Trouble with a girl whose a friend that I really like

I Have liked this girl for a long time. I got to know her more and like her a lot but she wasn't interested at the time. We agreed to stay friends and I think she believes that's all it is but I still like her a lot and don't know what to do. If I voice my feeling its just gonna cause more problems but if I just stay away from her completely its gonna hurt both of us. Her because we've become really good friends. I dont want to just ignore her forever but I honestly cant see a better solution. Please help me out.

Hi and welcome, JCDAME45! Apologies for the delay. I or someone else will be with you asap. Please meanwhile feel free to respond on other posters' threads, including those likewise still waiting (and I'm posting this same message to them)? That's how it works here - a free-for-all come tit-for-tat. :) If you feel nervous about doing that, you might find it helps enormously to read other present and past, established threads - and, ditto, where concerns finding a problem similar to your own. :)

Oh, cripes, I'm all behind! Bumping up for tomorrow. Profuse apologies to you, too, JC!

Hi again ("pant-pant!....we're low on respondents just now), "I Have liked this girl for a long time." What are you calling a long time? "I got to know her more and like her a lot but she wasn't interested at the time. We agreed to stay friends" Describe the scene and conversation (as verbatim as you can) where you 'came out' to her? "and I think she believes that's all it is" What are you basing that on in terms of her vibe, conduct and behaviour with/towards you? "but I still like her a lot and don't know what to do. If I voice my feeling its just gonna cause more problems but if I just stay away from her completely its gonna hurt both of us. Her because we've become really good friends. I dont want to just ignore her forever but I honestly cant see a better solution. Please help me out." Easy-peasy-Lemon-Squeezy: you explain the problem and ask for a 6-month Time Out period (or less - depending on your ages and stages - RsVP?), just so's you can lose that excess attachment (and possibly, infatuation) for her, i.e. get her somewhat out of your system so that you calm back down to Friend-strength feelings only. It IS do-able. Does that sound like a good plan, Stan?

Oh - and it's vital that you both set in concrete a precise date, time and venue for your "Reunion" meet-up. Even better - you swap something precious to each of you (a ransom, LOL). That way, neither one of you will start to experience doubts and panic during the mini-separation.

I suppose i could try that. A problem though is that we both go to school and sit next to eachother in a couple of our classes.SO while I can avoid her i cant flat out stay away. Should I just try to stay away when possible or something? Thanks

If you could answer my above questions, one by one, then I can get a better idea of what you should or shouldn't do. Could you please? Cheers!

Also...I do need to know your ages because that will affect how you approach this, too.