Relationship advice

Hi, looking for advice and or feedback from others with similar experience. I’ve been married to my husband for 14 years and whilst we are great friends, we’ve not had any intimacy for 12 of those. He’s just not interested and won’t discuss it. We do love each other but it feels just as friends now. I miss the sexual spark and the feelings related to that…to be honest we never had a huge connection in that way but I’m now really looking for that.

SGJM, massive apologies for the delay, but respondents are thin on the ground of late. You said: "I’ve been married to my husband for 14 years and whilst we are great friends, we’ve not had any intimacy for 12 of those. He’s just not interested and won’t discuss it. We do love each other but it feels just as friends now. I miss the sexual spark and the feelings related to that…to be honest we never had a huge connection in that way but I’m now really looking for that." 1. For how many years prior to your wedding day had you dated? 2. How many months/years into dating each other did he propose marriage? Did any of that dating time include 'living together in sin' first? If so - give me the timelines from first meeting and/or first date up until the two years after your wedding? 3. Regarding the 2 years married point: did the sex more or less suddenly just stop or, peter out? If the latter - how quickly. And what reasons were and have since been stated? 4. Has he consulted his GP about it? PS: Are you in your early-mid 30s?

Either he's 1. Cheating on you 2. Has a health issue (ie, low testosterone) 3. Body dysmorphia? 4. Porn addiction? One of those things. Go through his phone + ask him to get his hormones checked. Y'all been married for 14 years might as well have a baby if you guys haven't already