Take 'em or leave 'em

I've been dating this guy for over a year now. We moved into things pretty fast with him moving in with me before a month of us knowing eachother.. We got along pretty well.. until 6 months into the relationship..He was exterdited to California (I'm from minnesota) he has been gone for 7 months now. We stay in contact daily. But, he is insensitive.. Doesnt try to talk much, doesnt call when he says he will, doesnt care when im uspset..He contradicts himself ( doesn't like being mocked but mocks me// if I don't like it its dumb but if he doesn't like something its okay ECT.. ) he is a rather nice guy.. never outwardly disrespectful.. I just get this feeling that there is something wrong here.. I'm trying to show my love.. why isn't he.? I'm so confused... He is easy to tell my thoughts to but he denies that he is being rude or disregards them to anxiety.

Hi starstuck! I can tell, at least by your post details, this is not a guy who deserves you. He seems emotionally sensitive deeply inside, and protects it by being harsh to someone who loves him. I'm guessing he did not have a fantastic family when he was raised by the way he treats someone so open to him. He doesn't seem used to it, so he doesn't know how to respond. I dated a guy for a year in high school who sounds just like this. He is probably afraid of being too close to someone because he never was before. You are his easiest target because you are so open. I definitely think you should move onto a guy with less problems and is more in tune with you and understands your issues/thoughts/feelings instead of making excuses for them. You need to find someone who is more open and treats you like you deserve to be treated (trust me, there are plenty of guys like that out there!). You can tell something is wrong, so don't let it take over your life and waste time on it. Be strong and find someone who is always there for you. I dumped my ex for a sweetheart of a guy who I am now married to, and I'm so glad I did! My husband is sooo supportive and just bought me a new laptop and expensive coffee maker not because of Christmas, but because he believes in my dream of becoming a published author. Men like this are out there, men who are waiting for a princess to spoil:) Don't let anyone treat you in a way you end up questioning it. Your boyfriend is guarded by a front he was forced to put up to protect his emotional vulnerability, that's why he isn't showing you love. But the showing of love is what you need. Don't waste another moment on someone who can't return your feelings. Good luck, I really hope you can make the right decision and find a partner who can fulfill your needs:)

Thank you