Unreasonable or not?

I'm in a realtionship of 15yrs, we have 2 kids together and I have one from a previous relationship. The problem I have is my oldest (not his) lives on the other side of the country, and when he and his partner come to visit splits his time between staying with us, and staying with his dad. My partner objects to him staying with us at all, saying as his dad has more room in his house, he should stay there. He thinks I'm being unreasonable for wanting him to stay with me. I want them to stay with us at least part of the time as I get to see more of him that way. Am I being unreasonable wanting this? Is it asking too much to have them stay with us for a week or so, and put up with the crowded situation? We live in a 3 bed house, when they stay they sleep in the lounge room.

Hello. I'm a father & have a son from a previous marriage as well. Although we live in the same county, his time is split during holidays, summer vacay, etc. As far as you wanting that time spent more with you, there's nothing wrong with that. You miss him. Crowded house or not, bed or the floor, theres nothing wrong with that. Hes family. But I'm sure he feels like he needs to make it equal since he's been "caught in the middle", so to speak, for so many years. We as parents have to take their feelings about into consideration more so than ours because we chose to be without the other parent. As far as your partner objecting his staying there at all... there might be some underlying issue with your son or the situation. My current wife has never made an issue about my son being around in any way shape or form, so you guys might want to really have a heart to heart about that one. And if your partner DOES then find ways to resolve that. Try not to be upset because chances are, he might feel like the 3rd wheel when your son is around. I know my wife does sometimes. I pray this helps. Take care and God bless.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWqWIzi2p4Q My friends child recently asked, why does she have to suffer for the choices of her mother and father who are divorces and not the best of friends to say the least. This is your son. Of coarse you want him to stay with you. I am surprised even by your question. This is family, your other children's half brother, that is his home as well. You make room for family. Your now husband needs to deal with his own issues. I have a problem with blended families and spouses allow their new partner to have divisive lines with children you share and children from another marriage. That's selfish and immature. And of a spouse feels like a 3rd wheel, keep in mind you are in your partner and you children in day out and your son has to split his time. Noting wrong with giving a little extra love when they are in your life half the time.