Move or not

Should we move out of the country to somewhere more full of life? It’s a quiet place we live in and it’s a nice house we are in but so quiet and sleepy. The high street doesn’t have many shops left after a lot closing down. There’s a few pubs and places to eat but not loads to choose from. Compared to some places it’s a sleepy place to live and there’s a mixture of young and old but there are a lot more older folk here. I am classed as old myself I suppose to some but not to old yet hopefully. Would moving be better for me so not feeling cut off from the world living were I am now which I do feel and for more jobs. My partner works full time and on the road each day so different places week in week out. What can a woman if my age do work wise. Ive looked after young children but don’t really want to be doing that again at my age. Don’t want to work in a shop packing shelves either but with only some experience in childcare what else can I offer. Going back to college I would feel out of place with all the youngest going there. My partner is happy where we are but he is away from the area each day. Should we stay put but travel further for a job then I get away from the sleepy town but still have a nice home to get back to. We rent privately.

Hi Dourignj (how do you pronounce that? lol), Sorry for the wait - respondents are (hint-hint!) thin on the ground, recently. "Should we move out of the country to somewhere more full of life?" Yes. And I can say that MOST confidently for the simple fact that you answered your own questions with, basically, Yes, and, Why WOULDN'T I want to move! Or does this next bit mean, you would have to find work there? "What can a woman if my age do work wise. Ive looked after young children but don’t really want to be doing that again at my age." But, you've just said you're youthful for your age - didn't you? What about evening babysitting? Your service - your rules! Plenty of mature babysitters insist on the kids being tucked-up in bed already. Depends on their age(s) (vis-a-vis, waking up to a 'stranger'), but, you're in control of that as well. I mean - surely the clue's in the word 'sitter', anyway? Usually, you're supposed to just spend the first 30 mins saying Hi, getting somewhat familiar, and then it's off to bed, courtesy of mum, before she leaves. Obviously, there's always a risk of the kids waking in the night, 'needing' a glass of water blah-blah, but - take a tip (with young kids): You tell them that your boss is the Babysitting Fairy and that, if you tell the Fairy that they were as good as Gold until their mum came home, the Fairy will leave some treasure under their pillow for them to discover in the morning. (A handful of Haribos wrapped securely in foil...ohhhh, the effort, haha.) What about that? Or there's just collecting kids for busy career mums, taking them home, supervising their homework, maybe cooking/re-heating/rustling up their tea while they do it? "Don’t want to work in a shop packing shelves either but with only some experience in childcare what else can I offer." Creche Manager? Classroom Assistant? Shop Assistant, i.e. Kids' clothes and shoe shops? Ball Parks?...Farm Park giftshops/reception?... "Going back to college I would feel out of place with all the youngest going there." MEANWHILE - back at the reality ranch - as we speak, there sit ooooh, hundreds of thousands of would-be mature students, bemoaning the exact same thing. It's called, a Self-Limiting Belief. Have you even looked into it?...rung around and asked how many mature students have applied this/next year? "My partner is happy where we are but he is away from the area each day." Hah! I got to 'are' and was JUST ABOUT TO TYPE, Yeah, but most of the time he AIN'T there, before I then read your final half. So, indeed, we are both correct: his say means less, holds less weight (sor-reeee...shoulda thoughta that, fella) (he can't have *everything* his own way, ya know?). "Should we stay put but travel further for a job then I get away from the sleepy town but still have a nice home to get back to." We rent privately." Me, I'd go for interviews in my chosen area and, once I was offered a job, commute while I then looked for a rental at or closer to your new work town - or even midway. That's the logical order if you actually have to work. However, like you say, you might find you prefer to commute (including hitting the bars with your new work friends...'sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander' and all that?)...best of both worlds...somewhere peaceful to come back to after a day of noisy hustle and bustle. PS: Commuting by train is nice...you make loads of new friends that way, too, with the other regular commuters...plus HIC! it'sh eashier iff you djoo go djrnik-HIC!-ing aftcher work..........plus there's also - 'Yooou makkke shupper tchonight, Djarling,...A'm a bit tchoo pished'. :D Hope that helps?