Need advice on breaking up

Dear friends, I have know my girlfriend for 4 years now, i was the one who started liking her in college and proposed her. she kept me close to her but did not accept my proposal for 2 years although i did every bit and piece to please her she told that she could not accept because of her family problem. we split up after 2 years of courtship.Then a new girl came in my life who filled my life with happiness. we dated for 6 months and we broke up then for unknown reasons. in the meanwhile the girl i liked in college came close to her childhood friend and astonishingly proposed him.this guy left her in a month because he was emotionally unsatisfied with her (as per my conclusion after listening to her). We accidentally met again after almost a year of her breakup and became friends.I kept her at bay knowing she would hurt me.She then proposed me and court shipped me telling she has changed and she loves me truly.After hearing and seeing all this for long i accepted her.Since then we have been together(long distance) but the problem is she doesn't emotionally cater to me.She avoids talking to me me when her friends are around, she mistreats me a lot and it hurts emotionally to me .she doesn't talk of future neither does she take out time for me.she thinks everybody around her is right and i am the wrong one and pays attention to her friends only.i try a lot to gain attention but she ignores me all the time.this has become emotionally abusive but in this meanwhile i have lost the strength to leave her.we fight every day and she is least bothered to care for me or even come back with some soothing words.how much true and good i may be , my intention is never appreciated but always thrown back and dealt with criticism.i know i want to break up with her but i fall soft.even my friends have lost hope making me understand to breakup but i am not able to gather the strength to do so.I need advice to break up(so it pains as little as possible) and also the suggestion if i need to talk to a counselor through my breakup

Hey is there really anyone with suggestions...guys please help!!

I am very sorry to hear about your trouble sam. However what you are feeling is completely normal and common. when you are i a relationship with someone who does not make you a priority it leaves you feeling more desperate for their approval!, therefore making you do and say things you probably wouldnt say otherwise...while at the same time pushing them further away, and making you feel worthless and more inclined to keep acting desperate. i wish i could tell you that she loves you and not to worry but i cannot. what i can tell you however is that i have been in your shoes, AND in her shoes...you have only one option here. you go NCR. (no contact rule)!stop ALL forms of communication with her for a MINIMUM of two weeks its the only way to accomplish all three issues. 1.YOU will regain your dignity 2. SHE will regain respect for you, and possibly realize she really loves you 3. YOU will have the time to reflect on the relationship and really think about what you want. im not an expert but i am very well experienced in matters of the heart. i suggest you research no contact rule because it wont work if you dont uderstand the importance of it. i hope it helps you, and if you follow it right, i guarantee it will! please read everything you can about it before you brush it off...it will seriously change the way you see relationships forever, and help you to either fix this one or better future ones. -BBblue ps. your girlfriend sounds selfish, and it seems as though she used you to get over an ex. thats never a good way to start a relationship. hang in there sam, you will be a better person after this is all over i promise! :)