Needs advice!!!!

So, I've been dating my senior boyfriend now for about 2 years and 1 month. It seems the further you go into a relationship the harder its seems to get. I'm a very simple girl. I just want to feel loved and feel cared about. This past year for "us" has just been horrible. When i try to talk to him and tell him how i feel. Which is unloved and lonely. He says he doesn't want to talk about it. That i'm just complaining and stuff. He also likes to turn things around on me all the time everything is always my fault. Like he never does anything wrong at all. He very selfish,self-centered guy. He complains about the gas. We've just become so distance and if we do hang we only hang on the weekend. So i also try get him to understand i wish he just put more effort into showing me he really wants us to work and that he does love me and care for me. Because anyone can say the words,but if there is no meaning behind those words then it means nothing. Our communication level is just horrible. I can't ever talk him about how i feel or just about how he feels about us because he thinks im trying to be negative. i just dont know what to do to fix our communication level...

You need to tell him directly that you both have a communication problem, and that you are unhappy. You can say that it may not be that you are unhappy with him (if it is the case that you want to stay with him and you love him) but that you are unhappy with the situation. You can try different communication strategies. Ask him, if he doesn't want to talk then would he be willing to write you emails, or hand written letters, and leave them for each other somewhere to read alone, so you can both begin to open up and see what it is that you need to work on. During this time you can start going out with friends, and discovering yourself more. Communication is key, and a relationship cannot survive without it. Hope that helps. Good luck!

Take a step back and see how much you contribute to the relationship. What do you really offer him? Do you really complain a lot around him? Usually when you blame your negative feelings caused by someone else, they get put on the defensive and attack you. He doesn't like the idea of being responsible for your being lonely and unloved, even though he brought you to feel that way. But let's try this, just think about how you behave whenever you're with him. I know -- you want so much of his love and care, but in order to have that, you must have a positive mindset first. You may be thinking -- why do I have to put more effort into this? Well, the answer is simple. Guys don't like girls who just complain and put their insecurities onto them. They want strong, individualistic girls who can speak up and BE FINE no matter how bad things get. You shouldn't care too much about how he reacts or responds -- it'd be HIS problem. As long as you stay strong and be happy, it'll keep him attracted to you, wanting you even more. Negativity is a deadly thing. It is a poison to your mind and it really shows when your relationship isn't doing so well. I'm just saying, if you're going to keep being with this guy, just try being happy and cheerful and optimistic, he may pick up on it -- but if he doesn't, perhaps it's time you move on, because that's really how you can tell how much he cares or not. I'm not saying to be clingy and persist if he's not responding either, but when he does, just keep a positive mind and it'll keep him coming back for more. You can discuss all the bad feelings you have "because of him" at a future time, perhaps when things are better, and I assure you, he'd be much more understanding of your side then than now. But for now, keep it as light and fun as possible. Don't let no man dictate your feelings, be happy, love yourself, appreciate the little things, and spread that happiness, no matter how difficult it may be right now, it's all you've got. No man can truly make you happy -- only you can make you REALLY happy. You can do it!