I want her back

I met this girl about 6 months ago and we hit it off right away. She was about 3 months out of a long term relationship due to him cheating and treating her badly and other than missing parts of the relationship, such as pets, house, his family she seemed over him and it was never an issue between us. We fell for each other pretty fast and between us never had any problems except little things about once a month maybe they anyone could have. Bottom line we were happy and both seen each other together forever. About 2 months ago her ex contacted her just to say hi and see how things are going. No big deal I thought, they spent a long time together and its ok to catch up. He knew about me and that she loved me and me and her were just fine. Then he started trying really hard to get her back, playing with her emotions, saying he will change and get help and all that. He was pretty persistent. That caused us to break up because she said its not fair to me for her having these feelings coming back for him too and she needed time to think. We kept seeing each other and hanging out and things were perfect, she still loved me and missed me when we werent together and so on. She kept telling me she's in love with me and not him and all that. Anyways, the connection between us has been great until he gets to talking to her. She decided to give it a try with him a week ago. We still talk, she says she loves me and misses me. And she even kissed me when i stopped by for a minute the other. She wont say she is happy. I and everyone that knows her knows she is making a mistake. How can I get her to come back to me where its obvious she is happy?

This is my thoughts on this if I was truly happy with my new love 1 why would I want to catch up with my ex that cheated and treated me badly 2 if I am truly happy and in love with my man no one especially someone who mistreated me can come between us I understand that you're in love with her and want her back but I don't think she was really over him if he was able to get her back even though she claimed to love you if it was me and she does come back I will always wonder if its because it didn't work out with him

Thank you for your response. You are right, she wasn't over him. This is a tough, heartbreaking situation for both of us I'm finding out. She has feelings for us both but bottomline is she has more for him for some reason after all he has done. It just keeps going through my head that since I know she is still holding on the though of me I need to show her I'm worth leaving everything, material wise, behind. Its hard to describe the connection we had and she feels it to i know so its hard to move on when thats probably the best thing to do.

Yes moving on is hard but staying can be 10 times more painful if she won't leave him and you said her feelings for him are stronger that and the fact they have a history together doesn't sound promising for you. I hope you find the strength to move on you may know she's making a mistake she may even think that herself but she still chose to give him another chance sometimes its not love that keeps us with certain people but force of habit which can be difficult to break I don't think you're ready to give up on her yet good luck hope it works out the way you wish it.

Hey again. Just looking for some more words of encouragement. A week ago things were ok between us, we were talking quite a bit and then all of the sudden she decided we need to stop talking completely so we can move on. She was pretty harsh about it, reminded me of in movies trying to get someone or something to leave by telling them you don't want them there even though you do. I know it was what we both needed to move on. This has been the longest week in my life. Each day has been worse than the one before. I miss her so bad and all I want to do is send her a text or something. So many things go through my mind like is she missing me at all? I lay in bed thinking about her trying to think of other things so i can fall asleep and when i do I just dream about her. I've been through break ups before and never have came close to missing someone like this. I am at an all time low. I don't know how to move on. I can't keep myself busy enough. Any advice or encouragement?