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My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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So I've been in a wonderful relationship with a guy I've known since we were younger. After high school we got together and it's been this way for 6 months, like a said pretty great.Weve been on multiple trips together to see concerts and stayed in hotels for days with one another. We love eachother and he supports me in a lot of mental health related struggles and I try to reciprocate. One of this struggles is my current living situation, a hoarder house. In my house, there's been zero improvement for the 14 years my family has lived here. Growing up I had absolutely no friends over for any reason, we even used to hide when someone would knock on the door. Obviously this comes with a lot of crud including setbacks in my own social development and cleanliness habits. My last options after repeated attempts to improve the situation or talk with my parents, was to make my own space. I now live in the walk out basement with my fish tanks and lizard. This opened so many doors for me in making and maintaining my space, and most fun of all having guests into my home!!! I've been incredibly proud of myself for clearing out this area of and trash boxes to be mine. Now that I'm in a loving relationship, the 2 of us planned to move out along with my fish to an apartment. We have enough money combined for rent, as I'm sure everyone knows how hard it would be to live alone at this age. Then the bombshell. ON our 6 month anniversary my boyfriend comes to me after being distant for a week to tell me he no longer plans to live with me... at all.. because he's going to college pretty far away in 4 months. On top of that he wants to break up when the semester starts too. I'm so broken over this because I really thought we had something and that I could make my way into a better situation with him by my side. Now what I have is an expiration date for the person I've loved. Of course it builds to trying to still celebrate this 6 months we've had, with a plan to go to an art gallery and dinner. Nit only did plans fall through one week, the next time he had off work he was late more than an hour to pick me up. I get a ride to his house and end up in his bedroom waiting for him to get out of bed. After slured promises to just sit up and 30 minutes pass, I go outside to wait for my ride and try not to cry my makeup off. I'm so lost at this point because he's shown so much love for me in the past I don't understand how it can start to unravel so quickly. And now everytime I do dishes or other mundane chores I'm pained by the memory of a time where I believed we'd be doing these things together, in a place of our own. I love him dearly and I just need to be heard on this and get some advice on how to turn this around. Peace

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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On the contrary, & I'm sorry, but your BF left you awhile ago because if he really needed you in his life, he would have made plans to include you. As it is he wants to break up when it suits him at the end of the semester & but that's OK because he's told you & he's arrogant enough to think that you'll be all OK with that! His actions are doing all the talking. It's just all so much bs & if it tells you one thing, its the sort of guy you fell in love with. Sure, you spent time together at concerts & trips away etc etc, but he was just using you & if you ask me, you've dodged a bullet even after 6 short, sweet months. Time heals most things, so get on with your life & learn from it all & don't ever look back over your shoulder at a guy who didn't deserve you, because he really never respected you in the first place.

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. It's tough to have invested so much emotionally and practically in a relationship only to have it unravel unexpectedly. While I can't offer a guaranteed solution, I want to share something that might offer a different perspective. Have you ever considered the idea of reincarnation? It's a belief that suggests we may have connections with people from past lives, and sometimes those connections can manifest as strong feelings of love or familiarity in our current relationships. The signs are described here: https://365daysofpositivity.com/past-life-lovers-10-signs-you-were-together-back-then/, a guide on past life love. But in short, if you feel like your bond with your boyfriend has a sense of fate to it, or if you experienced an instant connection with him, it could be worth exploring the idea that your relationship might have deeper roots beyond this lifetime. Sometimes, when we feel a strong connection with someone, it's because we've known them before in a different context. So, who knows, maybe you'll be together after all.

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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OrangeJuice (mind if I nickname you OJ?), (Loved your post to Timeless, btw - thank-you! Hope you plan to stick around?) Your nook sounds too cool! That was impressively resourceful of you, too (talk about, refusing to be beaten)! What's it like? You going to continue doing it up? Have you included some string lights?...although I suppose your fish-tank (tropical?) throw out a beautiful light, anyway, yes? And is it going to be possible to persuade your folks to add a door to the outside (what does it open onto - lawn or terrace?); that way, you presumably wouldn't even have to lead your guests through the main house? So who's the hoarder?

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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PS: "ON our 6 month anniversary" The very day of your anniversary. Uh-huh... What were the chances. Uh-huh... That's one of the major hallmarks of a Narcissist (even a 'starter' Narc) - ruining birthdays, your interviews, anniversaries, strict arrival times, other special or crunch occasions - albeit that, whether he is one or is just immature and selfish depends on his (and your) age?

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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We're both 19 It's already a walj out onto a little patio and massive backyard!!! As I'm sure you can assume the lawn is so so overgrown but I've cleared a path to my patio ages ago. My fish tank is 55 gallons and houses 3 massive goldfish! But I also have a chain of 3 fairylight strands that I use for a nightlight hehehhe

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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Hey again, You've missed off a question ("SpecSavers!"). If you can answer that before I respond to yours, please, missus (lol, pun completely un-intentional)? "Soulmate - post Apr 26 2024 at 20:42 So who's the hoarder?"

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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My mom R

My boyfriend is leaving me. .. .... slowly

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Cheers! (What's the R for - was it a typo?) Has she been to her doctor about it? Does your dad give her a lot of stress and hassle? Or her workplace/colleagues? How long ago did she start hoarding? And what does she hoard?

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