My best friend is not father of his oldest

I've known for 18 months and I am finding it hard be his friend knowing this.hes separated two years and there are 3 kids. First isn't his and is now 14. He doesn't s on terrible terms with his ex as he found out she had a few affairs.to make it worse his cousin is the father of his oldest I know its none of my business but he's my best friend

He doesn't know the child isn't his

Should I tell him

OH WOW...So he doesn't know this.... And you are his best friend. If this was my best friend I would tell him what I know....but I don't know how "dangerous" the cousin is. If you are going to tell your best friend I suggest telling your friend but having your friend THEN support YOU to getting a restraining order on the cousin if you think the cousin is dangerous. This is really hard cause its not fair to YOU because if you don't tell him and he finds out later that you knew...he will be hurt. If you don't tell him...you will hold this in and it may make you physically ill....You already said you are "acting" or "feeling" some sort of way... And lastly, if you were my best friend I would tell you....

Mother definitely will not tell him and Will deny it He has a right to know the truth? I'm leaning towards telling him as he deserves to know the truth But the fallout is enormous She knows I know My fear is she will tell him I knew for 18 months I found out from one guy she had an affair with. Total of 7 affairs I know of

Tell him For his sake and for the child They all deserve the truth If he is truly your best friend then he will remain so and will be grateful to you

It's difficult but I feel I would want to know. I am leaning towards telling him but keep rethinking it as the fallout is enormous for everyone

Its the job of the parents to think of the child first. And you really should tell him...cause your right if he finds out you knew for 18 months you may also lose this friend. The fall out is NOT on YOU....You didn't have a child and lie to your partner.....Its her problem to deal with...and better now while the child is young so he isn't misled into thinking someone is his Father that isn't....

I'm taking your advice and telling him.id want to know.thank you all. Nick

I agree with Susiedog...he might already know or have a suspicion. Who knows he could even know somehow that you know...and is confused as to if you should be telling him or if he should be mad at YOU. I think you are doing the right thing... I think you will feel better. You did not cause this pain....other people did...you can only be there to listen and be his friend. Good luck....truly.