Nowhere to turn

I have been married for 8 yeas and been together with my wife for 12 years. Over the last few years I have been finding it so hard to talk to her. My wife has a long term illness and cant work full time due to her illness. She lost her job 2 years ago on christmas eve and have not been able to find any work since. I have been working 6-7 days a week to make ends meet. When I tried to tell my wife have I am feeling I keep getting from her to stopping say "I" as it has to be about both of us. When I do ge home from work some days my wife is still in bed at 7pm due to her pain levelsand nothing has been done around the hosue. She does not even come to bed with me at the same time. She wil set down stairs on the computer to 3-4am. My wie will not go out anywhere with me as she says she can not walk due to pain levels. I do not know when the last time we cuddle each other because when I touch her she says she is not in the mood or in to much pain.

i think you must understand her its like more psychological than physical,this is a feeling called depression and sadness,poor appetite and tiredness are common feelings in this situation,loss of interest in sex,a loss of interest in friends and socialising,feeling self blame,marked pessimism about the future,try to encourage her,talk about her feelings and difficulties,you must talk to a family doctor or to a psychologist because you must bother about your health too,you are the one who can help her, i think you can find another job or you can ask your relatives to help you with money and with their support