I feel like no one likes me

I started university this year and had to do online classes for the first semester. That time was definitely one of the worst for me as I had no interest in going to that university (my parents made me go because it was religious) and I struggled to keep up with the time differences. Fast forward to now, I'm doing in-person classes and I'm now halfway through the second semester. However, it's been almost three months and I don't know anyone in my classes. Everyone seems to know each other while I'm always the only one alone. I try to sit near everyone or even talk to them but it always feels like I'm a pest of some kind. I also tried to join a club in hopes of maybe making friends there but it's the same situation. The club is made up of a majority of boys and only 5 girls (including me) and almost everytime the four other girls will pair up with each other and talk and I'll just be there on my own, feeling like I'm invisible. The same thing happened to me in high school when I moved during my last two years and it was only in the end of my first year that one person became my friend. At first, I tried my absolute best not to let it bother me until I broke down recently and told my parents, who only told me to just "persevere" and "you're only there for 4-3 years, if they're ignoring you then ignore them back." At this point, I just want to leave.

Hi Cookies, I'm so sorry you're having to wait - respondents (all voluntary) are thin on the ground at the moment. Hopefully, someone will log on and reply to you soon, but I'll keep my eye on you and try to see to you myself if I see you're still waiting. Try not to worry - this is a very common situation you're in and there are always, always solutions. :-)

Hi again, I've a spare 2 minutes now, and will check back with you tomorrow evening. In the meantime, I've some questions: 1. Time difference? Is your university in a different country to your home? 2. Do you know, how come everyone else seems to already know one another? 3. "At first, I tried my absolute best not to let it bother me until I broke down recently and told my parents, who only told me to just "persevere" and "you're only there for 4-3 years, if they're ignoring you then ignore them back." Huh? ONLY 3-4 years? Ignore them BACK? HUH?? Is this dire lack of sympathy usual for your parents?

PS: They can't NOT LIKE you - for the simple reason that they haven't got to know you...not whatsoever. I think you mean, you feel no-one is bothering to get to know you. It can't be personal or any reflection on you and your likeability, is my point.

Hi cookiesandcream it sounds like you are having a hard time with all these new transitions in your life. It may feel like your parents may not understand what you are going through. Being new at a school can be hard especially after having gone through online learning then transitioning back to in-person. It may seem like you are alone in the sense that everyone looks like they have friends besides you but the truth is that you are not the only one. Many people have trouble finding friends and college. I recommend going to school events or joining other clubs that may interest you. The more people that you surround yourself that have similar interests as you will make it easier to make friends. Dont be afraid to reach out to others and be yourself not everyone will be friend materail so do not get discouraged if you get turned down. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!

Hi cookiesandcream it sounds like you are having a hard time with all these new transitions in your life. It may feel like your parents may not understand what you are going through. Being new at a school can be hard especially after having gone through online learning then transitioning back to in-person. It may seem like you are alone in the sense that everyone looks like they have friends besides you but the truth is that you are not the only one. Many people have trouble finding friends and college. I recommend going to school events or joining other clubs that may interest you. The more people that you surround yourself that have similar interests as you will make it easier to make friends. Dont be afraid to reach out to others and be yourself not everyone will be friend materail so do not get discouraged if you get turned down. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck!

Discussions, (nice reply btw) - I think she must have wandered off to another site because we couldn't respond fast enough. :-(