Should I say something

Okay here goes nothing, I’m a 46f a good few years ago I got with a guy Much younger than me. It wasn’t serious met a few times, we lost touch and remained friends from a distance. He got married last year 1st anniversary was recently. He moved to my area and started working locally, which I’d see him daily He is now telling me daily he has always loved me (cringe) Although he’s a good looking guy and married I have told him I’d never cross that line. He is 31, married I know his wife in passing my heart completely breaks for her. He has said he feels no guilt nor does he feel bad for what he is doing or what he want to do with me while married. I’ve told him we are friends nothing more we live in the same area so it’s hard ignoring him. Advice please, do I tell his wife? They don’t have children he also uses her anxiety against her. I can’t even begin to imagine what his wife is going through

No, don't tell her. The tendency is to shoot the messenger, you know. She may know. She may be of a mind to *not want to know.* They may have an arrangement 1) With the exception of my actual coworkers, there's no one I'm guaranteed to see daily. If this bothers you *that much* change your habits/shopping/bank branch/coffee shop. You could ignore him when he says these things, pretend not to hear him. If you wanted to be particularly dramatic, you could tell his employer as this may qualify as sexual harassment. I think that's over-doing it, though. I think you could avoid him if you *wanted* to. 2) You don't *know* that he would follow through, even if he had the opportunity. When I was single, all kinds of men answered my ad/ profile. My guess is they were looking for [maybe] excitement, but when I responded to them, many disappeared. Some people like the thrill of the chase, not actually catching anything. 3) If someone was openly propositioning me to cheat on his wife (who I knew in passing) I certainly wouldn't consider him friend material. If someone would do that to his spouse, he's not going to treat a friend any better. If you consider him a friend, still, I guess you're not that offended or empathistic toward his wife.

Empathetic, I meant.