What do I do?

I have been deeply in love with an older man for nearly 3 years (older by 20 years) and he really is very lovely. He has shown me some of the world and im am truely very happy. No man has never made me feel like this before. His always bying me things and treating me well, i can do what i want and how i want and he trusts me 100% and the sex is great to. Are relationship has always been kept a quiet (my choice)as ive always been worried what people may think as im only 22. He asked me to marry him and im so happy so i decided to tell my family, when they found out his age they all flipped and told me i had to choose between him or them, i love my family and him to bits but dunno what to do. I dont think i can live without him but also need my family. Im so confused. He keeps telling me he will understand if i leave him and then gets upset but i cant bare the thought of that. Help me!

This is a little unfair on you i think. So what his older in my eyes that doesnt matter if you both love each over. You need to sit down with all your family and really explain how you both feel about each over. As your family they should understand and be there for you. Take things from there. Good Luck.

follow your heart sugar, and yur family will come round but it may take a few months. If you can hack that out your family will come round, slowly but surly. be strong and u will get through it together, and that will show your family that he is not going to break your heart, which is what they fear will hapen to you, and they love u too, and dont want to see u get hurt. i will be a rough ride sweetheart, but you will reach calmer waters, good luck, be strongx

perhaps your family are hoping that if they exert a little pressure on you that you will "see the error of your ways" and dump the man. but if you truly love him you must show them you mean business by sticking by him even at the loss of your family. once they realise that you are serious and not just suffering some sort of infatuation they will slowly come to see that gaining a son is better than losing a daughter and things should calm down. eventually you'll all wonder why the rucuss in the first place. hope this helped. xxxx

Well i think your familly are in shock and need time to realise how important he is to you, why not introduse him properly have a big family dinner would be gr8. Let your family get to know him and how wel you both love nd care for eachover. If your family are still not impressed choose him over them nd they will come around and want you back sooner or l8r. Hope it all works out for you.

Well I am in sorta the same situation as u, but i havnt told my family yet cause they will probably react the same way urs did. Wen i let my family no i am just gonna no how much i love him, btu i think a family dinner would b a bad idea because ur partner might just get a beaten..... so turn the tables on ur family and tell them taht its ur way or they will have 2 go. good luck xXx

im also going through this with a guy frm wrk i really love, family n friends can b oh so cruel!!! i arranged a dinner n it was gud but also bad lik sweety said, half my family now lik him n the other half hate him! people need to respect your true feelings, stick with him girl! after all its him ur marring not your family.

Im in exactly the same boat as you. My man is 20 years older than me, Im 30 and hes 50. You are lucky cos your man wants to marry you. He sounds like my man, as my man is just like that, buying me things all the time, although he doesnt appreciate me as much as he could. I would feel lucky and ecstatic that my man wants to marry me. I wish mine would ask me, but because he has been in a bad 4 year marriage and is divorced, he wont. He is too scared to commit again on that level. My advice to you is, sod everyone else, you are happy with him, marry him and forget everyone else. I envy you, lots of luck, angel xx

i think it is well unfair on u!i was in same predictment a few years ago i went with an older bloke (i was 20 he was 34) my family were not happy about it and it caused alot of hassle but once they met him and got used to the idea things were better! have your family met your fella? hope this has helped?? good luck!

i think it is well unfair on u!i was in same predictment a few years ago i went with an older bloke (i was 20 he was 34) my family were not happy about it and it caused alot of hassle but once they met him and got used to the idea things were better! have your family met your fella? hope this has helped?? good luck!