I found my partner on a gay dating site

I found that my partner of 8 years had been active, and had posted a profile on a gay dating site, he had logged onto the site at least three times a day for the past week. I had no idea about this previously until looking into his history on the computer. The relationship had been rocky for a few years. He made all kinds of excuses, but said he was not gay

i would just ask him what's up and ask him what he really wants. tell him that you want to be totally honest and you won't judge him if he does turn out to be gay, this will give him confidence in telling you

It's more complicated than that. We split up and after 4 months got together again, I put the gay dating site out of my mind, as my partner said he was not gay. But as the time has gone on I can't get it out of my head that he could be active on a gay dating site and so I told him that our relationship could only be platonic from now on, he said he could live with that? He doesn't seen to mind us not having a physical relationship, which makes me more sure that he is a closet gay. I have no problems with him being gay, if he could just admit it to himself, then we could move on and go our seperate ways. He has always ben so macho and manly, but now I can see that he could actually be gay. He was married before and has children, I think he can't admit it to himself and have a good life out in the open because he is just too proud for his friends and family knowing. When I found out I was very careful how I told him about it, hoping he would come clean, he made all kind of excuses about nothing turning him on so he looked at the gay dating site. But why would anyone submit a profile and photos and be on chat etc for months if he wasn't gay, it doesn't make any sense. Thanks for your reply, I hope you have an answer to this one.

To be honest the relationship seems kind of pointless, you could be in another relationship with someone who you can be physical with and someone you know loves you and is devoted to you and only you. I think its time you maybe move on because both of you could probably be happier in life than you are now

Hey i know i'm a little late i was wondering what ever came out of this? And i also wanted to say that he could be Bi-sexual which means he's into both sexes and is now finally actin on his other temptations. He most likely wants a discreet sexual relationship with a man to try it out but then again i'm just assuming.

Also did you ever try to make a fake username with pictures for that site and start a chat with him and find out what he's looking for? I don't think he'll come out and tell you so why don't you go undercover and find out?