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Is a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?

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Hi! I would really appreciate some advice on a situation I am facing at the moment regarding realtionships. I've always been a very mature person for my age, and that's why I've only pretty much been surrounded by friends older than me, cause they would match my level of maturity (if that makes sense). That being said, I met a boy 6 years older than me a few months ago. And I've literally never met a person like him, he's really one of a kind. To this day, we are not in an official relationship yet but we would both like to. The only problem is my mom. She knows that I've started to hang out with a boy often, but she doesn't know that he's 22 years old and living on his own. Considering that I'm 16, I know how these realtionships can be seen. I don't want to lie to my mom about him because things are getting more serious and she starts asking a lot of questions. So I want to discuss this with her, but I know she is not gonna react well. I've never been in a relationship, we have a 6 years age gap, I'm a minor; she has a lot of reasons to disaprove this realtionship. But I want to be honest with her, I will have to eventually. She doesn't allow me to see him until she can meet him. So I obviously have to tell her before they meet each other, but I really don't know how. Did someone have a similar experience that they would want to share? Does someone have advice on this situation? WHat should I do? I really hope that someone on here is able to help me! Thanks to everyone

Is a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?

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You are a child. Your consort is an adult, at least according to the law. In some states an intimate relationship would be considered a felony. It doesn't matter how mature you are for your age, especially since all 16-yar-old girls think they fit that description. You're jumping through hoops to justify this, even calling this man a boy. He's not. You might ask yourself, why can't he attract women (grown women!) his own age? Maybe he could, but it's much easier to impress a child with limited (by your own accounting, no) experience. A six-year difference between *adults* isn't always insurmountable. I was 28 when I married a 35-year-old. We had both had long-term relationships. We each had experience living in apartments and paying bills and being on our own. You need to be dating BOYS your own age, he ought to be dating grown women, not little girls. You know what? if it's 'true love' you can begin dating again when you're older. If you're afraid he might not feel the same way in two years, then you shouldn't date him anyway.

Is a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?

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Forget about worrying about the age gap, you need to focus on your own age. If you're mature as you say you are, then you know the consequences without even having to go anywhere near your Mum with this issue. Likewise this guy if he was genuine, and MATURE, wouldn't be anywhere near you as a 16 year old, no matter what his background is.

Is a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?

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I still do not know for certain but believe my 55 year old wife has at least one lover in his 20s. Seems to be working for her

Is a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?

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peter527, your wife isn't having sex with children. You've got your own thread. This child is being groomed.

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