Help please please please- honest opinions wanted

Ok - I am going to try and be as honest as possible so i get the answer i need, not what i want to hear. I have been with my GF for 7 years, we got engaged 6 months ago and we had our problems like everyone else, we do not have screaming arguements, but we have our moments. Last few weeks she said she is really unhappy and feels we have lost the spark between us, she said she has always had doubts but sometimes things improve, sometimes we just paper over the cracks. She recently changed jobs then lost that job and was out of work for a while which made her re-evaluate her life. She is back in work now and happy with that aspect, but said that she feels we have little spark, isnt interest in sex at the moment and isnt sure when she will be. Now we are still living together, and i am trying to as understanding as possible and said if you need a break I will understand. After a few days of still living together she wanted to talk about our relationship and she said she feels trapped as we always are together with her friends and mine, and feels like she has no indepedance and always has to consider my feelings before her own. We talked about situations where this has happened and agreed with pretty much everything, i can see and agree with this, we do spend far to much time together, and i miss this time alone as much as she does i think, it has been a nearly a week on we have gone out with our own friends and it has been better for me a bit, i do really miss her smile and our connection, but the feeling is still there in the pit of my stomach, but i think this is mostly fear that she will not want to stay with me more than a doubt or fear of should we be together, she said she still doesnt know what to do, she doesnt want to move out or break up - and i know its only early days in spending more time independantly and putting what we think is the problem into action, but part of me thinks, how long should it take? - I know real relationships isnt like Hollywood movies, rough patches will happen, and what you learn from them is important, but i just do not know how to get out of this one, do we need to spend an actual full week away from each other instead of coming home together and crossing paths, get some clear air and actually miss each other? Part of me feels this is a reaction to planning our wedding, she has brought a dress and pretty much choosen a venue and now the realisation has hit home and its scaring her, i think if she wanted to leave me she just would, if she had fallen for someone else, why stay? and if she didnt want things to improve then why did we sit down and disucss the problems and try and put plans in place? On the flip side my annexity and the 'voices in my head' are telling me that she doesnt want to be with me anymore, she is scared about the fall out of breaking up with me, the whole ordeal of telling the families and friends, finding a new place to live, what to do with all our stuff and hurting me through the process, she isnt a nasty person in anyway shape or form. So here i am, hardly eaten in three days, (neither has she) sitting here scared, wanting to show not that things are different (as change is temporay), but that i understand her needs and actually agree with these and want the same things, and if thats what the problem is, then we are on the same page totally. But there is always this fear, i think we are going around in a cirlce playing off each other a bit,her saying "is he ok, oh im hurting him and should just leave" and me wondering if today is the day it all ends, treading on eggshells? Dramatic i know, but she is an amazing person who i do want to marry! So this is me asking, anyone been here before? Anyone have any ideas on if this is just her trying to end things slowly or if she really does want to work on things or how to get that spark back, ive tried saying lets go away for a weekend, but she is short on money and doesnt want to depend on me as there is guilt attached, and when we go out with our friends we are sleepy on the days we are togther!!! This weekend we are going to an engagement party on Friday and Wedding on Sunday which is only going to cause problems with people asking abour future (hopefully) wedding and sparking up that doubt, so anyone out there, who has taken the time to read this, advice please !!!!

WOW, me and you are in the exact same situation. My fiance is doing the SAME thing to me. I understand completely what you are going through. Part of you feels like you just need to give them space to figure things out, the other part feels like you are losing them. This is a tough situation to be in. She says she feels like the spark is gone, I think this is normal for every couple. Have you done anything to try and reunite that spark? made her a dinner, taken her out and spoiled her, bought her flowers? maybe wrote her a note to confirm your feelings and love for her. I know that these are the kinds of things I, as a girl, would be looking for if I felt the "spark" was gone. Have you stopped trying? someone told me recently, the romance should never die. You have to work to keep the romance alive. Ultimately I believe the man has to do the initiating to get things back to where they need to be. It is good to give her space, and you should continue to honor that, but also try to reassure her that this is what you want, and you will do whatever it takes to keep the "spark" alive. A marriage means always thinking about the other persons feelings, I know at times we want to forget and just do whatever we want, but that's what a marriage is about, selfLESSness, not selfISHness. Considering yall have been together 7 years, I am guessing she does want to be with you, she's probably scared of the lifetime commitment. You will be ok =) just keep trusting in your heart and stay strong!!