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I'm planning to move out when I turn 18. Now I'm 17, which is only nearly one more year to go. I know I don't have much time, so I literally put all my time in learning the knowledge that's required for the job as well as completing my portfolio. I can go to university, it's not that I don't have a choice. It's just, I hate my family, the way they treated me, everything they did to me, I can't tolerate depending on them anymore, I want to live by myself. Going to university means I have to depend on them for at least 4 more years. I don't know about other countries, but the universities in my country are very costly and hard. If you failed a subject, you'll need to pay for it to study again. Which also means it's really hard to work and study at the same time on your own. And now even with a degree, it still doesn't ensure that you will get a job. So like other Asian families... Mine is also strict about me having a degree, whatever the field is. That means I have to sacrifice my time for studying rather than working on my portfolio if I want to enter a good university. I used to be a decent student, somewhat okay in class. But since highschool started, with me got into a top high school in the city, realizing that I didn't even love studying from the start, and how bad my family had treated me, I neglected my grades, only study enough to pass them. Mainly because I don't want to satisfied my mother, and because I don't find any meaning in studying anymore. But now I'm in 12th grades, so I have to study a lot for the graduation test. I begged my mother for me to study on my own, so that I can have more time to learn what I need. She didn't say she agreed, nor disagreed, but signed me up for extra classes anyways. I just got home today from chemistry class, not even knew that I had class when I woke up, angry like hell. I hate my mother with all my heart. All she wants, is to go around and brag with other people about how "good" her child is, because it makes her feel good. And my feelings are nothing. I thought about this plan like everyday, about how I'll try to pass the subjects enough, about how much time I'll put in my work. But today it's just feel like nothing. I don't care about passing the grades anymore, I just want a job and move out. Should I just neglect all my studies and focusing on my portfolio? And even more, don't give any care about my mother complains if I get bad grades? My target job doesn't require a degree to get in, and also many people with different fields succeed entering, all I need is good knowledge. I'm kind of sure with what I want, but it's just I need a confirmation, that I'm going the right way. I'm so stressed. And no, I can't focus on both at the same time, I can only choose one to put all my effort in.

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When you realise that what you want & what you need are two separate & very different things, then you'll solve all of your problems. No one's going to tell you which way to go but if you listen to your gut, (listen to your institution & block all that white noise out) then you'll get a good idea of which way is the best for you..& that doesn't necessarily mean that Mum knows best either. However, you shouldn't need any confirmation that you're doing the right thing, if it's the right thing to do. You don't want to be one of those early 30s people, back at school, juggling a job to get ahead with a better education, do you? If you study when you're young & stupid, it's easier to achieve than when you're old & stupid. Above all else, if you kick yourself off the deep end of life, you sure as hell better be prepared to swim because you WILL be kicked off the deep end sooner or later without doing it to yourself. Good Luck & best of.

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Hi AA(etc), What career is your uni course geared towards, and same question for this portfolio (portfolio of what?).

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