How to know if you boyfriend is sexually attracted to you anymore

Me and my bf live together. Here for the past 9 months, we hardly have sex anymore. I am always the one initiating sex first. He always says I am too tired,I am hurting,etc. I wake up to him almost every single night masturbating beside me. He tries to make sure I am asleep first before he starts. I had a conversation with him about it and he says I am crazy. That is lie when I know it isnt. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. We are lucky to have sex once every week if not once every 2 or 3. At night when he starts I try to help him by placing my hand their and he says are you stupid stop it and acts like he wasn't doing anything

If you can, try to sit him down in a calm setting. Its important to think that maybe he's embarrassed about not preforming well, or other penial issues. Be straight with him, ask him if he finds you attractive anymore. Is he happy with you. Are you happy with him? Its important to satisfy your needs too.