Caught my wife of 25 years cheating. She doesn't know, that I know

I was suspect for months now. Two weeks ago it was was confirmed. She was having an affair with a couple (man & wife) that we knew years ago, in a different neighborhood from 10 years back. Until then, I thought I was the only man she's ever been with as we were high school sweethearts. I don't know how to approached her. She not stupid and knows something is wrong, and I till her it's work related. But it's killing me. It was too good a relationship to just toss away... You read, and hear of stuff like this, but it never happens to you. Right? As I questioned other neighbors, in the old hood. I didn't seem like they were exclusive. Rumor has it, they're are several couples who are into to these things. This is defiantly NOT my thing. And want no part of it. WTF?

I think you deffinelty should confront her, or this is going to eat at you! at least if u confront her maybe she has reason or i mean atleast yall get that monkey off your back.. Are you 100% positive on this?

Yes! 100% sure. Saw it with my own eyes. They were so into what they were doing, they had no idea I had stuck/peeked into the house and watched for 2-3 min. before I left and the threw up. I have thought of many ways to confront her. None makes any sense. Nor seem like a good idea. Everything else SEEMS perfect. Great family, fun and active lifestyle. It seems nothing good can come from her knowing, that I know.

Sigh!you must be hurt by this..but my advice to you is to just harden your heart to confront her about it!you need to take a stand else things might get even worst thats gonna hurt you more.Let her know u saw everything and your truly hurt.ask her why she did this!if she really cares she will definately make a change!n everything will be ok again.it would be you to just try n forget you saw all that! Good luck>>

Sounds like you have some things to face. You need to find out why she has done it. If you love her enough, you will be able to forgive her and with support you will be able to get past it. You need to be open and honest for her to be open and honest. All I can say is that when you first talk to her about it she may not give you the full story. Give her some time to admit to what she has done & this may take days to sink in. Good luck & I hope your love for her is pure and strong enough. You have support here!

wow, I'm going to guess you have confronted her now and are working towards??? For me betrayal is betrayal....I think I would have preferred to be told that she has a 'preference/need to explore''...