What should I do

Hi everyone,I need some opinions here. So my bf is off to grad school but,our relationship has been rocky this couple of months cause of distance. There is no effort on his part because he is super stress and I understand but on the hand I want this relationship to be equal. So when I told him that he said I will give it to you after I am done with finals but I told him he can do that but he can also just sent me a cute text saying I love you randomly because I am always the one doing that. I feel like I suffer from seasonal depression so that makes it worse when it’s the first time we have been apart and there are no efforts coming from his part with this relationship. We have been dating for 5years. Please help. Thank you