Does it count as rape?

My now ex boyfriend and I were caught having sex by his best mate, and his friend wasn't very happy with us. I felt awful for not waiting so I told my bf that I'd had enough and didn't want to carry on, but he began practically begging. I still told him no, but he didn't listen and continued to have sex with me. I couldn't move under him and I gave up trying to reason with him, so now he thinks I consented it. I didn't think of it as rape at the time, because I thought I loved him, but since we broke up I've been thinking about it more and more. I don't want to get him into trouble but I feel he needs to know how I feel about that time. Should I talk to him about it, or am I just being silly? Please help, I can't stop thinking about it and it's kinda knocked my confidence since :(

If you feel in your heart that you didn't want to have sex with this man and he continued to force you without you wanting too, knowing you didn't want to then i would say yes. If you are from the uk 0808 802 9999 is a helpline where you can talk to professionals who deal with these kind of situations everyday and will be able to help you and advise you on what action you would want to take next. Good Luck x

Hello, Although I don\'t want to disagree with AMANDA0162, I have to just a bit with all do respect. As a woman I have a hard time with rape because so many woman throw that word around. PLEASE KNOW I DO NOT THINK YOU ARE DOING THAT, IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE TRYING NOT TO!!! Thank you for asking! I do agree with AMANDA0162 that if you truly feel that you said no and you fought even a little then he raped you. There is a difference between forcing you and begging you. I am unclear on if this was your first time or not so that could be a factor. But it sounds like you are more upset that you got caught? Please correct me if I am wrong or misunderstood the sentence. If I am even somewhat right this is something you will have to figure out because being caught or being raped could both led to feeling guilty. They both have to be dealt with though. You have every right to be upset about feeling used or any other feelings toward your break up. But please think before you pull the rape card. No one deserves to be raped but no one deserves to be unjustly called a rapist. Don\'t talk to him until you decide on how you feel. If he really did rape you PLEASE do what AMANDA0162 suggested and call right away for your sake and maybe the sake of another girl. Either way, what happened is not your fault, learn from it and gain sexual strength in you no matter what you decide okay! Do not let this change or define you! Hope that helps and good luck!