Roommate vent & concerns

New here, but I've been dealing with some roommate issues for over 2 years now, and I'm at a loss. First, as vaguely specific as I can be, this is my first living situation outside of living with family, but I would like to think that I'm managing as best as anyone could. I, 27M, am living with a two roommates, 32F and 45M, who are engaged. We planned our move in together for a little under a year back in the pandemic, and I've just been finding little issues here and there as time has gone on. I'm not perfect, let me just state the obvious now. I deal with mental health issues continually, which have only gotten worse due to moving away from my support systems, but I've been managing by seeking help and meds and what not. I have worked 95% of the time that I've lived with my roommates, barring a brief stint of extreme burnout and toxic work environments. I try my best to clean up after myself, and if there is any mess it's limited to my own bedroom or a basket of laundry left by the washer/dryer. I am the one that sweeps the floors, tries to make sure towels and open use household items are where they need to be, and I tend to buy the items used as common items (silverware, cups, ottoman, tables, chairs, etc.) currently I work part time while going to school full-time. My roommates are home 99% of the time, and they don't leave the house unless it's to a dispensary or doctors appointment. 32f used to work, but had some health complications and now is only a full-time student. 45m has debilitating health issues/chronically relies on herb to keep himself comfortable, and has recently went back to school full-time. Together they let dishes stack up, trash pile up, and have taken over the living room to the point it's their space that they inhabit when they aren't in their room. They pay for W/E/G, and I felt that was fair since there's two of them, one of me, and we're splitting rent 50/50. I try my best to be as open, considerate, and generous because I want my environment to be peaceful. But, I cannot play maid to clean the kitchen, floors, living room, stairs, and bathroom everytime by myself when these are spaces used by the household. Maybe I'm being inconsiderate of their needs and issues, but I try to work hard and get stuff done that's important, whereas they tend to play videogames, watch TV or movies or read, while only engaging in cleaning when they need a clean plate or cup. We used to split groceries, as well, but I felt uncomfortable with that when I was having issues balancing groceries, bills, gas, rent, and whatever else. So I unofficially ended the shared expense of grocery shopping. As someone who is in a customer facing job, and is a massive introvert, coming home to all shared spaces being wrecked or in a state of unclean gets me anxious and uncomfortable in my own space. We've experienced some issues last year when they ran out of money during summer break from school, so I busted my butt at work to cover rent, utilities, and internet, but it's not sustainable as I currently am. My biggest pet peeve has come from the fact that the roommates are in different degrees but rely on each other so heavily to answer questions, look up quiz answers, and one of them is always asking the other one to verify before completing assignments. The peeve happens because I'm in the same degree path as one of them and they always comment how they've got "perfect grades" when I'm getting A's and B's with no additional help as if they're some how better than I am. It makes me feel crazy feeling this way, but I think it's just because they make comments like this but then don't contribute as much as they could. If anyone has any advice to share, comments, or ideas, I'd appreciate it. I think I just needed to vent a little bit, and get it off my chest.

Hey, Wow, you’ve been putting up with these issues for over two years? You really must be patient, I think I would have gone mad after the first month…or two. I’m a neat freak (I’m not anal) and it’s so true that you feel sooo much better living in a clean and organised house. You’re not being inconsiderate AT ALL and if you don’t do anything about this, your two housemates are going to carry on taking huge advantage of you. I’ve lived with housemates at uni, then after leaving home and currently i live with a female housemate and bf, so i can understand about wanting to keep the peace -“and having a nice atmosphere to live in. It’s important. you’re not their maid …or more like House Slave.I understand they have health issues etc but your mental health is important too. Time to talk to them, assertively and make it clear you’ve had enough. Have an idea of what you’re going to say to them and agree to put in a cleaning rota, that you can make together? Yes it is a bit like going back to school, but they’re acting like kids and sounds like they have zero respect for anyone or anything. Do you own the house?

Put your foot down & tell your housemates to clean up after themselves. Tell them their mother doesn't live there. While you continue to clean up, they'll continue to let you do it. Yeah, do a roster if you need to, but empathise that that's for little kids at kindergarten if that's what it takes to get them off their arse & to pull their finger out. These guys are using you, & while you continue to bear the burden (until you have to vent somewhere about it), you'll forever be their bunny. It's no use you contributing solo just to keep the peace with your bludging ADULT housemates, when you can't relax in your own space, which in turn does your head in....that sound fair? no bloody way it does. Put your foot down & lay some ground rules, otherwise tell them to eff off & get some new respectful housemates who are willing to support you & each other under the same roof & who understand the words, team effort.