My man's priorities

Hi my me and my guy live together and have 4 children we own our home which is a sideby side building we stay on 1 side and his parents stay on the other side. My man is very goal oriented but very selfish he has 4 kids 3 cars we own our home he has his masters in information technology. He now wants get his pilots license, now he takes a 15,000 dollar loan to pay for his classes now he has no plane we have morgage car payments and again 4 kids 2 dogs and granted he has a decentjob he is a firefighter. But he discloses to me that our house needs new windows and he rarely buys the kids clothes i do shoes and anything for the kids i basically get. His priorities are so messed up his 2 sport cars come before me or the kids and when it comes to me and the kids we are second rate but his cars get a1 parts and service he spends crazy amounts of money on these cars now plane licenseand no plane. I feel the 15,000 dollar loan he got for the license he could have waited and paid for the house windows now am i crazy and wrong for wanting to leave because his family comes 2nd to the crap he wants comes 1st and im tired of it!! He spends the majority of his free time doing something to those cars even his off days he does not help with the kids getting them ready for school walking them to bus stops i mean nothing no help with his sons sports he does nothing for anyone else please help.