Any thoughts?

Thoughts? F (35 m (38) We've been together almost a year and are living together. Im a very sexual person and would love to do it everyday. I stay in shape, keep myself manicured etc. He said every other is really more his pace. We've had discussions 3x now because it's more like 3-5 days in-between and that's a long time for me! And if I initiate 9 out of 10 times I'm turned down. Never had this problem in a relationship before, and before he moved in it was never an issue. He said when we talked he's depressed and stressed (said this months ago as well) and that maybe when xyz starts and he doesn't see me as much it will be more exciting. Yikes! Is it possible he just has a lower drive? Always been with and heard of men only having higher.

Hi GlitzyGlam! Yuh. Typical gender clash going on here. At 35, you're at your sexual peak. His peak was back when he was 18. But anyway... He's saying every other day - as his compromise - but his actions are every 3 to 5 days. So the latter's the truth, isn't it. (And it shows an incompatibility, sexually.) Wonder why he's lying/over-selling? Do you suppose he doesn't want it to cause a real problem between you as could lead to a break-up? Hmm. Turned-down is not nice. Nor good for you. Wait up... - STOP PRESS! "Never had this problem in a relationship before, and before he moved in it was never an issue." OH REALLY! Interestink. "He said when we talked he's depressed and stressed (said this months ago as well) and that maybe when xyz starts and he doesn't see me as much it will be more exciting." Pardon? MORE WHAT??? Narcdar Alert!!!! (I KNEW I was getting iffy vibes!) "Yikes! Is it possible he just has a lower drive? Always been with and heard of men only having higher." Maybe. Maybe not. But here're the facts: 1. HE LIED ORIGINALLY ON HIS C.V. AND IN THE INTERVIEW. AND IN THE FIRST TRIAL MONTHS! 2. And his offer of a compromise is a (repeated!) lie. 3. And he's very subtly insulted the hell out of you with that 'maybe more exciting' comment. If he needs ruddy absence and abstinence to "make YOU, NAKED AND IN TTHE MOOD more exciting - BECAUSE, OSTENSIBLY, SEEING YOU THIS MUCH BORES HIM(!!!) then HE'S in the wrong relationship too! 4. But BECAUSE he misrepresented himself in a major way - you felt it the healthy and right thing to do to move in together. 5. Moving in together after less than a year is a huge but carefully- and subtly-done Red Flag (- seems JUUUUUST long enough...but as you now see - isn't). Who's idea/proposal was it? TELL ME MORE ABOUT THIS GUY, PLEASE. Houston, I think we've got another one. You say he matched you urge-to-urge during that entire nearly-year? After how many weeks or months did you notice his libido start to drop? Was it gradual or quite sudden? Oh, look.... *HE* MOVED IN. Right. Definitely tell me more. E.g. where else is he unfair, unreasonablem and fobs you off as if you were some kid in the check-out queue who wants daddy to buy her a mere lollipop?

Hi GLITZYGLAM, I know how you feel. I’ve been there. Married to the most unromantic guy ever. My solution was to satisfy myself no matter what. Of course alone with the help of some s*x tools. Trust me it is rewarding to become independent in this case as you don’t have to beg someone for your pleasure. Such Intermittent mast***n episodes help me relax and get ready for actual action. Not sure if you have tried it.

Hi, Maybe suggest an open relationship. I'm in a similar situation currently.