Date rape over Christmas?

I'm just trying to get my head around something that happened over chirstmas- I tried not to think about it at first but the more I do, the more suspicious it's starting to sound! I would really welcome any advice from anybody, either about what to do or what they think about the situation. ***I was recently at a friends wedding. The groom is a marine, and so there were lots of his marine friends there. At the evening do at a hotel, I got talking to one of them, and we danced for most of the night. Stupidly, I ended up going back to his room, where we had sex. I was a little drunk, but fully in control of my actions and even though I knew I probably shouldn't have been sleeping with him after only knowing him a few hours, it was fully consensual. Afterwards, we got dressed and sat talking about music. About 10 minutes later, 2 of his friends came into the room and sat with us. They ordered champagne on room service and we talked about the wedding while we waited. One of the Marines answered the door, poured the champagne and this is where it gets hazy. I remember thinking that I didn't really want much of the champagne as I was feeling full and bloated after the meal, so I only drank about half a glass. Then I completely blacked out. The next thing I remember is suddenly becoming aware that 2 of the guys were having sex with me, just as the third joined in. At this point I pushed all 3 off me, grabbed my dress and stumbled to the bathroom where I got dressed. When I came out, the other 2 had gone. I said I was leaving and quickly tried to gather my things but the original guy grabbed me and talked me into sitting down, saying he was really sorry if they had freaked me out and that he thought I was having fun. He convinced me to stay the night by saying that he wouldn't touch me. Because I was feeling really tired and sluggish, and he seemed genuine, I agreed. *** I put this weird experience down to drink at first, but now I'm starting to realise I wasn't drunk enough for anything like that to happen at all. I'm worried as I don't even know if I was conscious during the act or if I had just disassociated. I would really appreciate anyone's take on this situation as I'm kind of stressing out about it! Thanks for reading.

Shocked nobody has replied to this yet. Your drink was spiked, more than likely. How did you feel the next day? Did you feel ill? How long can you estimate that you blacked out for? I would imagine that you were conscious during the ordeal, it sounds like it could be a low dosage of the date rape drug. I hope you're okay :( If you're feeling upset or traumatized you should speak to someone close..

I'm not sure where you live, but there are free rape crisis centers that can offer you couseling. It sounds like your drink was definatley spiked, but you have to know that this was not your fault. You were preyed upon by these men. They knew what was happening was wrong!! I hope you find someone to talk about this to. You are not alone!!

Thank you so much for replying to this, I've been really freaking out about it. I felt really ill the next day, but at the time put it down to drink. I really don't have a clue how long I blacked out for, but it was from when I finished my drink to when I became aware of what was happening, I would guess no longer than an hour. Luckily I have 2 really great friends who I can talk to, but I'm just really undecided about whether to go to the police and report it or not. I'm going to the GUM clinic tomorrow to check they haven't given me anything, so I'm hoping they can give me some advice about what would happen... I just worry now that there's not any physical evidence to prove anything as I've left it too long, and at the end of the day, it's my word against 3 Marines. I do want to stand up and let them know what they did was wrong, but at the same time I'm not sure if there would be any point when there's no way it can be proved. Grrrrrr, I don't know!!! :(

I'm sorry this happened to you. Regardless of whether or not you were drugged, sex requires consent. Not saying "no" is not consent, only saying "yes" is. You didn't say yes and you have every right to press charges against these men (it doesn't matter if they are Marines and it doesn't matter if there are 3 of them, your voice counts too). Obviously that is up to you and you have to do what is right for you, but this is definitely rape. I'm sorry you had to experience this, good luck at the clinic and I hope it all works out alright for you. And for the record, it is not stupid to go back to his room. It is stupid that you should have to worry about going anywhere because someone might take advantage of you.