still am. Still very much am. The thing is, though, is that my sexuality keeps changing, and it’s not like every year or so. It’s like every week or two. I can’t help it. I’m starting to confuse the people I feel comfortable telling, let alone myself. I can’t trust anything I say to myself anymore because I don’t know if it’...

I've been with my fiance for just under 4 years. Things were almost picture perfect for 2 of those years until my insecurities started. He did everything in his power to make me feel secure and proved me wrong a thousand times over. It's from a previous relationship and unfortunately, I brought it into this one. It's like a switch just turned on and I was back to being unsecure. This man has done ...

My daughter is about to turn 2 this June and I decided to book an outdoor pavillion for her bday party. I was able to book it on a Saturday but my hubby's brother's girlfriend's birthday is that day . Now before I booked the pavillion, I did have her in mind but I was thinking that since my daughter is younger, we can celebrate her during the day and if she wanted to do anything, we can go do i...

I have been in this relationship for around four years, but between 2018 and 2019, some things happened that probably caused me to feel this way. The backstory is that my boyfriend broke up on me for reasons that are still unclear, because at the time he blamed it on me being needy, depressed, controlling, distancing him from himself and his friends and just “being afraid that our love is fading...

So late this year my boyfriend and I planned to go to a music festival around both of our birthdays so we could celebrate. My boyfriend’s brother is planning the trip and invited a lot of people from my boyfriend’s friend group. So it turns out most people don’t want to go to this festival except for two girls that my boyfriend used to have feelings for. Leaving me, my boyfriend, his bro...

My partner (M55) and I (F53) met 4 ½ years ago. After 3 month of dating I wanted to end the relationship as he hardly expressed any affection. He is very generous buy buying things, dinners and providing in general but he never looks into my eyes, ask questions, shows an interest in my work or projects, answers only with yes or no and doesn't strings more then four sentences together – and sti...

Neighbour has assaulted me . He won't back off. Feeling constantly scared to go out as he is always hanging around. Police not helping,talking out of question. Any ideas appreciated ? ...

Hello All.. This is Mr.D from India. I am married for 3+ years now. My wife had hit menopause before marriage. Their family never disclosed this to us. She was also diabetic before marriage. This was also not disclosed to us. I feel cheated and agonised. I haven't told my family about this. In a great dilemma. Need your advice folks.....

im having trouble finding purpose in life. all the little things are piling up and i dont see the point in doing it all when i dont think i want to live much longer. advice is welcome...

Met my husband years ago, but lived in separate states, he wasn’t kind to me at the time, but we were young and dumb. We end up talking again through Facebook. At this point we are living across the country. Me in California working my first job in my career and him in Florida. After a few months I decide to quit my job and move out to be with him. I even bought a ring to ask him to marry me. He...

I am in a relationship with him for 5 years now, and we are expecting our first child (I'm 4 months pregnant). But I feel that our relationship is not going well and I am very anxious about that. I have a feeling that he is manipulating me and that his manipulative tendencies have increased now when I am pregnant. At the same time I am not sure if maby my behavior towards him was bad, so he is wou...

I started working with my coworker almost three years ago. It was only recently (about less than a year) that we have gotten closer. He joins me during my lunch time and sits there and chats. He will buy me food that i want to work. Invited me over to his house. I thought he was interested but recently he told me that he likes his old childhood friend. She lives somewhere else and there relationsh...

So, my husband is a good guy. As far as not cheating and abuse goes. But, the attachment to his mother, is gross to me. His mom has tried living off of him idk how many times, and if it wasn’t for me... she would. This Mother’s Day she even asked him for a ring. She has a boyfriend for stuff like that. He doesn’t take up for me when she makes remarks about me, that are meant to start troub...

We have been married for 14 years and been engaged for 4 years before marriage. My wife feels like I no longer love her, do no care about her and I always talk about food and sex. She always care about me no doubt, she surprises me with good food,etc. I really can't gauge her love and compassion for me, it's simply beyond words. I have this habit of making silly mistakes daily. I don't do things ...

My husband and I met when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 18. After I moved to his town, we lived together for 2 years, then got married when I was 20. I don't regret our marriage because he really is my best friend, but I worry that we met too early in life or something. We do not have any children because I'd like for my husband to work out his alcohol problem before we bring kids into...

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we've been seeing each other a couple of times a week, staying over at each other's houses, going for walks, hanging out, playing games, cooking together, spending the night... We both wanted something serious and made that clear from quite early on so as to not waste time. We talked every day, sending memes and discussing work, general nice convers...

Hi, I’ve never been on one of these but needed some unbias thoughts/advice. Long story short. I’ve had this friend I’ve known maybe 2 years. She is married and has no kids. I’m in a long term relationship right now and he’s got some flaws, like we all do. I went out with her on St Pattys day and later on she posted pictures of the event online. There was a picture with another girl I...

A few years ago, I landed a job in an office, where the senior manager knew my partner. His deputy, the line manager running the team (Lisa), didn't seem too pleased, but called me two days later, inviting me to join her team. A few weeks later, after vetting and other checks, I started. The job wasn't difficult, so I got the hang of it. Lisa began warming to me, to the point that she was happy t...

Hi, basically, I have been speaking to this girl for literally months as we can't meet due to distance and quarantine. Anyway, she suddenly because distant and she has done it before. The first time I gave her the space even though I found it a bit harsh. This time though, I decided to "end it" and basically told her nicely that I do not like this treatment and would rather speak to someone el...

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv ...

Hi everyone, My partner and I have been together over 3 years but on and off for a little over a year. We don't live together. There's been a lot of issues we've been trying to work on, however a few remain still. 1. No intellectual/ deep conversations.. We've had 1 deep conversation at the begining of our relationship and that was one he brought up about his ex. We've had none sin...

I have Covid. My partner for 6 years has been cheating on me. Today, he said he can’t never come because he doesn’t want to catch Covid. He says he is never coming back, moving to a new place. Leaving me stranded for rent and gave me the 1-800- number for Assistance. Does anyone think that he used Covid to leave this relationship is cold, mean, and cruel? I was in shock. What does anyone think...

I dont even know how to start, and my english isn't the best. This all started a year ago. I had a long term relationship with my boyfriend who I still currently live with. Things started to get different from me. I just didnt love him anymore, not like I used to. I didnt feel like doing sex or kiss him. So I open up with him and told him the truth. But we didnt broke up, because we decided that...

Hello everyone, I´m here because I don´t have anyone to talk this without telling me "You should break up!, you will know better girls!" . So first thing first, I don´t want to break-up. However, sometime i´ve got the sensation that it would be better... but I still don´t want to. This is a long story, so grab yourselfs! (There are somethings that I don´t remember, but still I want to t...

My partner is used to having a drink everynight in the pub but is now working night shifts so can only drink during the weekend. He has become grumpy and moody with me and I feel I'm walking on eggshells. Is this why he's character has changed. He says that the one day he is off work he will do a marathon run at the pub. His mood swings affect me as I take them personally and feel he hates me....

Hello, 21 yr old girl here, she/her pronouns. So. I've been in this pickle for a little over a year. I am asexual, I usually say celibate for convenience- and although I feel romantic attraction I've never had interest in having a relationship. So this guy comes along, at first I thought he was a girl because he dresses as one and doesn't mind people using she/her pronouns but he prefers he/h...

I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years. The first year was amazing, we travelled, went out all the time and spent time having a laugh and enjoying eachother. Since lockdown started though, it's been downhill. We have sex once every 6 weeks and time in between nothing sensual happens, we dont sext or have even remotely sexual conversations. I miss him so much. What's worse is that when ...

Hi all new here Can anyone explain the reason why my partner would knock on a mans door after a night out that she seen in pub that night. She sad she done it to get her sister a date who she was with that night ...

I have a lot of mental + physical health problems, and it really increases my depression a lot of the times. If I could have at least 1 person to talk to, it would mean the world to me....

For several months, I have been helping my neighbour with her personal problems, she has stated that she doesn't find me attractive sexualy, but yet she asks me to rub her back and feet and on more than one occasion she has asked me to perform oral sex on her or other things sexualy. Every time she climaxes, she grew up, cleans herself and states again she doesn't find me attractive and the wh...

We have been married for 7 years now and we used to have the best sex life, but then for like a year now, he just wants sex only once a month and just doesn’t show any sexual interest towards me :( and well this is affecting me a great deal, makes me feel depressed and unattractive also I sometimes just feel maybe he doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t know what to do, I have tried everythin...

Okay I think I finally figured this out. I was married to a woman that I love but we fought continuously through the 30 years about money and that would be my only complaint I ever had about her really .but we got into the drug situation we both were users and that lasted for like 10 years of a relationship but I my frustration over financial difficulties escalated to the point where I was committ...

hey! so... I meet this man, Laszlo through mutual friends and immediately we take a great dislike to each other, we have very few things in common and hate what the other likes but for our friends we agree to be civil and (try to) get along. This goes alright for a while, we also come to hate each other's habits and are often at each other's throats but we also have middle ground and can at ...

Hello, I'd like some advice on this situation please. My best friend is suicidal and he has the means to commit suicide (jumping off a building/bleeding out). He is a teenager and his parents are extremely abusive, but I can't call the police as they aren't citizens and he is afraid they'll get deported. He has been through a lot of other things, and his close friend had also killed herself recent...

When my wife and I got married, we agreed that we would wait 5 years to have children. We had read that most marriages fail within the first 5 years, so that is why we chose that period to wait. We didn't want to risk bringing children into a failed marriage. During those 5 years, her Mother passed away. She told me that she didn't want children after that, because she always counted on her mom...

Been living in a privately rented house for two years with my husband. It’s a nice area and a nice house and sometimes I am happy to live there other times I cannot wait to get away from it and wonder if we should move. Our last privately rented house was horrible compared to this house and the landlord didn’t want to pay for any repairs so we could not wait to move. This house we are in now...

I've been with my partner for a little over 6 years, and I love him dearly. But over the last few months he's started going out most weekends and not coming home. I know him and I trust him, so I know there is nothing 'bad' in a sense happening, i.e i know he's not cheating. The problem is drinking. I like a drink, I'm sure we all do, but most of us know when to stop, or at least to come ho...