Should i break up with my emotionally distant boyfriend?

Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this! My boyfriend (21) and I (20) have been in a loving relationship for about 3 years. We had many issues but we always worked through them together. Recently, around 3 months ago, his behavior shifted and he started acting really different towards me and because we are in a long distance relationship at the moment, i can‘t really tell if his behavior towards his friends has changed. Before this he was very loving but also very anxious, which is why his avoidant behavior is throwing me off. Of course I am happy that he is not as anxious anymore but him changing from one day to the other really worries me still. Now he is very nonchalant and uninterested. I talked to him about it and while it‘s gotten a little better, it‘s still miles away from how he used to be. Yesterday i asked him if anything is wrong and he told me that he is not content with where he is in his life financially and mentally. He told me that he feels numb and like he is not able to maintain personal relationships but that it has nothing to do with me and that there is nothing i can do. Before this conversation we had many more and i suggested a break, which he said no to, because he said he does not need a break and while he struggles with connecting with me over text, it‘s not that hard when we see each other, so he would still like to meet and be together. to put into perspective how different he is now : he doesn‘t respond anymore, he barely wants to spend time together, he does not ask to meet up anymore like he used to. I try so hard to accept that he just feels off and that it has nothing to do with me but something is bugging me and i can‘t let go of it. Right when this started he turned off his location right before he went to the club with his friends until 6 in the morning (i never asked for his location in the first place and never really checked. Only when we had an argument and didn‘t speak for a couple of hours), he barely wants to interact with me and if he does he doesn‘t want to talk anymore, he only wants to watch TV Shows (the ones I like, he does not want to show me his shows anymore). Another thing his, i get on the train and take 3 trains to him and usually he would insist on picking me up before getting on the third train, he does not do that anymore. He also used to insist on bringing me to that same station when i left again. Not only does he not do that anymore, the last two times he did do that he got rlly angry at me about the directions i gave him (I am very bad at telling my left from my right). He yelled at me twice and did not apologize. I don‘t feel connected to him anymore. We have not seen each other in over 3 weeks because i am on family vacation and while i am excited to see him when i am back, i am also scared because i can feel the difference in his behavior, even when we are together and because i haven‘t felt connected or loved by him for longer now, i feel used when we have sex and it makes me want to cry. And to be completely honest, i communicated how i feel to him so many times and nothing ever happens, i feel like i am annoying him, so i don‘t even really want to say anything anymore. I know i should not be making this about myself because he is struggling but he doesn‘t want my help and i am just left overthinking everything. It‘s gotten to the point, where i feel like i have to impress him to make him love me again. He says he does and i trust him 100% (even with the location thing, i know he did not cheat on me but i can‘t explain to myself why else he would turn it off), i know he is struggling but i can‘t help but wonder if he just does not like me anymore. Do you think waiting is a good idea or does it sound like he has fallen out of love? Also, has anyone have this happen to them before? How should i be acting?

Hey, Trust your instincts on this one, your being left in the unknown with him, which will make you feel really uncertain anxious but wanting to see him because of your once loving relationship. He’s showing you very clearly that he’s not in this relationship anymore. He’s just not saying it which isn’t right because he’s stringing you along and keeping you guessing. I am bearing in mind that he’s the anxious type but it sounds he acting very cold and snappy towards you, doing less too help you out with the train/travelling, and very little communication. And why is he turning off his location before going out with friends ? From what I’ve read you’ve done your best to support him. Sorry to say but To me it sounds like he’s left this relationship emotionally a while ago. Hope this helps