Biopolar

I feel like I'm ready to give up. My husband has such mood swings. It seems that I can do anything right in his book. I'm very independent I make my own money he make his money. He is very jealous. He often think that I have a boyfriend which I don't. I have never been unfaithful to him. All I have thought about being unfaithful to him but I just can't bring myself to do it. He's very controlling. He must know where I am at all times. He throws huge tantrum. He blames me for his problems and why he's mad. I feel like I have nowhere to go. We have no kids together that he has 3 from a previous relationship. We have custody of two his grandkids. I just don't know what to do anymore. I cannot take his mood swings anymore. At 1 time he was on meds but he didn't like how it made him feel. Everyone noticed how calm and pleasant he was. He's overweight and just plain lazy. Then he gets mad when the house is a mess and I don't have time to clean it. I just don't know what to do anymore

Hey Angelbabe, He's your husband.. and you're his wife, talk to him about why he's feeling so insecure (and if he gets offensive/defensive, tell him you're only trying to DISCUSS with him the issues, and not to argue). Reassure to him of all his insecurities, fear,s doubts, worries, anything that causes him to be so controlling. He may be the man, but he does not need to control everything or have everything in his power, that's unrealistic of him. Also, share with him what you've been thinking and how you've been feeling as well. You both have the right to know how you feel towards each other. Make sure that you and he BOTH work TOGETHER to make it work, if you're both willing to do so. And if you're both on the verge of separating, then I say you both would have to divorce and try meeting new people. I'm sure you would be happier with someone who actually respected you (and all these other factors), but again, try to see if he is willing to make it work with you. Good luck, take care.