Where is the love????

Hello. I feel pretty helpless at the minute. I have been with my partner for 9 years, and we have a gorgeous girl of 5. Light of my life. My partner and i met when i was 19, he was 23. Still young, still a bit irresponsible, and that was fine. Thing is, i matured, he didn't. He's smoked weed since i met him, used to smoke it myself (only with him). He's also, always liked to gamble. Football bets mostly. Online roulette, and that is where the rows start. He has lost alot of money in the past, and recently! I dont feel like our relationship has any trust. He gambles behind my back, and this hurts so much. I get such heartfelt apologies off him, when i find out, and promises that it wont happen again, but then....... A big part of me just doesn't want to break our family up. I want our daughter to have the security of a happy family, with a mammy and daddy who love eachother. I feel nothing but bitterness and resentment towards this man. He is told all of the time, from friends, and family, how lucky he is, but he just takes us both for granted. I do know deep down that he loves us, in his own way, and i know he would love to give me what i want, but i dont think he knows how to. His needs always come first. I just need some practical advice please, how do i make him see how much i am hurting!?? Thankyou

Guys ONLY see the surface, Love. No matter how hurt you are inside, they never tend to know UNLESS you unleash it. But here is a bigger picture, people never know what they have until it's gone. If I were you, I would leave him, to see if he would come after me and try to change his ways, but if he doesn't come after me, then that proves that he doesn't love me nor does he deserve me. It's going to be hard, but I rather be alone than with someone who seem like he doesn't give a crap. Stay strong, Love.