Feeling neglected

I met my husband online 3 1/2 years ago. We've lived together four months and have been married about a month and a half. We are both in our earlier 30s and prior to moving in together lived alone. When we moved in together, I moved myself and my teenage daughter to his home town, an hour away from where my daughter grew up. During the 3 years we were dating, we only saw each other during the weekends (me always driving to his place) and we talked almost every night over IM. Over those three years, we had the usual relationship problems. Our sex life was pretty normal and he made me feel wanted (comments, coming up behind me and putting his arms around me, kissing, mutual fore play, initiating sex, etc). When we moved in together, we were newly engaged and planning our wedding in September. The first couple months of living together were filled with arguments, misunderstandings, and major adjustments. This was totally expected on my part since we'd both been on our own for over ten years and there of course would be an adjustment period. Two days a week I commute to work, so I sleep in the guest room/my office on those nights. I wake up and go to bed early, so it works better that way. During our engagement/settling in period, I felt very neglected. I spent more and more nights sleeping in my office and very little time with my husband. Sex was pretty non-existent and I was frustrated but ok with that since we were both stressed and adjusting. However, we have been living together for five months and that is still the case. I'm not an overly sexual person, but I'm getting pretty tired of being the only one that initiates sex if we have it. It has gotten to the point that IF we have sex, I have to initiate it and give him five to ten minutes of fore play. This consists of me playing with him and him not touching me AT ALL. I am to the point that I consider us roommates, not husband and wife. On the weekends he falls asleep as soon as we get in bed (if we sleep in the same room), then he is usually up and out of bed before I wake up. We are lucky to have sex once every two weeks. I had to wake him up to have sex with me ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT! He has taken to drinking more and more on Fridays saying it's his "time to relax." I was okay with that when it was a couple bottles of beer. It went from being 3, to 5, now it's closer to 7 or 8 (to the point that he is drunk, not just buzzed). The issue of feeling more like roommates came up 4 weeks ago, and he agreed. He stated that he'd been stressed with the wedding and a job opportunity. Two weekends ago, masturbation was brought up. He made an off hand comment about using a sock and I jokingly asked how often do you do it. His response was "well I don't have to do it as often now." I was FURIOUS! I don't understand why he should feel he has to at all since I'm always willing and have NEVER (in over three years) said no to his request, even if I'm not really in the mood. Even if it's true, why the heck would you announce that to your wife. I don't go around pointing out that I now masturbate on a regular basis since he doesn't want to have sex any more. We are always teasing each other about watching porn, but honestly I have started and I know he does. I'm really beginning to feel like I made a HUGE mistake moving here and getting married. I feel like a maid, as I'm the one that always cleans the house, does the laundry, and cleans the kitchen. His excuse for not doing any of it is because he worked hard all day (which is true) and has "always" waited to do that stuff till the weekend. Waiting until the weekend would be fine IF he would at least pick up his dishes and pop cans when he is done with them. Even though he considers it "weekend work" he still doesn't help out on the weekends. Twice now I've waited until the weekend to do any of the chores and it has ended up being just me spending an entire day cleaning the whole house and doing laundry while he sits and watches TV, plays video games, or sleeps. I will say he has vacuumed the basement and picked up his office a couple times. None of which included washing the dishes he brought out of his office or taking care of the many pop cans. If he does take them out of his office, he leaves them all sitting on the counters. The kicker of it all is that if my daughter leaves dishes or pop cans around over night...in her bedroom...or doesn't pick up her room every day he is furious and gets mad at me. I have become the bad guy constantly yelling at her for not cleaning her room. She rarely leaves her room (unless it is to go to a friend's house) and her door is always closed, so the only way to see her room is a mess is for him to open the door. I grew up in a different state and moved here when I was 19 and had my daughter, so I don't have any friends that I grew up with. I don't have any friends here, except kind of his sister (he is very close to her and talks to here about everything), and didn't really have any friends where I lived before. The days that I don't commute to work, I work from home, so I don't go anywhere here to make friends (plus this is a small town where he knows everyone, his entire family lives within 5 minutes). We never go out anymore so I'm usually stuck at home alone all day. I'm feeling lost and alone and I'm at a loss of what to do.