I don't know what to do now...

My husband & I have been together for a total of 6 1/2 yrs. During all this time my husband has flirted, contacted his ex-girlfriend ( the same one who he left his 1st wife for). To the point of sending pictures back & forth @ 1am - while I was sleeping & supporting him. He double checks who I call & if I don't answer my cell when calls - he will start calling the numbers to find out where I am. About a month a ago I told him I wanted a divorce. There are more issues than these but these are the worst. I have gone along with the situation because its easier for me to ignore it than to deal with it. I recently had surgery & ended up taking off more time than planned due to complications. During this time I faced the wall & read all the writing - finally. Well when I told him I wanted a divorce, he was crying and begged me to go to counseling - which I agreed, but now he seems to be trying to change, now I don't know what to do since I still want out. He is a very emotional person & I am not. If I try to talk to him, I hurt his feelings. I have tried to do this all the right ways but I still feel trapped. Please any advise will help

I am sorry that you are in this situation. It will be hard but you have to do what is right for you. To me it sounds like you know what that is. If your heart is not in it anymore then it is time for you to think about you. In the long run you will be happier and better off.

I understand where you are coming from. I think he finally realized how foolish he has been. If he is actually making an effort to change like you say and you can say you still truly love him. Then I would recommend trying to make it work. Sometimes it takes a shell shocker like you gave him, for someone to wake up and realize "I BETTER CHANGE OR I AM GOING TO LOSE SOMEONE I LOVE!" I had something similiar happen to me and my wife (reversed though). I gave an honest effort to make it work and it has for the 5 years and going strong...if you still love him, TRY!!! if it doesn't work then move on, just make sure there isn't anyone else, so you can give an honest effort. Good Luck!!