Wife after 14 years sends video feeds masturbating to ex

What should i do after 14 years my wife send sexual videos to the same guy she was messing with when we first got together. I caught her trying to call him 2 years after we got together now 14 years she does this again even worst. I just dont understand why now. I asked what im i doing wrong she says nothing. Does she love me? Do she care more for him? I need answers. She really broke my heart. We have 5 kids and i thought our relationship has been on the up and up. The things she described she did for him and what she said gets me. Now her dad is in the hospital fighting for his life two days after this and now im seeing her emotional but i cant get the courage to comfort her because im so heart broken. What can i do

Thank you soo much for replying to post. It just drives me crazy because she has been doing it for months way before her dad situation. She says she very sorry but i feel shes only sorry that for how bad she hurt me. If she was really sorry she would of told me the truth insted of me finding out. If i never found out she still would be talking to him today. It just don't make since. People say get revenge but i feel that two wrongs dont make a right. Do she really care? Is she telling me what i want to hear and going to keep doing but be more careful?;idk what to do im so confused.

Thank you for that i really appreciate it. Yes im trying my best to not let it get to me so much but that was something for me only and i never imagined her to be that type of person to do that. All she said was shes been telling me for awhile to help her with things and be there for her when she needs me but i never listen. She says all i say is sorry ill change and i dont and she just got fed up with it. She said she is really sorry and she didnt think it would hurt me the way she did because i cryed in her arms like bad i was so hurt she really hurt me i would never do something like that. I didnt relize it was that bad but now i do.i just hope things will change for the best.

I don't think there is an excuse for why she did that. I am sorry but we all have choices and what she did was ultimately her choice for sending him that video. Now it opens up the possibility that she has been messing with this guy for longer than what you think. You just dont send someone that kind of stuff out of the blue. Either way it is wrong.

Thanks Jennifer. Yea i know its been awhile that she has she said a few months bur thats long enough. The whole situation sucks. I love her soo much im willing to work it out. It just sucks that i caught her and now its ohh now i can see how much you love me im very sorry. She says she cut him off. I dont know what to think. Her dad just passed away yesterday and i dont have it in my heart to keep throwing it in her face dispite everything she is going through. I dont want no more stress than she already has. But at the end of the day whay about how i feel? I mean im not holding a grude right now. We talk we laugh we kiss. We had sex. But behind all that im still like sooooo hurt. Its seems she want to just say sorry and let it go and want me to belive she really sorry and shut up and move on but thats not the case with me. I cant get that out my head at all. One min i seem fine then im sad again. I dont want to leave her because of this. I love her so much im willing to work it out. She just saysni lost my dad please dont leave me either. Makes me feel really sad but seems like a guilt trip. Idk soo many emotions. What should i do?? What would you do in this situation?