Husband will not acknowledge that our marriage is in trouble!

I’ve been married for 6 years (together for 11) with three minor children. My husband is a very poor communicator and belittles things that I think are huge. He thinks it’s fine to attend his family events without me. He thinks it’s normal to resolve arguments with sex and NO resolving communication. We don’t agree on anything concerning our kids’ health, education or even our own finances or household decisions. It is very frustrating when he deems this as normal and that we are married and “marriage is til death do you part”. I hate this! He does not cater to my emotional needs and I’m usually left feeling alone and empty. I have to tell him to ask me how my day was, in which case he will BUT WHY DO I HAVE TO TELL YOU THESE THINGS. He hasn’t always been this way but this is not something I could ever accept or get used to because communication and affection is a must for me. We do have busy lives, and busy schedules but I’m just tired of always having to tell him HOW to treat me at this point in our relationship!

He is, to an extent. His parents are very traditional with deep southern ways. We both acknowledge that we are not our parents relationships, but I just feel like he isn’t capable of relearning. I’m angry all the time. Then end up feeling guilty when I see he isn’t sure what he has done wrong. I’m just tired... I feel like this is common sense if you know your spouse.