What's important in relationships?!?

Hi all I'm hoping to get some perspective & hoping for some advice. I came out of a mentally draining relationship in April & have since met a great guy that I've sort of been seeing for 3 months. He's so sweet & we get on really well in many ways I see him as a close friend but were definitely more than friends. The problem is I'm just not feeling 'it/the spark- whatever you might call it. I've been completely honest with him about how I'm feeling & in the 3months I've told him that I didn't think it would work & that we both deserve more from a relationship but then we try friends and I end up getting frustrated that we can't seem to make it work. He is rather persistent so we end up with it back on but still with the uncertainty. I really do care for him but I'm just not sure how I'm ever going to be happy with the situation- I want to feel more and because of that I don't seem to be able to relax & let things flow. I do find him attractive but there isn't a massive sexual desire for him. We have had abit of fun & that has been great but we haven't slept together yet- partly due to both of our living arrangements but also because I haven't felt that it has been the right thing to do based on how I feel, but I wonder if this will make the difference?!? Me & my ex had a passionate all consuming relationship at the start but it eventually fell flat on its face & I was miserable- he really didn't treate well, we didn't have the close emotional relationship I have with the current guy. However I can't help but think I'm compromising or settling for less than I deserve but not sure if I'm just being naive?!? Any advice would be greatly appreciated- I'm having such a mental battle with this & really don't want to hurt him anymore

it seems to me,if there isn't that "spark" that u r looking for, then the two of u should just remain friends...I think u already know in your heart of hearts what u want to do...follow your heart.

Mia, It sounds to me that you need a little bit of time. You need to look at what it is you really want in a relationship and be able to demand it. I don't know if this guy will work out or not but taking a break and talking to him for a couple of weeks to a month to figure stuff out will not hurt.