20 yo and still never dated : is something wrong with me?
Hello, first of all English is not my first language so I’m sorry if I make mistakes.
So I’m 20 yo, 3rd year of college and I’ve never dated before. Not only dated but even got into a close romantic relationship, never had a kiss before and never flirted…
A lot of my friends with the same age already got into a relationship or even date at the moment, and that makes me feel kinda left out..
I’m not exactly sure why I’ve never dated, I mean I’m kind, I think I’m a cool person to hang out, oh and I’m ok looking, I’m not Selena Gomez or whatever but I think I look good haha. Anyways, maybe it’s because I’m a bit timid or something but I never seemed to have very close men friends?
Like I feel a lot more comfortable talking to girls, but I’m kinda a tom boy myself : it’s a bit cliché but I love video games, watching nba, skateboarding, or listening to Eminem lmao (I know it’s not only boys that do that, but compared to my friends that do girly stuff and watch girly stuff well sometimes I feel kinda weird). Then maybe it’s because of the way I dress, I wear close that are kinda large with a pair of jeans and some Nikes, I wear make up and all but I like masculin type of close or unisex close. I sometimes wear skirts but rarely. Anyways I feel like I would love dating, since I have a lot in common with the few male friends I have but it never happened.. I don’t really know how to flirt either and I get embarrassed pretty easily since I don’t have a lot of confidence….
Does any of you guys have advice to get me into a cute relationship? Because right now I feel alone and I’m kinda sick of it :(
Thanks in advance, and I’m sorry for the long message, it’s my first time on these types of forum..
It doesn't matter who you are, what you wear, who you look like, what you eat for breakfast, who & what you listen to music wise, what does matter is that there's someone out there waiting for you. One day you'll bump into them & that'll be the end of you. You'll look back & wonder what the hassle was. In the meantime, just put yourself out there & mingle with people who share your interests...oh & when you flirt, it's a natural thing without the effort.
Nothing wrong with you. People live at their own tempo. I lost my virginity at age 23, mostly because I'm an introverted type and it took a while to get out of shell and meet a person I had a vibe with. If you want to meet someone, you're more likely to do so through a friend of a friend... so as often as you can, hang out with your friends. Don't be afraid to talk to people in your group, one on one, and more importantly, if you like someone, don't be afraid to tell them... drop hints at first, and if they seem responsive, ask to see them again in the future. Hesitation and not being open about how you're feeling about someone is a common way you can miss out on something good.