How much should you tell your parents about your wife?

I sent this email to my parents, and they blew-up. saying they do not want to visit anymore. Since this is still causing a problem with xxxxx, I need to clear some things up. xxx, as far as I am concerned was never my girl friend. We were never talking about anything further than being just friends until she came to visit ime. After that vist, she wrote me a letter saying it she wondered what it would be like if we lived together. She must have thought there was more between us, because that was the last thing I was thinking. I knew she was not "the one". xxx(my wife) thinks that she does not live up to your expectations (especially after what we went through in xxxxxx) and that you guys are comparing her to xxxxx and that you thought that I was going to marry her instead. She has problems with xxxx being at the reception you gave us and that I was in a picture with xxxx and xxxx without her. All I ask is don't bring up those two around us anymore. I know you guys still keep in touch with them, and that's fine. xxxx(my wife) is going through therapy to help with the insecurity she feels. It goes back to the way her mom was, and is, and the way her 1st husband treated her. Sorry if this sounds bad, but it needed to get out Did I say something to offend my parents? My only intent for this email was to get them to talk to each other about the issues so I did not have to be a middle man. Now my life is hell and I don't know what to do...

What you said seems field to me, perhaps it would have been more tactful to talk face to face rather than doing it by e mail but you have to preserve the two relationships you have, with your wife and parents. Your parents probably just need time to adjust (and probably bitch a little bit if there anything like my rents!) hope things improve for you !