He still loves his ex what should i do
USER5196319 - Jul 27 2024 at 04:23
So hey guys!
I met a guy and we started talking and meeting more often he also was my first kiss and we got like a little close, we spent a lot of time together and had a few similar problems.
When I met him he got kicked out and so did i so we spent the whole night together outside.
We met a few more times and had fun and he told me about his problems and i comforted him and everytime we met he always told me something and i just listened and comforted him.
He told me that he was together with a girl for like 4 or 5 years and that he’s over her and doesn’t care about her anymore but i knew that wasn’t true because who can get over a long rs that fast? and the way he talked about her already told me everything i had to know, we kept meeting and stuff and it was really fun tbh and sometimes we argued but not that often and one day he just lied so much and he blocked me and readded me i didn’t accept so he added me again then when i accepted him he apologized and wrote me a whole paragraph low-key and he always told me that he could never get over me and that he loves me and stuff like that and love bombed me in the first days and i told him to not say that stuff because he doesn’t mean it and he always said he does and love bombed me more and more and i tried not to fall for it.
He wasn’t my type but i really liked spending time with him and i wanted to help him and comfort him and he also told me how he loves me more than her because in the 5 or 4 years they were tg he couldn’t even open up to her but to me bla bla bla so anyway then one day we talked that was after he blocked me and then added me the next day again then he asked if we can talk in person and tried to explain himself so we met and talked and he lied and lied about stuff so i told him that he’s lying and asked him why he’s lying so much and that he told me a different version of this and that and he acted all confused saying he was too high and shi and i was like i told u not to smoke then when u know that u are like this and he always blamed him lying on his weed and i told him that he’s acting like he’s drunk or stuff like don’t smoke then and then we argued and then he told me something and i found out he lied again because he told me a other version of that and he ofc blamed it on him smoking again then he was like i wanna say something and i was like tell me then he said no it will ruin the night and i was like it’s already ruined and he kept on saying no to me asking him to tell me it then he was like i tell you tomorrow so i said i’m not coming tomorrow and he was so mad about that and kept asking why and i was like do u not see how u are acting rn and ur lying so much and u don’t even know what ur saying and he kept saying i tell you tomorrow and i was like i’m not coming tomorrow as i said then he was like i will tell u it next time and i said then you’ll ruin another day just tell me it now and he refused and told me he will tell me it tomorrow and i said i told you i’m not coming tomorrow and he told me i’m acting weird and that i’m so weird today (on that day) and i was like i’m the weird one? and he was like can we meet another day and i was like so u want to go home now and he was like yea let’s meet another day so i told him there won’t be another day and that this was the last time we met and he was like why are u serious and i said yes then he got up said alright and was like be safe i said u too and he went home and looked back and i went and unadded him and when he got home and saw the x he blocked me and it was like 2 am at this time because we always met late and stayed out till it was morning.
When he blocked me the first time he told me he meant to block someone else and that he loves me and stuff like that and now he blocks me again because i unadded him?
After that i told my friends to watch his story and a few did and one screen recorded it and sent me it so he added her and was like talking to her and she told me so she gave me her password and i started talking to him trough it (he doesn’t know she’s my friend or that it’s me talking trough her account) then i asked him a few questions and he told me that he lives with his dad but he told her that he lives with his uncle? and he also told her some things which he lied to me about like damn and then we started talking more and i was like where do u live and stuff and he told me and we talked because i wanted to make it seem smart and like ask him about me like i was like are u often there (the place where he lives near) and he told me yea i like to be there from this to this time and i was like what are u doing there are u alone or with friends and he was like alone (i was always there with him in that timezone) and i was like i think i saw u once (because normally there isn’t anyone there at this time) and he sent me a pic of him i was like yea yea i saw u but u were with a girl (w me) and i was like u said u don’t got a gf so like if u do i don’t want beef or something and we talked bla bla and then he started talking about me and said that i cut him off and that he thinks i didn’t liked his personality and that i wanted to know him but he doesn’t know what happened then we talked and after some time he said he cut me off ???? like i did why r u lying again and he said he did it for a reason and the reason was that his life is like shit and mine is good and that i’m a good girl tbh and stuff like that and he said why should he come in my life and cause me problems and then i told him that my a friend of mine knows her (me) and that she talked to me and i told her i liked him and then we talked again and he said that i chose to cut him off so he won’t come back and i was like wait so if she would want to meet again u wouldn’t want to then he was like what are u …. (my name) why do u care so much about her is this you on a second account and then i had to find a excuse bla bla bl and then he was like yk the girl i was with (me) i really liked her and cared about her and loved her and i still do and he said sum else i can’t remember and also said but she chose to not talk to me anymore so i had to cut it with her and i respect her for her choice then he said sum else i forgot then i was like damn u still love her and then he was like nah i’m playing i don’t get over a 5 year relationship and u expect me to not get over 4 days of meeting LOL (we met for like 1 week or sum) then he also explained how he still loved his ex and still thinks she’s the right for him and that i showed him that his ex was the right for him bla bla and he also told me when he met that he will move but he told me that he will stay here for me and when we cut contact he also texted me friend that he was like i really would’ve stayed here for her bla bla but bro the fact he was like nah i’m joking and texting my friend that i basically showed him that his ex was the right one for him lowk hurts because i was the only one that listened to his problems and let him pour his heart out knowing no one else would’ve ever listened to him and i like made a plan but idek anymore if i should do it it was like because he asked her to meet and the plan was to tell him to meet n then ofc no one will come and he will wait but i go there w someone else so he sees us and when he goes home my friend will text him a text saying how he actually wanted to meet with her and that she will tell me everything and tell me that he talked shit ab me and bla bla bla and after unadd him when he opened the chat and then block him because he blocked me too but now idk like is that too childish idek what i should do anymore like ik a first kiss isn’t a big deal but still like i let him kiss me because he wanted so bad and let him touch me and stuff and always got mad when i wouldnt and then he’s saying how i basically showed him that his ex was the right one and that he will always love her?
Yep, the guy has used you & lied & carried on like a basic two year old. How he survived a 4-5 year relationship is mind boggling. Maybe he's been kicked out multiple times? You come across as a good person to have listened to this guy's troubles when you first met.
What should you do? walk away calmly & block him to give yourself some peace. You're the third party in this scenario & you guys always get hurt the most, but always. Get your head & heart straight & find someone who will love you & respect you as you deserve to be. It won't be easy, but you need to get on with your life on a high positive & not a negative, forever looking over your shoulder wondering.
He reckons he loves you? nah, you got it right. His type never do & never will take any responsibility for anything.