Trying to get your spouse to listen to your feelings

My mate and I has been going together for about four years now and I love him dearly but when i try to listen to me it just go into one and out the other. How can I get him to listen

Hi I would advise you to issue a threat that you are not happy with certain parts of your relationship & say you want changes of else...It's a bit hard to advise better than that without a few more basic details