Please can I have your views?

ELAINE - Jul 29 2011 at 19:42

Member since Jul 2011

I had been having a long distance internet relationship for 18 months with a guy and we became very close. He already told me he was falling for me and I felt the same.He wanted to meet me but kept backing off every time we made plans because he said he thought I might not want him and he didn't want to have his heart broken. He eventually did come down and meet me.We were both very attracted to each other. I had told him he could stay at my house but I had made it clear I would not have sex with him until we were further into the relationship.Before he came down, he had asked if he could sleep in the bed with me and after long drawn out conversations I eventually agreed, he made it clear he would not touch me or expect anything from me, he just wanted to be close to me.I told him I would be wearing my knickers and a nightshirt which I did. The first night was quite romantic and good fun and we got on great. Went to bed and I stayed dressed, we kissed for a while then he started to go down on me,(he was very persuasive) he said he wanted to please me and that I didn't have to have sex if I didn't want to. I was rather drunk or I wouldn't have let him do that. The next day he was very hungover so we went for a hair of the dog. He didn't say a lot, he seemed grumpy but I put it down to his bad head and stomach.I wasn't feeling great either.I didn't attempt to hug him or kiss him or anything thinking he wouldn't want me to touch him because he was feeling so rough..He also did not approach me or touch me or anything either. I am also quite a shy person and he is the opposite. We just sat opposite each other on the bench at the pub.We came home and he wanted to go on my computer to watch porn! I said NO! He then called me a prude, he said he was going to bed. It was too early for bed for me so I stayed downstairs and watched TV. Then he called me to go up and asked for a cuddle, his back was to me, I was still dressed but put my arm over his waist, then he shoved my hand down onto his privates! I pulled away and then he asked for a BJ!. Not very romantic is it? Then he said to me "You can't ******* bear to touch me can u!" (This must be a reference to me not touching him all day?)He then proceeded to masturbate, needless to say, I came back downstairs.I did go back to bed eventually and he was asleep.He left the next day early, things were strained. My question is, do you think I was being unreasonable in not wanting him to watch porn the first time we met? (even though we sort of knew each other for ages) And also what do you think about him shoving my hand down there and asking for a BJ? Do you think that cos I let him give me oral he thought that he had won me over and it was a forgone conclusion that i would give him it back? I had made it quite clear before he came here that there was to be no sex and he agreed.The problem is that we had become so close, I was half in love with him and we were like best friends.What does he mean by "cold"?I think it's because I wasn't touchy-feely that day? I have tried to ask him but he won't talk about it, and now we are not really in contact, I feel so confused and keep thinking about it.He said he won't be back, that I am too "cold". Do you think before he came here he already had it planned and thought I would change my mind and have sex with him?I know I shouldn't have let him in the bed now.Am so fed up.