Fiance obsessed with an old friends only fans..

Over the last 3 years my BF has been caught flirting with a girl from the next town over, he went to school with her, on social media under an alias when I confronted him about it he says "so? I like to look at slutty girls on the internet" what bothered me is she is obtainable, her kid goes to the same school as his, he had scream shots of her dressed up in none revealing clothes, and he NEVER compliments me, never says anything when I put on something skimpy, and I even caught him trying to look at her only fans before having sex with me... Of course it's all "harmless" or "he has been waiting forever to find out an old friend has an OF, it's" but just yesterday I found a ton of naked pictures screen shot from her only fans on a phone he just switched from 2 weeks ago so I feel there is something more... We have been together for 11 years and we are supposed to get married next spring but I am so heart broken I don't know that I can go through with it. He is now mad at me because I told him I needed him to delete ALL photos he has of her... What should I do?

Too Far Gone is right! What do you mean, what should you do? Do you know any schoolkids? They'll tell you? Come OOON, TFG...wakey-WAKEYYYY! Slutty girls? Slutty GIRLS? (What - are they all 12 and under?) SLUTTY?? What century is he from? What a giant Misogynist! (Have you got a thing for cavemen?) Dump his broken-minded, cheating arse! I mean - what else is any self-respecting person supposed to be able to suggest, reading all of that? He doesn't even like women! Quite the opposite! You can't like people you have zero respect for, let alone love them! Whether any of his over-entitled pursuit-targets are available or not - he's cyber cheating on you, showing utter contempt for your gender (AND you personally!). Harmless? THAT'S NOT HIS CALL - IT'S YOURS. Does it FEEL 'harmless to you' TO YOU? You have not been together for 11 years. Minus 3 makes 8. And even those were fake. AS WE NOW UNDENIABLY SEE. If he'd ever genuinely loved you even just ONE MONTH of those years, he wouldn't/couldn't POSSIBLY repay you like this. It would be taboo... A line he couldn't bring himself to cross. This bozo DOVE! And I seriously doubt she was the first. Just the first he SHOWED you - or let you find (...uh-huh...I know what he's doing: The Usual). And for future ref, genuine engagements don't take sodding 11 years to appear. Go Google "Future Faking - Narcissist". You will NOT go through with it! Don't you DARE self-harm and sacrifice your future self, your whole quality of life AND YOUR UNBORN CHILDREN'S SANITY like that! And - for WHAT? You'd spend the rest of your life severely regretting it...trapped....vital confidence for leaving, GONE...shredded over and over with every new female threat until it couldn't grow back! And then you'd be fully justified in coming back here, bitterly reproaching me for not having slapped you awake, harder....If only, if only, if only..... Not on my watch, love. If I see someone on the opposite pavement to me, about to walk feet-first into an open manhole, literally one pace away from disaster, I damn-well sprint over and push them as violently as need be out of its way (and they can hate me for 5 minutes and thank me later). ***********HE'S DISGUSTING************ Deleting the photos won't cure this. They can be replaced with more photos. His PSYCHOLOGICAL DISTURBANCE is the problem. For prime, twisted example: HE HAS NO RIGHT TO BE MAD AT YOU. Over-entitled pig. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WITH EXCLUSIVE RIGHT TO BE MAD AT HIM...WHITE-HOT FURIOUS! AND TO DUMP HIS SERIALLY-CHEATING, BEHIND-CLOSED-DOORS-USER-ABUSER ARSE WITH TOTAL 100% JUSTIFICATION! He should be begging for your forgiveness!!! MAD AT YOU?! (Oh, just give me the gun.) Dump him while you can. As I've just shown you - he's brainwashed you already,...dragging it out.... meaning, his attempt right now to prime you into finally rolling over, out of exhaustion probably, and becoming one of his many concubines will likely succeed. You only have a short window at this juncture and life junction. Left is Normality and Right is a Life Sentence of the worst misery known to mankind. I'll find you some relevant links...bit up against it at the mo, though, so, please bear with. But - NO! Right?

You still there, TFG? Sorry, I got heated. It wasn't aimed at you (in case that's why you haven't come back?), it was him I was furious with (on your behalf) (and the world's!); his lack of empathy and remorse, his over-entitlement and blatent misogyny... is OFF THE SCALE. You're NOT going to go through with the wedding, are you? PLEASE don't? A period of heartbreak and getting over him will be NOTHING compared to if you do. Life sentence on-legs. They don't get better - they get worse. You've just TRIED to put your foot down and look where it got you. Nothing but gaslighting, including Word Salad, back. I can help you through the entire dumping, detachment and grieving process - AND aftermaths: see Lily31 - Parents Split Up...in its 8th year...pheonix rising out the ashes epitomised but standard post-Malignant Narc stuff. This guy is SO beneath you. So debached. He's a Covert Malignant - subtype Cerebral. Withdrawing the previously faked love and respect - and sex - after the Honeymoon (Love-Bombing campaign) is standard stuff for them. Cold Fish, ugh. It's not about sex, it's about hatred of women and getting turned-on only when treating them like worthless pieces of meat and using them like free-of-charge prostitutes. And building a secret harem of lovers/admirers if very severe, or always having to have that one, (scuse French) Dildo-On-Legs. They don't even LIKE sex. They're so pompous they think it's too beneath them. It's just a torture and debasing tool. You just can't marry this freak, you just can't. So - still there before I go off and find you those links?