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Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHow Can I Fix My Marriage After This? (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Jan 16 2018 at 15:25 by NYstateofmind RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / Factisfact / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 23:19

So I have been with my husband for nearly 10 years total, recently married and we just had our first child. There hasn’t been any issues in our relationship that I know of. We got really drunk one night and had a girl friend of mine come back to our house. Due to drinking so much we blacked out. My husband had went to bed earlier after an argument. Apparently he walked in on my hand in her pants. I’ve never done anything like this and I’m not even attracted to women. Over night my entire world has been flipped upside down. Im so terrified I’m going to lose my family over something ...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryFriendship Loss (Posts: 5)
CREATED: Jan 16 2018 at 08:25 by FishingNet36 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / Merci LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 23:14

If a person asks for a lot of favours,turns up unannounced,threatens to break friends with you for not answering the phone and the moment you have a go at them they say that they were as nice as pie to you,need some space and point out all your bad traits,would you say that they have used you to some degree? I am unsure...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat Should I Do With My Mother In Law? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 19 2018 at 21:44 by Victoria64 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 22:46

I am writing my story here because it is a family issue and it would be very difficult to really tell my husband how i feel because it is his mother. I met my husband 5 years ago. We starting dated and quickly knew we were meant for each other. Ever since, his mom has been extremely difficult with me and i do not have a solution anymore. My parents are still married and i have a great relationship with all my family and it was a dream of mine to have a big blended family with my husbands family so i did everything that i could to have the best realtionship with her. My mother in law: s...

Children & Young People advice forum category advice forum categoryRecently Discovered I Have A Child Overseas. (Posts: 9)
CREATED: Jan 1 2018 at 18:41 by Joe0062 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 16:09

My life is a bit of a joke right now. I feel guilty for saying that because the 1.5 year old son I have never met will ultimately be the one who is effected the most by the decisions my Australian ex and I make. I spent the last 3 years of my life living in Canada, travelling and working in 3 provinces. It was my dream to travel and have that amazing lifestyle of hitch hiking, risks, snowboarding, partying and getting completely and utterly lost and finding my way all over again. I met Hannah in my first year and we just fell for each other. She was a little younger than me and studying...

Online Dating advice forum category advice forum categoryHow Do I Tell My Parents That I'm Dating Someone I Met Through The Singles Tour? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 19 2018 at 09:29 by angelOfmine12 RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 12:11

I’ve been dating Mei since we’ve met through a singles tour held by A Foreign Affair in Shenzhen, China. It’s been a month now since then and we’ve continued to correspond and has definitely gotten to know each other better. My parents have started to ask me about being married and finding someone to date and I don’t want anyone else other than Mei… so, I want to let them know about her. My parents don't really know about the trip I had and clearly have no clue that I’m in a long-distance relationship with Mei. I am not really embarrassed; I am rather concerned about how they...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryCheating Husband (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 16 2018 at 10:30 by Jess2947 RESPONDENTS: FishingNet36 LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 10:01

My husband had an affair which resulted in a love child. The woman he met on line deliberately got pregnant, we later found an advert on the internet where she was requesting a man for either sperm donor or co parent. He stopped seeing her when she got pregnant and I ever found out until the child was 6 months old when this woman dropped a photograph of the child in the post to me. He now pays child support through the CMS but doesn’t see the child, even though I ever stopped him. He decided he wanted to stay with me as it was me who he loved and the affair meant nothing (the usual cock and ...

Online Dating advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat To Expect When Dating A Filipina Woman? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Jan 18 2018 at 12:10 by bloom123 RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 01:40

I decided to join a singles tour to Cebu, Philippines by A Foreign Affair for this coming Jan. 25, 2018. I’ve heard a lot of good things about Philippine women; the fact that they’re family-oriented, loyal and great mothers definitely made me want to marry one. I want to make a great impression and succeed in this singles tour… I want to make my expenses worth it. So, I’m here to ask some questions: what are the things I should be expecting when being with a Filipina? What are the things I should be wary of? What are the things I shouldn’t do? I have much more to ask but for now,...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum category23 In A 5 Year Relationship And I'm Scared Of Commitment! (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 18 2018 at 17:02 by 23confused RESPONDENTS: !!! / Susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 19 2018 at 00:52

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend a little over 5 years now. Please do not judge me at all. I really do love him but I'm not sure if I want to be with him anymore. I am completely comfortable a round him and we do have good times but I feel as if he doesn't really care sometimes. Im the first girlfriend, sex partner, pretty much everything he's ever had. I worry that maybe since I'm his first hes just settled because maybe he doesnt know if hes truly happy or not. I've told him before that I'm scared maybe one day he will leave me because he wants to see what else is out there. I a...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryMy Back Is Up Against The Wall! (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Jan 17 2018 at 18:23 by soconfused12345 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 18 2018 at 18:10

I'm the type of person who goes out of her way to avoid hurting people's feelings, especially those close to me. I've dated someone for 5 years and we've had our ups and downs, mostly about his finances. Fast forward, he just got reemployed after almost a year but he is 65 yrs old and even though he collects social security, his wages are low and he has barely any savings (the only money he has on the side is $ he just inherited but it's small). He is AFTER ME, putting a lot of pressure on me now that he found a job - he is ecstatic and wants to live/marry ASAP...I'm really scared...I have a...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHe Is Confusing Me (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Jan 18 2018 at 10:54 by fatroucha RESPONDENTS: Hard fact LAST POST: Jan 18 2018 at 12:54

There is this guy we had some lectures together, he wrote me around the end of November on facebook he wanted to know more about me so eventually, he asked me out. I was surprised when I first met him we had a lot of fun we almost spent 4 hours together laughing talking and walking it was really good. At the beginning, I thought it just friendship I’m just making a new friend but when I see the way he talks with me, the details he wants to know some of them are even the silliest even when he looks at me it is different. I’m not trying to imagine things but I have a lot of male friends and ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryStepson's Wedding (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 13 2018 at 19:16 by Christy RESPONDENTS: Annika Geshe / Susiedqq / Hmmm LAST POST: Jan 18 2018 at 12:34

Last year my stepson got married. I went to the wedding with my husband and it was like I was airbrushed out of the day. My husband sat with his ex in church, sat on the top table as per usual and I was not invited to be in any of the photos. Another son is getting married in a few weeks and I find that the same thing is going to happen again. My husband will spend the day with his ex and I will not be involved in any of the occasion. I find this so hurtful. When my husband and I married we went out of our way to involve all our children and gave them all a role within the wedding. I ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryFiance Messaging Female Co-worker (Posts: 6)
CREATED: Jan 13 2018 at 11:32 by Lionessa RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / Wow / Annika Geshe / Smartopinion / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 18:21

Until last month, I thought everything was great in our relationship. Then one day when I was going to work, my h2b said he was having friends around that day. I asked who and then he mentioned a male colleague (who I'm aware of but have never met) and a female colleague who i have never even heard him speak about!) Initially felt uneasy about it but accepted that it's perfectly fine to have female friends but just thought it strange that she was close enough to invite over and yet her name had NEVER been mentioned. Anyways, despite initially thinking I was okay about it, at work I had a bit ...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryParents Split Up (Posts: 287)
CREATED: Oct 13 2016 at 15:33 by lily31 RESPONDENTS: Scopes / susiedqq / Soulmate / Fugnuk / seriouslyme LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 18:19

Hi My parents split up just over 2 months ago which came as a total shock to me, I didn't see it come at all, as far as I knew they were fine. There were no obvious signs no arguments, no distance or issues that could of put strain on there relationship and they've always supported each other through everything. the night before they broke up they were snuggled on the sofa together watching tv both happy. I came home from school to find my mum inconsolable saying that my dad had left, she was too upset to say why. I didn't hear from my dad for more then 12 hours ( it's was a very sleepl...

Other advice forum category advice forum categoryIs There A Way To Adapt To An Online Future? (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 15 2018 at 18:58 by Altreal RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 17:40

I'm a 30 y/o American male, and have worked in retail for over 5 years. In the past two years or so, I've noticed how quickly the world is changing. I like technology and the Internet, to a point. I still enjoy video games and occasionally shop online. I prefer self check-outs to registers at stores most of the time. I grew up as a teenager chatting on AIM and using message boards and blogs. But I only recently gave in and started using a smartphone. I have never really gotten into Facebook or watching Youtube videos by different personalities. And the jokes and memes online....It'...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryMy Girlfriend Has Moved Out (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 15 2018 at 15:36 by Adzio RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 16:24

Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year on the 12th January. We met when she started at my place of work at the time. It was frowned upon from the start. We met up and met up without anyone knowing. We had been going for walks on the promanade twice a week and messaging every day. We did everything we could because of how we made each other feel. Saw each other for few hours in between us crossing shifts (i was working nights and she was working days). We had met up from middle of November 2016 and on the 4th of February 2017 we moved in together. My partner had to try move here beca...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryThe Girl I'm Interested In Can't Speak English.i Need Help! (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 17 2018 at 09:00 by Lover1234 RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 15:49

There’s this girl I’m interested in, I met her through A Foreign Affair, she’s from Bangkok, Thailand and she barely speaks English. The services of AFA has provided a free translator and have been translating for us. When we had our first call it was a bit awkward… but she’s still someone I’m interested in. I’m just a bit worried about how genuine her words really are. Let’s be honest, translations aren’t as accurate as we want them to be. So, now I am a thorn. I want to know more about her because she seems to be a real sweetheart but at the same time, I can’t be comp...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryLost After Split With Wife (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 14 2018 at 13:49 by Andy_pk RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 17 2018 at 14:21

Me and my wife have just split after being together for 21 years.I did not see it coming but looking on it the may have been some warning signs which i never picked up on.As in normal day to day you get swept along with life ,work etc. My wife started a new job back in june everything was ok and she was happy she had to go on a conference in november for a team building and evening awards which was fine she came home the next day as she was suppose never thought nothing about it.Anyway moving on Christmas came and went all ok but a quite one mother in law came up for new year.Well on Monday ju...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryForced Family Gathering (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Jan 13 2018 at 02:09 by KNucci89 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / GuestPerson LAST POST: Jan 16 2018 at 03:20

A few years back, the women in my family (aunts, cousins, etc) began the tradition of a “girls weekend” at a family vacation home a few hours away. My family has always been very close, and so the first few years of these trips were a lot of fun. However, recently these trips have taken a turn for the worse and are more uncomfortable than enjoyable. On the way Home last year, I swore I wasn’t going again. A silly game we’ve been playing for years morphed into a game that got very personal regarding sexual history. One of my cousins, whom I’ve always been gotten along well with u...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryTo Stay Married??? Is It Worth It? Can It Get Better? (Posts: 87)
CREATED: Jul 3 2017 at 06:26 by Reliable me RESPONDENTS: Scopes / london / Soulmate / johnperes / Silvarion / MamaBear / TRULUV LAST POST: Jan 16 2018 at 02:52

I've been married for 8 years and have three beautiful children. Both my husband and I have gone through some very big, and positive life changes such as obtaining our professional careers, having another baby, and moving. These changes, though positive, have creating issues and tension in our marriage. (Or at least I think those must be contributing factors, right??). When I fell for my husband he had been so loving, patient, kind, caring, observant, and thoughtful. He was fun and funny and didn't let me get too wrapped up in the little things. Now, however, he is irritable, angry, contr...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryUrgent!! Advice Needed For Pets!! (Posts: 3)
CREATED: Jan 3 2018 at 08:35 by Bluehues RESPONDENTS: Annika Geshe / bunnyhabit / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 16 2018 at 00:55

My mother took a dog from her colleague saying that she will take care of her and everything. I told her it'd be difficult since we have 3 cats but she didn't listen. 1 week after the puppy came my mother decided to give her away to someone totally irresponsible without even telling me or my sis. I cried like crazy and got the puppy back. We're keeping her indoors and we're all too busy to train her. She barks in the middle of the night and scares the shit out of my cats. Every night I think about finding a good family for the puppy but by morning I chicken out and think how the puppy i...

Online Dating advice forum category advice forum categoryUkraine's "city Of Brides" - Is It Worth Visiting? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 15 2018 at 11:20 by cloudnine9 RESPONDENTS: bunnyhabit LAST POST: Jan 15 2018 at 23:40

I have always been interested in going to Ukraine. I’ve been a part of a site called LoveMe and have been corresponding with a few great Ukrainian girls… I’m not just interested in their country; I’m also interested in marrying a local woman of Ukraine. The girl I’m interested in is from Nikolaev and I’ve heard that it is also called the “City of Brides.” Apparently, that city has an interesting history that made it into a city filled with marriage-worthy ladies. Aside from the fact that I am looking for marriage, I can’t deny the stunning beauty their local women poss...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I Be Jealous? (Posts: 5)
CREATED: Jan 5 2018 at 19:08 by Batman63 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / Amaze0707 / Soulmate / bunnyhabit / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jan 15 2018 at 21:19

My girlfriend and I live together. I plan on asking her to marry me in the Spring. She and I have both been married before. My divorce is final and hers is in process. She has always told me that she had nothing to hide and that I was welcome to pick her phone up and read anything I want at any time, as we have both been cheated on before. The other night, she spent quite a while on her phone in the middle of the night. This is not unusual for her as she has terrible trouble sleeping. I was curious as to who she was talking to for so long, so I looked at her phone yesterday. She had be...

Emotional advice forum category advice forum categoryIs My Husband Controlling (Posts: 11)
CREATED: Jan 3 2018 at 12:35 by Germie RESPONDENTS: Amaze0707 / SmartOpinion / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 15 2018 at 15:14

I’ve been married for 4 months now and my husband always talking about divorce. We met on social network and I lived in a foreign country, after a year and a half we decided I’d relocate with my two boys (11 and 7 )to get married. Problems started when we set a wedding date ,he has a 10 years old daughter and her mom always used her to manipulate our marriage, and would not let her attend the wedding, when she said she’d not attend to the wedding he nearly changed his mind about marrying me, but we still did. Then each time I’d say how the kid is being used to manipulate our marriage i...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categorySo Depressed And Frustrated Help! (Posts: 5)
CREATED: Jan 9 2018 at 18:01 by soconfused12345 RESPONDENTS: saronna / Tulowitz / susiedqq / Soulmate LAST POST: Jan 14 2018 at 05:56

Been with same man for 5 years and during that time, always concerned about his financial judgement and lack of resources. We are in love BUT this issue seems to never get resolved. He lost his job (which didn't pay much) 7 months ago and just ran out of unemployment; now he can start to collect social security. He realizes he needs another job even part time to make ends meet since he has only a modest amount of savings (which came from an inheritance) but he finally got a job a few months ago, and he gave it up because he said it was too hard to make money and he was waiting on a substitut...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryBreak Up With Ex, What To Do? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 11 2018 at 21:58 by guestguest RESPONDENTS: Annika Geshe LAST POST: Jan 13 2018 at 20:55

this is a weird and confusing situation... my ex and i broke up back in march, she "needed time and space" 3 weeks later she came back saying how sorry she was and whatever. i was devastated at the time, but eventually got over it and then bang.. she just pops back up into my life. i forgave her and decided to work on things. she left for 3 months this past summer and we spoke but didn't see each other which really hurt our progress on things. i left for school and things never really took off. i found out she started talking to some guy at home and addressed it and she said they have hung out...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryMy Chinese Fiancé Doesn't Celebrate Christmas (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Jan 11 2018 at 12:45 by mysterious14355 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq / Tulowitz LAST POST: Jan 13 2018 at 18:17

My Chinese fiancé doesn't celebrate Christmas Due to my fiancé’s religion and belief, she doesn’t celebrate Christmas. I’ve been looking forward to the holidays and my vacation is also based on this Christian holiday but it becomes a bit tedious due to the fact that it doesn’t go well with her belief. I met my loving fiancé through A Foreign Affair singles tour in Shenzhen, China. It was love at first sight and I’m really happy and contented with her. I am open to the fact that she stays true to her beliefs and religious practices. Christmas has become a holiday which al...

Drug advice forum category advice forum categoryI Love Her Kids But She Is Ruining My Life. (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 11 2018 at 22:10 by Scrap264 RESPONDENTS: Susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 13 2018 at 15:19

I currently provide for my girlfriend and her two boys. I've raised them on and off since birth but for last two years they live with me in my house. I would do anything in the world for those boys. Anyways for the last year she has been addicted to xanax and adderall and Dr's just keep perscribing it more and more. She always runs out and then steals money from me to get more and its led her to make many shady friends who have also stolen from me. Its killing her body she's always getting pneumonia and going to ER, she's been arrested multiple times and now has no license and can't wor...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryShould He Say Something Or Should I? (Posts: 1)
CREATED: Jan 10 2018 at 18:31 by KittyKat2700 RESPONDENTS: Merci LAST POST: Jan 13 2018 at 01:01

I could use some quick advice and I’ll try to make this a short as possible. A few years before my hubs and I got married he had a “one month” fling with a woman who lives up the street from where we live. From what I’ve “been told,” they never slept together again after that. He is a residential contractor who installed her septic system and when she didn’t have the money to pay for it, he allowed her to pay as she could and I guess she fell for him and they wound up hitting the sack a couple times. When I found out about it, I really didn’t care because it was “the past,”...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I Stay Or Leave? (Posts: 2)
CREATED: Jan 10 2018 at 19:20 by Nattyc RESPONDENTS: KittyKat2700 / Susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 11 2018 at 14:13

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over 2 years but he doesn't turn me on. I know it sounds weird but I am attracted to him, it's just that sexual arousing feeling just isn't there. When we have sex we always use lubricate because he never seem to get me wet. I've tried spicing things up with toys, foreplay etc but that feeling is still missing. I've even tried telling him things I like and he does try, but I still don't feel it. Once we are having sex it's pretty good but it's mostly because I fantasize about other people or certain things, which makes me feel so bad. The thing is I ...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat Do I Do? (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Jan 5 2018 at 05:03 by Tearsofsaddiness RESPONDENTS: Charlie22 / Amaze0707 / bunnyhabit / Merci LAST POST: Jan 10 2018 at 04:41

Got back with my husband and for some reason lately it bothers me about the girlfriend he had during our seperation and I think yes unhappy but he says yes happy...

Relationship advice forum category advice forum categoryHead Over Heels (Posts: 4)
CREATED: Dec 7 2017 at 02:32 by LOSTT RESPONDENTS: MamaBear LAST POST: Jan 6 2018 at 23:37

I have a problem and I don't know what to do… Two years ago I fell in Love with a man I don't know at all. Just Amor visited me.. suddenly, unexpectedly.. I hoped it would fade away but it didn't. The problem is that I am in a long term relationship with my school-time-love Jack. The new man, Samuel, is not willing to meet me unless I leave Jack. But we live in a very expensive city and I cannot afford my own apartment. Samuel once invited me for a date but then he got cold feet and didn't come. I don't know what to do. Samuel neglects all my efforts to be in direct contact with him but he l...