Am I being unreasonable?!!!

Hello, I just wanted to obtain a bit of advice and to see whether I am being irrational. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years and we have lived together for just over a year now. We are happy - I love him unquestionably, my family love him and I know he loves me. He tells me daily, is affectionate and is constantly considerate of my feelings. I have never questioned his loyalty; he is extremely trustworthy. His friends have become my friends and vice versa and we have a very good social life. He is 27, I am 25. My 'problem' - if i can call it that - is the lack of interest in me I perceive him to have. I have got angry with him on a number of occasions about the way he will not even look at me or answer me when Im telling him things, say about my day or things im up to. On occassion he will ''ssshhh'' me if he's watching the TV etc! This makes me furious, I tell him, he apologises, then it happens again the next day. Our sex life is quite boring. I wonder if I compare him to a previous boyfriend with whom I had a fantastic sex life. My current boyfriend never seems to want to have sex and when he does, for instance the last time, was when he'd come back drunk after an albeit rare midweek drink with a friend and I was already asleep at 12am. I just don't feel any passion between us. I recently started volunteering for a cancer charity following the death of a very special Aunt. I helped out at my first charity evening last night and it went very well and I have been asked to get more involved and do a number of speeches with them at future events. I was very pleased about this, the charity is small and I am keen to raise it's profile. My boyfriend was also out last night with a friend. He phoned me - I got home before him - to ask if I was okay and what I was doing for dinner. I told him that I had only just got in, he asked how it went and that was that. When he got in, at 11pm I made him dinner and listened as he told me about his day and what he'd been up to this evening. I said: ''my evening went well if youre interested'' and he said that he'd already asked. MY point is that he seems to go through the motions and only ask these things because he feels he ought to. I constantly get the impression that he is totally uninterested in me. He is an intelligent man with a good job yet he doesn't challenge me at all, I feel that there is no real interest in me at all. I left the flat in quite a mood this morning and I am sure he knows why but he also never seems to understand why this kind of behaviour annoys me so much. I must stress that I love him very much and everything would be perfect if it weren't for these issues. I would appreciate your thoughts, even if it is to tell me to grow up! Best regards, C

At this point it might be very important u have a serious heart to heart on the issue. If he cares about this relationship he will listen. It dont mean it will change right away but if u are straight with him and advic ehim u are at the point where u are sick of it and explain how u feel and how he makes u feel, remeber dont do it when your mad cause they assume ur over reacting and just talking mad. Sit down and have a conversation while u are both in a good mode. Anger makes us say things we dont feel and blocks or brain from saying things we really want to say. Being able to share everything and to know they at least care to listen is very important to keep a relationship going. And the sex part needs work. It should be a fun exciting time. Not all the time but most of the time. Offer ideas and go to adult stores get ideas.