Not relating to husband

Hi. Been married for 25 years this year to high school sweetheart. Have 2 kids ages 21 and 18. I’m experiencing a shift in our relationship. He doesn’t show that he is interested in me anymore. He started a new job which is very stressful. I also have a stressful job, but I put his needs and our kids’ needs first. I feel like I’m being taken for granted and looking for someone who understands my situation.

Your husband needs to understand that there's more to life than career and that he needs to have a work/life balance. When it comes to your marriage, you alone know your husband better than anyone else and you need to sit him down and get him to give you straight answers about his actions which lead you to feel that you're being taken for granted.

Thanks Manalone. This is not the first time. This situation between us happens quite often. We talk, I tell him how I’m feeling, and he becomes more attentive and supportive for awhile. He says he doesn’t want to lose me and may perform some gesture like cook breakfast one morning. Then our relationship reverts right back to the problems we’ve always had. I’m getting older more tired of this crap now.

Yes!!! I totally agree! Thank you for your words of wisdom and kindness :-)