My first time

Im 17 years old and really love my boyfriend of 3 years, i finally feel its time to take the relationship to the next level, we have spoken bout it plenty of times but ive always backed out, even tho his already brought condoms. Now i feel it time we passed the touching and kissing stage and go the whole way. But im terrified..... i have so many questions that go through my head. Can you people pls help me. MAIN WORRY------ 1.) should i 'shave' down there? do men prefer it shaven? is it painful to shave? MAIN WORRY---------2.)When you lose your cherry does it really hurt? 3.)Will i bleed (a friend told me she bled so much she thought she would die) 4.)Is condoms 100% safe? im not on the pill 5.)How can you tell if a man really did enjoy it? 6.)How will i know if i had an orgasam? Hope people can help.

Hi Queenie, For starters, if you've got that many questions to ask, then you might not be ready to take your relationship to the next level. Don't feellpressured by what your boyfriend wants to do even if he has done all the groundwork. Spend some time researching your questions, and then make a decision. In answer to your main worries... 1) You don't have to shave down there, it is your personal preference. 2) Everyone has different experiences, but it can be a little sore the 1st time. Bleeding like a bastard isn't common... so you shouldn't worry too much about that issue. Condoms - not 100% safe, but close to it. The other 2 things you can work out for yourself - it is part of the fun / experience. Good luck

Relax!!!!! calm down! sex is something u do wit sum1 u love and care bout n it should b enjoyed. Take things as they come, jus make sure u hav ur condoms, its better to be safe than sorry. There must b sumthin wrong wit ur friend coz its not normal2bleed that much, i wouldnt say it hurts, jus stings alittle, make sure ur relaxed. i doubt u will hav an orgasam first time, it can take yrs of tryin 4sum woman, learn bout ur body n his, n it will b an experience both of u will neva 4get. Its up2uif u want to shave, but a little bit of advice, waxin is better, shaving can make it itchey n sore, gud luck Queenie, above all hav a gud time!