My boyfriend wants to break up to "find himself" Help :(

Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating nine months. Everything was going great. We talked about being together forever and our plans for our future together. We didn't argue and were literally best friends. Our relationship was healthy. Then one day he tells me that he doesn't think its going to work. He starts balling his eyes out and he explains that he needs some time to be on his own to figure out himself, find a better job and get an education. He says that he feels like he needs to become a better person because right now he isn't one. He says that he needs to be alone to do so. He talks about how he can see us getting back together and says that what we have is one of a kind, and that if he can't get me back after he figures things out he will just want to be alone forever. I dont understand why he has to break things off with me just to better himself and figure himself out? I always support him. How can you abandoned someone you love? He says he has to do this to make our future together happy. He sounds like he is being honest but he also brought up how he isn't good at commitment and wants to be a better person. He said his last relationship his ex cheated because he wasn't being a good boyfriend. Could it be that he finally feels that he has found someone he loves and sees a future with and wants to figure things out so that he can commit and make a healthy relationship and not screw up what we have? He does honestly sound torn up. He says that he has been in relationships since he was young and never had time on his own to prove to himself that he can succeed. He says that he wishes that he took this time alone before we started dating so that it wouldn't of screwed our relationship up. I said why not just a break? and he said that he needs us to breakup completely and be fully alone. I don't know what to think. OVERALL, I'm just wondering..... Is he telling the truth? If not, what could he really want out of this breakup? Why do men do this? and when a man says he can see you getting back together is he being honest? (i feel that if he truly wanted to be completely done he wouldn't give me hope, he would just end it for good.) ( When i asked him he said "yes i do see us getting back together, if i didn't want us too then i wouldn't tell you to text me whenever you needed to talk. I would just cut you off completely, but I'm not.) please help, thank you.

It's hard to know having never met the guy, but could it be that if he's been in constant relationships maybe he's just not ready to settle down and be with someone forever even though you have discussed it. " He talks about how he can see us getting back together and says that what we have is one of a kind, and that if he can't get me back after he figures things out he will just want to be alone forever." This is not fair to you. He wants a complete breakup and to be "fully alone" right now yet he gives you the hope that you will get back together (and still wants you to think about him and text him), as if to have you there standing in the shadows waiting. But what if he's never ready to get back together with you? In my opinion you need to give him an ultimatum (whether you mean it or not) Tell him that if you breakup, you wont get back together, tell him you're going to move on with your life. Study his reaction, see is he willing to loose you forever. It's the only way you'll know if he's telling the truth. Men are never completely honest, you can be almost guaranteed there's something whether big or small that he's hiding from you here. I tend to follow the general rule that if they're willing to turn away from you, for an hour in someone else's bed or for good, they're not worth it. How things go from perfection to crap i'll never know. Good luck <3