Should I walk away

Eight months ago I reconnected with a man I had a long-distance friendship with after a one-night sexual encounter. He is in another city. Right away he and I started talking marriage because we agreed that we were ready to pick one and this time make it work. Two months prior he had moved out of an apartment he shared with his girlfriend and was now living with a friend in an apartment that was not leased to his friend. Anyway, this man is having a hard time financially. He is an entrepreneur (in the marketing/entertainment business). Now he does not have a place to live and has about $200 to his name but always has a business deal just about to bring in income. He is trying to visit me but hardly has enough for a bus ticket. I vacillate between yes and no to his visit because I know I will have a hard time with him in my house with him not being able to wine and dine me. To me a broke man is a pitiful man. However, he is intelligent and far from lazy, but it seems like he's taking a long time to get it together. He has a daughter in high school and one in college. He is not current on his child support and says that he and his ex have an understanding that he will do what he can financially and will maintain a close relationship with his girls. He also has bad credit. I have a wonderful 16-year-old son who is an excellent student. I want to be patient in this relationship and wait for him to get back in the game because I really like him. However, I know that I have not closed my options for meeting someone local. Should I just keep it long-distance and discourage him from visiting me until he gets it together? I would hate to quit and a week later he hits it big. Or I would hate to quit when all I needed to do was help him get a foot up and then he and I would share a great love. He lives in a major city on the eastern seaboard and I live in the Southeast. I love the thought of visiting each other about four or five times a year until my son goes to college and then relocating to his city. But the bottom line is my lover is broke at the moment and I am impatient. Should I work with him or call it quits? Oh, once I lent him $150 and he still owes me $50 -- not a lot, but a test, nonetheless.

Ok I read this, and all I want to say is "what in the world?, really?" Which is the nicer version of what I would probably would rather say... Get rid of him, are you kidding me? No! I don't know how to put it, but NO! What are you talking about he's an entrepreneur and can't even afford his own bus ticket... please with all due respect, respect yourself. If your going to count how much he owes you back, all I can say is what in the world? I don't mean to be rude, sorry but just drop it all together. "To me a broke man is a pitiful man. However, he is intelligent and far from lazy, but it seems like he's taking a long time to get it together." < "No" Good I'm glad your opening up to different options, and that would probably be a good idea. But if your that insistent on this so called guy, then by all means check this out, but in this situation probably not a good idea, but for the other potentials than I think it would be more suitable : http://bit.ly/12S1ihO Once again I apologize for seeming rude, but sometimes a certain type of honesty may be the best policy. It takes away the bs in being hurt and wasting a lot of your precious time.

End the realtionship NOW! First and foremost. This man has two kids who is not current on child support. This man needs to put his focus on working and getting on his own to feet and not waste time dating. Is this the kind of man you want as a husband. An guy who is behind on financially taking care of his children but has time to go out and date. He needs to get his priority straight and life together before he gets himself into a grown up relationship. How can you even find this man attractive. It's not about his bank account. It's about his priorities.